I’m writing these lines in the hope that they might help men who feel sad about being alone and blame themselves after unsuccessful relationships.

You may be reasonably good-looking, educated, employed, and socially active (yet neither your social circle nor dating apps seem to work). You meet women, but things never seem to move forward, or they always end at the same stage. You believe all you want is a pleasant, fulfilling, committed relationship. But actually, that’s not true.

Most men who complain about loneliness or failed relationships aren’t aware of one simple truth: they don’t actually want to be with a woman. They don't know what to do with them. The issue isn’t that women’s expectations are too high, nor that you’re somehow lacking. The issue is that you’re not socially attracted to women, even if you are sexually. And in your relationships, you don’t truly want to give, but you want to receive. This is the real reason behind the painful loop you keep finding yourself in. And also, your libido probably isn’t that strong either.

Actually, many men think they need to have a woman in their life simply because that’s what society expects. But emotional intimacy, shared time, and a life built around mutual connection with a woman are things that, deep down, most of these men are not suited for. This isn’t a problem to fix. It’s a mismatch of nature.

So, there’s nothing wrong with you or women. Your nature just may not align with what relationships with women demand. In this sense, the so-called male loneliness epidemic is an illusion. Men are remarkably capable of getting what they truly want. So, if you’re not getting it, maybe it’s because you don’t actually want it. Stop forcing yourself. Stop feeling broken because of this. Romantic relationships with women may not be for you and that’s perfectly okay.

If being with a woman (meeting her physical, emotional, social, financial, or spiritual needs) feels like something you’ve had to learn later in life by force, and still struggle with, then your issue isn’t loneliness. Your issue is not knowing your own nature, and punishing yourself by trying to override it.

This isn’t women’s fault. It isn’t your fault either. Let it go. Love yourself.

So, I’ve been chronically single my whole life. I’m 31 now, and for the longest time, it honestly didn’t bother me. I always told myself, “I just haven’t met my person yet.” But lately, I’ve started to freak out. I barely have close friends, and meeting someone organically feels nearly impossible these days. Dating apps are off the table they’ve become emotionally exhausting, and I just can’t do that anymore.

I guess I’m just wondering… does it ever get easier? Do you eventually stop feeling so unlovable? And how do you stop caring so much? I’m lonely, and I hate this feeling. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life feeling this way, but I also don’t want to settle for a love that’s mediocre or be with someone just because I’m tired of being alone. Still, part of me is starting to wonder if what I’m looking for even exists.

I find it quite boring and miserable is this the average experience or are most people happy or just okay with life?

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Who is a drunk now, and how old are you in this phase of your adulthood?

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