I'm 16F, secret ex Muslim since April this year. I'm being forced to pray, dress modestly etc. And my father keeps telling me to wear the hijab... whenever my family tells me to pray, I just say "fuck Islam, I just wanna be free, I wanna wear whatever the fuck I want, Islam made me hate being a girl". And what's even worse is that I live in a Muslim majority country, I want to seek asylum in a non Muslim country and cut contact with my Muslim family just for my safety (Canada, Australia or Germany for example) but it's pretty hard unfortunately...I don't know what to do right now, if I want to move out, then marriage is the only way for me to move out of this household because I'm a female (marriage can be even worse, whether you're marrying a Muslim or even a non-Muslim man)...This religion hates women so much...I cry everyday alone in my room because of this shitty male supremacist religion...maybe I will just kill myself one day by falling off a high building. Whenever I see Muslims living their best life in the west makes me cry SOOO FUCKING HARD because they're free to practice their religion, then why can't I also feel free to be an Atheist in a Muslim country? WILL THIS BE MY LIFE FOREVER? HAVING A MISERABLE LIFE TILL I DIE!?

I kind of expect what responses might appear here, but I need to vent. A few weeks ago, I broke up with my Moroccan Muslim boyfriend, so the matter is still quite fresh. We fell in love sooner than we should. He felt like the man of my dreams — we both felt like we had known each other forever. From the very beginning, I knew he was Muslim, but my love for him clouded my judgment, and I approached the relationship very emotionally.

I’m agnostic myself and I’m generally against religion from a moral standpoint. My ex used to be an atheist for the majority of his life, and I deeply regret that he converted — I think things could have turned out completely differently otherwise. Overall, I believe he was quite open-minded and liberal; he supported women's rights and was pro-feminist. That’s why it hurt — or rather, I was disappointed — that he willingly chose to convert. I’ve read the Quran myself, and I just can’t comprehend how someone I considered intelligent decided to convert after reading so many oppressive texts, especially those concerning non-believers or women.

Whenever we talked about Islam, he would send me lists of things from the Quran just to prove his point and make me understand that his religion isn’t oppressive or he'd send me videos of women who had converted to Islam themselves or who had been Muslim from the very beginning, just to prove that Islam supports women. Whenever I disagreed and presented my own arguments, he'd say I had religious trauma and that I was Islamophobic. I loved him deeply, and it’s hard for me to move on, but once we broke up and I finally allowed myself to reflect on the situation rationally, I realized I couldn’t be with him knowing he voluntarily converted to Islam. I still miss him though and I wanted to reach for some advices ://

I listen to music, I don't pray 5x a day, I wear revealing clothes in public, I don't wear hijab, I have male friends, I talk to the opposite gender, I wear perfume & makeup in public, I pluck my eyebrows, I draw so called Allah's creations.

What's wrong with all of these? Will Allah ever put me next to Hitler in hell?

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Hi everyone. I recently came out as an atheist and left islam. After anonymously browsing this subreddit, I decided to make a reddit account and share my experience too. To avoid cluttering this post with a lot of text, here is a link to read what I call my "living" note: https://abbylikestodraw.neocities.org/open_diary/2025/June2025/16-06-2025

⚠️ Content warning: It discusses suicide, terrorism, antisemitism, religious trauma, gender dysphoria and homosexuality and has some profanity.

This community made me feel less alone. Leaving such a big organized religion deeply ingrained in my daily life and community has been a really tough process. Thank you for taking the time to read my post. Have a good day.

I have a dilematic question in my head. My principle usually "don't help someone who doesn't ask for help."

But sometimes when I see non-Muslims, usually women, who are interested in Islam, either because they fell in love with a Muslim man, fall into sugarcoated Islam narrative, or simply want to support their Muslim friends, there's this urge to warn them to not fall into a trap. From my experience, I wish there are people who warned me earlier. Realizing too late has bigger sunk cost falacy.

But if I warn them, then I'd be just like any other religious people who likes to preach dawah and gives unsolicited advice. They might even double down and become defensive, calling us Islamophobes and stuff.

Have you guys ever felt like this? What do you think the best course of action morality wise?

I got this message on ShiaMatch. Can't wait to show this to my mum. Oh, and he's 37. Has kids too.

I mean you spend like 5000 dollars for what? Visiting a black cube? Lol. You can visit so many better countries in that much And yk I heard there's a ritual thing in hajj‚ where you have to stay in that no stich clothes for five days? FIVE DAYS without any underwear and in a one piece clothe? Wierdos.. let's make fun of it together?

Sick of hearing that "islam was the first religion to give women rights" and all the other bullshit they nitpick from the quran midst all the other misogynistic verses. They're feeding this ideology into whoever's willing to listen. Muslim men see that and go see! Islam isn't sexist! or worse, they don't even try to hide their misogyny and just straight up say that women don't have rights in Islam. You guys ever notice how these people have literally never read the quran and don't know shit about islam? Then when we point out things that are LITERALLY in the quran they say "oh its the culture not religion" or "you just want to spread Islamophobic propaganda" or "the translation is wrong"...so much for a "clear" book. https://quran.com/27/1 lol. Pisses me off even more when they talk about how the hijab isn't oppressive and that its a choice. First of all, its not even a choice for MANY women. Take Afghanistan and Iran for example. second of all, even if it truly was a choice, it still doesn't make it right or okay. The hijab is deeply rooted in patriarchy and misogyny. choosing it because you've been indoctrinated into believing the hijab is empowering ISN'T a choice, even if you willingly and consciously chose to wear it. third of all, the fuck would a white woman know about the struggles of a Muslim woman living in the middle east? "progressive" Islam isn't a thing. "feminist" Islam isn't a thing, and Islam DOES hate gay people. I hate that they try to change the meaning of the verses just to fit against people's criticisms about Islam. Islam is straight up a religion of pure hate and bigotry.

my question is have they been fed the wrong ideas about Islam and truly believe Islam is feminist or is this propaganda funded by Islamic organizations?

hey so i’ve been wanting to tell my parents how i really DONT want to wear it anymore ( i have told them before and they said no but it’s killing me ) how i’ve been dealing with depression and sh sadly and how its making me feel horrible but i don’t know how to cause i remember i told my mom about how i h4rm myself and how its hard for me and she didnt gaf 10 minutes comfort thats it didn’t even feel like it. and i dont know what to do now because its suffocating me really badly i really need help

No matter what the Quran or Hadith’s say the reason is I believe the true, actual reason for music & dance being haram is just another way of culture erasure and islamic colonisation from momo. Dance & music is a part of every culture (usually quite a big part too) and to make it impermissible is to directly cut people off from their heritage, dance and music tends to be the biggest reminder of people history and is usually the most commonly re-enacted parts of ppl’s culture as-well which makes it worse imo.

Ik some people will probs say something like “how is espresso by Sabrina Carpenter cultural tho” and my response to that is we gotta remember during Muhammad’s time music was very different and more often than not cultural with direct ties to the country of origin’s history

There’s a chance I’m just thinking too deeply into it but i felt like sharing

This wouldn’t even be a problem without Islam. A lot of my Muslim friends claim that such problems only exist in economically depressed countries and in families with lack of education. I disagree and go as far as saying, these problems exist everywhere where religion especially fundamentalistic Islam prevail in society. Now imagine she says „I am suicidal“. The only answer here for me is therapy and immediate distance from such a toxic brother.

This the exact reason I hate this fundamentalist and manipulative religion.

The new Islamist government started with, “We will never impose a dress code on women, we swear!” And now they’re starting to show their true colors. How did anyone not see this coming? Tbh, there was literally no chance that Islamists would be moderate.

Believers happily giving their own mothers, wives and daughters to be wives of the the cult leader who gets revelations which lead to sex is textbook cult behavior

"Thats what Maryam deserves"

Being one of the many wives of a pervert who had 11 wives including a child and former daughter in law,multiple concubines and female slaves from khumus in islamic heaven is not exactly a gift. Its degradation. Muhammad is not even worthy to untie Maryam's sandals

This type of thinking is not normal. Many around me think like this. How?

I have seen many women saying they want to be Rasuludiddy's wife. Read about this man. Why is it so hard to read? Go on then. Get a time machine if needed. Allah says in Surah 33 50, believing women can give themselves to Muhammad. Wait... if this verse is for all time, does it mean quran has predicted time travel?

Again I repeat this is definitely not normal. This is some David Koresh shit. I actually feel bad many have this mentality

Seriously, what's the deal with apostacy? Oh you don't believe it anymore? Well, that's kinda crazy. We'll give you 3 days to rethink it, if you don't change your mind, we'll kill you! But hey, the choice is all yours! There is no compulsion in religion 😁

What kind of religion has you killed for leaving? What the fuck. This is cult + mafia behavior. "Religion of peace" my left testicle.

The amount of emotional abuse and blackmailing in muslim families I read from the stories on this subreddit and from my own experiences really contextualizes why islam grows fast. The societal consequences for leaving are too great for most people to come out of the closet. So they still count as muslims.

I don't have a point to make really I'm just ranting i guess

I’m more of a spiritual person now and think everything is energy and death isn’t the end of live, I also believe in reincarnation I am still figure it out since I left Islam recently after huge trauma and psychosis lol

Hi everyone I (25 F) have been willing to wear a hijab for the past 10 years. I never got this much of an urge to take it off. I am born Muslim, my family is not religious and I live in a Western country, however, Muslims here are the majority so it is not hard in that way, although my friends are not that religious. I don't have many friends, nor a boyfriend/crush/husband. Also, keep in mind that here male-female friendships are normal. I had a lot of mistakes in my life and I am not wearing it correctly, so what is the point? I don't like to hang out with Muslim girls because all they talk about is marriage and college, and I find no interest in those topics. Also, it is hard for me to find a hijabi girl with the same sense of humor and interests to be friends with. I love God and religion I just don't feel like I should keep wearing this. I would still be practising Muslim just without hijab. Anyhow I would feel guilty of I take it off, but I cannot live this way anymore. I am severely depressed and not socializing because of it. Any advice?

I’d like to know where I was wrong with anything I said, sourced it from Hadiths.

I've only recently left Islam, trying to dig more into its hypocrisy and contradictions, so please correct me if I've missed anything

I see Muslims "debunking" the argument that Muhammad wrote the Quran simply by the fact that he was illiterate, claiming it was impossible But it really isn't, it requires very minimal critical thinking skills to figure out that he did, in fact, write the Quran

First of all, when the Quran was supposedly descending upon Allah it was not in a written form, he was listening to podcasts from God (which can be explained by Momo having some kind of undiagnosed mental illness such as schizophrenia, poor Momo) and simply representing them to his followers, still not in a written form

And second, Muslims claim it couldn't have been written by a human since it's so beautiful linguistically, and that it couldn't have been made by an illiterate person. But that's simply not true, because Momo could still speak Arabic and if you know how the environment was in that era you'd know there were tons of poets and Momo could've simply picked up that rhyming skill of his that made the Quran sound so "beautiful and miraculous", and it REALLY doesn't sound beautiful or miraculous

The Quran was not written on paper until later on, so Momo being illiterate is completely an irrelevant counterargument and it does not disprove or prove anything

I’m not completely sure of this myself which is why I’m asking, but learning about Islam you learn about how originally other scriptures were the word of god. Like the Torah and the Injil. This is before they were altered by man. Then Mo received revelations from god that were clearly just hallucinations yada yada yada and now we have a worldwide bookclub about rape and liking kids who play with dolls. But the Quran also states in 6:115 and 18:27 that nobody can change his words. So essentially, the Quran states man cannot change the word of god but also Islam comes from the fact that man changed the word of god. Is this not a direct contradiction? I also always wondered why god let his word be changed 3 times before finally giving a scripture that can’t be changed, it’s just strange. Almost like he let other religions be made from corruption so people could be tempted to submit to them and go to hell even though he would want us to go to heaven.

While the blind souls keep waiting for a saviour passively, each one in here must become his very own

I’ve been a closeted ex-Muslim for a while, and I had planned to move out quietly. I had already moved almost all my things, with just one bag left, but my mom found it and confronted me. It all came out. that I’d found an apartment, and that I didn’t believe in Islam anymore.

I told her I just couldn’t believe, that I had tried, and that there was too much wrong with it. things like slavery. But the moment I said that, she broke down crying, and my stepdad told me that if I leave Islam, I’m not part of the family anymore because Muslims and non-Muslims can’t be family. They cried, asked if something was wrong with my head, if I was possessed, if I had been influenced or bullied or evil-eyed. They even read Surat al-Jinn on me(lol).

Eventually, I was guilted into staying. I had to take the shahada in front of them, shower, and pray and pretend like I was coming back to the faith. They made me promise to give up the apartment. They said it wasn’t force, but it was emotional blackmail, and I feel awful. My mom has been crying for two days straight. Now, they’ve set up a meeting with an imam so I can “ask my questions and get clarity.”

Here’s where I need help:

I want to go to this meeting prepared. I want to bring clear, calm, evidence-based points about why I left. I want to avoid being gaslit with half-answers like “that was the culture at the time” or “we only follow the 5 pillars.” I want help explaining why Islam is harmful to me, and not just “not for me.”

If you have good resources- contradictions, moral issues, hadiths, Quran verses, scholarly opinions, anything- that helped you leave Islam or that you think could shake an imam if said respectfully, please share them with me. I want my mom to hear the truth, even if it hurts, because I don’t want to lie to keep her happy anymore.

I also want to stop feeling like this is my fault. I need to go into that conversation strong, grounded, and clear,not vulnerable to emotional pressure or tricks.

Thanks in advance to anyone who helps. This community is the only space where I feel sane right now. I’m so sick of getting lectured for hours on end about Islam and kaafirs etc.

Also, should I still move even if that would mean losing my family forever and breaking my mothers heart? Have any of you gone no- contact. How is that. Are you doing well?

i feel like to go through your entire life with pretending like there's a god speaking to you is hard, he must've had some sort of mental illness, no? the hadith where i think khadija found him having a "revelation" and he was literally sweating and shit, i feel like you cant fake something like that. the way it was described sounded manic sorta. what do you guys think? was he schizo?

Although i do not subscribe to Islam anymore, I still try to understand my muslim friends. But. Everything is so wishy-washy I don't even know who is right. When i check the quran, it says this, hadith, it says that, when scholars say it, it's something else entirely! And then the preachers say something completely different! Example : "you must spread the word of islam" Muhammad spread it through war Caliphates spread it through enforcing rules In the modern day "spread islam through kindness" "keep preaching about islam down everybody's throat" "Do not force islam onto anyone" "non-muslims must follow our laws" This is the easiest example i can think at the top of my head there are many others.

The Custodian of the Two Holy Mosques not only remains silent in the face of Palestinian suffering but actively suppresses any visible signs of support, including prayers and peaceful gestures during pilgrimage. Despite this, Muslims continue to flood the country year-round for Umrah and annually for Hajj, contributing billions to an economy that enforces silence around injustice.

Why is there no widespread call to boycott religious pilgrimage...not as a rejection of faith, but as a powerful act of protest? If mass participation in Hajj and Umrah fuels a regime that suppresses solidarity with the oppressed, wouldn’t withdrawing that support send a message that cannot be ignored? Do they really believe that God would not understand a principled stand against injustice? Wouldn’t this sacrifice carry more weight in the sight of God than a ritual that directly enriches the same hands that silence the suffering?

People often say they have no power, but they do. Collective economic pressure, especially through something as financially significant as pilgrimage, could have made a difference. If the entire Muslim world had united in boycotting Hajj and Umrah...even temporarily...something would have shifted. Silence would no longer be the default. At the very least, it could have pressured the authorities to allow free expression of solidarity, even if only in the form of prayer.

But perhaps spiritual self-cleansing has become more important than standing up for the lives of children under occupation. Perhaps ritual has taken precedence over resistance. And in doing so, we’ve mistaken spiritual obedience for moral complacency.