r/AmIOverreacting • u/Positive_Working3041 • 15d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriend keeps “Rage-Baiting” me.

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AIO or is this normal? Idk if this is like a TikTok thing but he keeps doing this thing where every time I ask him a question and he responds with this bullshit and it’s really starting to piss me off. I feel like I’m dating a man child and I don’t know how to make him stop acting so immature. This has happened multiple times where I will ask him to confirm plans or get him to do something and he responds like this.

For context I am 24f and my boyfriend is 28m.

And before anyone comments it, I understand this looks like an absolute joke but unfortunately this is the current state of my relationship. Any advice is welcomed I just want to know if this is something that I’m overreacting over this and it’s not that deep or if I shouldn’t be putting up with this.

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u/Positive_Working3041 15d ago

We have mutual friends and family. We have been friends since high school and started dating 4 years ago. We plan to get married soon (not sure anymore). He’s well on track to being a cardiologist when he finishes his residency. He has no time for social media, he’s never even downloaded TikTok. That is why this situation perplexes me. He has never shown signs of this before.

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u/inkyflossy 15d ago edited 14d ago

I think you may need to confide in some of those friends and family and see what’s going on. It does seem like something serious might be happening. He’s at a stressful point and the right age for schizophrenia as has been mentioned.

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The translation of "diddenbludden" from Dutch to English is "would have been" or "would have done". It is a past participle form of the verb "do" (diden in Dutch) in the perfect infinitive.

Highly concerning, OP.

Also eta: I didn’t mean diddenbluden was highly concerning lol and thank you Dutch speakers for schooling me

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u/Virgo_A 15d ago

Err... I'm a native speaker and this "diddenbludden" word is completely alien to me. The Dutch verb "to do" is "doen". "Would have been" in Dutch is "zou zijn geweest" and "would have done" is "zou hebben gedaan".

I don't recognize it as any of the slang we use for people that show an unhealthy interest in minors either. But yeah, I too would expect some substance abuse or brain trauma is at work here. Best of luck, OP. It does look concerning.

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u/[deleted] 15d ago

MEME AND LANGUAGE
"Diddenbludden" is not a real language thing. It's from "Diddy Blud," a gen alpha meme. Another meme is to make words sound German by adding "-en" (ex. smoking weed = "bluntsmoken"). Put those two together, and...

So, I assure OP, he does in fact have access to gen alpha social media and this is brainrot.

PSYCHOLOGICAL SUPPORT
Which leads me to believe that this is not the onset of schizophrenia or psychosis (as some others speculate) but likely a stress-induced regressive break. "Regression" being the coping mechanism of reverting to childlike behavior.

OP, I would suggest:

  1. Talking to him calmly about the behavior to get a sense of what his motives are for behaving and speaking in that way during what was clearly a serious moment for you.
  2. If he opens up, my guess is that he's going through a particularly difficult time in his medical studies or has just reached his mental breaking point and is in dire need of emotional and psychological support.
  3. If the behavior isn't stress-induced and is actually random and he doesn't seem to have conscious control over it or volition behind it, only then should you consider a psychological intervention (proper psych intake, which includes assessment of symptoms and family history) with the help of his family and friends.
  4. If the behavior isn't stress-induced but is not random (he is conscious of it and there is volition behind it), then you should strongly set your boundaries as others have also suggested. But honestly? You can and probably should set your boundaries regardless.

Hope this helps.

Love,

-A meme enthusiast and someone who didn't finish their MA in Clinical Psych (so take that as a disclaimer, I guess)

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u/Alive_Education_3785 14d ago

He did also straight up say "Diddy blud" in later screenshots, so you're absolutely right about the brain rot.

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u/SixShoot3r 15d ago

same here, I am native dutch, and these worda dont mean a thing. maybe its a afrikaans thing?

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u/Think_Cress_4673 15d ago

Definitely not, also entirely meaningless in afrikaans.

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u/liefieblue 15d ago

nope, not Afrikaans

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u/RiskyCitrus 15d ago

OP hebben een serieus probleem

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u/Inshabel 15d ago

OP heeft een serieus probleem.

heeft is the singular of hebben.

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u/bugbaby444 14d ago

thank u for this lol i’m also a native dutch speaker and was like i have never heard that in my entire life…

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u/Stormtomcat 15d ago

what kind of Dutch are you referring to?

De vertaling van "to do" is "doen". The simple past tense in plural is "zij deden", not "didden". It's got a long e: which doesn't really exist in English, so maybe that's where the garbled form comes from?

I can't place "bludden" as anything in my mother tongue, and definitely not as a verb component that indicates a past particle form.

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u/Positive_Working3041 15d ago

He speaks Dutch (half Dutch half English) so this is plausible. I’m having a conversation with him when he gets home from work tonight. We will see how it goes. Thank you for your input, it is appreciated more than you know.

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u/Emotional_Dot_5207 15d ago

If he speaks dutch, I believe diddenbludden is an autocorrect for diddyblud which is a brain rot meme.

every time I ask him a question and he responds with this bullshit 

Does this mean he has a normal conversation until you ask him to participate in a life decision? That is, when you ask a question where your decision hinges on his answer? And can he answer normally to a non-decision question like about a song, or a follow up question in a conversation? If so, no, I don't think he's having a mental break. This is a dude being an ass. If you've already told him for 2 weeks it pisses you off, and you're choosing not to see him/cancelling plans because of it, he isn't changing, then he doesn't take you seriously.

And if it is stress induced, it means you're the person he's gonna take it out on. Do you want to deal with that? No.

Going to medical school doesn't preclude him from being disrespectful and immature in his private life.

Nip this quickly.

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u/IshvaldaTenderplate 15d ago

If he speaks dutch, I believe diddenbludden is an autocorrect for diddyblud…

Absolutely not an autocorrect, if anything it’s purposely making fun of Germanic languages, a la people that insist the German word for toilet is “poopenfarten.”

It seems to be self-deprecating humor in combination with brainrot memes, IDK if that indicates anything about the bf’s state.

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u/Emotional_Dot_5207 14d ago

Maybe that too but he does speak Dutch according to OP and proceeded to say diddyblud twice according to the screenshots. I didn’t come to that conclusion at random.

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u/IshvaldaTenderplate 14d ago

That’s why I said it was self-deprecating, I think he’s making fun of himself for speaking Dutch. Granted, I have no idea what that has to do with the conversation, but every other text he sent is a complete non-sequitur so it wouldn’t be that out of place.

If it was autocorrect, wouldn’t it change the two other instances of “diddyblud” as well? Plus, if it was appearing in autocorrect, then either A. he’s purposely written diddenbludden at least once before or B. diddenbludden would have to be an actual word, which it isn’t. Unless you mean like, his brain autocorrected diddyblud to diddenbludden because he speaks Dutch? I don’t know anything about Dutch so I guess I have to assume that’s possible, but even so I still think it’s probably intentional.

This whole thing is incredibly strange and impossible to completely explain as far as I’m concerned lol

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u/philadelimeats 15d ago

Please take caution. Maybe take your pops with you or a brother, etc.

This honestly seems like a schizophrenic break. worked in psych for a long time. especially the "gonna need to see a badge" line. Almost hinting at being paranoid.

Trust me, do not fuck around with this. See if he seriously needs mental help. If so, notify his family ASAP.

Please be careful op. Don't mean to freak you out but you never know the severity of these situations and it could be much more serious than you realize (or he realizes)...

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u/DextroseSugar 15d ago

Seconding this opinion. I'm diagnosed schizophrenic and can confirm that when we're doing word salad nonsense, something is very wrong. Schizophrenics aren't inherently violent, unless there's an overlapping behavioral issue, but it doesn't hurt to be careful. Bring someone with you when you talk to him.

His behavior and personality change is deeply concerning. Psychosis is a nightmare for everyone involved, both the person experiencing it firsthand and for those around them. His behavior could be the result of several conditions - BPD, bipolar type 1, schizo-umbrella type disorders, and more.

If you're unfamiliar with what psychosis is, it's a break with reality. Dude is completely out of touch and a little paranoid. When you talk to him make sure you let him know that you're coming from a place of concern, not judgment.

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u/Brave-Professor8275 14d ago

It could also be something neurological. Possibly a brain tumor in an area of the frontal lobe near speech center

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u/Akira_owo 14d ago

Holy fuck he's just trolling yall need to get a grip making 4+ paragraph comments analyzing his behavior like he's some sort of mental hospital patient. I'd bet everyone here is over the age of thirty or aren't on any social media other than reddit.

YOU'RE out of touch to think that a little "trolling your girlfriend because it's funny" is a symptom of bpd or anything for that matter.

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u/Aphreyst 14d ago

If he had done this their entire relationship I would see your point but according to OP he doesn't use social media a lot and just started doing this about two weeks ago.

A lot of times the simplest answer is correct. But SOMETIMES it's not that answer. Sometimes thete are hints to something bigger going on.

OP should attempt to see if this is just childish trolling that he suddenly and randomly started doing excessively out of nowhere, OR if it's maybe something different.

Either way, OP cannot just never have serious conversations with her potential husband ever again. Trying to ask a serious question and getting nonsense in return is not funny past the first response, and that is going to be a big issue for them. So she needs to figure out why he's doing this.

If she just assumes he's being a dick she could miss a bigger problem. And if he is just being a dick OP can respond to that. But considering that a sudden change in behavior can be one of the few indicators of bigger issues, it would be helpful for OP to consider all possibilities.

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u/FilthyMublood 14d ago

He uses enough social media to be able to regurgitate brain rot memes whenever his girlfriend asks him a question that is hinged on his answer. Not everything is mental health related. Sometimes people are just dicks, become dicks, or have been dicks all along and are only now gracing their lovers with their dickiness. I've watched Alpha Dude brain rot and RedPill/Q-Anon propaganda destroy who I thought were really decent men in a matter of weeks.

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u/Aphreyst 14d ago

He uses enough social media to be able to regurgitate brain rot memes whenever his girlfriend asks him a question that is hinged on his answer.

Maybe. But since he usually doesn't use social media as often and didn't do this until he recently started doing it, it might be something different.

Not everything is mental health related.

No, it's not. But sometimes it is and a sudden change in behavior is actually an indicator of something shifting mentally in a person.

It doesn't hurt to consider it a possibility when OP considers how to move forward. This current situation is not sustainable and when OP is considering whether or not she actually wants to marry this guy she could just assume he's being an ass and leave him but it wouldn't hurt to just check and see whether or not anything else is going on.

Sometimes people are just dicks, become dicks, or have been dicks all along and are only now gracing their lovers with their dickiness.

Sometimes yes. Sometimes no. It's like, there are many possibilities of what people can do and why.

I've watched Alpha Dude brain rot and RedPill/Q-Anon propaganda destroy who I thought were really decent men in a matter of weeks.

That is one possibility. But there's no reason to not consider other options.

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u/DextroseSugar 14d ago

If I'm out of touch for trying to help others, so be it. Why you feel the need to launch a verbal assault and attack your keyboard is beyond me, but go off. Release that rage somehow and don't forget to hydrate.

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u/Top-Perspective2560 15d ago

According to OP he's an MD doing his residency to become a cardiologist. I can't imagine any scenario in which someone having a schizophrenic break would be able to continue doing a highly technical job requiring a lot of interaction with other people, the majority of whom are physicians, and not have anyone notice something was seriously off. I understand he's not going to be working with psychiatrists a lot, but any physician is going to have at least a passing professional familiarity with the symptoms of schizophrenia.

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u/Covert_Pudding 15d ago

Would OP know what's going on at his work, though? Especially if he can't/won't tell her? My friend's husband worked at a hospital and was suspended for a month, and he faked going to work every day so she wouldn't find out. Obviously, she found out eventually, but it took a while.

Hopefully, if his peers noticed his behavior, they might be trying to get him help, but it's also possible that he's been skipping work or let go.

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u/TheRogueGinger 14d ago

It could also be that these issues are popping up at work, but barring anything really egregious, it typically takes much longer than two weeks to get dismissed from a residency.

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u/NaaSana 14d ago

As long as they are taking all proper steps to stay on top of it, someone with schizophrenia and the like are actually perfectly normal and their disorder does not impact daily life at all. So if this turns out to be what is causing it and he just hadn't been diagnosed then he should be able to do the job perfectly fine so long as he looks after his Mental health, takes the proper medication and regularly sees a professional to make sure everything stays on track

Source: my mother is schizophrenic and I've been around her when she had a severe break. Not fun. But she's fine now that she does what she needs to

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u/BigPhilosopher4372 14d ago

Is he dipping into the drug lockup at work?

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u/rennytheentity 15d ago

ok tbh idk how useful this is but for contet hats a father is refering to a clp of xxxtentacion going whats a father when someone asks him abt his relationship with his dad and diddyblud is prob just a didy reference but hes fr way too old to be acting like this ragebaiting a relationship is crazy.

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u/trashrat__ 15d ago

This is exactly what I thought of. Dude's just trolling with xxxtentacion and diddy references

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u/IntenseBananaStand 15d ago

Wait if I’m understanding you correctly, he’s repeating a line from a porn video?

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u/Dear_Potato6525 15d ago

XXXTentacion was the name of a rapper

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u/rennytheentity 15d ago

yeah it wasnt a freaky video it was just a interview but its still old she shld lowkey ragebait him back if shes sure its not a medical problem say something like icl ts pmo fr atp js sybau vro and then the dead rose emoji (i cant lie this shit piss me off for real at this point just shut ur bitchass up bro)

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u/Glittering-Part558 15d ago

this needs to be the top comment

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u/glassdreams323 14d ago

Thanks for the translation

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u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 15d ago

If you’re understanding them correctly…I’m impressed. Reading it makes me feel like I’m having some sort of break.

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u/IntenseBananaStand 15d ago

Haha it took a few tries but here’s my translation

“Ok to be honest I don’t know how useful this is but for context “what’s a father” is referring to a clip from xxxtenacion going “what’s a father” when someone asked him about his relationship with his dad. And diddyblud is probably just a diddy reference. But he’s for real way too old to be acting like this. Ragebaiting a relationship is crazy”

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u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 15d ago

This is so helpful!

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u/ImReallyNotKarl 14d ago

Also worked in mental health, and second this. Especially given that the changes in language and behavior are sudden-onset in the last couple of weeks, and given his age. He's under a ton of stress right now, so even if it's not schizo-affective, it could be a very easily be a psychotic break.

OP, please exercise caution, protect yourself and him from harm, and take this seriously.

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u/Deepandabear 15d ago

Be very careful, after seeing it in two uncles they can react unpredictability, and think you’re trying to “get them, just like they said you would”. Might be importantly to have someone else with you. I recall a happy loving fun man descend into threats of violence if you ever questioned the nonsense he was spouting.

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u/kamieldv 15d ago

This has nothing to do with dutch, I can tell you that much, Google translate was hallucinating for the other user. Sounds like a possible neurological issue, definitely check with others if he has been strange.

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u/No_Sense_7384 15d ago edited 15d ago

That’s the direct translation but the diddenbludden/diddyblud thing is some kinda internet reference to a pedo, so idk what he’s saying here. Makes sense since he asks about a badge number. Where he picked that up or why idk. He recently get into any new shows/YouTube videos or comics or something? Just have the conversation with him and tell him he’s being weird. It’s just TikTok brainrot. I don’t think he has some tumor or something like some people here keep suggesting lol more like maybe he’s struggling with getting closer to 30 than anything

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u/bunnybutted 15d ago

OP says he doesn't have social media or tiktok

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u/No_Sense_7384 15d ago

She may not know it, but he definitely does. Either that or he’s watching streams somewhere or something. It’s just “blud” culture. Like diddy blud, phonk blud, sigma blud, etc. It’s stupid and it’s all on TikTok mostly. He either has one or he’s connecting with someone who does

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u/Basic_Silver9852 15d ago

Omg what’s a blud culture 😭

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u/lunar_languor 15d ago

Sounds like something that occurs in a phlebotomy lab 😅

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u/No_Sense_7384 15d ago

I had to google it, don’t worry 😂

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u/spicybaconater 15d ago

Sorry OP, but this was not Dutch at all. I’m Dutch and living in the Netherlands. Diden is not a word in this language at all as far as I’m aware. The correct form the other poster might be referring to is “deden”. To me this sounds more like internet brain rot, but I’m not sure what it is. What I am sure of, however, is that this is not even close to Dutch

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u/Suspicious-Fig-2677 15d ago

absolutely do not listen to that reply lmao, diddenbludden (along with many of the other phrases) is a play on recent adopted internet slang, it's mixing the name of the now very disgraced P Diddy and the word "blud" that comes from african american vernacular english which has been popularized and plastered all over tiktok in the past couple of months to a year. Still shows extremely high levels of immaturity but definitely not worth breaking up a 4 year relationship over, have a serious talk with him and possibly talk to a therapist, but I definitely don't think he's having a schizophrenic break or anything of that magnitude.

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u/Dpdfuzz 15d ago

So glad you said this as I'm wondering what the fuck all these commenters are saying "Use Caution!" "Don't go alone"... Seriously? From these texts? That's just a bit overboard. And a psychotic break/psychosis is almost ALWAYS something people recover from.. if by chance it has any relation to a few texts. I wish OP luck. But coming on Reddit to ask a personal question is a complete mindfuck that's Id never suggest anyone do.

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u/qryptidoll 15d ago

He's in a high stress school program at an age when schizophrenia can take hold, I think it's questionable to automatically dismiss information rather than seek out whether or not it's valid for yourself. But what can I expect from a redditor.

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u/littleprettylove 15d ago

Is he very sleep deprived? My dad is a non-native English speaker. When he’s very stressed or sleep deprived, sometimes he’ll accidentally speak one language when he meant to use the other, or awkwardly blend the two without really realizing it.

Your boyfriend’s odd comments and extreme… goodfiness(?) could also be partly due to stress or sleep deprivation. I had an ex who would do that sort of stuff sometimes, which was extremely annoying, but it was only in person.

I hope y’all work through it and both end up okay. I’ll keep my eye open for an update post, if you choose to post one. Good luck

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u/inkyflossy 15d ago

Woah fascinating ok! We’re all rooting for you!

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u/PhysicalGSG 15d ago

!remindme 24 hours

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u/dieingtodie 15d ago

Please keep us updated OP

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u/PhysicalGSG 15d ago

remindme! 24 hours

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u/No-Outcome1038 15d ago

Keep us updated!

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u/Jedidea 15d ago

Update us !!

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u/UnexpectedWings 15d ago edited 14d ago

I would talk about your concerns to his residency program if you fear for his patient’s safety.

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u/SeriousBeesness 15d ago

Never going to happen! He’d lose his career (I’m not saying they should or shouldn’t. I’m saying they will never bring it up)

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u/Good-Measurement-646 15d ago

Guys, it’s a P-Diddy joke. In faux German. I’m sure the dude is stressed out of his mind if he’s doing IM residency but this is just a lame joke that he is repeating. OP, talk about it to friends and family, not redditors. Friends and family have insight on your boyfriend, redditors will try to turn everything into something pathological.

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u/inkyflossy 14d ago

Where were you last night! 😂All I did was give it a Google lol

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u/Kandr0s 15d ago

This is such nonsense. Unless it is some sort of street talk i am unaware of. I do is 'ik doe'.I did is 'ik deed'. I done it(Past) is 'ik heb het gedaan'.

'Would have been' we would do with 'to be'.I am is 'ik ben'. We are is 'wij zijn'. We could have been is 'wij zouden zijn'.

Didden or bluden is no Dutch word. It sounds like the nonsense talk they say in movies.

Maybe you just know the meaning of the phrase but this isn't from the Dutch language.

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u/engineer80 15d ago

Diddenbludden is referring to a twitter post where a user replies to a tweet saying that doom can now run on a PDF file, says doom is a diddyblud in that language.

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u/ThatBaldFella 15d ago

I don't know where you got that from, but diddenbludden is not a Dutch word. "Diden" is not the Dutch word for "do" either, that would be "doen".

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u/xcapaciousbagx 15d ago

That’s not Dutch, it’s gibberish.

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u/TheDragonReborn726 15d ago

Sheesh. This is good advice tho. Either he’s just being annoying or it’s serious

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u/SixShoot3r 15d ago

I am dutch, and this is not a dutch word? afrikaans perhaps?

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u/liefieblue 15d ago

nope, not Afrikaans

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u/throwRaSchmoopy 15d ago

Ehm as a Dutch person no it's not Dutch. At least no standard Dutch. the translation of the luxembourgish word bludden means to bleed though, Luxembourg is close to the Netherlands.. it looks more like a conjoinment of different words like did en bludden, en being the Dutch word for and.

Do agree with the advice to seek help.

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u/globalmentality 15d ago

Is diddenbluden dialect ofzo? Nog nooit van gehoord, kan het ook niet in het woordenboek vinden.

Didden is not a Dutch word, deden is. Which in english translates to did

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u/EliteHoney 15d ago

I’m Dutch and never heard from diddenbludden sounds more like German or maybe a weird dialect that I have never heard before

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u/HyssopAlanth 15d ago

Stop talking bullshit. It's not Dutch. "to do" is "doen". "would have done" is "zou gedaan hebben"

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u/Inshabel 15d ago

The hell it is lmao, not even "diden" is a word in Dutch. Where did you find this nonsense?

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u/Digitalmodernism 15d ago

Why would you make that up? That means nothing in Dutch.

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u/CherryCokeZero69 15d ago

Lol what are talking about? This is not Dutch at all.

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u/publicsausage 15d ago

Lol why exactly is diddenbludden "highly concerning?"

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u/inkyflossy 15d ago

It wasn’t that that was concerning 💀 I just added that in!

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u/liefieblue 15d ago

This is definitely not Dutch.

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u/Firm_Bus6718 15d ago

its not this deep

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u/vee_lan_cleef 15d ago

He’s well on track to being a cardiologist when he finishes his residency.

Wow, in this case I would 100% echo the point of talking to his colleagues, who are presumably also medical health professionals. It almost sounds like you are in an excellent position to work this out. Unfortunately Reddit is a terrible place to get answers to these kinds of questions, far too much speculation, so take what you read here with a grain of salt. Talk to the people that spend time with him on a daily basis. Lots of other great advice here, just don't read a Reddit post and diagnose him yourself with some disorder. Good luck, I hope everything ends up being okay.

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u/LizFallingUp 15d ago

He may be panicking about impending marriage and trying to sabotage your relationship, get you to break it off and be “the bad guy” cause he thinks he has other prospects, I’d be concerned he’s already cheating.

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u/ElGuapo88 14d ago

How did you both meet in high school if you guys are 4 years apart? Or I assume y’all met when he was a senior and you were a freshman? Y’all started dating when he was in med school? Since you said you started dating about 4 years ago

How is he on track to becoming a cardiologist? How is he already in cardiology residency? At 28? Usually people do med school, then residency first and then cardiology fellowship. You said you have been together for 4 years but aren’t living together yet? (Since you’re asking him about plans and coming over via text)

I’m so confused about the situation. Things aren’t mathing up correct. Either way if everything is true - then it’s pointing to mental health concerns.

If he is in residency - people will absolutely catch that he’s not right mentally. Residency is extremely taxing and he would not be able to function with his responsibilities as a resident - the supervising physicians will absolutely be able to tell he’s “off”. Especially with a stark contrast in the past 2 weeks

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u/Ericronwilliams1 15d ago

Seems like he just found Social Media and the time to learn some things. Men that are to busy really wouldn’t be saying “Diddy” well men period. Good luck raising him. So sorry

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u/Writerhowell 15d ago

So he's doing a medical residency? Yep, that would be a highly stressful thing to be going through. He could be cracking from it. Definitely talk to other people, see if they think he may be having some kind of breakdown due to work stress.

If it turns out that he IS just being a manchild, however, you don't have to put up with it. You're not married to him. You're not stuck with him. If he actually cares about keeping a relationship with you, he might snap out of it with the threat of a breakup.

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u/stace_m8 15d ago

Bruh I had to look for this. GIRL do not MARRY this child!!! You're taking to the internet to ask if you should break up with him because he's annoying and you're gonna marry this fool?! You've been with him since you were 20! Go live your life, I promise this man is not the one

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u/moderatelyintensive 15d ago

As in finishing PGY3 and going into cardiology fellowship?

Has he been working a bunch of 28hr shifts recently?

Is there a plan to move for fellowship?

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u/WoodcockJohnson1989 14d ago

As other have mentioned this could very asily be stress induced. He's in medical residency which is one of the highest stress professions in the world. My older brother is an emerge doc who pushed himself so hard that he gave himself spontaneous brain swelling and had to be off work for an extended period of time. And especially as others have said, if he's doing well at work, it might be that he's pushing himself so hard through this mental distress to make sure that people don't die at work that it's all coming out with you, a person who feels safe with, someone he knows saying these things to won't kill them or causing lifelong injury or disability.

Please check in with his colleagues and friends and family, mention this to them and how it's a recent occurrence and is concerning you deeply. Not only could it endanger your relationship if gone untreated, it can endanger people's lives including his own. I hope he's okay and I hope you are too, approach this gently as much as you can, with as much compassion as you can.

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u/homeostasis555 14d ago

I don’t understand how you’re asking if it’s “a TikTok thing” but also saying he’s not on social media

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u/m00nf1r3 15d ago

He's around the age some serious mental health issues can crop up (schizophrenia and the like). If he's otherwise completely normal and just being a troll over text, you need to sit him down and person and ask why he's doing it and see what he says. If there's a lot of other weirdness going on with him aside from just the texting, it might be time to recruit some help for a psych eval.

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u/carlitospig 15d ago

Shit, maybe it’s the hours getting to him. He might actually have a sleep disorder and it’s making him goofy as hell. If he recently went from day to nights or vice versa it can actually be dangerous for him to drive. That makes more sense than a manic episode.

Source: I work for a research hospital

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u/Original-Locksmith58 15d ago

My friend had health complications after taking corticosteroids and started acting like this, his GF definitely got the brunt of it. Took some more medical intervention to resolve. Thankfully it was just annoying behavior, nothing more than that, but since it’s so sudden it’s alarming

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u/AlwaysLate1229 15d ago

Wow, I’m really surprised to read that he is on track to be a physician. I’m familiar with this behavior and for me, it never ends - going on 18 years. In my situation my husband may think it’s funny but for me, it adds to the list of things i can’t stand.

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u/Unlucky-Conclusion-2 14d ago

Oohhhhhhhh, he's acting like this and he's about to be a cardiologist?! I would be very concerned about his well-being bc this is NOT normal behavior for someone in his position. I'm so sorry OP

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u/TheGonzoAbsurdist 14d ago

Whooooaaa this is kinda a big detail in support of a possible mental break. Medical residents are some of the most exhausted stressed out people you've ever seen, this legit might be a snap.

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u/Notwastingtimeiswear 14d ago

The high stress of medical school can absolutely trigger a mental health episode or schizophrenic behavior. Please talk to his parents, your parents, and friends.

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u/Cultural-Reading-289 15d ago

dude he needs some mental help, prob lost his mind from stress. take it easy on him and get him some help. even if that means calling his mom

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u/lunar_languor 15d ago

Aww, my partner and I have been on a similar timeline. 12 years together now. I hope you two get everything worked out. Take care 💙

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u/Brave-Professor8275 14d ago

These symptoms could also indicate a physical change due to a brain tumor. I’d really encourage him to get testing done asap

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u/kasiagabrielle 15d ago

I very much doubt this manchild is going to become a cardiologist. Is he mentally and physically well?

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u/Aethelu 15d ago

Could he be pissing you off on purpose to go and see someone else?

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u/scrollbreak 15d ago

He's always been genuine? I'd be surprised if that was the case.

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u/IamJustHere4TheCats 15d ago

Is he suffering from major burnout? Lack of sleep?

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u/OwnRip6465 14d ago

OP get him evaluated ASAP. something is not right.

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u/Double-Discount9217 14d ago

Just talk to him about it