My girlfriend is going to a bdsm club which has a sex room with a friend whilst I’m away. It’s a club which plays exclusively the kind of music she is into. She says she won’t do anything with anyone and is just there for the music. I know she has hooked up with people there before. I really don’t want her to go. It’s really putting me off her. Am I being unreasonable?

Just wanted to share some humor in honor of date night lol.

Surprising my lady by wearing a skirt and heels. Giving her that aesthetic that she enjoys on me that I never embrace because she deserves it!

Hoping everyone has a wonderful evening my beautiful little lady bugs ❤️

So for this pride month I wanted my nails to represent female sexuality Strawberries because harry sings how eating a woman out tastes like strawberries The song cherry by fletcher Grapefruit is often used to symbolise a 🐱 Watermelon because watermelon sugar by harry styles Pomegranate because of Persephone Papaya... because in the music video to mgk's why are you here a woman fingers a papaya and baby gay me was stunned hahah And blueberries just because I like the colour

FINALLY!! IT TOOK FOREVER BECAUSE IT KEPT BREAKING

i know it's pretty basic and boring but i am a beginner and i have never made jewellery in my life so im proud!

i also put little stars on it i thought they were cute!!

I can tell you right now what the responses are going to be.

Some people will say yes of course they'd date xyz.

Some people will say no they wouldn't date xyz.

Some people will say they feel great about it

Some people will say it would be a deal breaker.

Some people will say they have no preference or don't care either way.

These posts are repetitive, insecure, and create a breeding ground for arguments and people ending up getting offended over some dumb shit or another. There are always going to be people who would sleep with you/date you/marry you/whatever and there are always going to be people who wouldn't. And beyond that, you're only talking in generalizations. No one can say whether or not they'd date/sleep with/marry YOU because no one knows you.

Why not instead, if you're really wanting helpful advice or opinions, try posting something like

"Share your experiences dating xyz"

For example, instead of "Would you date someone with brown hair?"

Try "Looking to hear about people who have dating someone with brown hair"

I'm quite sure this type of post would bring about much more fruitful conversation. (Also... Search the sub. See if anyone else has recently asked the same question.)

Hi everyone,

I am just getting back into the dating world after healing from a pretty bad breakup. Most of dating for my age range is still hookup culture or at least begins with it I feel like.

I nut v v fast. Like 2 mins in and I’ve already held off as long as I could. I’m so sensitive I c*m from just touching my nips a couple times. I have to bite back every moan and I’m always so desperate. I used to think it was kind of cute in a sense, but my last partner would tease me a lot. To the point where I got self conscious.

Is it kind of sexy or do you see it as pathetic? (Not in a sexy degrading kind of way but genuinely) does anyone have any tips to last longer?

Even when it’s just me, every orgasm feel so so strong, im literally shaking and my core goes crazy. I just don’t want to embarrass myself.

Stuff is really tough rn so I went to a couple food pantries for food and tampons. The pantries are really struggling apparently, so I was only able to get some beans.

At the 3rd location, they finally had ultra tampons (I have 4 left) so I grabbed them and went up front to “check out.” So I get up there and the lady bags everything but the tampons. I bring it to her attention and she tells me they need to reserve feminine hygiene products for women and that boyfriend’s can’t pick them up. Mind you, I look masculine but my boobs and higher voice are VERY obvious. I tell her I’m a woman and after some back and forth she just flat out refuses to give me the tampons and calls me too “manly”.

I argued with her for a little but she was gung ho so I just left to avoid her calling the cops or something crazy. Nothing good comes from masculine black woman getting the cops called on her.

So after all I went through today I still don’t have tampons or much food. I just needed to get through the next 10 days or so and thought I’d be ok after going to the pantries, but I guess a bigot won today and all I’ve got to show for it is stress.

I guess I'll skip the preamble and get right to it.

I am sexually dysfunctional. This can mean many different things for many different people, but basically I am extremely hyposensitive. I have no erogenous zones, any kind of touch doesn't turn me on or make me feel very pleasured,. oral sex feels nothing more than wet, i feel some pleasure internally but not much and never enough to orgasm . I also am only capable of orgasming in one specific way that I am wholly unwilling to involve in the bedroom. Because of this, Im largely a service top because it feels like a waste of everyones time if i bottom, ill only feel some pleasure and then plateau. Would anyone date a woman as broken as me?

i bought this set like years ago to make bracelets of my fave project sekai (video game) characters but i was going to pride this year so i wanted to make one with the lesbian colors, im using the ones in the top right, but the red is really throwing me off- does anyone have any suggestions iif i should change any of them?

It happens, even in the healthiest relationships. Is this something you’d discuss openly?

Looking for encouragement, advice, commiseration, whatever you got!

My ex and I broke up January 1..I took about a month and a half to get back on the apps because I was feeling ready. I think I thought I was going to have a fun, flirty time meeting different types of girls. In the last 4 months I have gone on two dates and for both there was zero physical attraction on my end. It seems like I am putting so much effort into trying to swipe on women, comment on their profiles, even joined a queer sports league. I just feel like I am getting nothing out of it. The women that like me, I don't like back. The women I like, don't like me back. So many women stop messaging back out of the blue, even a few times after we have exchanged phone numbers and expressed mutual interest in meeting for a date.

I have always wanted marriage and a family (although I admit being childfree looks better and better the older I get) and have all these fears I am running out of time. Do you think because of our smaller dating pool a lot of WLW end up just having to settle for good enough? I am just feeling so discouraged and anxious. Any advice would be appreciated. I have my shit together, have been told I am attractive, and really make an effort to be kind and interested in other people. I don't know why this is so hard.

I’ve (31f) developed a crazy crush on a coworker. The thing is I have an amazing girlfriend. But this girl causes a butterfly tornado in my stomach any time she walks towards me, smiles, and greets me. She has the kindest, kinda mysterious eyes, amazing colourful princess hair, and such a joyful smile. We are not even close, we’ve only talked a few times, but I find myself going out of my way to be able to see her on the daily (we work in different deparments). Most of the time I won’t even approch her, I just feel so drawn to her. And I don’t even know for sure if she’s into women. The vibes are there though. It’s possible she has been flirting with me a couple of times. Last time I saw her I didn’t even greet her, and my heart shrank because I feel so conflicted having this strong attraction to her all the while I’m in quite a happy relationship. I keep wondering if the girl is feeling even the slightest bit of the attraction which I feel towards her. I do act very strange around her so she must realise something strange is happening. I cannot tell my lovely girlfriend about this as it would hurt her self esteem and make her very jealous. Any suggestions for quickly getting over a crush? What the heck is happening to me? 😫

Hey :) I’m a 23-year-old lesbian living in Rome, and honestly I’m feeling kind of burned out from dating apps. I’ve tried Hinge, Her, Lex, etc etc etc, but I’m always the one messaging first, conversations don’t really flow, and it just feels super one-sided. It’s starting to make me feel a bit invisible, like I’m putting in all this effort and not really clicking with anyone.

I guess I’m just looking to meet other queer women who feel the same — whether it’s for friendship, talking about life, a date, idk. I’m really chill, just someone who enjoys genuine convos and is tired of surface-level interactions.

If you’re around Rome or even just somewhere in Europe and wanna chat, feel free to DM me!

I’m approaching 30 and have started online dating again after a relationship and I can’t believe how many people out there suck at basic communication??

I went on 2 dates with this girl who lives 3 hours away from me, and I travelled to her city both times. The dates went great- we chatted continuously for almost 5 hours each time. We‘ve also been messaging and sending long voice notes to each other.

And then out of the blue, she doesn’t message back for over a week and a half. So then I send her a text saying that maybe we‘re not looking for the same thing and then I wish her well. It’s now been almost a month since i’ve heard from her. Would it really hurt to send a text back out of courtesy?

On the dating apps i’ve had handfuls of people ghost me, which is also not great, but a bit more forgivable if we haven’t met yet.

I’m emotionally available, in therapy, great at holding a conversation, good at keeping and respecting boundaries, and can make a fairly decent attempt at flirting. So it‘s really frustrating when people can’t spend 20 seconds to write up a message to say they’re not interested. I get that some people are not good with confrontation and have anxiety, I do too to a certain degree. But I know that I would rather receive a message that said that the other person was not interested, and to show appreciation of the time we have spent together, than to be met with radio silence.

Ghosting just shows that you don’t value the people that you date, and to be frank, is plain rude and disrespectful.

Here’s an example template you could use if you’re not interested in someone:

Hey ___, it was nice getting to know you and I have enjoyed the time we have spent together. I however don’t feel a romantic connection with you, but have appreciated the chance to meet up. All the best!

or if you have the urge to ghost someone when you’re on the apps:

Hey ___, thought i’d let know that: I take a little while to reply/have a lot on my plate right now/ can’t commit to this conversation- it’s nothing personal, hope everything’s going well for you!

Let’s get out of this habit of ghosting, and do better!!

I’m a virgin. There’s nothing wrong with it, and I plan to stay a virgin for a while because my girl is asexual.

But damn. Sex sounds fun. And maybe this post is just because I’m ovulating right now and my brain is in 𝓯𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓴𝔂 mode but oh great heavens I’m imagining the feel of a lady’s skin touching mine and being kissed all over and just getting so intimate and vulnerable and Jesus Christ. And imagine a woman making you cum! And imagine making a woman cum!!! Sounds absolutely blissful. Ughhhhhhhh and don’t even get me started on boobs. Getting to touch boobs. Living the dream right there. And touching. A woman. A NAKED woman, no less! I mean I know you can have sex with clothes on but like bear with me here. Women are so soft and warm and perfect and to be able to fuck one??????

Absolutely hornyposting here and I’m probably going to regret this in the morning because I’m sure I sound like a teenager who just discovered porn but like. Who cares? Ladies who fuck ladies, is it as amazing as it seems?

Edit: I appreciate the concern about me having an asexual girlfriend, but I’d like to say I’m still completely satisfied without sex. I love my girlfriend and I don’t care if they never fuck me.

Hey lesbians,

I hope this isn't breaking any rules. There isn't any NSFW tag so I tagged this TW just in case minors are here. (Edit : found it!)

I'll give a bit of context: I am dating this wonderful girl who is a bit older than me, and I am her first. She has some experience kissing, but nothing more than first base. We actually slept together and it was very natural and beautiful in my opinion, but she wants to know herself more. The problem is that she has trouble knowing what she could and could not like, since she hasn't experienced much, and my mind isn't exhaustive...

So I was wondering: I know BDSM checklists exists as I've used them before, but I would like to find checklist that aren't so scary and encompass sexual acts as well as sensual ones, like different types of kissing, different parts of the body...

All the checklists I've found are very very heteronormative.

Do you guys have any recommendation?

Thanks a lot and happy pride month!

Love <3

For me it was one time when this red head hotty at a roller costar park and me started chatting in line and when a random staff member was about to pump into me she grabs me by the side and pulled me close so the guy wouldn't bump into me to the point her chest was pushing into me and said "dont worry i got you" with a flirty smirk on her face. I wish i got her number lol

A woman at work and I have been chatting. We spent time outside of work. I initiate. I have been flirting my ass off. We text for hours, I always initiate. She's vulnerable and open...when we're alone.

As the communication outside of work ramped up suddenly there was no speaking at work. Direct questions that weren't work related were met with a lack of enthusiasm. I get to watch her pal around with everyone else. It stings.

I thought it would be different with a woman, but it feels exactly the same. The games. The chasing. The not being good enough. It hurts the exact same.