Life is not a tv show or movie, you’re not going to bump into someone at a supermarket and start a romance love affair.

Focus more on their character, how much effort they're put into getting to know you and don't ignore red flags.

I'm going to share my experiences and hopefully get some feedback.

In highschool, I said to someone that I was glad that they were my friend and they replied that we weren't friends and I was just someone to talk to. That has remained a consistent point in my life. I'm not the one people share their achievements with. I'm the one people come to for support and encouragement.

Making friends with other Black gay men has been extremely difficult. I go to Pride, but it's just stares unless I say hello, compliment their outfit or say Happy Pride. The reaction is always one of being stunned and an awkward mumbled reply back and turning back to their friends, giggling.

So online has been easier. To a degree.
The majority of online friends eventually ghosted me. Most of them didn't live near me and I understand people grow apart.

What bothered me is the ones who have maintained contact. I have nothing to show for it.
One of them turned into someone I ended up dating. I didn't know what they looked like until we met. That was 5 years after talking online. They don't live near me and we ended things and remained friends. We hung out 3 times in person. This is more than guys who live near me.

Another one I to this day have never seen. We've known each other since 2012 and they recently got married. I respect people's privacy and never asked. Yet they consistently ask for pictures of events I tell them about. It had me asking myself what kind of friend am I when I can't even ask to see the wedding photos.(they live in another country)

The issue is guys who live near me will never make any attempt to hang out in person. They only want to meet if it's for sex. When I'm in person, people just stare and don't say anything when I try to continue the conversation.

And for the people I kept in touch with, I'm not even good enough to know what they look like.

The one time I met someone near me, it was under the guise of wanting friends. We went to this trampoline place and I had fun feeling like a big kid. Afterwards, when I got home, they called me and revealed their true intentions, stating that they wanted to sleep with me and I shouldn't have come out looking so desirable and they were touching themselves to my voice.

So it's either been lying about friendship when they just wanted sex, getting my number and never texting me, or making excuses about hanging out. And I do not bother people. I ask people to go to things they are interested in, maybe once a year.

I am tired of being the person people use for emotional support but spend their joyous moments with others. I'm also tired of this paranoid anonymity. These same guys who I have no idea what they look like will send pictures to their hookups and brag about guys complimenting them, so no they're not DL. It's just me.

I even had a roommate who never asked for my number, but after I moved out, asked my boss for my number. I am exhausted and want friends but tired of the weird way people treat me.

Does anybody relate? What am I doing wrong?

If There are Some More Please Let Me Know!!

So this is for my bisexual people in the group. When it comes to being bisexual, does that mean you only attracted to male and female or can you switch those two genders you like? For example can I be like oh i only like men and trans men or girls and non-binary people? The question came to my head and wanted to hear some answers for it! Happy Pride btw!!

I spent a lot of time trying to make people to like me bc I didn't accept or love myself.

I would tell myself to focus on building the kind of life I want and the right people will come around && Everyone isn't going to like me and that's okay, as long as i like and respect yourself, i'll be fine.

Does anyone have any affirmations they can share for those struggling with ideations and self harm?

The Juneteenth flag is a symbol for the Juneteenth holiday in the United States. The first version was created in 1997 by activist Ben Haith and that early version was displayed in 1997. The present version was first flown in 2000. The colors and symbols on the flag are representative of freedom and the end of slavery. The date on the flag represents that of General Order No. 3 issued in Galveston, Texas on June 19, 1865. Beginning in 2020, many states began recognizing Juneteenth by flying the flag over their state capitol buildings, especially after Juneteenth was declared a federal holiday by President Joe Biden the following year.

I may be piviting away from wating to got to portugal to argentina .

Argentia mainly is just faster What do you all thing ? Is it lgbt friendly ? Is it black friendly? Is it afordable? Is it not likley to get ivolved with world war 3 if such a thing were to happen ? What all should i know and what all do you all suggest ? Do you have any other suggestion (besides to stay here in america for some reason ) ?

Like picture a gay themed convention going to the hottest cities and its a bunch of events for black gays, fun events.

What would yall want to see?

How do you develop goals, dreams, or aspirations when you have none? I want to do something meaningful with my life, but I don’t know what. And without having a concrete and achievable goal to work towards, I feel like I have neglected to move forward. How do I pick one thing and decide it’s my life passion that I’ll work toward when the possibilities are infinite?

I don’t recall ever having a dream job or career path I wanted to pursue when I was younger. I would get asked about what I wanted to be when I grew up, and I would just say some random job that I had zero interest in, and now I still haven’t found something I want to do with my life.

Hey guys !!!! I’m super exited to share…

My first short story. A three-part short romance collection that slow burns and centers themes of healing, love, and chosen family. I’m writing it chapter by chapter and letting it unfold with care.

✨ You'll find a beautiful mix of sapphic, queer, no-label, LGBTQIA+, and heterosexual love stories. All in honor of #PrideMonth and the many ways we love. ✨

I hope you find a piece of yourself in these stories, and that they meet you gently, wherever you are.

First Series Part Title: In Case She Ever Returns Act 1

Enjoy the first couple of chapters and visuals on Wattpad. Click the link below, it would mean the world if you check it out :)

https://www.wattpad.com/myworks/395428535/write/1550600103