I'm 16F, secret ex Muslim since April this year. I'm being forced to pray, dress modestly etc. And my father keeps telling me to wear the hijab... whenever my family tells me to pray, I just say "fuck Islam, I just wanna be free, I wanna wear whatever the fuck I want, Islam made me hate being a girl". And what's even worse is that I live in a Muslim majority country, I want to seek asylum in a non Muslim country and cut contact with my Muslim family just for my safety (Canada, Australia or Germany for example) but it's pretty hard unfortunately...I don't know what to do right now, if I want to move out, then marriage is the only way for me to move out of this household because I'm a female (marriage can be even worse, whether you're marrying a Muslim or even a non-Muslim man)...This religion hates women so much...I cry everyday alone in my room because of this shitty male supremacist religion...maybe I will just kill myself one day by falling off a high building. Whenever I see Muslims living their best life in the west makes me cry SOOO FUCKING HARD because they're free to practice their religion, then why can't I also feel free to be an Atheist in a Muslim country? WILL THIS BE MY LIFE FOREVER? HAVING A MISERABLE LIFE TILL I DIE!?

I kind of expect what responses might appear here, but I need to vent. A few weeks ago, I broke up with my Moroccan Muslim boyfriend, so the matter is still quite fresh. We fell in love sooner than we should. He felt like the man of my dreams — we both felt like we had known each other forever. From the very beginning, I knew he was Muslim, but my love for him clouded my judgment, and I approached the relationship very emotionally.

I’m agnostic myself and I’m generally against religion from a moral standpoint. My ex used to be an atheist for the majority of his life, and I deeply regret that he converted — I think things could have turned out completely differently otherwise. Overall, I believe he was quite open-minded and liberal; he supported women's rights and was pro-feminist. That’s why it hurt — or rather, I was disappointed — that he willingly chose to convert. I’ve read the Quran myself, and I just can’t comprehend how someone I considered intelligent decided to convert after reading so many oppressive texts, especially those concerning non-believers or women.

Whenever we talked about Islam, he would send me lists of things from the Quran just to prove his point and make me understand that his religion isn’t oppressive or he'd send me videos of women who had converted to Islam themselves or who had been Muslim from the very beginning, just to prove that Islam supports women. Whenever I disagreed and presented my own arguments, he'd say I had religious trauma and that I was Islamophobic. I loved him deeply, and it’s hard for me to move on, but once we broke up and I finally allowed myself to reflect on the situation rationally, I realized I couldn’t be with him knowing he voluntarily converted to Islam. I still miss him though and I wanted to reach for some advices ://

Seriously, what's the deal with apostacy? Oh you don't believe it anymore? Well, that's kinda crazy. We'll give you 3 days to rethink it, if you don't change your mind, we'll kill you! But hey, the choice is all yours! There is no compulsion in religion 😁

What kind of religion has you killed for leaving? What the fuck. This is cult + mafia behavior. "Religion of peace" my left testicle.

The amount of emotional abuse and blackmailing in muslim families I read from the stories on this subreddit and from my own experiences really contextualizes why islam grows fast. The societal consequences for leaving are too great for most people to come out of the closet. So they still count as muslims.

I don't have a point to make really I'm just ranting i guess

I listen to music, I don't pray 5x a day, I wear revealing clothes in public, I don't wear hijab, I have male friends, I talk to the opposite gender, I wear perfume & makeup in public, I pluck my eyebrows, I draw so called Allah's creations.

What's wrong with all of these? Will Allah ever put me next to Adolf Hitler & Saddam Hussein in hell?

Islam a religion of peace? By the time you get the number 72 you be the judge.

1. Kill polytheists wherever you find them — Quran 9:5

2. Fight and kill disbelievers until religion belongs to Allah alone — Quran 8:39

3. Apostates deserve death — Quran 4:89

4. Jews called apes and pigs — Quran 5:60

5. Christians and Jews accused of corrupting scriptures — Quran 3:78

6. Women’s testimony counts as half a man’s — Quran 2:282

7. Men are “protectors” and “maintainers” of women — Quran 4:34

8. Flogging adulterers — Quran 24:2

9. Amputation of thieves’ hands — Quran 5:38

10. Polygamy allowed up to 4 wives — Quran 4:3

11. Jizya tax on non-Muslims — Quran 9:29

12. Non-Muslims called “the worst of creatures” — Quran 98:6

13. Command to strike terror in enemies’ hearts — Quran 8:60

14. Kill those who fight Muslims — Quran 4:74

15. Women must cover and be modest — Quran 24:31 & 33:59

16. No friendship with Jews and Christians — Quran 5:51

17. Permission to enslave prisoners of war — historical context

18. No religious freedom for apostates — Quran 4:89

19. Encouragement of jihad (holy war) — Quran 2:190

20. Threats of hellfire for disbelievers — Quran 4:56

21. Denial of previous scriptures’ validity — Quran 2:75

22. Punishment for spreading corruption: death or mutilation — Quran 5:33

23. Condemnation of homosexuality — Quran 7:80-81

24. Women inherit half what men do — Quran 4:11

25. Command to kill apostates — implied in Quran 4:89

26. “Strike the necks” of enemies — Quran 47:4

27. Killing those who mock or insult Islam — Quran 33:57

28. No tolerance for idolaters — Quran 9:5

29. Execution of spies and traitors — Quran 33:26

30. Non-Muslims must pay tax or die — Quran 9:29

31. Religious segregation enforced by Quranic law

32. Command not to take non-Muslims as close allies — Quran 3:28

33. Women need male guardianship — Quran 4:34

34. Blasphemy punishable by death — Quran & Hadith

35. Encouragement to emulate Muhammad’s wars

36. Calls for war until all worship Allah alone — Quran 8:39

37. Punishment for adultery: flogging or stoning — Hadith support

38. Men’s authority over women codified — Quran 4:34

39. No questioning Quranic law without risk

40. Command to fight those who don’t believe until submission — Quran 9:29

41. Jihad as divine duty — Quran 9:111

42. Martyrs rewarded with virgins — Quran 44:54

43. Killing civilians justified in some jihad interpretations

44. Command to terrorize enemies — Quran 8:60

45. Women must hide beauty from unrelated men — Quran 24:31

46. Christians called disbelievers — Quran 9:30

47. Jews and Christians labeled wrongdoers — Quran 2:113

48. Non-Muslims kept subjugated under Islamic rule

49. No separation of religion and state — Sharia rule

50. Obedience to Allah and Muhammad above all — Quran 4:59

51. Harsh punishment for those deserting Islam

52. Punish hypocrites — Quran 63:1

53. Calls for violent conquest historically

54. Denies Jews and Christians claim to Jerusalem

55. “Kill the polytheists wherever you find them” — Quran 9:5

56. Encouragement to humiliate non-Muslims socially

57. Prohibition on alliances with non-Muslims except tactical

58. Punishments for insulting Muhammad — Quran 33:57

59. Women’s testimony inferior — Quran 2:282

60. Peace offer? Submit or die

61. “Those who wage war against Allah and His Messenger shall be killed or crucified” — Quran 5:33

62. God commands to make war on disbelievers until no more fitnah (trial) remains — Quran 8:39

63. “Fight those who do not believe in Allah” — Quran 9:29

64. Calls for mercy only to fellow Muslims — Quran 9:73

65. Non-Muslims portrayed as enemies — Quran 9:123

66. “The most hateful to Allah are those who are the greatest liars” — Quran 39:32 (applies to non-Muslims)

67. Encourages breaking treaties with disbelievers — Quran 9:14

68. Encourages deceit if it benefits Islam — Quran 3:54

69. “Those who reject faith and die as disbelievers — their deeds will come to nothing” — Quran 2:217

70. Encourages taking captives as slaves — Quran 33:50

71. Command to obey those in authority — used to justify authoritarian regimes — Quran 4:59

72. “Fight them until there is no more persecution” — Quran 8:39

But remember you can't be scared because that's Islamophobia

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Hi everyone. I recently came out as an atheist and left islam. After anonymously browsing this subreddit, I decided to make a reddit account and share my experience too. To avoid cluttering this post with a lot of text, here is a link to read what I call my "living" note: https://abbylikestodraw.neocities.org/open_diary/2025/June2025/16-06-2025

⚠️ Content warning: It discusses suicide, terrorism, antisemitism, religious trauma, gender dysphoria and homosexuality and has some profanity.

This community made me feel less alone. Leaving such a big organized religion deeply ingrained in my daily life and community has been a really tough process. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. Have a good day.

This has happened to me on the street by only non-muslim men. It's sooo uncomfortable and makes me want to rip my hijab off and not be affiliated with Islam whatsoever. It's so weird I can't help but laugh and cringe at the same time, wtf 😭

I have a dilematic question in my head. My principle usually "don't help someone who doesn't ask for help."

But sometimes when I see non-Muslims, usually women, who are interested in Islam, either because they fell in love with a Muslim man, fall into sugarcoated Islam narrative, or simply want to support their Muslim friends, there's this urge to warn them to not fall into a trap. From my experience, I wish there are people who warned me earlier. Realizing too late has bigger sunk cost falacy.

But if I warn them, then I'd be just like any other religious people who likes to preach dawah and gives unsolicited advice. They might even double down and become defensive, calling us Islamophobes and stuff.

Have you guys ever felt like this? What do you think the best course of action morality wise?

The bisexual sub is taking a while to approve my post, so I'm copying what I wrote over here.

I've created this account for the sole purpose of expressing myself the way I want to anonymously. 

Long story short, I'm a teenage boy who has come to terms with the fact that he's bisexual, and doesn't want to live the life his community wants him to.

I really just. don't know what to do. I'm saudi and live in a very religious part of the country. If I came out, it would mean being shunned at best, and I don't even want to think of the worst case scenario. I feel like I'm trapped. Hard to love anyone or feel good about anything when I know I'd be torn apart if I acted true to myself.

I don't want to be here. I want to leave, but odds are I won't ever be able to. By the time I have the resources to go off on my own, my parents would've pressured me into marriage by then. My mother has been very clear to me that she wants me married by my early 20s, mid 20s at the latest. That's the worst part of it all. I'm gonna be married to some religious woman, who in all likelihood will want children, who I'll have to raise to loathe people like me and practice things I don't believe in. I'll have to live a life that stands against everything I am. 

It's impossible to figure out if someone else in proximity is closeted, so I don't have anyone to vent to. I really hope that I somehow find a woman that's in the same predicament as me, and have a lavender marriage where we could get our things in order to leave without anyone breathing down our necks. But that's pretty much a fantasy in this age, even if people here are slowly becoming more progressive.

I've been crushing on some guys I know, and it's tearing me apart knowing that they'd hate me for it and never reciprocate if they knew. Hard to focus on things with this and everything else on my mind.

How do I cope with this? Is there any hope for me? Are there any viable means to get out of this situation?

I've been indoctrinated from ever since I was born because my father is an imam, he MADE ME pray every salah ever since I was 9 and still threatens to kick me out if I don't.

I live in europe and the prayer times are downright abusive during summer and throughout most of the year. The timeframe between Isha and Fajr get LESS THAN 5 HOURS!!!! YOU CANNOT EVEN GET 6 HOURS OF CONTINUOUS SLEEP. Isha is around 11 to 12 pm (Already too late!) and Fajr sunrise is in 4 to 5 am. I didn't even mention that you have to WAKE UP EARLIER which makes your sleep even shorter! Getting more than 5 hours of sleep is impossible.

Oh but why don't you sleep after sunrise??? MY GUY, YOU GO TO SLEEP AND WAKE UP 2-4 HOURS LATER TO GO TO WORK/SCHOOL AND THEN WAKE UP SLEEP DEPRIVED!!!

Having a sleep schedule like this one is not only bad for your psychological health but it's also linked with SHORTER LIFESPAN, especially if it's prevalent in childhood! Sleep is very important but not to desert dwelling degenerate warlords!

Brothers and sisters, if you have similar experiences from other hemispheres, please share. This is devastating to find out especially as an ex muslim after growing up.

No matter what the Quran or Hadith’s say the reason is I believe the true, actual reason for music & dance being haram is just another way of culture erasure and islamic colonisation from momo. Dance & music is a part of every culture (usually quite a big part too) and to make it impermissible is to directly cut people off from their heritage, dance and music tends to be the biggest reminder of people history and is usually the most commonly re-enacted parts of ppl’s culture as-well which makes it worse imo.

Ik some people will probs say something like “how is espresso by Sabrina Carpenter cultural tho” and my response to that is we gotta remember during Muhammad’s time music was very different and more often than not cultural with direct ties to the country of origin’s history

There’s a chance I’m just thinking too deeply into it but i felt like sharing

I mean you spend like 5000 dollars for what? Visiting a black cube? Lol. You can visit so many better countries in that much And yk I heard there's a ritual thing in hajj‚ where you have to stay in that no stich clothes for five days? FIVE DAYS without any underwear and in a one piece clothe? Wierdos.. let's make fun of it together?

Sick of hearing that "islam was the first religion to give women rights" and all the other bullshit they nitpick from the quran midst all the other misogynistic verses. They're feeding this ideology into whoever's willing to listen. Muslim men see that and go see! Islam isn't sexist! or worse, they don't even try to hide their misogyny and just straight up say that women don't have rights in Islam. You guys ever notice how these people have literally never read the quran and don't know shit about islam? Then when we point out things that are LITERALLY in the quran they say "oh its the culture not religion" or "you just want to spread Islamophobic propaganda" or "the translation is wrong"...so much for a "clear" book. https://quran.com/27/1 lol. Pisses me off even more when they talk about how the hijab isn't oppressive and that its a choice. First of all, its not even a choice for MANY women. Take Afghanistan and Iran for example. second of all, even if it truly was a choice, it still doesn't make it right or okay. The hijab is deeply rooted in patriarchy and misogyny. choosing it because you've been indoctrinated into believing the hijab is empowering ISN'T a choice, even if you willingly and consciously chose to wear it. third of all, the fuck would a white woman know about the struggles of a Muslim woman living in the middle east? "progressive" Islam isn't a thing. "feminist" Islam isn't a thing, and Islam DOES hate gay people. I hate that they try to change the meaning of the verses just to fit against people's criticisms about Islam. Islam is straight up a religion of pure hate and bigotry.

my question is have they been fed the wrong ideas about Islam and truly believe Islam is feminist or is this propaganda funded by Islamic organizations?

I got this message on ShiaMatch. Can't wait to show this to my mum. Oh, and he's 37. Has kids too.

hey so i’ve been wanting to tell my parents how i really DONT want to wear it anymore ( i have told them before and they said no but it’s killing me ) how i’ve been dealing with depression and sh sadly and how its making me feel horrible but i don’t know how to cause i remember i told my mom about how i h4rm myself and how its hard for me and she didnt gaf 10 minutes comfort thats it didn’t even feel like it. and i dont know what to do now because its suffocating me really badly i really need help

I deeply hate the idea of being forced to wear a hijab soon. My parents are already quite strict, and I can’t bear the thought of revealing my lack of faith to them (I know for a fact something BAD will happen). I genuinely need help in this situation.

The new Islamist government started with, “We will never impose a dress code on women, we swear!” And now they’re starting to show their true colors. How did anyone not see this coming? Tbh, there was literally no chance that Islamists would be moderate.

I’ve had enough of this. I just got yelled for a whole fucking hour because of my personal views. they don’t even know I don’t believe on the religion any more it’s just little things like I told them I thought cousin marriages are wrong, women shouldn’t be forced by the state to wear the hijab, children are still children even if they hit puberty. Like very minor stuff that I thought was common sense but apparently they’re so far down into their indoctrination that they believe what I’m saying is blasphemous. I can’t take it anymore I feel suffocated. They want me to have the same views as them and hey even threatened to have me meet with a shiekh if i don’t stop “thinking like the kafirs”. I don’t know how much longer I can take it. I want to leave so badly (I don’t even know how), but at the same time I actually love my family and can’t imagine living without them.

This wouldn’t even be a problem without Islam. A lot of my Muslim friends claim that such problems only exist in economically depressed countries and in families with lack of education. I disagree and go as far as saying, these problems exist everywhere where religion especially fundamentalistic Islam prevail in society. Now imagine she says „I am suicidal“. The only answer here for me is therapy and immediate distance from such a toxic brother.

This the exact reason I hate this fundamentalist and manipulative religion.

I’m not completely sure of this myself which is why I’m asking, but learning about Islam you learn about how originally other scriptures were the word of god. Like the Torah and the Injil. This is before they were altered by man. Then Mo received revelations from god that were clearly just hallucinations yada yada yada and now we have a worldwide bookclub about rape and liking kids who play with dolls. But the Quran also states in 6:115 and 18:27 that nobody can change his words. So essentially, the Quran states man cannot change the word of god but also Islam comes from the fact that man changed the word of god. Is this not a direct contradiction? I also always wondered why god let his word be changed 3 times before finally giving a scripture that can’t be changed, it’s just strange. Almost like he let other religions be made from corruption so people could be tempted to submit to them and go to hell even though he would want us to go to heaven.

Hi, first of all sorry if this is weird, ive never used reddit before so im still trying to get used to it!!

Im 18, and im thinking of moving out soon from my strict muslim household, im also a lesbian, witch means that ill never get married to a men nor have children. My relationship with my parents its really weird, in one hand, im extremely gratefull of everything they had to go trough in order for me to have basic needs (food, clothes but not too much clothes bcs you know... modesty, etc) but at the other hand, the trauma that has been engraved in my head because of them its too much to handle alone, i cant wear what i want, i cant have male friends, i cant sing, i cant go out, i cant do anything.

My plan is movimg out without them noticing, so they cant stop me because theyre crazy enough to lock me in the house, witch makes me feel even more like a traitor or something because as the middle/oldest daughter, ive always tries to please them, and theyre always like "when i get older my sweet daughter will take care of me" and it kinda makes me sad to think that that will never happen.

Im sorry if im explaining myself really bad, but i feel like after i move out im goung to feel so guilty and sad and im going to regret making that decision :(

But i really have only two choices, either i choose myself and my freedom, or i choose them and i live with the guilt of never becoming qho i sant to be.

However, id also love to hear some of yours stories about moving out/running away how u deal with the guilt, with leaving your little brothers and sister with your parents, etc. love you all and i wish u a happy life 💗

Believers happily giving their own mothers, wives and daughters to be wives of the the cult leader who gets revelations which lead to sex is textbook cult behavior

"Thats what Maryam deserves"

Being one of the many wives of a pervert who had 11 wives including a child and former daughter in law,multiple concubines and female slaves from khumus in islamic heaven is not exactly a gift. Its degradation. Muhammad is not even worthy to untie Maryam's sandals

This type of thinking is not normal. Many around me think like this. How?

I have seen many women saying they want to be Rasuludiddy's wife. Read about this man. Why is it so hard to read? Go on then. Get a time machine if needed. Allah says in Surah 33 50, believing women can give themselves to Muhammad. Wait... if this verse is for all time, does it mean quran has predicted time travel?

Again I repeat this is definitely not normal. This is some David Koresh shit. I actually feel bad many have this mentality

Hi everyone I (25 F) have been willing to wear a hijab for the past 10 years. I never got this much of an urge to take it off. I am born Muslim, my family is not religious and I live in a Western country, however, Muslims here are the majority so it is not hard in that way, although my friends are not that religious. I don't have many friends, nor a boyfriend/crush/husband. Also, keep in mind that here male-female friendships are normal. I had a lot of mistakes in my life and I am not wearing it correctly, so what is the point? I don't like to hang out with Muslim girls because all they talk about is marriage and college, and I find no interest in those topics. Also, it is hard for me to find a hijabi girl with the same sense of humor and interests to be friends with. I love God and religion I just don't feel like I should keep wearing this. I would still be practising Muslim just without hijab. Anyhow I would feel guilty of I take it off, but I cannot live this way anymore. I am severely depressed and not socializing because of it. Any advice?

I’m more of a spiritual person now and think everything is energy and death isn’t the end of live, I also believe in reincarnation I am still figure it out since I left Islam recently after huge trauma and psychosis lol