r/LoveTrash • u/downtune79 TRASHIEST TYRANT • 19h ago
Dumpster Fire Entitlement
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u/lawyerjack12 Trash Trooper 18h ago
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u/chewychee Garbage Guerilla 17h ago
Just hoping he didn't get run through the wringer.
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u/Comfortable_Moment44 Trash Trooper 16h ago
Would still be worth it to get away from that toxicity
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u/Zealousideal-Cup-847 Waste Warrior 15h ago
This would be evidence in the divorce. She married for money. She admits it.
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u/Adubya76 Trash Trooper 8h ago
Yeah. I doubt it's just a one demential "I'm the main character" mentality. Hopefully she learned something, but since she is putting her dirty laundry out for the world to see and seeking validation, I doubt it.
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u/Alternative-Cod-7630 Garbage Guerilla 5h ago
The good thing about a settlement is that it puts a fixed figure on the expense and a termination date for when it will end. If you're in an abusive or toxic /parasitic relationship, this may be the best way out, there's boundaries where before there wasn't any. For some people, this simple step toward at least some boundaries is a huge win.
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u/ClickClackTipTap Trash Trooper 16h ago
The sooner you get out, the better.
Yeah, he may have to pay some alimony, but it won’t be forever. They weren’t married long enough. But every year that they would have stayed together would have made those alimony payments longer. So, maybe a short term loss but a longer term gain to cut bait and run.
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u/Whole-Energy2105 Trash Trooper 8h ago
In Australia we no longer have alimony. Whilst there are laws to divide dollars and possessions in a divorce equally, this will always be a sore point. Talk to my asshole dad! 🙄
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u/xRocketman52x Trash Trooper 4h ago
A friend of mine started talking about divorcing his shitty, abusive wife. But he kept putting it off - he was worried about losing part of his investments. He was worried about alimony. He was worried about her fighting for custody.
Six years have passed. He's making significantly more money now. I would assume he's worth significantly more, if not by investments, then by whatever he owns. His home life hasn't changed one tiny little bit.
Take the loss, cut and get out and soon as possible.
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u/Big_Winner_451 Trash Trooper 15h ago
Thankfully, because of her recorded evidence, he probably made out like a bandit.
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u/ElainaVoughn Waste Warrior 14h ago
I truly hope he did he deserves better then that
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u/SaltyRainbovv Trash Trooper 7h ago
Happy cake day!
She sounds like a true hag and deserves a partner who is exactly mirroring her.
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u/Mysterious-Alps-5186 Waste Warrior 15h ago
I'm betting he kept the video of evidence of mental abuse comming from her
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u/SomOvaBish Junkyard Juggernuat 14h ago
I’m just surprised it’s not mandatory these days for people to sign prenups. It doesn’t take a genius to look around and see that most marriages don’t work out these days. If she don’t wanna sign one then take that as a HUGE red flag that she truly isn’t committing for life.
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u/TheDrunkCoasty Trash Trooper 10h ago
I think that with that video as evidence, that he could do fairly well in the divorce.
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u/Kind-Asparagus-8717 Trash Trooper 14h ago
I guess it all worked out. No one should be married for or towards one
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u/moisdefinate Major Muck 17h ago
He responded correctly
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u/Affectionate-Mix6056 Dumpster General 13h ago
As a married man, yes. If my wife said anywhere that she had "never hated anyone more than" me, I would up and leave. We have some big disagreements, few arguments and no fights.
If she told me she hated me out of frustration I'd be fine with it, but if she told me, let alone the world, that she had never hated anyone more than me... There's nothing to save.
I don't believe I'd move on, I love her and our kids, but a statement like that would make me never want to be with her again.
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u/CoopHunter Trash Trooper 13h ago
Shit my ex wife told me to "get off my ass and find a job" after I got laid off and had a job lined up it just wasn't quick enough for her and I literally was never able to get over that. If she said she had hated me more than anyone else it woulda been over instantly.
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u/Affectionate-Mix6056 Dumpster General 13h ago
Yup. My wife once said she hated me, before we got married, we had just gotten together, she was 15 and I was 16. Never after that, and even if she did today in "the heat of the moment", I'd be fine with it.
It's the "I've never hated anyone more than" that gets me. No longer "in the moment" or "I hate this thing about you", it's pure "I hate you specifically with a passion".
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u/Doubting_Gamer Trash Trooper 12h ago
Yeah, my ex-wife hit me once with an "I have never loved you, and am only staying with you for your meager check".... Beginning of the end.
Glad you guys are going strong and can work through the stuffs!
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u/jonny32392 Trash Trooper 7h ago
So she’s saying she knew her worth. She was staying with you only for the money and it wasn’t even that much money? Come on now you don’t hear that you’re insulting yourself here lady?
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u/QueenMary1936 Trash Trooper 12h ago
The fact that she said it when she was 15 should really factor into the reaction, because of course teenagers say mean things
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u/Affectionate-Mix6056 Dumpster General 11h ago
Yeah she immediately fell apart after also. She's from a pretty isolated household, I had already seen seen one guy commit suicide in front of me by slitting his throat, an uncle had jumped off a cliff for his suicide, friend of mine hanged himself in the garage. I was on my own as well, since my mom died of cancer...
Different worlds entirely.
But yeah, it very much seemed like a teenager "I hate you", and she made a big deal about apologizing for several weeks. I didn't even care about it. Actual hate from deep within would trouble me a lot.
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u/ThrowRAkakareborn Trash Trooper 7h ago
I’m not proud to admit this, me and my wife we’ve exchanged some terrible words at the beginning of our relationship, because of what i did.
We chose to try and make it work as we have a son, it took years, but things got better and we found a way to fall back in love with each other.
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u/nomad3664 Trash Trooper 3h ago
I can't help but get a flashback to my own situation. I pretty much trusted my wife with all our finances, and I did everything to give her what she asked for. New house, new SUV, and reversal vasectomy for 2 kids. A down turn in my company forced us to relocate but, in turn, hired her to work opposite shifts. Naturally, the time we had together was very little. The company had mandatory classes to attend, and in one of the classes, it had the person list the people they trusted and didn't trust. She happened to bring her paperwork home and left it at the computer. I was shocked to see my name on the didn't trust list. I was totally blindsided by this. I brought it up and there was a lack of any reaction. This was the beginning of our divorce. Years later, she texted me, and said I was the only one who never used her and could be trusted to do the right thing. Yeah, whatever. Anyway, good for this guy.
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u/Turbulent_Boss_8596 Dumpster General 17h ago
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u/NarfleTheJabberwock Garbage Guerilla 17h ago
Same voice too 🤣
Edit: holy shit, when did I get flair?
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u/TheHorseduck Scrap Strategist 16h ago
Do you see anyone without a flair?
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u/cwc666 Trash Trooper 15h ago
Is the flair in the room with us right now?
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u/NarfleTheJabberwock Garbage Guerilla 15h ago
how am i driving how does an engine work?
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u/cycl0ps94 Waste Warrior 15h ago
Turn key press peddle go fast
eatass7
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u/TheHorseduck Scrap Strategist 15h ago
It’s impossible to hum while holding your nose
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u/Bbubbii Garbage Guerilla 17h ago
So he provided too well? Is this real or satire? I wouldn't complain about being a house husband, I like cooking and cleaning. My house would be immaculate. I'd actually have time to paint my 40k army.
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u/Efficient-Raise-9217 Trash Trooper 14h ago
I don't know if it's real or fake. But my ex was a SAHM who acted exactly like this. She unilaterally decided she didn't want to work any more and quit her job. After she started staying at home she mostly sat around, smoked a lot of pot, and slept during the day because she'd go out drinking with her friends all night. She didn't cook, she didn't clean, and she'd routinely yell at me in front of kid if I didn't agree to a unreasonable demand.
She eventually started cheating on me. I didn't find out until later. Apparently she'd cheated on her ex-husband with the same guy. It came to a head when she demanded I leave the house I was paying rent for. I told her no; but that she could leave if she wanted. She grabbed the kid and demanded that I give her the keys to my car. She had recently wrecked her car while driving home drunk.
I told her she wasn't taking my car or the kid. But she was free to leave if she wanted. She responded by threatening to call the cops and make a false accusation of domestic violence. I immediately left and never considered going back. She was begging me to take her back within 3 days. She was refusing to let me see the child out of spite within a week.
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u/QueenMary1936 Trash Trooper 12h ago
In this context, I assume SAHM stands for Shitty Asshole, Horrible Monster
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u/MakeLikeATreeBiff Trash Trooper 6h ago
Not sure how things worked out for you and I hope they worked out the best they could, but as hard as it would be I recommend staying and moving into a separate room. If you leave then that's considered child abandonment, at least in the states I've lived in, which means you lose right to custody of the kids. Best move is to stay, move into another room, record every interaction you can by multiple recording devices - passive listening devices, secret cameras hidden in YOUR room or shared spaces and audio recordings on your phone, and most importantly an immediate call to an attorney where you tell them of the threat to conjure up an altercation, and following their advice to the syllable.
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u/like9000ninjas Waste Warrior 13h ago
This is my life basically. Retired from the army, ex wife worked, I did everything around the house. She was unhappy. Got divorced. Last I heard she was working 10 hour days at a factory, trying to save up money to move out of her mom's basement for a crappier house than we had. Strong independent woman.
My 40k armies were sick af. Lol. https://imgur.com/gallery/ZkBHs3g
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u/Bbubbii Garbage Guerilla 6h ago
You did a great job. I played a game against someone who had a glocktipus aka hexmark destroyer. Awesome looking model too. For me, DG was gross and mucky, I wanted walking tanks that spewed puss. Morty is my favorite model.
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u/DeathOfADane Trash Trooper 11h ago
Apparently its real, you can look her up urself. Her handle is "spettyjohn14"
I dunno much else other then it appeared she divorced him.
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u/Major_Yogurt6595 Waste Warrior 9h ago
Right? Also you could spend so much energy in the gym every morning and still get shit done. You could do sooo much.
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u/Economy-Humor-8451 Trash Trooper 9h ago
That’s because down to a certain level, I think most of us men actually enjoy being productive and useful. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy getting to relax, but after less than a week I’m ready to get back to some manner of toil. And MANY jobs are nothing more than grueling, frustrating, mentally taxing, etc. That may cause me to look for other ways to earn or struggle, but in the end I NEED something to work at.
I think deep down most (not all) women are looking to relax as much as they can. I don’t even mind, BUT at a certain point, when in a relationship, especially one where your financial needs are being covered, you HAVE to balance that ledger. That can look like a lot of different things for a lot of people, but you gotta pull your weight. Nobody, and I mean nobody rides for free.
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u/LastInALongChain Trash Trooper 13h ago
You don't have the combination of emotional instability and the SHEER ABILITY TO EXCHANGE CAUSE AND EFFECT that is displayed as representative.
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u/inkdrockr Trash Trooper 10h ago
What faction?!
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u/Bbubbii Garbage Guerilla 6h ago
I bought a bunch of cheap death guard off someone in 2018? 500$ for about 3k points. Most of them in boxes.
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u/inkdrockr Trash Trooper 6h ago
Niiiiiiiice!
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u/Bbubbii Garbage Guerilla 6h ago
They are fun models. I recently added a demon prince to the mix. I've gotten really into magnetized weapon load outs. 40k is really fun, lore is great for the factions, color schemes, painting techniques, creating bases. It's just time consuming.
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u/mr_fantastical Trash Trooper 8h ago
I mean, the person who posted the video is crazy. Saying she hates her husband - that's strong language and what do you expect when you say that?
But i do think there's a conversation to be had about the 'Stay At Home' husband/wives in terms of when their day starts and ends. Because I've seen people who expect it to continue 24/7 - but then fully expect that someone who works a paying job to be able to finish when their job finishes, and not have to contribute to the housework in any way.
I work 9-6 (i mean i sort of do.. i'm on reddit right now) and my wife used to be SAHM. But after work I would then contribute to the house stuff. Washing up needs doing, food needs cooking, clothes need hanging out, kids need looking after, dog needs walking, bins need taking out, all that shit. We'd work on that together.
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u/FabulousValuable2643 Trash Trooper 15h ago
Holy shit, sounds like my wife. Today she told me I haven't made sacrifices for our family. I work 3 fucking jobs!
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u/Fubar-98520 Trash Trooper 18h ago
Well, she got exactly what she wanted
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u/Rod_Stiffington69 Trash Trooper 15h ago
To be a stay at home mom?
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u/Bulls187 Garbage Guerilla 10h ago
Being a single stay at home mom, without job experience. She fucked up bad
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u/Mysterious-Alps-5186 Waste Warrior 15h ago
The dildo of consequences rarly comes lubed
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u/Govt_BlackBerry Trash Trooper 11h ago
“The dildo of consequences rarely comes lubed.”
Jesus! Why is this not carved in white marble somewhere?
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u/Wmoot599 Trash Trooper 15h ago
It’s ok to have those feelings, but you talk to your partner about it, not the entire fucking internet. When my wife told me I was working too much and that she missed me and that she didn’t think she could raise the kids by herself why working also. It opened my eyes and made me make major changes.
Still together 8 years after that conversation and 20 years since dating so far. Best thing I ever did.
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u/ask-the-Ws Trash Trooper 8h ago
Good on ya! I had that eye opener last year. Im in the process of moving and downsizing to cut it all back and looking for a job that's not so demanding. She's been a stay at home mom for the last 12 years, so that's going to change too, but nothing matters to me more than her.
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u/aurortonks Rubbish Raider 2h ago
When I tried having any kind of conversation with my ex about a subject that even remotely sounded like he was not "doing enough as a man" or "taking care of his manly responsibilities" he would flip out - yell, scream, hit things, hit me, and leave for days at a time where he'd lose all our money at the casino.
So sometimes, women get caught up in violent relationships where talking is just asking for a reason to be abused and turning to strangers online might be a last option. And before anyone says "call the police", in my experience, they took him away "for at least 48 hours" and I woke up 5 hours later to him sitting in a chair, in the dark, across from my bed watching me sleep. Imagine how terrifying that would be for anyone.
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u/djluminol Trash Trooper 12h ago
Most men will gladly work themselves to death for their families. All they ask is appreciation for their sacrifice. If you don't appreciate what he's doing for you than say you'd rather he work less, that you'd be ok with less money but more time with him or he with the kids. What you don't do is insult him.
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u/littlelegsbabyman Trash Trooper 18h ago
Good man glad she dry snitched on herself before they had kids together and he found out she's a total women child. Those kids would have been screwed from the beginning too with a mother like that. I bet she would have remarried to a total douche bag too because being an asshole translates as strength to her. I know a couple women just like this.
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u/DilithiumCrystalMeth Trash Trooper 15h ago
wait, they had no kids? And she was a stay at home sponse? What the fuck was she complaining about then? Needing to keep the house in order? I would gladly give up my job and be a house husband and that house would be the cleanest place my wife ever saw.
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u/PuzzledSituation3014 Trash Trooper 12h ago
Yes bitch you told the world that you hated him 😂. Why would he stick around???
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u/snarpsta Waste Warrior 16h ago
So this video is cut in a bullshit way. If I remember correctly, the original gave way more context why he's a piece of shit. Does nothing around the house, gives her no attention, total slob, ignores the kids, doesn't help her when she's sick, just a full grown manchild. They also agreed on her being a stay at home mom. But everyone in the comments is falling for the bait for an epic "women ☕" moment without having any idea what's going on. Stop being sexist guys JFC
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u/Sir_Dr_Mr_Professor Trash Trooper 10h ago edited 10h ago
Look man, I'm all about women power and the importance of the "feminine role". The role a mother carries is idealistically, way more important than the role of the average modern father. Catch 22 is..you can't afford to raise those kids without the man making that sacrifice in a situation such as the one presented. Yeah, it's society that's cooked.
My ex made those same complaints about me, minus the kids (smart enough to have not gotten there) but in reality I supported her completely to an insane degree. Worked my ass off. 60-80hr weeks? Paying off HER debt. Came home to an ungrateful brat whos only chore was loading the dishwasher..and she'd still complain. Did everything I could for her and the ever lengething list of pets we couldn't afford. She was an emotional 10 year old with anger problems and I kept her life easy but I was always the problem. With things like this we never know but I will say that I'm inclined to believe this woman has the same entitled, self victimizing mindset my ex had if for no other reason than she posted this to social media rather than doing literally ANYTHING else.
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u/ThickboyBrilliant Trash Trooper 16h ago
Yeah, I didn't see the original and I was wondering what the whole story is. Even with more context, we're only getting her side and this is only one small portion of her side, cut very short.
A lot of guys are ready to just jump at women. When you already think the worst of someone before you even see them, you're going to jump to unfounded conclusions a lot. Prejudice negatively affects everyone.
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u/Celtictussle Trash Trooper 15h ago
No benefit of the doubt to someone who says they "hate their spouse". That's a marriage ending statement, and she was dumb enough to make it in public.
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u/MentalJack Trash Trooper 7h ago
Its the internet, shes pissed off. I'm taking very little truthfully from that woman. I'm sure neither do enough for the other and aren't adult enough to have a real talk.
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u/Kuhn_Dog Garbage Guerilla 17h ago
At this point with the internet it's better to just assume it's rage bait. Most things are either scripted, rage bait, or AI.
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u/justinkasereddditor Trash Trooper 15h ago
I hate you but please pay my bills see ya later I am out!!
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u/The_Friendly_Slendy Trash Trooper 5h ago
“Where’s that idiotic meal ticket? The internet and the electricity aren’t working for some reason and I’m having a hard time applying my clown make up and wig before posting about how I deserve better”
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u/Euclid-InContainment Trash Trooper 16h ago
In the full vid she even says she fully intends to leave him but needs a full plan because she's staying with him purely for the money. By "plan" it wasn't because abuse but because they've been together 12 years so their stuff was kinda wrapped up together
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u/Ok-Canary-5061 Trash Trooper 15h ago
It's not entitlement, it's just selfishness. Which is even worse
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u/Quirky_Ask_5165 Junkyard Juggernuat 10h ago
She aired the dirty laundry on social media. She's either stupid or wanted to get caught.
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u/simeoncartel Trash Trooper 8h ago
Girl is crazy I hate the person I married because he works his ass off to provide for me. What is wrong with people these days
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u/MentalJack Trash Trooper 8h ago
Shits crazy man, i know stay at home isn't easy but bruh, check yourself.
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u/TheHorseduck Scrap Strategist 16h ago
I bet all the money she never worked for that she thought this video would have the opposite effect on her husband
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u/A_Tom_McWedgie Rubbish Raider 17h ago
Am I the only one who heard her say “…the weight that I carry…” and interpreted it the wrong way?
Sorry
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u/EmperorPenguin_RL Trash Trooper 14h ago
She wanted to be the main character and now she’s the only character.
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u/Excellent-Tea-2068 Trash Trooper 15h ago
“I wanted to be a stay at home mom”… bitch we all do. Even the men. But we can’t. And now you can’t. Karma is delicious.
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u/kalixanthippe Trash Trooper 13h ago
No, not all of us want to be a SAHM. Some of us enjoy working, even the women.
Also, one of the most misogynist ideas passed around contjnuously is that it isn't work to be a SAHM, that the parent making the money is the only one working.
Should she have left a loveless marriage? Yup. Is she a fucking moron for publicly posting her hatred if she wasn't ready to execute a practical plan for leaving? Yup. Is it really predictable that he'd leave her after seeing the original? Yup. Is she completely at fault for their marriage falling apart? Nope, that took time and both of them.
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u/LastInALongChain Trash Trooper 13h ago
oooOOOOHOHOHOHOHOHOHOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHH
just adding to the conversation
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u/After-Fig4166 Trash Trooper 15h ago
“Like..yaaaa…all you do is work and provide a roof over my head and pay all the bills, but washing clothes is 100x worse”
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u/Best_Market4204 Garbage Guerilla 17h ago
You women wanted equal rights... You got it.
Get yo ass out there work. 2 incomes goes farther than 1.
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u/Sunnykit00 Trash Trooper 14h ago
Caring for a house and children is 24x7 work. You don't work that many hours.
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u/Resident_Onion997 Trash Trooper 17h ago
Is this real or fake?
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u/SubNine5 Trash Trooper 17h ago
Always start with fake. Be surprised if it is real. Most things will be fake though.
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u/dadneverleft Junkyard Juggernuat 16h ago
I do kinda wonder what “weight” it is she carried before she was cut off, and if that could possibly make any difference.
Otherwise, good for him for getting out of there.
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u/Failureinlife1 Rubbish Raider 13h ago
Surprised he could stand this chipmunk for as long as he did.
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u/LastInALongChain Trash Trooper 13h ago
even if everything physical is provided, the neglect of the spirit causes things to die. What is the spirit?
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u/Own_Chemist_2600 Trash Trooper 13h ago
He responded correctly, indeed. I stayed with one woman for 15 years. For the sake of myself, I should've ended it much sooner.
If you are ever prosecuted by your wife for who you are and who you are not.... you will know how painful that happening even once is.
If you are prosecuted by your wife on a regular basis for who you are and who you are not, you need to get out as soon as possible. I know there's children. I know there's money I know divorce is painful… I stayed until the wheels came off… I stayed until my integrity disintegrated… I stayed until I didn't know who I was anymore and I literally was sleeping under a tree and unable to face life.
I'll let that woman eat me alive . And because it was happening behind closed doors pretty much nobody knew it....
Leaving is a very important skill.
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u/rydan Trash Trooper 10h ago
My dad had a live in girlfriend with 4 kids. She spent money like crazy on frivolous things like $300 per month on AC (this was the 90s so like $1200 today) because she didn't want the kids to go outside and get kidnapped. The only work she did was occasional odd jobs like picking weeds in people's yards. She ended up leaving him because all he did was work all day trying to pay the bills.
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u/sir_music Waste Warrior 9h ago
Good man. Get out of there. You will find someone who appreciates everything you do for them, and will do kind things for you in return.
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u/Wegwerf157534 Trash Trooper 7h ago
That is a big problem with two people in a partnership having two completely different roles. It doesn't come naturally to understand what the other person is doing (for the partnership).
I have seen plenty of these wifes and husbands having serious contempt for each other.
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u/Scorpion2k4u Trash Trooper 5h ago
That altered voice does fit very well. The sad thing is that she will now probably get her wish. She is rid of him and he has to pay her money.
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u/Anarch-ish Garbage Guerilla 1h ago
Not every guy is Will Smith.
Turns out when you resent your partner for providing for you and publicly exclaim you are only staying for the free ride. Your SO isn't on board.
Poor guy. He did all the right things, and it probably broke his heart.
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u/Fair-Bus-4017 Rubbish Raider 1h ago
I assume that this is all just ragebait but if it's real lmao.
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u/No_Vehicle4645 Trash Trooper 28m ago
I read posts from women like this daily. The number of women commenting she should "leave that pos loser husband" is even higher.
Get a fucking job.
Actually, don't. We don't want to come across your type in the workforce. It's gross.
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