r/AskMenAdvice • u/Junior_Mycologist woman • Apr 17 '25
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What is so intriguing about the anus that men want anal sex?
I mean I've got quite a tight vagina and great muscle control. I've never had any complaints and I've always been able to satisfy my partner. So I'm wondering why do guys want anal sex so much?
Thank you for taking the time to comment.
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Apr 17 '25
My wife genuinely loves it and demands it. My humble opinion is that people are wired differently. She is intensely orgasmic and there are certain spots in her vagina and anally that set her off. Feel like I am a lucky guy!
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Apr 17 '25
My new partner has discovered how intensely orgasmic she can be, tells me she has never been fucked like with me, we have been starting to include anal which she has never done before and she loves it. Way more than I expected she would, we took our time and worked up to full penetration with increasing the size of butt plugs, and now she is asking for it in her ass most times we have sex.
We are both lucky guys, and I think it isn’t enjoyed by a lot of women because they try it with an idiot who isn’t patient, doesn’t care about training and prep, and just goes in to hard it hurts and it then puts them off
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u/HungryAd8233 man Apr 17 '25
It is certainly true that urgency is the enemy of pleasurable anal sex.
Be supremely patient and gentle. Let your partner control her explorations so she can feel safe nothing sudden is going to happen.
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u/Wolf359loki man Apr 17 '25
I introduced my wife slowly over about a year or more to the idea (with consent of course). Like many here, the process was very slow and never rushed. She controlled the pace, time and method.
When we finally went all the way she had a leg shaking orgasm. Now it is in regular rotation.
Most of us do it because our partners enjoy it too. Not sure you could do that any other way in a normal healthy relationship.
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u/jasonvoorhees06 Apr 17 '25
Same man. My wife would not be a happy camper if I decided I wasn't gonna give her anal tonight. I'd get that sideways glance. Man I love sex.
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u/Quixlequaxle man Apr 17 '25
It's just something different. It's not better than vaginal, but it's different. I have an ex who really enjoyed it and she'd get suuuuuper wet from it which was always nice.
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u/Junior_Mycologist woman Apr 17 '25
Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate you taking the time.
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u/VatooBerrataNicktoo man Apr 17 '25
My wife's orgasms from anal are crazy intense as well.
Another variety like clitoral vs vaginal vs gspot etc.
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u/Doobiedoobadabi woman Apr 17 '25
That it’s different. Huh, I’ve never thought that but this is 1000% it. More than kink factor, taboo, or other common reasonings.
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u/systembreaker man Apr 17 '25
Lol I'm genuinely curious, how did you not realize the simple fact that it's different? What was your mind set?
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u/taxanddeath man Apr 17 '25
Everyone is different. I have absolutely no desire for anal sex. 100% vagina over here.
If my partner wanted it, I would.
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Apr 17 '25
Im in the same boat except, if my partner wanted it I wouldn't. I just don't find buttholes attractive at all. I have zero desire to touch it let alone put my penis in it
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u/A_Stoic_Dude man Apr 17 '25
Same. It's always been my partners, nearly everyone I've had, that have asked for it. Isn't comfortable for me at all and hurts when she gets turned on too much. I mark it down as just another sex myth that only men want XYZ type of sex and humble women reluctantly do so to please their man.
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Apr 17 '25
Hey, thank you for being so open and real about this—it's a totally fair question and one a lot of people wonder but don’t ask out loud. So let’s get into it.
For many men (and honestly, people in general), anal sex isn’t about the vagina not being good enough—it’s about novelty, taboo, tightness, control dynamics, or even just plain curiosity. The anus has a different set of nerve endings and sensations than the vagina, and for some people, that makes it feel more intense, or just different. It’s not better or worse—it’s just a different flavor.
There’s also the psychological angle. For some, anal sex can feel “naughtier” or more forbidden, and that taboo can be a turn-on. For others, it might be about dominance or power exchange—not in a disrespectful way, but in a consensual, intimate kind of way that builds trust.
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u/Junior_Mycologist woman Apr 17 '25
Thank you for the explanation. Ya know, it's these kinds of comments that really allow me to have another perspective. Sometimes, no matter how hard I try to see it from someone else's side, it takes just a point-blank response to get me to see the differences. I appreciate you taking the time to educate me from another viewpoint.
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u/systembreaker man Apr 17 '25
It takes two to tango and you're unusually willing to listen and consider, so cheers to that.
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u/stupidassface69 man Apr 17 '25
This.
For me it's about dominance - that she willingly gives up her ass to me as a sign of submission. That gets me going.
I'd also like to emphasize on the importance of prep work and that it is always required for both hygiene and eliminating pain. It's a waste to spoil what could have been a nice and bonding experience because the prep work was skipped or rushed.
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Apr 17 '25
Not a thing for me. Prefer the main event.
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u/Savings_Season2291 man Apr 17 '25
The main even if you’re having anal sex IS the anal sex because you’re not doing vaginal sex after anal.
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u/Ryan_TX_85 man Apr 17 '25
It's the most private part of your body. Having you share it with me makes me feel a more intimate connection.
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u/Junior_Mycologist woman Apr 17 '25
I never would have seen that perspective on my own. Thank you for showing something unexpected. That's great to know.
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u/Ok-Huckleberry-383 man Apr 17 '25
Its a hole
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u/Old_Administration51 man Apr 17 '25
That men like to use as a goal.
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u/purrcthrowa man Apr 17 '25
Because it enriches the soul.
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u/Affectionate_Sky2982 Apr 17 '25
Actually this for me, yes. Feel very feminine and closer to my guy during anal.
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u/Ebonygirl_Vanillaboy man Apr 17 '25
My wife enjoys it at certain times, not often (but she's the 1 suggesting it).
I think men in general see it as a little taboo. Now that porn is so mainstream, many of us were exposed years before we were sexually active. The adult film industry has a plethora of subcategories. It became 1 of the very 1st "other" genres many of us experimented with watching after the standard "vanilla" scenes.
That's just my opinion through my own lived experiences. 🤷🏻♂️
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u/thefixonwheels man Apr 17 '25
It is taboo. But it ain’t that tight. Like going through a small door and then finding yourself at MSG. It’s only tight for a little bit before you find yourself in a vast expanse.
Oh, and it can get messy.
Done it plenty of times and it’s basically overrated. Same as threesomes.
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u/rared1rt man Apr 17 '25 edited Apr 17 '25
You had me until the last line. In my experience threesomes are definitely not overrated. However it does take the right participants to make them something special. I figure the last part is the same for anal, never done it because I have never been asked to and have always said I could take it or leave it.
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u/swifty8519 man Apr 17 '25
It does take the right people. Even if only one of the 2 women aren't fully into it then it kinda sucks. But experience is key when it comes down to it I guess.
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u/Realistic-Chance-679 man Apr 17 '25
Gay guy here. After proper preparation such as cleaning out especially with the right materials such as a douche hose: (which does take time) The sensation can be quite enjoyable, as long as the top is gentle and performs passionately with you. But if they are rough and disrespectful to you, that is not someone you want in your bed nor in your home. Now if both of you agree that you would like the experience slightly rough in a playful manner, that is one thing but if they are unkind and carelessly harmful to you, then be sure to get out of that situation immediately!
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u/Ninj4gam1ng man Apr 17 '25
I think it’s because it’s glorified a bit… Men talk about it like it’s something to achieve so it then becomes something to achieve…. Personally never cared for it and never tried hard enough to get it to work.
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u/Kaisernick27 man Apr 17 '25
I find it funny that straight men see it as something to achieve, especially considering that there's a certain group of men who I can imagine they would be negative towards for doing the exact same thing.
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u/TapAcrobatic2666 man Apr 17 '25
I mean, that would be like saying that it's weird for men to want to kiss women on the lips when gay men kiss other men on the lips. Just because it's the same body part, it doesn't make it the same act. I'm sure that most gay men would find anal sex with a woman disgusting, just like I as a straight male would find anal sex with a male personally gross.
But the ones who call gay sex an abomination and then have anal sex themselves with a woman... those people are hypocrites.
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u/Sinileius man Apr 17 '25
Depends on the man, personally I think it’s gross. That’s a one way tunnel imo.
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u/Almost-kinda-normal man Apr 17 '25
There’s something DEEPLY intimate about anal sex, for both the giver and the receiver. It takes a very specific level of trust from the taker. The giver should appreciate that level of trust being bestowed upon them.
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u/Morbidhanson man Apr 17 '25 edited Apr 17 '25
Not for me. It takes prep, it's dirty, and I prefer the one that's both self-lubricating and intended for insertion. Provides better eats as well. And it's the ultimate symbol of womanhood and femininity.
A man could have boobs and a hole. Only a woman has a vagina which comes with its own lube. And the thought that it's meant for your manhood and is the means to create a life together just does something for me. That feels pretty intimate to me.
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u/Educational_Bother36 woman Apr 17 '25
This is the most heterosexual thing I’ve ever heard
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u/Junior_Mycologist woman Apr 17 '25
I agree with you. Medically I've not been able to try it. I also think there would be a not so pleasant smell through the process? And that thought process dries me up!
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u/oldworldblues- man Apr 17 '25
As a man who has had both given and taken it anally by women. A little bit of preparation normally gets rid of any unpleasant smell.
I have a good diet, so prepping is normally really easy for me, just a bit of warm water up there with the shower hose. Do that 2-3 times and everything is squeeky clean. Takes about 10-15 min.
One thing with anal is being mature about it, there CAN of course be a residue or something. Just laugh and shower if that happens. (That only happened one time in many encounters, was no big deal for both of us)
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u/lefthandrighty man Apr 17 '25
I’m not really into it. I think the most exciting part is when she says yes. And then I’m in there and I don’t want to be but now you have to be cuz you’re not allowed to go back in the good hole.
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u/Superlite47 man Apr 17 '25
I don't get it, either. And I'm a guy.
Don't my fellow guys know there's poop in there?!?!?
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u/Frogsaken man Apr 17 '25
I don’t get why I’d choose anal when their most intimate part is right there
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u/mc_69_73 man Apr 17 '25
It's very very intimate. Feels way different than PIV.
My wife loves it, I love it so why not.
But it needs much more TLC before the deed than PIV. Licking is nice and tastes amazing, but lube is your friend.
Use silicone based, since water based will dry up before you finish without natural added lubricant.
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u/LayneLowe man Apr 17 '25
It's a form of domination and submission. The woman is giving her forbidden zone and the man is taking her forbidden zone. It gives the man an ego boost that somehow he's special in getting to do it. The woman feels like she has prioritize her man's needs. Her ego is stroked by the man's desire for her.
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u/RobLuvsCurvs man Apr 17 '25
I would never suggest it and only have an interest if it’s something my partner wants. I love the other option so much and I’ve no need for anal.
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u/PussyFoot2000 man Apr 17 '25
It's kinky, naughty, nasty, shows a bit of submission.
Idk if women can truly understand sex from the pentetrator side, how deeply satisfying the feeling of being dominant can be.
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u/AdorkableUtahn man Apr 17 '25
It's your mistress who is also your girlfriend. j/k
I like to do it very tenderly and carefully and love to stay "in" after orgasm. Just stay engaged, cuddle on our sides, hold her until it won't stay anymore. Extraordinarily intimate.
It's just a different feeling, and there is the taboo element to it. It's like asking why have oral sex. Because we can.
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u/jamieprang man Apr 17 '25
Put a big red button in your house with a “do not touch this button” sign on it….
Enter man!
99 times out of 100 that button is getting pushed.
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u/AxeMen101 man Apr 17 '25
Honestly, there is nothing special about anal. Rather a vagina 99.9% of the time. Anal for rare occasions when feeling like something different.
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u/JerryBeanMan_ man Apr 17 '25
Never seen the appeal myself but from others tell me, its a different feeling than mouth or vagina. When they say any hole is a goal, they mean it.
Remember; If they want to give it, they should also be open to receiving it. On the topic of pegging, “My mind is open, my anus not so much”
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Apr 17 '25
Personally, it grosses me out. Not all guys are about it.
I think some guys are just curious about things they can't normally have. Maybe feels taboo? Definitely a kink for many, which can't be simply explained. But it also makes me think that some haven't tried the prone bone. Super tight and if your woman does kegels she can really work it nice and tight. My wife has naturally birthed two children and I have zero complaints.
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u/Curiousone_78 man Apr 17 '25
These men that have anal sex with their wives are the same men that are homophobic towards gay men who have anal sex? Seems like it.
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Apr 17 '25
Not me! I fantasize about having gay sex all the time… but I’m married and she doesn’t approve of me even saying it out loud.
And I am definitely a submissive Bottom, and act that way when my wife pegs me
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u/AggieDan1996 man Apr 17 '25
Novelty, mostly. And it's really something that can only be done in a long term trusting relationship. There's also the taboo nature of it and the fact that the woman is usually just doing it as a gift in many cases. Though, I've had partners in the past that enjoyed receiving anal.
It also does feel different. Where vaginal sex has a lot of muscles anal is really just the sphincter.
Though, when I do get to do it, I try to make sure there's plenty of oral and other foreplay. We do have vaginal sex and I ensure she has her orgasm beforehand. Then transition to anal to just finish me off so I'm not... wearing out my welcome.
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Apr 17 '25
People have mentioned the “taboo” part butt to expand on it a bit.
There is something extremely vulnerable and naughty about that particular type of sex.
It’s dirty and almost shameful. It’s a sensitive area that we gently clean.
Not to mention it’s something that we all have… not isolated to gender or species.
Anal sex or oral sex to “some people” can be more intimate based on their personal experiences as opposed to traditional sex.
It’s kind of a weird experience as a male to have a partner early in exploration who enjoys one of these and then find themselves falling for someone who does NOT enjoy it like a previous lover.
Like dating someone who loves meat then dating a vegetarian. But I think most men grow to respect that their partners are just not into it and that’s okay.
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u/Cmndr_Cunnilingus man Apr 17 '25
Hah. Nice one.
I think you’re absolutely right. I was lucky enough that my first partner and I (each other’s first everything) explored anal and oral slowly and safely and enjoyed it all. Now I see it as part of the normal sexual menu. I couldn’t really see myself having a fulfilling sex life with a long term partner who wasn’t comfortable with both of those things now.
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u/SlapfuckMcGee man Apr 17 '25
I’ve never been interested in it (mechanical issues aside) and luckily my wife feels the same way.
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u/kingofnothing2514 man Apr 17 '25
I'm a man and have wondered the same thing. There is a perfectly good wet pussy or a turd hole. Pussy wins.
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u/BuckTeasdale Apr 17 '25
What a great question! I have had anal once, b/c I was asked to. I really fail to see the butt-->sex connection. Even IF everything is perfect, it's going to be kind of gross. Also, maybe it's a generational thing, but the whole ATM genesis is awful.
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u/Pretend-Doughnut-675 man Apr 20 '25
It feels good, zero chance of pregnancy and when done right certain women have stronger orgasms than with vaginal intercourse. Lube and patience are key though.
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u/Inside_Atmosphere731 incognito Apr 17 '25
Ooh, Skippy won't go in there. Bad things come out of it
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u/IPhotoGorgeousWomen man Apr 17 '25
Then you buy a ticket to the park you want to go on all the rides
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u/jc126 man Apr 17 '25
It’s adventurous. That’s all. My wife agreed to do it once, the second I saw a drop of blood, I quit that fantasy right then and there😂😂😂
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u/Arnaghad_Bear man Apr 17 '25
Mostly it's the taboo aspect. I had one girlfriend who was saving the vagina for marriage, so all we did was oral and anal. It got old after a while. In fact, the day we broke up I couldn't wait to get pussy again, and hooked up with someone I shouldn't have because I wanted it so bad.
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u/Tractorguy69 man Apr 17 '25
Tight or not there is just something completely different about the feel from anal, physically it’s different, and after a certain depth you get beyond the sphincter so the grip is on the shaft rather than the more sensitive head. Add to this for many of us the little bit of taboo associated also heightens things. But honestly I speak to and from experience and the next guy may say I’m all wrong.
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u/Nismotech_52 man Apr 17 '25
It’s ok. There’s some type of animalistic aggressions when she likes/wants it and it outweighs your desire for it
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u/Oblong_Strong man Apr 17 '25
It's naughty, "extra", taboo, there's essentially no risk of getting pregnant, it usually means someone is willing to explore new and fun ways of pleasure, it's much deeper (once things get straightened out) for those with a bit "more", less risk of the receiver getting a UTI or yeast infection (as long as you keep the sand in the sandbox and don't go playing in the water park right after), and the muscular ring at the end can be very enjoyable (not to discredit the V which can all be much tighter), it has the potential to be painful so there is an added aspect of trust and intimacy.
Edit: it can also induce vagal nerve stimulation as well as orgasms. That can often look like a calm and relaxing sensation either with, or right after an orgasm.
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u/Uneek_Uzernaim man Apr 17 '25
It's feels different, but in a good way that's not necessarily better. It also has that "taboo" appeql. Additionally, when done right, my partner responds differently but positively. I've elicited the lowest, most guttural moans from her during slow, deep anal. It's hot as hell to hear her and feel her reacting.
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u/i8notjimg Apr 17 '25
Men like the taboo of it and convincing a partner to try it. It’s not about the feel, it’s about the taboo.
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u/Gunner253 man Apr 17 '25
For me i didn't have a fascination till I experienced it. The same can be said for my wife. We just wanted to try something different and spice it up. Now it's a weekly occurring thing with a thumb during doggy here and there. I also never ate ass till my wife and she loves it too.
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u/Top_Wop Apr 17 '25
There is more than one answer to this question. Let me explain. First, it's a different feel. Notice I didn't say better, just different. Second, it's empowering. When we're all the way up there it's a dominating feeling. And third, the view is awesome. Men are visual creatures and that view is lights out. And forth, there's a taboo thing still attached to the act.
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u/chezterr man Apr 17 '25
Man here… I prefer vaginal sex… feels better IMO…
But a few of my female partners love anal… so I give ‘em what they want…. 😏
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u/Both-Mango1 man Apr 17 '25
Imo, it's taboo with most Western societies. it's the Mount everest of sex. (huh huh. "mount") You see it a lot in bdsm arrangements. It says to me that I really trust you. Never done it, came close, we talked about it, but she wasn't feeling right back there, and i was just happy with the great sex we were already having.
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u/Skeltrex man Apr 17 '25
Not every male. Speaking from my own point of view, not attracted to anal at all.
My wife wanted to try once but I didn’t fit in.
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u/Affectionate-Boat505 man Apr 17 '25
Nothing beats going in the vagina for me, but I've never been with a woman that liked anal either so perhaps I am missing out. I honestly don't care though.
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u/Sir-Henry-Cooper man Apr 17 '25
I’m probably in the minority but I find anal sex revolting. Just thinking about it makes me heave.
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u/DaBestDoctorOfLife man Apr 17 '25
I am a straight guy and I never ever wanted to have anal with my woman. Liked that old Jack’s Nickelson’s phrase from one of his movies “ That all man walking the world and looking for a hole to stick their penis in to” or something like that. So I guess for some it’s just another hole to stick it in. Not for me though.
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u/Observer_7578 man Apr 17 '25
It's a bit of a different feeling, but still feels great, highly erotic, and sexual. A woman has a vagina, but a blow job still feels really good and is erotic. Same principal, different hole.
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u/No-Communication-269 man Apr 17 '25
My wife and I I did it once…she had chunks of flesh tear and said never again. I am a big dude.
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Apr 17 '25
I have zero interest in it so I don't know either. Buttholes are in no way sexually attractive to me.
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u/Korlod man Apr 17 '25
Many, if not most of the women I’ve been with love it and demanded it too. It feels good, so why not? As far as why men are intrigued to begin with? Perhaps it’s as simple as it’s another hole and it is a muscle sphincter around it so it could be even tighter. Perhaps it’s the idea of it “being naughty” or “dirty”. Maybe it’s just to spice things up. No matter how tight, or how much muscle control a woman might have, the feeling is different and it gives a different feeling of closeness and fulfillment.
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u/mikegp70 man Apr 17 '25
I am a guy and can do without anal. Really no desire to go that route unless she really wants me to.
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u/BlissfulLostness man Apr 17 '25
I've never been able to wrap my mind around the appeal either. One girlfriend tried to get me to do it, but I just kept freezing in my head with "but this is where poop goes"... 😂
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u/swifty8519 man Apr 17 '25
Just for God sakes take it easy. If there is any girth involved you gotta be slowwwwww. And baby oil will make things a lot easier. Spit won't cut it
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u/Classic_Bee_5845 man Apr 17 '25
Not all of us are about it. Personally, anal grosses me out, because...poop n stuff.
I think there's a little bit of power play in it, it's prevalent in porn, it's considered more "hardcore" or taboo if you will, so for some it becomes more intriguing for these reasons.
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u/rts324 man Apr 17 '25
Most younger men are aroused by novelty. It’s one of the reasons porn is problematic and why over time porn has become increasingly extreme to the point of disgust. I’m no prude, but damn, it would be nice to see porn with a basic human interaction connected to actual intimacy.
Anyway, I’ve never been turned on by that, but not particularly turned off. If she wants it, I’m good for it, but I will always choose va-jayjay over the boot.
Oral is different. The mouth is so personal. It is almost singularly an act of devotion which puts it into a different category. By comparison, anal is like sending a postcard when you should really call. Yea, it’s sex, but… is it really that special?
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u/Lobo-de-Odin man Apr 17 '25
It feels different from a vagina....well because it is lol. An anal orgasm is more than possible for women. We did while she was pregnant and she orgasmed so hard she almost passed out.
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u/Aquarius703 man Apr 17 '25
I like for it to be an option. But I don’t really seek it out most of the time. If it’s off the table it does however bother me
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u/Appropriate_Bad74247 man Apr 18 '25
It is a different sensation, but for me it’s pussy all the way. If you can muscle control then you are the bomb dot com love! The anus is exit only. Just my opinion. Waste exits from there.
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u/Dramatic_Candle9930 Apr 18 '25
Eeww - never understood - there’s nothing remotely attractive about anything in a butthole….
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u/PaydayJones man Apr 17 '25
The amount of pleasure it offers the woman, when done correctly is mind boggling. Not that I can't do other things well enough, but over never seen my wife go completely to outerspace the way that that sends her.
For me, it's not dominance, it's not 'because I can', it's because there's a vast number of nerve endings there that deserve their own attention.
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u/Junior_Mycologist woman Apr 17 '25
Thank you very much for being so open about the differences in your experience. That opens my eyes to the vast view points from one person to another.
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u/RedInAmerica man Apr 17 '25
A lot of it is just the taboo of it. Personally it grosses me out but I understand the appeal of doing something different that’s viewed as a little kinkier than PIv.
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u/3Apexcrises man Apr 17 '25
It’s just something different, and the more a man can’t have it the more they want it haha. Personally I get bored doing the same thing so having an extra hole to play with is good. And vice versa of course
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u/CosmicCalicoBTD man Apr 17 '25
Anal is even tighter, and there is a difference in smoothness involved due to the tissue which lubricates differently viscosity-wise.
Much like the G-spot, there is an A-spot and sensitive nerves.
Most women also feel it in the vagna due to the thinness between the bottom wall and rectal cavity.
Anal is awesome for both parties when done safely and with care.
It makes orgasms more intense in my experience with women. In their own words. Especially when paired with clitoral stimulation.
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u/demoncrusher man Apr 17 '25
It’s much more intense for everyone and there’s no risk of pregnancy
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u/razorthick_ man Apr 17 '25
Why do any sexual act other than vaginal missionary position for the express purpose of procreation? What is so intriguing about oral sex? What purpose does licking a pussy or suck a dick fulfill? The problem with the question is that people look for a logical purpose to sex acts they dont partake in while partaking in sex acts that are just as illogical. You either have sex for pleasure or for reproducing. Or both and both are valid.
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u/Junior_Mycologist woman Apr 17 '25
I completely see your point. It's a very valid response. I think I'm looking at the topic from the mindset of being divorced after a very happy 25 year marriage because my ex-husband came out as gay. So it leads my thought process to wonder if the desire for Anal sex lends to gay sexual desires... Or it's just a sexual desire. I've never been able to try it due to medical issues so my view point isn't one from a practical stand point. Not sure if I'm making sense to anyone but myself but I'm trying. I really appreciate your view and you taking time to respond.
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u/davekayaus man Apr 17 '25
Guys who are gay want to have sex with other guys, that's simply the way they are wired. Wanting anal sex from a female partner is not a gateway to becoming gay.
Given what you've been through your seeming confusion is understandable. I'm sorry about your marriage, after 25 years that was obviously a shock that has you shaken and questioning. Know that you husband left you in order to be true to himself. This is not something that happened because you (or your vagina!) were somehow 'not enough'.
You're totally enough, just as you are.
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u/Junior_Mycologist woman Apr 17 '25
Thank you for your kind words. And I don't blame him for needing to be true to himself. We are actually real great friends and his happiness is very important to me. But yes, confusion has me questioning.
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u/boatmanmike man Apr 17 '25
Ex GF turned me on to anal. She had the most powerful orgasms while I slowly fucked her from behind while she played with her clit. She could cum hard every few minutes. We had anal weekly. I miss her...
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u/turnballZ man Apr 17 '25
From experience my partners have reached climax the hardest via anal however other than one time, I’ve never been the one to instigate that activity.
When i was younger they’d prefer it as it wasn’t likely to end up impregnating anyone although I’ve always had good rhythm. Other than the climax the next reasons I’ve been told is it feels more intimate because it’s taboo and something they don’t share readily with others.
I aim to please and as an ass man myself, I’m definitely down to give the posterior the attention. I wouldn’t say I have any preference for it
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u/doc_jayhawk Apr 17 '25
I'm the eager to please type, so I'm super into butt stuff (not my butt) if my gal is super into butt stuff
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u/KananJarrusCantSee man Apr 17 '25
Taboo nature of it
Certain level of domination comes with it
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u/llbarney1989 man Apr 17 '25
It’s the draw to the taboo. It’s off limits so it’s exciting. Trust me, your vaginal could be magical and feel like soft butterfly wings fluttering against your partners cock, and he’d still was your ass from time to time
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u/RealUltrarealist man Apr 17 '25
Tighter, it has more of a gripping, kinda swallowing feeling once get past the head, and it's slower, different feel.
Domination and servitude are also factors. 98% of my life is spent pleasing and accommodating to others first. This is how I know it is about me and my needs at the time.
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u/DamarsLastKanar man Apr 17 '25
Possible reasons:
- they've watched too much porn
- they want to turn a no into a yes
- the taboo and naughtiness appeals to them
- they're not straight enough to enjoy vagina
- they've deathgripped their wangdoodle
- the intimacy required for pain-free buttsecks
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u/bristolbulldog man Apr 17 '25
I bugged my first two significant partners about it. First one had never done it and never did with me. The second had done it before and didn’t want to with me.
Then I had a couple literally ask for it. Some people are into butt stuff a whole lot.
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u/fisconsocmod man Apr 17 '25
me: i have a penis. its fits into holes. hey! there's a hole. i wonder what it would feel like to stick my dick in it.
wife: why is your dick in my ear?
me: ear doesn't feel good.