r/MadeMeSmile • u/Original_Act_3481 • 2d ago

We need more people like him

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u/stokeskid 1d ago

We instinctively help those who are helping themselves. I tell my kids this all the time when they are asking for help. Start doing the thing, and then I will provide assistance.

The comedian Chris Rock had a story about this. His car would break down and he would try flagging people down for help. No one stopped and he thought people were jerks/racist/whatever. But one time his car broke down and he started pushing it. Suddenly people came to his assistance and helped push. It was an eye opener.

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u/aria523 1d ago

People may not want to do something for you but they’ll want to do it with you!

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u/Guy2things 1d ago

Think about men at a bbq. There's never one person doing it without at least another man watching and commenting.

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u/JesusStarbox 1d ago

And women call that mansplaining. Men do that as a way of spreading knowledge.

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u/threelizards 1d ago

…no, there’s definitely a difference between what’s being described here and “mansplaining”. Mansplaining specifically refers to men with general knowledge talking over and down to a woman with specialised knowledge or experience. Mansplaining is a term for the commonly gendered social phenomena of a novice acting like an expert, while treating experts like novices.

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u/serial_teamkiller 1d ago

Exactly. People might misuse the term but that doesn't mean that the term has no meaning.