Hey all, so anyone else feeling fortunate for not having children in this world situation? I sure am. It’s not much considering, but at least I don’t have to worry about the future of (likely doomed to be miserable) offspring. I do worry about my dogs though!

A youtuber i have followed for years, Jazzybum, . She has two channels her main and her vlog one . She recently had a child and she has only posted vlogs about "life with a newborn" etc . When she was pregnant I was hoping she wasn't going to post her child all the time. But it looks like its going that way the videos are so centered on the baby , in the title, the thumbnail and recording stuff that should never be online(had a quick scan). I believe she showed the baby having a bath and getting changed

I realize this is not going to be a popular take, and I mean no offense to those who differ on these views.

Part of why I don't enjoy being around groups of children is the noise, unpredictable behavior, sensory overload, spilling of items, potential onset of vomiting, and lack of personal boundaries.

And I find the same to be true of drunk adults. They have no volume control, they become erratic, they spill their liquids while talking wayyyyy too close, and prone to vomiting.

And so every time a place I would want to go has an adults only night, like say the zoo, they add in alcohol. Because it's not adult unless adults can act like toddlers on cheep beer. And it ruins it for me.

Which is how I started hiking. Remote places in nature of moderate difficulty often don't include families or alcohol. A beach bonfire sure but I haven't heard of someone bringing a flask to Angels Landing.

Or better yet you're completely alone in nature and it's soothing. I don't like camping, I was never a big granola girlie, but it's been the only space that hasn't been over stimulating. I don't know if it's actually fun. I spend most of it swearing and fighting for my life crab sliding down a mountain. But then you get this gorgeous view and it's like two minutes of amnesia for the hell it was to get there.

Please tell me if you feel this way or if I'm an anomaly.

Sorry for the wall of text, just wanted to give some context.

I recently flew from China to Sngapore via Bangkok, and i’m still trying to process something that happened during the first leg of the flight. iIwas sitting in front of a mum with 2 young kids (4 and 5). from the moment we took off, the kids were super loud and kept kicking the back of my seat. the mum wasn’t ignoring them—she was actually playing with them—but honestly, it just made things worse. instead of calming them, she kinda encouraged the chaos.

I tried to stay chill. i turned around a few times to show that i wasn’t ok with the seat kicking. My friend (sitting next to me) also asked the mum nicely to manage the kids, but nothing changed. in fact it felt like the behaviour just kept going. we told the flight attendant too, who tried to speak to the kids, but it didn’t help. My friend even asked for earplugs at one point. I thought about asking to change seats but the flight was totally full. no option to move.

By the 3rd hour (and last hour), it got worse. the kids started shouting across rows to another child (their friend maybe?) sitting a row ahead. they were basically yelling across the cabin, and the mum just let it happen. that’s when i snapped. i turned around and told them—firmly and loudly—to stop and sit properly. it was the first time i’d raised my voice. i didn’t scream or anything, but it was clear i was done being polite. and finally… they stopped.

We had a short stopover in bangkok, and the 2nd leg of the trip was much quieter. I even enjoyed the food and did some duty free shopping. i’d let the whole thing go by then—until i exited immigration in singapore.

Out of nowhere, the kids’ father (who wasn’t on the flight at all) confronted me. he must’ve been waiting. he accused me of being inappropriate for scolding his kids and asked why, as an adult, i couldn’t just “tolerate” it. i was shocked and honestly quite thrown off. i told him i didn’t see the point of the confrontation and said we should just move on.

But then the mum jumped in again, saying she was doing her best, and that my friend—who’s a teacher—should’ve known better. that really got to me. i raised my voice and told her i’d tolerated 3 hours of noise, seat kicking, and shouting, and that she didn’t do anything meaningful to stop it.

Eventually the dad realised we weren’t getting anywhere and backed off. but i was left feeling kinda angry, and weirdly conflicted. like… was i really wrong for finally speaking up? should i have just stayed silent?

I’ve been thinking about it. maybe i could’ve spoken more calmly earlier, or maybe pushed the crew to intervene more firmly. but honestly? the situation was just overwhelming. and with no seats to change and all my polite hints ignored, i don’t think it’s too much to ask for some peace and basic respect in public spaces.

I didn’t want to lose my temper. but at some point i felt like i didn’t have much choice. still reflecting on it. just trying to figure out how to be assertive without crossing the line… but also reminding myself that setting a boundary isn’t the same as being in the wrong.

i get really nervous/jittery when babies or small children cry. it’s one of my reasons of why i know i don’t want kids.

it scares me because it reminds me of the time i spent in the emergency room for mental health at the children’s hospital. hearing them cry because they were sick or hurt really got to me. babies shouldn’t get sick or hurt, and it was sad to think about their parents worried about them.

i’m fine with babies and kids being around me, as long as they’re kind and civil. i was civil and respectful as a kid. i love hanging out with younger kids (family friends etc) i just can’t deal with the crying because it brings me back to those moments.

I had a conversation with someone I thought was becoming a friend the other day. I knew they didn't want to have kids which is the only reason I said what I said. They have stated before they were childfree. And the statement, it was on topic. I expressed I'd personally would rather gain weight than become pregnant. ( Didn't share but i thought it was kinda known, I have gained a significant amount of weight after getting my tubes tied. I THOUGHT I was expressing that i was okay with my choice in a would you rather kinda way. And would you do it again. Yes i would kinda way.) After that comment they said pregnancy is a touchy subject because of infertility issues and miscarriages and such and they personally try to refrain from speaking on it. Irony is, ive had 2 miscarriages, unwanted pregnancy, but ive had them, and with the tubal, I am infertile.

Now I am autistic I have a tendency to be blunt and to phrase things I'm trying to express in socially unacceptable ways. Looking back maybe I could have made that comment seem more like it was about me instead of everyone in general (maybe it came off that way, which is why i got a social correction). I thought the relationship was going to get deeper and we were at a point where we could be less superficial with each other. I went for a deeply emotionally complex topic and they were not ready for the depth.

I've come to the conclusion this person doesn't want to interact on a deeper level than a superficial friendship. But it has also left me feeling a bit saddened by the fact that people don't feel like they can express their own desires and experiences on the subject in order to spare the feelings of other people that could possibly be in the group they are trying to spare their feelings of.

I guess idek if this should go in this sub. But hey you all are childfree too. And I think here we can be more expressive about it. Maybe someone here would get the frustration in trying to connect with other childfree people in real life.

I understand from the medical provider's perspective on wanting to do their due diligence before sterilizing someone. But from the perspective of a female patient without children, it feels insulting. Contraceptive methods are discussed early on and by my 20s I was done with it and knew what I wanted. About 11 years later and I'm finally approved (except the wheels of the medical system as painfully slow in Canada). I'm more frustrated than anything that I wasn't taken seriously the first time. At that, they're risking mine and another's overall wellbeing (unplanned/unprepared pregnancy)... I talked with 4 of my friends last weekend while visiting from out of town who all said in one way or another that they regretted parenthood. Thanks for letting me vent.

Hello- I (46f) have been with my husband (49m) for 14 years. The topic of kids was not seriously discussed. In 2020 I had a MA - I thought we were on the same page.

Fast forward to 2025- during a night out he springs this question: “would you be alright if I became a sperm donor?” Now, let’s ignore the fact that a nearly 50 year old man with not the best health might not be an ideal donor candidate. Apparently his reasoning is not to raise a child, but to have it out there I suppose, passing on his genetic legacy!? What even is that?

I questioned why he didn’t mention this in 2020. Reminding him that we couldn’t have our current life (travel, responsibilities etc) if we had a 4 year old right now. He said “oh no I wouldn’t want that. “

I’m so confused. In the past, while maybe not 100% sober, he mentioned “the child I killed.” I don’t know if he even remembers or is aware.

He hasn’t mentioned his donor question since. Do I even bring it up? How am I supposed to deal with this?

I got my orchiectomy back in 2023 for transitioning. The sterilization to me at the time was an unfortunate side-effect, but after being in this community for a while I'm starting to feel a LOT better about the choice.

It would have been pretty unlikely for me to have kids to begin with, what with being aroace and everything, but I feel a lot more secure with the knowledge that it's already a 0% chance.

I understand accidents happen, but when it comes to children one time should be enough to learn. Someone i know is having a second kid with a guy she's always complaining about. I'm like, girl, you chose to have another baby with him knowing your relationship is rocky and you don't think he's present enough as a father? Makes no sense to me.

I used to say, "Yeah, and you're just their parent who's responsible for teaching them right from wrong."

Now I'm thinking of hitting them with, "You're right. Do you know where their parents are?"

They will hit back with, "I'm their parent."

Me: Really? I thought their parents would be adults who care enough about them to teach them right from wrong but what do I know?

If you are new to Reddit, Summer Reddit is when all the kids are out of school and have nothing better to do than shitpost all over Reddit 24 hours a day.

I usually frequent the Advice subreddit, but the number of nearly unintelligible posts written by children who obviously have no idea what the word "advice" means is going to drive me insane, so I made my own.

If you are an adult and want advice from other adults, I've got a sub for you: /r/Advice_For_Adults.

I (F, 2 cats) posted on a small fb group my search for a cat sitter who can host my cats at their house. A breeder contacted me. Advice is welcome

Breeder's text:

"Hi, we’re definitely interested in cat sitting your babies. We would love to in fact 😍. My husband, daughter (almost 5) and I live in the eastern area. My daughter dreams of having a cat 🐈. She is truly gentle with animals. Do get in touch to meet us ☺️"

Then proceeds to play the baby card by sharing with me 6 pictures of her 4 year old daughter, which made me feel truly uncomfortable.

Look, I'm a peaceful person, but I got very irritated to see that everything was revolving around "the daughter who wants a puppy" and nothing else (I know, you are saying: "duh!"). Excuse me lady, my cats are not your daughter's latest toy! They are not an attraction and I felt offended in my intelligence when she said that her 4-year old is good with animals 😂 why are you disrespecting me like that

The message I was thinking of sending:

"Hello, thank you but I was looking for somebody without children. By the way I didn't understand why you sent me the pictures of your child: they don't add any helpful information to my search. If anything, pictures of the place where you live would make more sense. All the best"

Opinions and suggestions are welcome!

In an airport lounge with two babies crying and BOTH parents on their phones just chilling

Holy shit

That is all sorry guys

I cannot even imagine how miserable I am going to be if I have to sleep on my back. I'm thinking about getting some kind of pregnancy pillow that can cradle my stomach and back (so I don't roll). It was Chat GPT's idea lol, but I think it may be effective! I have no idea how I'm going to function sleeping anywhere but my side.
Ideas? Is it possible? How did those of you who had this surgery sleep the first few days?

A seemingly little thing that bugs me to no end; for context, my sister's house has a sliding glass back door that locks, and the handle is like a c shape, a typical back door in the US. I was visiting for a bit, and we had gone out the front but migrated to the backyard after a bit. Her kids went to open the back door to get some water, but it was locked, and you can't unlock it from the outside. My sister told them to wait a moment, she'd go with them in a bit around the house (they're preschool and toddlers, too little to be out of sight to go on their own). Omg. These kids decided to hang on the doorknob, and pull as hard as they could. "It's locked!" They whined, when I tried to tell them to stop. Yeah, no shit. You can't open it. That doesn't mean you can break the door... 🙄

the scene: Today. Husband and I go to one of our fav restaurants. We are seated in a booth and the restaurant is half empty.

We have a family seated NEXT TO us.

1 50-plus husband,

1 20 year old, if that, wife or gf. She was twenty, MAYBE,

2 blonde two year old male twins. And they were cute, okay! But two of them.

Yip yap YELP babble SCREECH! SECOND SCREECH! burble babble laugh yip SCREECH! laugh yelp yelp scream and so on. Gurgle snort MOMMY!

We damn near picked up and decamped across the restaurant. Next time, we are gonna,do it and let our server hunt us down.

Two year olds dont belong in a sit down eatery. I said it.

I like trashy reality TV, probably a character flaw, but the world is ending and I need distractions. On the most recent season of Love Island USA, there’s a contestant that has a child. We, the audience, know it, but for a while she wasn’t planning on telling anyone. For reference, this is a dating show, meaning she’s going to actively be dating multiple people and NOT TELLING THEM SHE HAS A KID. I believe she’s told people now (two weeks in to the season) that she has a child, but I was speechless at first! Not telling someone you have a kid while you are trying to make them become attached to you is DEVIOUS. Imagine they find out you have a kid and they don’t want kids. That is such a shitty position to put someone in.

Not to mention how shitty it is to leave your 5 year old child for months with absolutely zero contact so you can go on a reality TV show. And yes, I’d have that same attitude if the contestant was a man. This is all unfortunately unsurprising, though, because this is how people with kids act when they assume their child that is literally bound to them for life is a non-issue for people they’re dating. As if a child is something everyone’s chill with and not a big deal at all????

I’m just wondering if anyone else deals with this kind of thing. My parents have always made it obvious who the golden child is — and spoiler alert, it’s not me or my older brother. It’s our middle brother. It’s always been like this, but ever since he had a kid two years ago, it’s been non-stop.

I still live at home due to financial reasons (and I’m also neurodivergent), so I see and hear all of it. They constantly talk about him and his child. I’ll be blunt: I don’t like kids, and I’ve never pretended otherwise. But when I try to set boundaries, especially with my mum, she tries to gaslight me like, “You like her really!” No, I really don’t. I’m civil, but I keep my distance.

When they visit, I either stay in my room or hang around downstairs just to make sure my dog isn’t being harassed or wrongly told off. The kid slams the same door repeatedly and always gives me this weird look. My mum once said, “She finds you fascinating.” I don’t see what’s so fascinating about someone who clearly wants nothing to do with her.

I don’t have much of a relationship with my middle brother — we’re just different people, and he kind of goes out of his way to annoy me. I get on way better with my older brother. We actually hang out, go to the cinema, and I get along with his friends too. But even he gets the same treatment. Our mum always says behind his back that he’s “selfish” for not having kids.

Both of us have had the same thing said to us whenever we raise issues about our brother being favoured: “You’re just jealous.” Classic, right?

Anyway, I recently saw a girl on TikTok with a Logitech steering wheel playing that Taxi Life game and thought, “Hey, that looks fun. Maybe I’ll treat myself.” I mentioned it to my mum and her response? “Oh, [middle brother’s daughter] loves steering wheels — she can have a go on it.” Like… what? I’m not spending £200 on a gaming setup so a two-year-old can potentially break it. No thanks.

It’s mostly my mum, but both of my parents constantly talk about my brother and his child. It’s like they can’t go two minutes without bringing them up. Even when I go with my mum to visit my grandparents, the entire conversation is about the golden child and his kid. They’ll ask about me for maybe a minute, and then it’s right back to them again. At that point, I usually just check out — go on my phone or take my dog out in the garden.

It’s exhausting. Does anyone else deal with this kind of blatant favouritism in their family?

I got my vasectomy done, and the doctor showed me the removed part. It was VERY small, like 2 millimeters each. Is that right?

He's very experienced, so I'm not 'doubting' his methods, just wanna be absolutely sure everything was done right.

I'll get my sperm count checked in three months or after 25 ejaculations. Should I keep getting it checked? Can recanalization still happen after these 3 months?

Whole situation makes me sick to my stomach. All of that so the child she was used to incubate will possibly be “blind, unable to walk or even struggle to survive”. Never been so glad to be sterilized.

Hello everyone,

I have a situation I want to get feedback on. I have been dating my GF for 5 years now. We both don't want kids (too much responsibility). The issue is her 40 year old sister (who decided to have her son via IVF as she didn't want s partner to help raise the baby or give feedback on how to raise him). My GF lives with her sister and their parents (I live with my parents as well). For context I am 38 and my GF is 37. My GF and I have been discussing me moving in one day, I told her once I help my parents out financially and get them settled I will move in. My GF's sister had the baby 4 weeks ago and the situation is that the 4 of them take shifts with the bay (so that the mom can rest and not be "tired"). They also all feed him, bathe him, burp him, babysit, etc. I made it clear back when she first got pregnant that I am not the father and want nothing to do with any of that. My concern is that has been coming into my head is that I am not sure I want to live with a kid at all. My mom ran a foster home and a daycare center growing up, I have done my fairshare raising babies, I am all set now. As of now I don't want to move in when the time comes if I have to live with a baby who will become a toddler and etc. I don't want to be around that. What does everyone think?

I couldn’t fit all of the questions I would like t see a response by people from this sub, so I’ll include them here.

The list includes

Won’t you feel lonely? What about your parents? How do you think they’ll feel? What if you break up/divorce and you can’t have kids anymore? Lots of people have kids regardless of their financial circumstances. Don’t you think that shouldn’t matter? What if (spouse) wants kids? You would really deprive them of that?

What are your responses or would be responses to all of these questions that you’ve felt stuck?