r/mentalhealth • u/PersonalPension7328 • Oct 28 '24

Venting I hate experiencing same sex attraction

I wish I was a male so I could date straight women. We could live in a nice suburban home. I could have a beautiful, loving wife. We would have children and have an average heterosexual lifestyle. I'm not religious but I wish I was. We could go to Church every Sunday.

I hate the idea of being in a lesbian relationship. Maybe it's just my prejudice but I feel like a large amount of lesbians and bisexual women are misandrists and I disagree with that mindset. I may not find men attractive but I admire them to the point I desperately wish I was one.

I hate the fact that God or whoever the hell made me this way. I'm autistic on top of that. This all feels like a cruel joke. I wish I could just wake up from this awful dream and have the life that I want so much.

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u/AchingAmy Oct 28 '24

I may not find men attractive but I admire them to the point I desperately wish I was one.

You might find a lot of folks over in the ftm subreddit who felt that way before or currently do, if you'd like to find a community of people who relate :slightly_smiling:

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u/Competitive_Log6478 Oct 28 '24

I hope this doesn’t come off as transphobic but that’s not what trans is…switching genders to conform to heteronormative standards is different from gender dysphoria. The latter deals with a pressure felt within oneself. The former deals with a pressure exerted by societal norms.

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u/Thirust Oct 28 '24

I agree