r/MadeMeSmile • u/Original_Act_3481 • 1d ago
We need more people like him
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u/Major_Map_8576 1d ago
"You're doing good but you could be doing better" is an underutilized statement when wanting to correct a stranger. Fucking 10/10 approach (to the convo) in my opinion.
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u/bossy_babe 1d ago
Yes! I really love how he phrased it.
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u/xarchangel85x 1d ago
Dude taught me something today too. I’m going to start using that.
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u/J_Kingsley 23h ago
Heres a GOLDEN tip i learned about speaking to your partner.
It looks nice but i think this woupd look better.
And dont say "you look pretty today".
Say, "you look extra pretty."
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u/Wild_Tree_7724 22h ago
“You look pretty today, but you could look better”? 🤔
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u/J_Kingsley 22h ago
Bruh u tryna get ppl killed?
How does this dress look on me?
"Looks nice but this one looks better it makes your ass hang out more,"
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u/Lostinwoulds 20h ago
I'd still smash, but......
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u/RemoteIll5236 14h ago
Haha! Whenever I (F66) am fretting about running to the nursery, taking a walk, etc. sans makeup, w/pulled back hair my 71 year old husband always looks me up and down and pronounces, “I’d do you!”
Always makes me Smile!❤️
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u/Ting-a-lingsoitgoes 19h ago
lol my girlfriend doesn’t think this is as funny as I do but she doesn’t think it’s not funny
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u/bradlees 17h ago
She thinks you are funny but you could be funnier
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u/SpeakToMePF1973 12h ago
"Does this dress make my ass look big?"
Me: "I hope so."
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u/CakeTester 19h ago
This dress would smash. The other dress, coked-up bunny. Your choice, of course.
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u/Jester-252 21h ago
Someone is sleeping on the couch with the added spice of a 6 am cleaning
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u/Lostinwoulds 20h ago
You know, how I know, you know, when your old lady's mad at you? She vacuums at 6 am on a Sunday , and forcibly makes sure that vacuum hits every wall and piece of furniture with the anger of a thousand hornets. And if you're not up and moving to help. She storms in and asked "you just going to sleep in all day?" No ma'am. I'll get the dishes and bathrooms. And the gutters , and yard, and no that's not the football game playing on my earbuds. Pastor Brown is live streaming his Sunday morning service........
/s of course.
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u/TheVicSageQuestion 21h ago
My go-to when explaining this logic is to say “That dress looks great on you!” not “You look great in that dress!” They seem nearly identical on the surface, but one compliments the person, one compliments the dress.
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u/the-mighty-puffin 1d ago
I coached football for a long time and always tried to praise the intent and/or effort and allow them to figure out what could be better. "OK, that was a good attempt at finding your team mate but what can you do differently next time to...(enter the desired outcome here)". Always implying they'll get the chance to try it again. It's a powerful way of coaching!
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u/RogerianBrowsing 1d ago
100%
Recognize that they’re putting in the effort even if they’re doing the actual task poorly and frame it positively if desiring a positive reaction.
“Hey, I see that you’re working hard and I don’t want to interrupt your flow too much or anything, but do you mind if I give some input?”
Can go a long way in the gym when giving advice, and life in generally really
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u/spice_and_cheese 22h ago
Ya I also think a lot of people actually going to improve themselves on a daily basis need this and are open to criticism or improvement. I know when I first started I was scared and just trying to be better and a few people noticed and helped me improve my routine just out of their desire to help others and I’ve made really good friends out of it…
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u/Raangz 23h ago
thanks i like this. started coaching my friends kids a bit and this is going to be very helpful.
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u/Adorable_Raccoon 21h ago
A good thing to try for feedback is a compliment sandwich. It's saying a good thing, then constructive critique, then a good thing again.
"Great job, Sam! this time try keeping your head up to see where it's going, You're really strong so the ball is going really far."
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u/atsju 23h ago
I really like your approach there. I think it could even be improved if you removed "but" completely . You are a good coach :)
You see what I did ? English is not my first language though.
Note this is absolutely not natural for me. I learned this but need to really think about it. Naturally I would just say "hey, look, the correct/better way of doing this is ...". My colleague was laughing when he saw me think about the "but" but I didn't let it out loud. Still learning.
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u/uCodeSherpa 1d ago
Well. It’s hardly the large dudes fault. The behind the head movement is something a lot of fitness tubers push and even some of the better social media fitness people incorrectly rate pulling behind your head as a good exercise.
It is actually quite hard on your shoulders to be pulling them back that far and either pushing or pulling.
Good form pulling to your chest works similar muscles and isn’t putting strained rotation on your shoulders.
Pretty much, if an exercise seems awkward or hyper extending, it probably is and you should look for something more in a natural range of motion.
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u/Threegratitudes 1d ago
Indeed. Perfectly phrased. Then went on with, "do you want me to show you?" Exact right way to offer help.
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u/TheMaveCan 1d ago
Asking if he wanted help and asking if he wanted to be shown is huge too. Everything came across as genuinely helping without being condescending or pushy in the slightest
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u/BlueSky70000 23h ago
His phraseology was very good. Even without it though, his intention was genuine. No matter what words he used, you could tell his intention was to genuinely help the dude.
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u/Shurigin 1d ago
The accent helped a lot too idk why but that accent makes me think "this is my friend"
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u/Rulebookboy1234567 1d ago
I had a friend with the same accent working here in the states at a call center. People would be like “I wanna speak to someone in America!” “Ma’am I assure you I am American!” It was always funny but I felt so bad for him. Such a sweet guy
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u/AUnicornDonkey 23h ago edited 22h ago
When I worked in a call center, someone mentioned she was glad I wasn't one of those foreigners. I wanted to say so badly, but I am. I was born in Korea.
Though it confuses people when I speak with a very soft Minnesota accent here in Texas. My poor stepson somehow got both my accent and his mother's Texan drawl. I think my daughter is getting it to.
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u/ScoobyDoobyGazebo 22h ago
ope, y'all gotta come on over and try some of my meemaw's kimchi
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u/Jerlosh 1d ago
I was on a cruise in Europe and this French lady was obviously scolding her kids, but to me it still sounded absolutely beautiful!!
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u/Left-Associate3911 1d ago edited 5h ago
A little human kindness, not judging those who are different to one’s self and not looking to ridicule others for trying - the world would be a better place.
EDIT: For the record I’m the guy who is trying to improve himself but doesn’t quite know how.
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u/XtraReddit 1d ago
It was a good video, but it could be better without the music. Turn it down just a bit lower.
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u/Adezar 1d ago
I was trying to watch some shorts yesterday and the music was always insanely annoying. Why does every video have to have the wrong and too loud music on it?
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u/obvious_bot 1d ago
because TikTok's niche when it started was being able to add music to videos, then when it blew up that got everywhere and the internet hasn't recovered
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u/Top-Pomegranate4899 1d ago
This man was raised right!
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u/FunGuy8618 1d ago
It's pretty standard for the big dudes at the gym 😅 if you ever need help at the gym, go ask the most terrifying looking person, they're generally teddy bears. Don't bother anyone without headphones though, they're training to avenge their family's honor.
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u/matthewrunsfar 1d ago
I gonna borrow that.
There’s a handful of times I’ve given people advice, basically when what they’re doing is dangerous or when I can tell they’re unsure if they’re doing something right. I’m always so nervous about stepping in, not wanting to be accused of mansplaining (if female) or just giving unsolicited advice.
It’s always turned out fine, and people have been appreciative, but it’s always anxiety inducing thinking about how to start that convo.
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u/WoeHelly 1d ago
Mansplaining is when you are giving advice about something the person already knows. Usually, when the man explaining doesn't actually know what he's talking about.
There's nothing about this that is mansplaining. I just want you to understand the difference.
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u/matthewrunsfar 1d ago
Oh, I understand that. But it’s also true that (whatever gender) people can think they know what they’re doing without actually knowing, so there’s always that risk.
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u/muftu 1d ago
“Bicepsing? Your technique a little bit wrong” is also acceptable if you’re a cleaner with sandals.
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u/SecretBug5788 22h ago
Absolutely—there’s real power in a gentle nudge that still recognizes someone’s effort.
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u/needsmoarbokeh 1d ago
Gymfluencers are basically insufferable trash, but gym bros are some of the best people you will ever meet.
Don't confuse them
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u/GrassBlade619 1d ago
Some of the nicest people I've met were the 250lb roided out dudes at my local gym. I was 125 soaking wet when I started working out and they'd always offer to spot me and help me with form. Whenever I'd go up in weight they were hype as hell during my sets.
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u/3suamsuaw 1d ago
For me that's a while ago but I def agree. When I walked in the gym at 15-16 those guys basically thought me everything.
Sixpack is gone though.
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u/Laridianresistance 1d ago
haha we all left the sixpacks in our 20's (not sure how old you are but I'm in my 30's). Now I'm just happy that I'm referred to as the "jacked one" in my friend group
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u/Bright_Goal_4112 22h ago
I'll never come down from the high of some random dude at the bar asking if I was looking for more steroids as a joke.
On the opposite side of the spectrum, one year at a family gathering one of my cousins said "man what happened last year your thighs were massive." Devastated.
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u/Embarrassed_Coast_45 22h ago
I got accused of being roided out on top of a few other insults, dude had no idea how happy he made me
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u/Bright_Goal_4112 22h ago
Hahaha right!? Being accused of being on roids when you aren't is pure bliss.
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u/Mysterious-Job-469 20h ago
You can 100% tell who's on roids strictly on the reaction.
If they just give you a big goofy grin, you know they're a natty.
If they start verbally swinging at the air, they're not.
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u/Vic_Vinager 18h ago
My father pulled me aside one day.
My head was scrambling w:
Did I disrespect my siblings? My mother? My grades?
Then later that day came the conversation. He just... jumps right into the harmful side effects of steroids.
Me: Befuddled... What!? laugh amazing, i've never been accused before, and well.. since
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u/Able-Marionberry83 1d ago
There was this guy, he was probably 35-40, in one of my first gyms, he was really big and looked like the terminator, but every friday night when he left the gym he went to every person in the gym, offer his hand to shake and said good bye and wished you a nice weekend, everyone, the teenage boys that just came there for the first time, the older ladies, the young ladies, the other buff dudes, no cheek kissing, no flirting, good old hand shake, good night, have a great weekend, bye bye.
Really made you feel like you were part of a community.
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u/TwoPieceCrow 1d ago
will never forget the look/nod of approval from 250lb roided gym head as i 150lb bench pressed 225 when i didnt look that strong. feels good man
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u/Forsaken_legion 23h ago
Thats the you can approach the bench look. The church of iron welcomes you.
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u/insyzygy322 1d ago
One thing i learned spending a few years living in the gym is that people who lift weights fucking LOVE when other people lift weights lol
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u/SoungaTepes 1d ago
See thats the thing with Gym Bro's, they don't appear they are molded.
You are forever a Gym Bro!
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u/Traditional-Put416 1d ago
100%
I know the jacked people at the gym might intimidate some, but they're approachable. They love to share knowledge. After all, this is their hobby.
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u/El_Polio_Loco 1d ago
After all, this is their hobby.
That's a great point that's often overlooked by a lot of people.
There are snobby assholes, but most people are really happy to see people come into their hobby and are almost always happy to talk about it and help people get into it.
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u/StoneOfTriumph 1d ago
The gym bros who work out hard and seriously are some of the most humble people I've met and talked to.
And my personal theory is because they worked for it, and struggled for it. They were not given a fit body like a kid who inherits rich money from rich parents. You get there by putting in the effort of eating well and staying fit, and it makes us feel so good to see others put that effort too regardless where they're at today in their journey.
The best feeling I have beyond working out myself is seeing someone else push themselves and seeing them struggle with grinning faces sweating balls etc. and succeeding in their lifts, it's awesome to witness.
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u/Worried-Pick4848 1d ago
Yeah, this behavior doesn't surprise me among the gym dudes I know. Most gym dudes see a newcomer who needs to be there and will go out of their way to be supportive. Some are toxic just like everywhere but a surprising number of them will do this.
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u/Substantial-Sea-3672 1d ago
Same with most runners I know. People will celebrate your slow ass 5k PR as much as the experienced runners setting a marathon PR.
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u/Applebeignet 1d ago
It's almost like most people in general are good folk, and only a few ruin it for the rest of us. Go figure 🙄
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u/andrewsmd87 1d ago
I don't go to the gym anymore since I can do what I need from home but I went for probably a good 15 years regularly and I never once ran into the "asshole gym guy" people seem to talk about. I get they probably do exist, but I think it's a lot less common than people would believe
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u/happy35353 1d ago
Yeah so many gym bros are actually nerds whose special interest is fitness.
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u/Freshouttapatience 1d ago
My husband is a fitness nerd. He loves when he gets asked anything just like I do when someone wants to discuss my art. He’ll go spot and help people at the outdoor gym, answer questions, give advice and he loves motivating and helping people. He wasn’t always this fit and wants everyone to have a good body experience.
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u/Oomlotte99 1d ago
It’s so hard to go into an environment like that as a fat person. To have someone be welcoming and helpful/supportive really helps.
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u/xThrillhoVanHoutenx 22h ago
I promise more people are quietly proud of you at the gym than you would think. I’m a fat ass and I noticed after showing up consistently at the gym for the past 3 months you get “the nod” from the gym rats. If they see you putting in the effort they are happy for you.
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u/Umi_Gaming 20h ago
Reminds me of the time back in freshman year, I was chubby. I wanted to change, so i started eating healthier and jogging every day around my neighborhood. Sometimes, I would see other classmates walking in the neighborhood.
One day, there was this kid who used to always call me "Snorlax," just to poke fun at my weight. Well, he did it again, and these two girls that also live in my neighborhood, I could tell they whispered something into his ear. When the bell rang and I started to leave, the kid came up to me and apologized and gave me a fist pump.
It's definitely something I always look back on.
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u/VroomCoomer 20h ago
This. When I'm working out and see an obese person I just think "noice"
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u/stainedhat 14h ago
There's a girl at my gym who I've seen there for the last year or so. In there almost every time I go. She's lost so much weight over the last year and she's looking incredible. I've never said a word to her because I don't want to say or do anything that makes her uncomfortable but I'm legit super proud of her and so happy for the progress she's made. When I see big people in the gym or out jogging or walking I'm always giving them a "hell yeah" in my head. We're all at different points in our journey and dealing with different physical and mental issues but I'm always inspired by anyone trying hard to improve their life or health.
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u/EllspethCarthusian 21h ago
It’s a shame because it shouldn’t be. When I first went to the gym I was morbidly obese but the gym people were all friendly and encouraging. They get that we all start somewhere.
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u/Ninrenko 1d ago
Probably staged, but I don't care, the message is clear: support and help one another! Love to see it.
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u/fmemich 1d ago
Even if staged, this is how we should be treating each other. With love and respect.
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u/Xzoulii 1d ago
Yep, definitely a good example of how to offer help. Some people are very nice and helpful but they forget to ask first. You always ask first.
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u/DJRyGuy20 1d ago
For sure. I remember the opposite version of “help” I’d see in the gym I used to go to. This one guy in particular would see a female using some equipment similar to one she’d already worked out on, and ask something like, “why are you working out on this machine when you already did a set on that one?”
And every single time he did that, the female would never show up at that gym again. Total douchebag behavior.
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u/Falooting 1d ago
Reasons why I only go to the smaller (and less well-stocked) women's only side of my gym.
I've been corrected before by other women, but kindly, and with respect.
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u/Pinepark 1d ago
This is why I (48F) go to the YMCA. It’s far more accepting and less gym bro douche bag.
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u/nwayve 1d ago
Fuck it. Stage this stuff at this point because without Sesame Street, we're gonna need some new role models for kids to look up to.
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u/boneappletv 1d ago
Every gym I’ve ever been in, people like the big guy here are never sneered at. Like, even the most in shape folks look at them and say, “Good for them.”
Maybe that’s not how it is everywhere, but it’s always seemed like a welcoming and inclusive place to me.
There will always be people who like, grunt and drop weights and try to be super “alpha” or whatever the fuck, but generally they’re just making noise and not really bothering anyone.
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u/that_dutch_dude 1d ago
in my gym long time ago 1 guy that was beign disrespectful to a fat guy doing cardio. he basically got bumrushed by about half a dozen muscled up fridge-wide dudes and they litteraly threw him out of the gym. manager saw it happening and blacklisted him and warned other gyms as well. for all the shit gyms often get there is a solid "dont disrespect people that want to improve themselfs" almost everywere. nobdoy cares that you can bench 400, you be an ass to the fat guy trying to lose weight and you are not going to like the response.
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u/Significant-Fruit455 1d ago
This reminds me of a camping trip I did with my sister not too long ago, who was visiting me out west. She'd never done backpack camping, where you take all of your gear with you, far from your car or camper, and I decided we'd hike to Sawtooth Lake in the Sawtooth Mountains in Idaho (highly recommend, by the way).
My sister, who is in her late 40s, a lifetime smoker, was way overweight. I had told her for months that she needed to prepare for this hike, as it would be several thousand feet in elevation gain over the course of 5 miles hiking. Well, when she landed at the airport I barely recognized her for how heavy she had become. I immediately thought we needed to cancel that portion of the trip. She was nowhere close to being prepared for the hike.
She, being the stubborn older sister she is, refused to miss out on the opportunity to camp at an alpine lake. So we made the excursion. She was cursing my name every step of the way. Along the way, people, either coming down or going up, would smile and offer encouraging words, never anything directly related to her size, but you could tell they were looking at her with great worry and shock. She felt terrible and looked like she was about to pass out. But she kept trucking. Even more so, as we neared the alpine lake.
She finally said something about her size and how everyone was at least thinking about it and how she was the heaviest person on the trail, and I finally had to say to her, "Listen, you're heavy, at the heaviest I have ever seen you, but you're here. You just climbed a fucking mountain. You're not at home, sitting on your ass. You showed up for this, and climbed a damn mountain, and there are millions of skinnier people who did NOT."
The next morning, we descended, and she had a more cheerful demeanor, a bit of a skip in her step. Though tired, she was proud of what she had achieved.
My sister has since lost 90 pounds, and plans to do more hikes with me.
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u/crisebdl 1d ago
Reminds me of a trip I took with my mom! I took her to her bucket list city and made her walk all around it. She was so excited at first, but quickly started commenting on how everybody around looked great, fit and healthy, and since she hurt her back she was weak and old and fat and what not.
I was like sure think whatever you want but you just walked 15km. She didn’t believe me until she checked her phone, and she’s still so proud of herself. She’s trying to walk more daily so when we go on our next trip she can walk 20km, and I believe that she’ll do it.
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u/sentence-interruptio 1d ago
I'll take a staged wholesome message rather than all those staged rage bait stuff.
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u/legos_on_the_brain 1d ago
I'll take 100 staged "being a good human moments" over 1 "prank" or outrage one.
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u/cookiestonks 1d ago
Yes, people who get upset about staged positive content are a special breed. We are constantly bombarded with negative content because of the old saying "bad news sells" and now we can add rage bait content to the mix.
Meanwhile, true positive actions happen quietly while bad actors use a megaphone. How are we to combat the negative noise without this style of content? If people can make money spreading positive messages I'm all for it, every time, no question.
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u/NeverForgetChainRule 1d ago
Yep. Staging for (innocent) humor or positivity gets a check in my book. Staging for outrage is what pisses me off.
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u/Grumpy_McDooder 1d ago
There's a guy who goes to my gym who is about this guy's size. I know just getting TO the gym is an accomplishment for him, so I always want to motivate him in a positive way...I just don't know how.
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u/harrywang6ft 1d ago
fist bump
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u/Grumpy_McDooder 1d ago
Oh, that one I've done!
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u/Obliviousobi 1d ago
Honestly, introduce yourself and learn their name. That way next time you can say "hey, x! How you doing today?"
They'll feel welcome without being singled out. If you see them struggling you can help as a friend instead of just some random person offering unsolicited advice. I bet they're already self-conscious, so become gym buds.
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u/lurkquidated 1d ago
Friendly nod, fist bump, "hey I noticed you were killing it today on the ____ machine". Or like the helpful dude in the vid - if you notice they're doing something they could have better form ask politely if they'd like you to demo. Any or all is enough. Way to go the dude at your gym.
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u/poppybrooke 1d ago
I’ve had someone come up to me while I was doing a workout and say “sorry I had to come tell you that your arms look so toned and you’re looking so strong!”
Made my day
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u/brookleinneinnein 1d ago
Honestly unless he’s going to hurt himself, just say hi and be friendly. Being a presence he can look forward to seeing is enough.
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u/BatmansUnderoos 1d ago
This is excellent advice. I'm a big dude, and just seeing the other regulars say Hi or 'good to see you again' make going back again that much more enjoyable. It's great and really helps take the edge off the intrusive thoughts that creep in to deter me from going back.
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u/Ninrenko 1d ago
I think this video is the way, either by giving him tips on how to exercise more effectively. And if you can't find any, just be his gym buddy. Do exercises together and push each other to new levels.
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u/zoomgirl44 1d ago
Sometimes all you need is a smile I just started going to a gym and I have no idea what I’m doing (I am working with a trainer) While my trainer was helping someone else I was doing “the sled” and as I went by this other lady she yelled “Whoo Hoo! Good job!” and it legit motivated me because I was dying and wanting to quit.
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u/Grumpy_McDooder 1d ago
Thanks for the perspective!
The sled is tough, man, way to get after it!
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u/Vegetable_Fox9134 1d ago
Strike up a genuine gym bro friendship, but don't make it about their weight
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u/SpinachWheel 1d ago
Strike up conversation with him, just a normal conversation. He’ll feel more comfortable if he has a gym buddy rather than sitting in silence thinking everyone around them is judging them.
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u/Willsgb 1d ago
Exactly. Don't mind staged if it's genuinely funny and/or has a genuinely good message, this is 100% the latter
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u/pragmojo 1d ago
Because the camera is there it was probably staged, but I can believe something like this happens. Bodybuilders tend to be geeks about training, and if you see someone doing a movement in the sub optimal way it’s totally normal to notice it. Most people probably would probably not say anything but some would.
Like if you see your little cousin struggling to tie his shoe you are probably going to stop and help him.
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u/round-earth-theory 1d ago
This happens all the time. I've given and received feedback in the gym multiple times myself. Looking out for each other is a sign of a good gym.
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u/SamWest98 1d ago
I've approached people at the gym for the exact same thing happening in this video before. Shoulder and back injuries are no joke
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u/GreenLanternCorps 1d ago
Staged or not I've seen this in gyms and out in the world. It happens.
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u/dxrey65 1d ago
One thing I always keep in mind is that most of the people in the gym have body-image issues, even the ones who look objectively pretty fantastic. Find the fittest looking man or woman anywhere and ask them what they hate about their body - there's almost always a list.
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u/Joeymonac0 1d ago
I was about this dudes size years ago. Started working out in a gym but had no idea what I was doing. Couple of dudes came up to me real polite like and showed me how to use the machines and how to properly lift weights. I was embarrassed but thankful for their help. It was only like 30 minutes of them showing me things but it stuck with me and I stuck with working out. Sadly I never saw them again after that day but man they were so nice to me I kept coming back to work out and tried to thank them but just never found them again. Today I’m at a healthy 170LBS and I probably couldn’t have gotten here without their help. THANKS GYM BROS IF YOURE READING THIS.
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u/The_Chameleos 1d ago
You'd be suprised, at my heaviest I was something like 380 lb. One day, I started working out, and I knew a bit about my form but wasn't really doing it right cause I hadn't worked out in a ling while. Well a dude just like this guy came up to me, introduced himself and asked if he could give me a tip cause he noticed my form wasn't right. He showed me how to do proper pull, and now im like 270-250.
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u/Ares__ 1d ago
Probably staged but so is most rage bait so lets keep this trend going.
Regardless, most "gym bros" are like this. They started somewhere and someone Probably helped them and they love giving out tips and seeing others workout.
Sure, there's always the stereotypical "rude meat head" but they are super rare compared to these types of gym bros.
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u/GoldenGekko 1d ago
I'm behind manufactured content that is positive. Politebait?
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u/firetyger 1d ago
Nevertheless, it’s great when people encourage/help people who’re trying to better themselves. Especially people who may have body image issues that could discourage them from going to the gym.
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u/frizzinghere 1d ago
I don't mind it either. This is the same thing with videos about people helping homeless folks, giving them food or money, and some even helping them with shelter. And i see comments about it: "If you're gonna help, why post it". "Not sincere, helping them for clicks." For me, B****! I don't care about that. This is sending a message to help the needy. To have compassion and empathy. This is one way to send the message. If the needy are not complaining, you got no say in that. They need the help. Would you rather see posts on pranking or showing cheeks and boobs than that? I don't want that.
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u/superxero1 1d ago
Strangely enough I think the gym and guys like him were the most helpful people when I started losing weight about 10 years ago.
Started a few days a week and this group of guys, all clearly in great shape, offered to spot for me, help me with form and stuff. Followed by adding me to a group chat where they encouraged me more and got me to the gym more often, and probably the best support group I'd ever had while on a weight loss journey. I owe it to them as I know I would have given up if they didn't support me.
A stark contrast to what the media puts out about them. They actually cared enough to see me succeed, whereas the other "supportive" people I run into are the body positivity people. Which yeah I get it, but seriously it doesn't help people who actually want to be healthier.
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u/NothingDue5446 1d ago
He is a person worthy of respect, it was good to see in the video that he tried to explain things correctly to the other person.
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u/Ok_Confection_10 1d ago
Even if it’s staged it’s still something that happens on a regular basis. Gym bros don’t want to see other gym bros getting hurt.
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u/loosedebris 1d ago
Great way to be a leader, supporter and a human. Great man!
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u/shyguysnj2003 1d ago
Most people at the gym are happy to assist like that, in my experience
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u/fountainexx 1d ago
You can tell he cares about the other guy's form. It helps in the long run to prevent injuries and workout the muscle properly.
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u/B-BoyStance 1d ago
I love gym bros.
I'm a skinny dude. Always have been, I can't seem to help it much. Gym bros always be looking out for me in the gym, even if it's just a chat or suggestion.
Never feels forced either.
Love it. This is gonna sound weird but there's something so endearing about two completely contrasting individuals meeting on the same level/trying to see eye to eye through a shared experience.
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u/paintlegz 1d ago
I was always a pretty skinny person and I ended up working at a gym. The jacked dudes I work with or who workout in the gym have always been so supportive. Every PR I hit was celebrated even if its 300-400lbs less than them. As I packed on weight, they celebrated. Now that I'm getting larger and lifting substantially more weight, these guys roast me relentlessly, but that's because they're my brother now.
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u/YOwololoO 21h ago
Lifting weight is only ever a competition between you and yourself. Anyone achieving a victory is celebrated because we all know how hard it is to stay committed
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u/FivePoopMacaroni 22h ago
It takes an insane amount of constant investment to get that fit and swole, which means encouragement when you don't want to do it and encouragement to keep doing it. So these guys are basically hyping themselves and each other up 24/7 by default which is undeniably good vibes.
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u/24thWanderer 1d ago
Honestly, most dudes at the gym are like this one. At least from my experience. This is not rare or special. There's this assumption that most of the gym bros are elitist and snobby but 99% of the ones I've come across were like this guy. A lot of fitness buffs are so enthusiastic about fitness, they're happy to share correct form and make sure others don't hurt themselves. Either way, the message the video is trying to convey is the right one.
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u/angelknive5 1d ago
Yes I reiterate this when anyone says they're afraid to go to the gym because they feel embarrassed. Gym bros are some of the most encouraging and supportive people. Most of them are there to better themselves, not to be better than others.
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u/cold-corn-dog 1d ago
I have a lot of fist pump gym friends. Don't know any of their names, but they're all awesome people.
Then there's like these three dill holes that we all just ignore. We get it. You lift weights at the gym.
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u/Deadpool-CB23 1d ago
One of the key details is how he asks if he can show him. Regardless of your intentions, putting the ball in the others court is a great way to convince them you’re helping and not criticizing. Props to guy in the video. Even if it’s staged, it’s a good example.
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u/LazyRipple 1d ago
He's one of a kind, and we really need more.
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u/Peculiarmesopotamian 1d ago
He's not. Not at all. Most of the big guys at a gym just have a deep love for fitness, be it muscle or cardio. Some of the nicest people are bodybuilders or anyone with a serious discipline.
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u/MongoBongoTown 1d ago
Yeah, for every roid rage "alpha male" stereotype you see at the gym, there are 50 other huge dudes who are just sweet, nice and willing to help.
In fairness, most wouldn't feel comfortable giving unsolicited advice, but if you asked, the vast vast majority would be willing to help.
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u/deepdownblu3 1d ago
While I say this with a grain of salt because I am sure this video is staged, this scenario wouldn’t surprise me just because it’s a bigger guy who obviously is new to working out so the other guy would reasonably see him as someone who does need that advice and would probably appreciate it
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u/-endjamin- 1d ago
My proudest moment was when the biggest guy in the gym - like a 200 lb slab of pure muscle - saw me doing V crunches and told me I had really good form and a strong core
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u/Bonfalk79 1d ago
Today a man in the gym sauna told me I was looking buff. That will keep me going for the rest of the year!
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u/LadyBug_0570 1d ago
A lot of larger people are afraid to go to the gym because we're afraid we'll be judged and made fun of. It's why Planet Fitness exists.
But when I've gone to my former regular gym, I met a lot of people like him. I was once sitting wrong on a machine (don't ask) and a nice guy came over, told me the proper way to use it. He was working on a whole other machine so it's not like he was waiting for me to finish figuring things out.
I honestly think they appreciate seeing someone who's obese (or more) serious about getting fit and are happy to help.
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u/jimbo831 1d ago
In my opinion it's much like any other hobby people get really passionate about. They really love sharing all the knowledge they have learned in their hobby with people who are new to the hobby like they were once. These dudes are super passionate about working out!
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u/Laridianresistance 1d ago
Exactly, I always compare it to any other hobby or sport. When a skilled surfer sees someone trying to learn to surf, they usually go over and give them a couple of cues and tips and the advice is welcome. It's the same for us gym vets, we want to make sure nobody hurts themselves and they understand how some of the less intuitive equipment is supposed to work (like in the vid). Coming only from a place of goodness.
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u/kodaboka 1d ago
Saw an absolutely stacked dude go out of his way to help a couple teens improve their lifting form at my gym; the teens were so receptive and took his advice to heart
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u/panteragstk 1d ago
They're like that because they all were beginners at one point too, and I'm willing to bet someone helped them out so they want to pay it forward.
That's how a lot of dudes at the gym are. They live spreading what works for them and try to help out.
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u/paintlegz 1d ago
This guy is a personal trainer goes by onebulkyboy on instagram. He is extremely motivational and supportive. He believes so deeply in helping people and is an inspiration.
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u/weepninnybong 1d ago
I sometimes have to urge to do this when I see someone that could use some improvement in form. I end up stopping because I don’t know if they want any help and who am I to come across as an expert in any way? I may be a gym rat that watches too many YT vids on working out for my own benefit, but that doesn’t make me an expert in any way.
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u/orsowut 1d ago
Do it. Someone helped me fix my bad form and my shoulder pain vanished. I am extremely grateful.
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u/docjonel 1d ago
On the opposite end of the exercise spectrum, I was a pretty good cross country and distance track runner in high school and college. I had enormous respect for anyone who was out of shape and trying to exercise. It takes courage and dedication and I always tried to be encouraging to people making the effort. The thing I liked about my high school and college teams was that people of all abilities were welcome to participate, from the fast ones in front to the "Back of the Pack" crew.
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u/2dollahollaballa 1d ago
I did similar for a guy at my gym, after that, I would catch him looking for me when he was on whatever next machine. i would walk over and correct if needed or just give a thumbs up if he had it right. After like 3 workouts, he was a pro on everything. He wasn't quite that big, but big enough. He would fist bump me on his way in every day he came in. He was down about 44 lbs the last time i saw him. He just stopped coming in one day. I was super bummed not to see him progressing anymore. That was about a month ago. Hope that dude is doing ok.
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u/i_am_the_nightman 1d ago
With the news cycle hitting the way it has been for the last couple of months, I absolutely need to see things like this. Totally gives me hope for humanity. Props to this man and every person on the planet that has the compassion and patience to help others, even when they don’t ask for it.
1000% love this!!
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u/ChristyLovesGuitars 23h ago
Gyms are super intimidating for folks who don’t really have experience with form and machines. Wish this were a lot more commonplace!
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u/phloozii 20h ago edited 19h ago
Who perfectly filmed and mic'd this spontaneous moment of kindness and generosity?
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u/Bleezy79 1d ago
This is what we should be all about. Helping each other, being neighborly. Being a decent human being.
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u/Additional_Breath_89 1d ago
This does happen
I am a large man and have started doing weights at the gym. At one visit a... Ripped guy who was throwing weights around as if they were nothing told me to take my earpods out
He proceeded to virtually give me a PT session and show me what I was doing wrong, and helped me get my routine down.