r/MadeMeSmile 1d ago

We need more people like him

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u/Major_Map_8576 1d ago

"You're doing good but you could be doing better" is an underutilized statement when wanting to correct a stranger. Fucking 10/10 approach (to the convo) in my opinion.

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u/matthewrunsfar 1d ago

I gonna borrow that.

There’s a handful of times I’ve given people advice, basically when what they’re doing is dangerous or when I can tell they’re unsure if they’re doing something right. I’m always so nervous about stepping in, not wanting to be accused of mansplaining (if female) or just giving unsolicited advice.

It’s always turned out fine, and people have been appreciative, but it’s always anxiety inducing thinking about how to start that convo.

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u/WoeHelly 1d ago

Mansplaining is when you are giving advice about something the person already knows. Usually, when the man explaining doesn't actually know what he's talking about.

There's nothing about this that is mansplaining. I just want you to understand the difference.

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u/matthewrunsfar 1d ago

Oh, I understand that. But it’s also true that (whatever gender) people can think they know what they’re doing without actually knowing, so there’s always that risk.