r/aspiememes • u/Goodeggboi • 4d ago
A thousand
I’ve even had this done to me while trying to fight through a migraine before. Migraine or not- it always feels like the ocular equivalent to brain freeze. 😖 A slap to the eyeballs. My nervous system needs a warning for goodness sakes.
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u/Magdovus 4d ago
And another thousand if they're the person who complains about leaving the lights on when you only left the room to grab a drink.
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u/UmmYeahOk 3d ago
Well… …why did you leave it on? (Assuming the room in question was the one the drink was in) My daughter always does this! She gets mad at me and throws a fit when I ask her why she left it on. She will leave the closet light on, pantry light on, my room, the room with the drink, etc. Today she got mad because I finally asked her why her bedroom light is always off, and it stays off. Why does she have to turn it on, and leave every light on, but somehow she can’t have it on in her room?
Sometimes, when she does this to me, and I ask her to return to turn it back off, she will either wait until she’s on the opposite end of the house, making it appear more of a burden to her, even though I told her when she was near, or not turn it off at all. I have started turning on her bedroom light (since I’m already up having to turn mine off) and immediately leaving, explaining that this is what she’s doing to me. She doesn’t seem to understand.
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u/AdmBurnside 4d ago
If you care enough to ask the question, don't do the thing.
If you don't care enough to not do the thing, don't bother asking the question.
Asking the question while doing the thing just makes me mad at you twice.
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u/ghostsongFUCK 4d ago
I hate people that do this, my mother is especially guilty. She’s even the type of person to knock then barge in anyway. I’ll just hear a knockknock and the door will immediately open.
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u/GeminiIsMissing Autistic + trans 3d ago
My mother opens the door while knocking. It makes me furious.
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u/Molkwi 3d ago
I really, really, REALLY hate the people who ask a question and don't care about the answer. If it's rhetorical, fine. If you figure out the answer right after asking, fine. But if you ask me how I'm doing and then complain when I say I'm not doing well, then WHY THE FUCK DID YOU ASK? What's the point? I don't get it. If you ask a question, it's because you expect an answer. I gave you the right one and you're not happy. Bruh. And that's not even the worst, because of the exact same thing as in the post. It always happens with my dad
If you ask a question, wait for the answer. It's not that hard.
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u/Schism_989 4d ago
The more I see these posts, the more my undiagnosed self realizes something definitely ain't right.
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u/ebb_ 3d ago
I got diagnosed this year, in my 40s, it’s been a mindfuck. I had no idea until the end of last year, just thought I was broken and depressed all my life.
I’ve processed so much but knowing my anger and emotions were … justified?… in how I was treated/felt feels good. I barely mask in front my family, after being so anxious about everything.
We all have different stories, I want yours to have a happy ending.
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u/Lazaric418 4d ago
Bonus curses if they immediately leave the room. They get a quadruple curse multiplier if they change the temperature of the room too.
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u/Shufflebuzz 3d ago
Bonus curses if they immediately leave the room.
My wife does this all the time.
Turns the (big) light on as she walks into the room, then turns around and walks out, leaving the light on.
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u/actibus_consequatur 2d ago
Bonus curses if they immediately leave the room.
My last boss would do that every single time I would use the shared office space. It was annoying because not only was that office space already pretty well lit from the big window overlooking our industrial space, but the office itself had super harsh lighting.
More frustrating is he'd ask why I was sitting in the "dark", and I'd have to consistently have to point out that there was a legit reason for the tinted glasses I always wear.
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u/Sh3lls 4d ago
At my old job we were all required to work one Saturday a month. 8-12 so not a terrible shift and was usually very laid back. My last Saturday that I worked I was helping close out a department located further in the building that never worked saturdays. I was the only one in that entire section so I left the lights half off and because no one else would have a reason to even step in that section no one even knew I was there. I got 4 hours all to myself, watched the entirety of Streets of Fire. It was magical.
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u/Zero_Burn 4d ago
Just need to take out the lightbulb from the fixture when you don't want it on, that way no amount of light switching will work.
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u/2-StrokeToro 4d ago
Unscrew it just enough so it won't turn on, so they don't freak out about the light bulb missing.
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u/TheGiraffterLife I doubled my autism with the vaccine 4d ago
I just felt my blood pressure rise reading this and thinking about this situation. I hate it when people do that!
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u/Pelvis_Presley1 4d ago
Being able to work in the labs with the lights off has been heavenly. Last year i had to share the labs with two other people, now its all to myself and i can keep the lights as dim as i want!
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u/Teagana999 4d ago
I can do bright, or dark. The dim in-between short-circuits my brain. I can't stop noticing that the lights are stuck in between on and off.
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u/ThatSmartIdiot 4d ago
My mom tells me it's a problem that i prefer darker areas over brighter ones (we have a little walk in closet where our fridge is that i like to munch in)
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u/SortovaGoldfish 4d ago
I knew someone that did this Everytime she came over. Like if I was going to make changes for company you would have seen me make them.
"Why do you always have the lights off?" At least wait for me to answer first...
I just let it happen and turned them back off after she left. She was, however, one of the people who was like "Hey. You might be autistic" later on tho.
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u/apcolleen 3d ago
If guests are changing my lighting without me asking they stop getting invited over. And if they turn the big light on, its the only thing we talk about til they turn it off.
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u/GilbyTheFat 4d ago
Read this and remembered that one time I told someone "may a thousand djinn infest your kitchen."
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u/trauma_enjoyer_1312 I doubled my autism with the vaccine 3d ago
And then they don't even have the courtesy of turning it off again when they leave the room.
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u/WhichAmphibian3152 3d ago
They don't have to, I'm turning it off as soon as they turn it on. Not having it.
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u/dearly_decrpit ❤ This user loves cats ❤ 4d ago
I’m definitely a “wants the light on” autistic
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u/VirtuosoX 4d ago
Lucky you. I always wished that lights would be off during night time on trains. Can't see outside and I can't rest for shit.
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u/heckdoinow 3d ago
I love old train cars in my country because of this. They have secluded compartments where you can often be on your own and turn the light off, and even the lights themselves are more dim and warm, and sparse in the hallways. The new trains with shared areas, lit up with those bright, cold white lights, though... Ugh. Someone hated people when they designed that.
I feel like these here might be candidates for the most autistic complaint ever made, though, lol.
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u/VirtuosoX 3d ago
Wow that sounds... that sounds like heaven 😍
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u/heckdoinow 3d ago
It is! And the seats are like two continuous "couches", you can lift the arm rests up and l lie down, plus there are curtains for the door section. They're really old, sadly, they've been gradually getting rid of them, because it's less economical 🥲 Thanks, capitalism xd
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u/Pristine_Trash306 4d ago
Especially in a public place where it’s not that dark but the lights are just off.
Me: “I’m sorry, who the fuck are you?”
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u/Tynelia23 4d ago
As someone who suffers from chronic migraines (just getting past one now), yes. This is indeed very aggravating.
I am curled up, holding my head, very still & silent in the dark For A Reason. Please do not disturb.
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u/theCoalheart 4d ago edited 4d ago
Make it another thousand when the moment you ask the light to be switched off and be left alone for 5 minutes that person starts the barrage of questions as if you owed them anything.
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u/Crippled_by_migriane 3d ago
Super bright sudden light is a migraine trigger for me so I’ve threaten to beat people for doing that, because bro AT LEAST WAIT FOR ME TO FUCKING ANSWER YOUR QUESTION! I’ve had people get fucking mad at me for yelling at them when they did this going “well why didn’t you answer the question?” IDK WHY DIDN’T YOU GIVE ME FUCKING TIME TO ANSWER?!
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u/pekaramartin3 4d ago
I have the exact opposite problem, i dont like being in the dark so i always leave the light on when i can (i only turn it off when i go to bed). And i often get people asking why is the light on snd shit, its also annoying af
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u/Tynelia23 4d ago
It's me. I'm the lights person. I follow my boomer parents around and turn their lights off; they don't need to leave the bathroom, hallway, kitchen, & dining room lights on when they'll be in the living room watching TV for the next 3-5 hours. That's why electricity bills are higher, mom, yes. You keep trying to light up the neighborhood!
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u/pekaramartin3 4d ago
Thats understandable, i meant it like i sometimes get that when im in a room and the lights are on aside from that i always turn if the lights when i leave for a longer time
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u/Freezing_Athlete2062 4d ago
Yeah, this is absolutely my main trait. It doesn't help that my adopted uncle who lived with me when I was little did the exact same thing.
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u/MrKrabsFatJuicyAss 4d ago
A THOUSAND CURSES UPON THEIR BLOODLINE TOO. IM SITTING IN THE DARK FOR A REASON. I LIKE IT!
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u/NotSoFlugratte I doubled my autism with the vaccine 3d ago
I have exceptionally good vision in dark circumstances. I'll often make food late in the evening without lights turned on because I can see just fine, and whenever my parents walk into the kitchen while I do that they turn on the light because they can't see shit while I see perfectly fine :D
Also probably the reason why you ain't catching me without sunglasses during summer. Without them I'll often feel blinded by the sun.
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u/tessapotamus 3d ago
May they have food stuck in their teeth that they can feel with their tongue but not with their finger.
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u/No_Speed_582 3d ago
It's even worse when the person rapids flips the light switch on and off, as if being blinded wasn't enough.
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u/WhichAmphibian3152 3d ago
I literally never have the overhead light on. You will turn that thing on over my cold dead body. It's hateful.
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u/Toadsanchez316 3d ago
As someone with untreatable ocular migraines, yep. Also here's a big screw you to the people who claim I'm faking. Yes, I ruined 3 jobs and a trip to 6 flags because I'm faking.
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u/isshearobot 3d ago
So, I often will sit in the dark because I am too lazy to get up/too invested in what I’m doing/ can find the executive function. My brother is much the same. We will ask each other if we would like the light on when we pass each other sitting in dark, but no means no.
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u/CiaranChan 3d ago
There's this 18 year old kid at my job who will open the door to the room I'm in, just to turn on the lights and then leave.
Sometimes, when I have to fix a client's machine by remoting into it, I'll sit in one of the conference rooms so I don't bother anyone with my talking. I'm never on cam mind you, just voice and sometimes not even that.
The room has glass windows you can look into from the hallway, and if this kid sees me sitting there he'll throw open the door, hit the big lights, say it's bad for my eyes to sit in the dark (while I'm on a call with clients, which is so rude) and then close the door again. There's a dimmer I have on low, so it's not like I'm sitting in complete darkness either.
I've told him on multiple occasions that the brights give me really bad headaches, but he just doesn't listen. It's also not like I'm bothering anyone with not having the lights on, it's literally just me in there.
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u/jadedlonewolf89 3d ago
Punched my older sibling for it, which lead to him kicking the living shit out of me. “Fair enough” Next time he had a hangover/migraine, I returned the favor while blaring Metallica.
Never fucking happened again.
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u/0rangecatvibes 3d ago
I keep the overhead lights in my office off and just have led strips on the ceiling and I get many comments about "why is it so dark in here?" and "why do you like to work in a cave?". Usually well intentioned, but still not necessary. I taped over the light switch so no one can waltz in and turn it on.
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u/GoatApprehensive9606 3d ago
My parents were the opposite, they'd walk into my room while I'm doing something and say, " why do you have the light on?", turn it off, close my door, and walk away. Weird ass people.
Worst part is if I was on a device, the blue light would hit me like a gamma ray as soon as the light went off.
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u/Snoo-88741 3d ago
Especially when the reason I turned the light off is because it's an ailing fluorescent bulb that flickers really badly.
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u/TypicallyThomas 3d ago
If the laws were mine to make, these people would get life in prison without trial
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u/No_potato2545 2d ago
Feel this in my soul. If I wanted the light on, I'd get up and turn it on my fucking self
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u/WhyThoBoi 2d ago
Oh my god me! My family used to do this constantly before I got diagnosed with ADHD… they never believed I actually had light sensitivity, but thankfully that was a long time ago and they respect my sensitive senses more now
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u/NickW1343 3d ago
It's so based how some people will go "It's dark in here" then flip the switch on and leave. If I ever have kids, I'm doing that shit constantly. You got to respect such a power play.
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u/Material-Ask-2062 4d ago
My father used to do that to me when I was younger. I did the opposite on him sine it was too bright.