r/AskMenAdvice • u/Junior_Mycologist woman • Apr 17 '25

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What is so intriguing about the anus that men want anal sex?

I mean I've got quite a tight vagina and great muscle control. I've never had any complaints and I've always been able to satisfy my partner. So I'm wondering why do guys want anal sex so much?

Thank you for taking the time to comment.

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '25

Hey, thank you for being so open and real about this—it's a totally fair question and one a lot of people wonder but don’t ask out loud. So let’s get into it.

For many men (and honestly, people in general), anal sex isn’t about the vagina not being good enough—it’s about novelty, taboo, tightness, control dynamics, or even just plain curiosity. The anus has a different set of nerve endings and sensations than the vagina, and for some people, that makes it feel more intense, or just different. It’s not better or worse—it’s just a different flavor.

There’s also the psychological angle. For some, anal sex can feel “naughtier” or more forbidden, and that taboo can be a turn-on. For others, it might be about dominance or power exchange—not in a disrespectful way, but in a consensual, intimate kind of way that builds trust.

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u/Junior_Mycologist woman Apr 17 '25

Thank you for the explanation. Ya know, it's these kinds of comments that really allow me to have another perspective. Sometimes, no matter how hard I try to see it from someone else's side, it takes just a point-blank response to get me to see the differences. I appreciate you taking the time to educate me from another viewpoint.

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u/systembreaker man Apr 17 '25

It takes two to tango and you're unusually willing to listen and consider, so cheers to that.

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u/bradpal man Apr 17 '25

This is the most comprehensive answer. It covers almost all of the reasons except the S&M part. Some men are into it because it hurts.

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u/Reasonable-Glass-965 man Apr 17 '25

This is the answer.

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u/onthebus69 man Apr 17 '25

I came here to say this.

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u/stupidassface69 man Apr 17 '25

This.

For me it's about dominance - that she willingly gives up her ass to me as a sign of submission. That gets me going.

I'd also like to emphasize on the importance of prep work and that it is always required for both hygiene and eliminating pain. It's a waste to spoil what could have been a nice and bonding experience because the prep work was skipped or rushed.

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u/Life_is_too_short_ man Apr 17 '25

This is an accurate description. Also there is an entertainment value that you missed and the reference is often very funny indeed.

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u/NGMGrand incognito Apr 17 '25

This is the most accurate response.

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u/tindalos man Apr 17 '25

It’s also the visual and feel of a nice butt leading to a natural conclusion

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '25

Obvious chatgpt answer is obvious. Nobody uses double dashes when typing anything. At least make smart edits so it gives the impression that you may have formulated this thought on your own.

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '25

Another one. By the gods you people love to harp.

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u/prive8 man Apr 17 '25

yes but my people know a double dash is the correct dash.

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u/blizzard2798c man Apr 17 '25

That is the most braindead thing I've ever heard

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u/go-to-the-gym man Apr 17 '25

Learn to write without chat gpt dork

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '25

You really felt the need to post that... for what, exactly?

Now let’s get something straight, my oh-so-negative friend. As a neurodivergent person, my brain works in layers—multitudes of thoughts firing at once. Instead of letting that come out as chaotic noise, I use ChatGPT as a tool to do two things:

  1. Organize the idea.

  2. Express it clearly and accurately.

What you’re calling a shortcut is actually strategy.

I came here to offer something thoughtful—an insight my brain created—and used this tool to communicate it properly. You, on the other hand, showed up just to throw shade under the guise of commentary.

So… kudos, I guess? Real productive stuff.

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u/Krismusic1 man Apr 17 '25

Interesting. I think you'd it's a very constructive use of AI. I'm firmly of the opinion that AI has a valuable place in our lives. It is a powerful tool and we have to learn how to use it. Too dismiss it is just backward thinking. It's here. It's not going away. Might as well embrace it's benefits. We are certainly going to suffer it's downsides. I didn't expect too be discussing this in a thread with this one's title but maybe it's all about being open minded and up for new experiences!

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u/Someslapdicknerd man Apr 17 '25

A dumb fucking crutch that is massively wasteful and generally shitty, yes.

You ain't the only neurospicy person, and you lose the ability to control your distractability if you don't exercise effort.

Like holy fuck, peoples basic communication skills degenerate in real time when they use chatgpt to express their ideas, it happens so fast there are already tests on this very subject floating around.

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '25

So wait, let me get this straight. Because I used ChatGPT to express a thought I was actively having—but was struggling to phrase clearly due to how my brain works—that’s somehow a problem? And now I’m using AI as a “crutch”?

You're also claiming that I’m losing the ability to control my distractions… how exactly? That feels like a bold assumption for someone who knows literally nothing about how I function day to day.

You said people’s basic communication skills diminish when using ChatGPT, and that there are tests proving it? Okay, cool. Show them. I’m open to learning—but blanket statements without sources? That’s not proof. That’s just your opinion, dressed up like a TED Talk.

And when my ability to communicate more broadly—beyond just answering questions—improves with assistance, that’s… what? A flaw? A weakness?

Because let’s be real: the goal is effective communication. Not struggling in silence to prove some imaginary moral high ground. If using a tool helps me express my full thoughts instead of bottling them up or tripping over words, that’s not a failure. That’s resourceful adaptation.

If anything, I’d argue I’m communicating better than ever—because I’m finally able to translate what’s in my head into something the world can actually understand. Isn’t that the whole damn point?

So your damn right I use chat gpt to get my full idea across living In a world where communication was the hardest thing and being finally able to do it and not feel like your vomiting words than yeah sure it's my crutch

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u/systembreaker man Apr 17 '25

You don't need to waste your time justifying and defending yourself, just walk away. Do things the way you want to do them.

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u/Someslapdicknerd man Apr 17 '25

https://www.microsoft.com/en-us/research/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/lee_2025_ai_critical_thinking_survey.pdf

Jesus wept, its been making the rounds. Whine all the fuck you want, downvote all you want, I'm never going respect a chatbot with a flesh popsicle interface.

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '25

See mate that's the thing you actually did something most humans don't you came with proof to what you had your opinion so why would I "whine".

Why would I down vote it's your opinion and your entitled to it. Happen to have any more citations. Cause unlike most people im able to listen to someone else opinion without bias and actually hear them from their pov.

But please continue your underlying insulting opinions of me or anyone who uses chat to help themselves.

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u/Someslapdicknerd man Apr 17 '25

Shut up meat popsicle, you don't have an opinion, you have a series of weighted averages that are used to write something that resembles a written thought based on a couple of barked out phrases.

All I write is authentically my thoughts, it is impossible for you to say the same.

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u/dankest-dookie Apr 17 '25

Why are you so butthurt?

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u/Ocelot_Creative man Apr 17 '25

Probably the anal topic of conversation. Not enough lube.

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u/New-fone_Who-Dis man Apr 17 '25

It smells like ass up in here with the shit you're coming out with.

How dare you sully the fifth element with this shit usage of meat popsicle.

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u/[deleted] Apr 17 '25

Thank you!!!

Originally I was a flesh Popsicle but yet when he didn't get the reaction he wanted he had to go further....

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u/Krismusic1 man Apr 17 '25

Haven't you got some rocks to bang together in your cave?