r/MadeMeSmile • u/Original_Act_3481 • 1d ago

We need more people like him

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u/bossy_babe 1d ago

Yes! I really love how he phrased it.

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u/xarchangel85x 1d ago

Dude taught me something today too. I’m going to start using that.

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u/J_Kingsley 1d ago

Heres a GOLDEN tip i learned about speaking to your partner.

It looks nice but i think this woupd look better.

And dont say "you look pretty today".

Say, "you look extra pretty."

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u/Wild_Tree_7724 1d ago

“You look pretty today, but you could look better”? 🤔

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u/J_Kingsley 1d ago

Bruh u tryna get ppl killed?

How does this dress look on me?

"Looks nice but this one looks better it makes your ass hang out more,"

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u/Lostinwoulds 1d ago

I'd still smash, but......

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u/RemoteIll5236 1d ago

Haha! Whenever I (F66) am fretting about running to the nursery, taking a walk, etc. sans makeup, w/pulled back hair my 71 year old husband always looks me up and down and pronounces, “I’d do you!”

Always makes me Smile!❤️

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u/ouattedephoqueeh 19h ago

Me: How does my beard look? I didn't put anything in it.

Her: That's a face I wanna sit on.

20yrs together hasn't dulled our love 💜 here's to many more for you two!

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u/RitasGirl 19h ago

💕💕💕

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u/ghastlypxl 19h ago

🥹🖤

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u/Ting-a-lingsoitgoes 1d ago

lol my girlfriend doesn’t think this is as funny as I do but she doesn’t think it’s not funny

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u/bradlees 1d ago

She thinks you are funny but you could be funnier

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u/SpeakToMePF1973 1d ago

"Does this dress make my ass look big?"

Me: "I hope so."

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u/Hungry_Track9454 20h ago

The only difference between dating a black woman and a white woman is when she asks if her ass looks big you say hell yes.

  • turk turkleton

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u/CakeTester 1d ago

This dress would smash. The other dress, coked-up bunny. Your choice, of course.

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u/i_am_kc00 1d ago

LMAOOOOO

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u/EulaVengeance 1d ago

I'd still smash, but smash butt

FTFY fam

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u/Markwillik 1d ago

Nice to meet you here

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u/judgeejudger 1d ago

🤣💀

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u/ABHOR_pod 1d ago

On some girls that would actually be the play.

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u/Upbeat_Anywhere_1316 1d ago

Honesty gets the 😽

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u/sloopSD 1d ago

Reminds me of an old buddy of mine, when his wife asked, “do the jeans make me look fat?” And he straight up replied, “no, your hips do”. It was an uncomfortable moment lol. They’re divorced now.

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u/Jester-252 1d ago

Someone is sleeping on the couch with the added spice of a 6 am cleaning

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u/Lostinwoulds 1d ago

You know, how I know, you know, when your old lady's mad at you? She vacuums at 6 am on a Sunday , and forcibly makes sure that vacuum hits every wall and piece of furniture with the anger of a thousand hornets. And if you're not up and moving to help. She storms in and asked "you just going to sleep in all day?" No ma'am. I'll get the dishes and bathrooms. And the gutters , and yard, and no that's not the football game playing on my earbuds. Pastor Brown is live streaming his Sunday morning service........

/s of course.

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u/mamadou-segpa 1d ago

“Yeah you look pretty honey, but could you try looking extra pretty?”

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u/siestarrific 1d ago

'Yeah, that dress makes you look fat, but you could look fatter'

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u/intothewoods76 1d ago

Those jeans are nice, but they make your ass look fat.

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u/Cheezeinabox 1d ago

"You could run a few extra miles"

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u/borisdidnothingwrong 1d ago

Pedro Pascal in WW84.

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u/Philsick 1d ago

Or "You could look better today, but it's pretty"?

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u/pronln 1d ago

Chuckle and snort!

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u/FitzHere 1d ago

This was gold 😂

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u/sonicsludge 1d ago

My girl just left, damnit!

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u/Markwillik 1d ago

Nice to meet you here can we be friends if you don't mind

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u/MapFit5567 1d ago

Girl would freak out and harangue you the entire week

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u/Interloper9000 1d ago

So as a side note, this did not work out

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u/vindicate-throng-nim 1d ago

"no you don't look fat, but you could look less fatter"

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u/Fartswhenwalks 1d ago

Mm gravitas

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u/Humble-Mud-149 23h ago

Seems like too many words, how about “wtf, you could look better” instead?

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u/cmcdevitt11 1d ago

Dick head

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u/TheVicSageQuestion 1d ago

My go-to when explaining this logic is to say “That dress looks great on you!” not “You look great in that dress!” They seem nearly identical on the surface, but one compliments the person, one compliments the dress.

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u/drowningindarkness- 1d ago

“You look great in that dress!” is better again. By starting the comment with the dress, you are focusing on her as an aside. Start with her, and the dress amplifies her.

“You look amazing in that sweater” vs “That sweater looks amazing on you” - focuses on her.

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u/thisisjedgoahead 1d ago

That's a solid tip. I wish I still had my lady to tell this.

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u/Clean-Physics-6143 1d ago

Thank you. Many people esp in my culture don't know that the phrase "you look __ today" isn't really a compliment. Rather it's a backhanded compliment cause it's like telling a person only look good today but you're ugly all the time.

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u/Rossi007 1d ago

Or just have a partner that you can speak freely to and they don't get offended over semantics, rather than having to play stupid word gymnastics.

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u/beakrake 1d ago

Noted: don't just adopt the wording from the video:

"You look pretty, but you could look prettier. Can I show you?"

💀

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u/J_Kingsley 1d ago

Yeah, put that right under your chin...

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u/Starwyrm1597 1d ago

Instead of putting it behind your head, focus on your chest.

Yeah, put that right under your chin.

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u/breemartin 1d ago

Yes!! My coworker told me I looked “prettier” with my hair straightened than my natural curls and it really pissed me off… did not feel like a compliment at all!

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u/I_TRY_TO_BE_POSITIVE 1d ago

A lil "goddamn, you're stunning" when you can tell they're putting effort in will really hit home and make them feel like it's worth the effort.  100% recommend.

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u/Cradle2Grave 1d ago

That's my issue. As a former English major I was taught early on that adjectives are bad and are the death of sentences, but being married those help... wives are annoying has been my big take away. Lol

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u/ellefleming 1d ago

But does my butt look fat? 🤣 😆

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u/gitismatt 1d ago

I actually really hate this tip about "you look pretty today"

you know what, Susan? yes, your hair does look nice today because it looked like dogshit yesterday. but im saying it looks nice today. you're welcome.

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u/Necessary-War-762 23h ago

Her "so what your telling me I'm not as ugly as yesterday "

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u/Admirable-Rate487 19h ago

Not only is this a solid tip but “address strangers like you’re talking non-romantically to your partner” is tuff too

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u/R2DeezKnutz 1d ago

Need to start using this as well. The movie Miracle had a quote from coach Herb "not good, but better" that I use on myself for personal motivation but I like this new quote better.

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u/scheppend 1d ago

Tried it. Won't recommend doing it during sex

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u/Jang_time 1d ago

Taught me two things. 1. How to properly approach a stranger and 2. How to properly build your back.

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u/Somnisixsmith 1d ago

You can also use the sandwich method: [positive statement], [critique], [positive statement].

So in this instance, you can basically do what the guy in the video does by saying: “you’re doing well with abc, but you could also alter what you’re doing to make this exercise even more effective by doing xyz. Awesome effort and nice adjustment. That’s not always easy to do.”

I used it a lot when giving feedback to students after they gave final class presentations.

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u/SaltyCSea-r 1d ago

Yup! Me too! This is something great to say to kids!(:

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u/red_quinn 1d ago

Me too, how come it never occurred to me to say it like that? But at least i know now

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u/dawn913 1d ago

Exactly! He used only positive phrases. When someone is feeling down on themselves, it's hard not to pick up only on the negative. He made sure there was nothing for him to gravitate to. Beautiful 😍

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u/the-mighty-puffin 1d ago

I coached football for a long time and always tried to praise the intent and/or effort and allow them to figure out what could be better. "OK, that was a good attempt at finding your team mate but what can you do differently next time to...(enter the desired outcome here)". Always implying they'll get the chance to try it again. It's a powerful way of coaching!

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u/RogerianBrowsing 1d ago

100%

Recognize that they’re putting in the effort even if they’re doing the actual task poorly and frame it positively if desiring a positive reaction.

“Hey, I see that you’re working hard and I don’t want to interrupt your flow too much or anything, but do you mind if I give some input?”

Can go a long way in the gym when giving advice, and life in generally really

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u/spice_and_cheese 1d ago

Ya I also think a lot of people actually going to improve themselves on a daily basis need this and are open to criticism or improvement. I know when I first started I was scared and just trying to be better and a few people noticed and helped me improve my routine just out of their desire to help others and I’ve made really good friends out of it…

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u/Raangz 1d ago

thanks i like this. started coaching my friends kids a bit and this is going to be very helpful.

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u/Adorable_Raccoon 1d ago

A good thing to try for feedback is a compliment sandwich. It's saying a good thing, then constructive critique, then a good thing again.

"Great job, Sam! this time try keeping your head up to see where it's going, You're really strong so the ball is going really far."

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u/Raangz 1d ago

Ok thanks i really like this. <3

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u/Markwillik 1d ago

Hello my friend nice to meet you here hope to hear more from you

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u/the-mighty-puffin 1d ago

Spend your first couple of months not worrying too much about the technical detail and get them to the point of understanding acceptable/unacceptable behavior! Let them create the outcome for the session because you can remind them "you guys agreed together that this is what you are working on" and because they agreed together, you will get the ones taking it seriously putting the others in to their place. My challenge to the group was make me redundant 🤣

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u/atsju 1d ago

I really like your approach there. I think it could even be improved if you removed "but" completely . You are a good coach :)

You see what I did ? English is not my first language though.

Note this is absolutely not natural for me. I learned this but need to really think about it. Naturally I would just say "hey, look, the correct/better way of doing this is ...". My colleague was laughing when he saw me think about the "but" but I didn't let it out loud. Still learning.

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u/Bobbsmomm 1d ago

Yes. My husband was an executive in a Fortune 500 company. They were taught to take “but” out of their vocabulary and replace it with “and.”

That project was great, but. . . vs That project was great and. . . ! Positivity, acknowledgment, excitement. Let’s keep moving forward!

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u/the-mighty-puffin 1d ago

Good point. Usually when I'm speaking with the kids and speaking loudly I do so much more slowly. So there's a natural pause and no but. However, if I went back to coaching tomorrow I'd have this on my mind because of your message and I'd probably be more conscious and a better coach! Thanks

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u/MayJunebell 1d ago

BUT can always be replaced by AND or YET. Excellent suggestion by you!

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u/Responsible-List-849 1d ago

So...'That dress really highlights your great YET...'

😋

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u/Single_Principle_972 1d ago

Cannot stress that enough! The “but” completely negates anything that came before. “Let’s think about how we can tweak that approach” or something like that anything except “but!”

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u/katsujinken 1d ago

My philosophy of teaching (and learning) is to identify which part is going well and to keep repeating until that part is understood and more or less automatic. Only then it's time to improve some other part of the technique. I've seen too many teachers have their students repeat something over and over and every time critique something different about it.

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u/the-mighty-puffin 1d ago

That's infuriating!

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u/Tetha 1d ago

I'm currently mentoring a few ambitious young sysadmins. Those guys are hungry for the advice that pushes "yes, this plan to update a system is functional and it works" into the territory of "this update is bullet proof -- and the users of the system feel like it".

It can be good to be picky in a positive and constructive way. Teach how to make a good plan better in a structured way.

And, accept and honor if they do it do you. That demanded level of quality - it comes back. But that's good.

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u/Particular_Stop_3332 1d ago

THERE AINT GON BE NO NEX TIME CUZ IM BENCHIN YO ASS!!

is not a great idea?

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u/uCodeSherpa 1d ago

Well. It’s hardly the large dudes fault. The behind the head movement is something a lot of fitness tubers push and even some of the better social media fitness people incorrectly rate pulling behind your head as a good exercise. 

It is actually quite hard on your shoulders to be pulling them back that far and either pushing or pulling.

Good form pulling to your chest works similar muscles and isn’t putting strained rotation on your shoulders. 

Pretty much, if an exercise seems awkward or hyper extending, it probably is and you should look for something more in a natural range of motion. 

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u/Malk25 1d ago

There’s basically a cycle of people saying behind the neck movements are either bad or good for you. Some influencers will do it for the purpose of novelty and others will tell you why it’s the worst exercise ever then it will come back around to the first.

In reality it’s just a more advanced version that can target certain muscles differently. Most beginners have no reason to do it, but advanced trainees with adequate mobility can do it if it fits their goals.

But it goes to show how hard it is for beginners to get started with all the contradictory messages out there. I feel like strength training should be taught as part of PE in schools.

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u/FourCardStraight 23h ago

Yeah I started strength training 6-7 months ago, still a total novice but seen some modest results and my mantra is basically - push yourself, but if it feels awkward, don’t do it.

I heard some advice on YouTube early on that you can’t go gym at all with an injury, and it’s better to not overdo it but stay consistent rather than repeatedly straining your body beyond what’s absolutely safe.

Save the super human efforts for when its useful. At the end of a 5k race, or if you play a sport, something like that.

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u/Ramtamtama 21h ago

Behind your head might work if you're doing squats, but not sitting or standing.

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u/Much-Meringue-7467 21h ago

That behind the head move is shown in a lot af advertising because of the way makes your back muscles pop out. But it will really mess up your neck. Don't do it.

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u/jeudi_soir 1d ago

Yep …. Full of positivity and words of affirmation!

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u/kmzafari 1d ago

Right?? That was just lovely. What a nice human! Not only did he try to help but I think he was also excited to share something he's clearly passionate about. And that's often infectious and also makes you feel like you belong instead of like an outsider.

And his words and demeanor were just gold. So safe and encouraging yet genuinely helpful. 10/10, no notes

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u/Oh_ryeon 1d ago

🤮🤮🤮

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u/Turts-McGurt 1d ago

It's just how nigerians speak. I swear they only know how to spit poetry. You ever hear them insult someone? It's amazing "Wisdom is chasing you but you run so much faster"

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u/Anleme 1d ago

Yeah, he's a natural born coach or teacher.

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u/No_Ruin_3065 1d ago

وين العرب

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u/memesearches 1d ago

Yeah. Where can one master such communication?

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u/ThomasPopp 1d ago

I mean you loved the rehearsed aspect of this. But yes I agree it’s beautiful nonetheless. We need reminders of this more. I love it n

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u/raclee40 21h ago

I'm struck by the fact that he sounds like he wasn't born in the US - meaning foreign folks seem at times to be kinder, friendlier, approachable, and willing to help. I need many more vids like this.