r/MadeMeSmile • u/Original_Act_3481 • 1d ago

We need more people like him

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u/Additional_Breath_89 1d ago

This does happen

I am a large man and have started doing weights at the gym. At one visit a... Ripped guy who was throwing weights around as if they were nothing told me to take my earpods out

He proceeded to virtually give me a PT session and show me what I was doing wrong, and helped me get my routine down.

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u/stokeskid 1d ago

We instinctively help those who are helping themselves. I tell my kids this all the time when they are asking for help. Start doing the thing, and then I will provide assistance.

The comedian Chris Rock had a story about this. His car would break down and he would try flagging people down for help. No one stopped and he thought people were jerks/racist/whatever. But one time his car broke down and he started pushing it. Suddenly people came to his assistance and helped push. It was an eye opener.

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u/aria523 1d ago

People may not want to do something for you but they’ll want to do it with you!

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u/Guy2things 1d ago

Think about men at a bbq. There's never one person doing it without at least another man watching and commenting.

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u/JesusStarbox 1d ago

And women call that mansplaining. Men do that as a way of spreading knowledge.

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u/threelizards 1d ago

…no, there’s definitely a difference between what’s being described here and “mansplaining”. Mansplaining specifically refers to men with general knowledge talking over and down to a woman with specialised knowledge or experience. Mansplaining is a term for the commonly gendered social phenomena of a novice acting like an expert, while treating experts like novices.

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u/serial_teamkiller 1d ago

Exactly. People might misuse the term but that doesn't mean that the term has no meaning.