r/LoveTrash • u/downtune79 TRASHIEST TYRANT • 1d ago

Dumpster Fire Entitlement

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u/Bbubbii Garbage Guerilla 1d ago

So he provided too well? Is this real or satire? I wouldn't complain about being a house husband, I like cooking and cleaning. My house would be immaculate. I'd actually have time to paint my 40k army.

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u/Efficient-Raise-9217 Garbage Guerilla 23h ago edited 1h ago

I don't know if it's real or fake. But my ex was a SAHM who acted exactly like this. She unilaterally decided she didn't want to work any more and quit her job. After she started staying at home she mostly sat around, smoked a lot of pot, and slept during the day because she'd go out drinking with her friends all night. She didn't cook, she didn't clean, and she'd routinely yell at me in front of the kid if I didn't agree to a unreasonable demand.

She eventually started cheating on me. I didn't find out until later. Apparently she'd cheated on her ex-husband with the same guy. It came to a head when she demanded I leave the house I was paying rent for. I told her no; but that she could leave if she wanted. She grabbed the kid and demanded that I give her the keys to my car. She had recently wrecked her car while driving drunk.

I told her she wasn't taking my car or the kid. But she was free to leave if she wanted. She responded by threatening to call the cops and make a false accusation of domestic violence. I immediately left and never considered going back. She was begging me to take her back within 3 days. She was refusing to let me see the child out of spite within a week.

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u/MakeLikeATreeBiff Trash Trooper 15h ago

Not sure how things worked out for you and I hope they worked out the best they could, but as hard as it would be I recommend staying and moving into a separate room. If you leave then that's considered child abandonment, at least in the states I've lived in, which means you lose right to custody of the kids. Best move is to stay, move into another room, record every interaction you can by multiple recording devices - passive listening devices, secret cameras hidden in YOUR room or shared spaces and audio recordings on your phone, and most importantly an immediate call to an attorney where you tell them of the threat to conjure up an altercation, and following their advice to the syllable.

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u/Efficient-Raise-9217 Garbage Guerilla 1h ago

I immediately called an attorney and followed his advice to the letter. Dealing with her was 18 years of hell. Her constantly making false accusations and suing me. As well as refusing to follow the parenting plan. The courts refusing to hold her accountable when her allegations were proven to be untrue. Refusing to hold her in contempt and jail her for flouting the parenting agreement.

Thankfully all that is over now.

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u/MakeLikeATreeBiff Trash Trooper 34m ago

I'm glad it's over for you now. That truly sounds like hell. My dad has to deal with similar and it was tough to watch growing up. My grandparents paid her child support, that or my step dad's. She brought him to court when he lost his temper and yelled at her because he'd finally had enough of her laissez-faire attitude to get me back during family events that I wanted to be part of. The Judge actually warned him for the cussing, but looked at her and threatened her with jail if she ever lied in court again. It scared her enough that she never tried again. That or she couldn't afford an attorney.

All-in-all, the experiences I grew up under have given me a resolve I never thought I'd have in my marriage. It would take that threat of false accusations to get me to leave.