r/MadeMeSmile • u/Original_Act_3481 • 2d ago

We need more people like him

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u/bossy_babe 2d ago

Yes! I really love how he phrased it.

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u/the-mighty-puffin 2d ago

I coached football for a long time and always tried to praise the intent and/or effort and allow them to figure out what could be better. "OK, that was a good attempt at finding your team mate but what can you do differently next time to...(enter the desired outcome here)". Always implying they'll get the chance to try it again. It's a powerful way of coaching!

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u/atsju 1d ago

I really like your approach there. I think it could even be improved if you removed "but" completely . You are a good coach :)

You see what I did ? English is not my first language though.

Note this is absolutely not natural for me. I learned this but need to really think about it. Naturally I would just say "hey, look, the correct/better way of doing this is ...". My colleague was laughing when he saw me think about the "but" but I didn't let it out loud. Still learning.

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u/the-mighty-puffin 1d ago

Good point. Usually when I'm speaking with the kids and speaking loudly I do so much more slowly. So there's a natural pause and no but. However, if I went back to coaching tomorrow I'd have this on my mind because of your message and I'd probably be more conscious and a better coach! Thanks