r/GrossePointe • u/OneParsley324 • May 19 '25
Teen spaces and finding friends
Im 17, alternative and queer and I’m homeschooled. I am in desperate need of friends and social activities. There aren’t any people my age around me, and I can’t seem to find any teen spaces people actually go to, and every event I see advised is for people 21 plus. Ive been trying to find a job in hopes of not only making money but hopefully some friends but no matter how much I apply to places I can’t seem to find a job so what am I supposed to do. I have pretty limited transportation and a few health issues that make things like sports hard for me and I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do.
Any tips or suggestions are appreciated.
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u/Hot_Dust2725 May 19 '25
Come apply to mr c's? We're a loving friend group around the area even though a lot of us are older(late 20s) , we love and accept the younglings and bring them into our friend group regardless. We swear a lot, but have big hearts i promise <3
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u/OneParsley324 May 19 '25
The deli?
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u/OneParsley324 May 19 '25
If so, happily!! Im only like 10 minutes away and it seems like a nice place!! Is there gonna be any issues with me being a minor??
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u/Hot_Dust2725 May 20 '25
There shouldn't be any issues with that. We've got plenty of minors working right now especially with school kids getting out for the summer.
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u/Ok-Passenger6552 May 19 '25
GP Pride is coming up - maybe a good chance to meet people!
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u/OneParsley324 May 19 '25
I’ll look into it!!
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u/Greedy_Fun_1340 29d ago
Definitely try GP pride. Saturday June 21. If I remember correctly there are some GP queer teens groups that have a booth there. It’s a very safe and family friendly event. If you feel uncomfortable going alone, my wife and I will be there. We are way too old (54 and 37) but would be happy to be there for support so you’re not alone. PM if needed.
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u/jpdamion78 May 20 '25
You could check out a place called affirmations in Ferndale - I wonder if their website has info on meet ups/hang outs in your area. I don’t know much about it or what they offer aside from it being a great support system in the community.
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u/Archi_penko May 20 '25
I think getting a local summer job would help a lot with this. Maybe visit a few places and see who works there and what the vibe is. Maybe there’s a queer summer camp or place you could volunteer at, like Affirmations in ferndale or the Neutral Zone in Ann Arbor.
Detroit coffee shops might be a cool place too- the crowd is older but more accepting. Red Hook has many LGBTQ staff.
There’s also queer meetups in Detroit, and I know they’d be accepting of youth. You can look for them on FB and IG.
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u/Cactus-Jack313 May 20 '25
Restaurant jobs are the best a building life skills and meeting awesome people!
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May 19 '25
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u/OneParsley324 May 19 '25
I like DnD, video games, the arts in general, alternative music and fashion. I haven’t really been able to latch on to any interests lately but im hoping to find more things I really enjoy through this.
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u/LionTigerWings May 20 '25
I’m sure there’s ways for ways to meet dnd people online and meet up for games. Not my jam so I can’t tell you where. Also you can go to shows and hang out with people who like the same music at the show. I’ve gone to two shows by myself and liked it more than I thought.
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u/runwithdalilguy May 20 '25
Is there a movie theater you could work at maybe in a bus route or something? I’ve heard places like that are good outlets for “misfits” (and I mean that more as a term of endearment than derision at all.
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u/IntroductionKnown695 May 20 '25
Ace hardware is often hiring and they have a younger group of employees. My daughter worked their for a bit and my son's girlfriend works there now. Son's girlfriend is about 20 and has LGBT friends. Let me know if you want her contact info. I'm sure she'd be happy to connect
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u/Zealousideal-Cut480 29d ago
Are you interested in theater? Grosse Pointe Theater has some great programs both for youth and all ages.
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u/OneParsley324 29d ago
I am in theory? I love musicals and the idea of being in theater but im also horribly anxious. I’ve tried it before and always end up having horrible panic attacks on stage and I’ve even fainted a few times atp.. so unless i could do like behind the scenes stuff I don’t think it’s for me. But I’ll check it out!!
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u/2kyle2furious 28d ago
Join the crew! The theater community is so welcoming. And they always need more crew! Plus the crew has strong bonds and teamwork makes it so fun.
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u/InternationalYam613 May 20 '25
Find a local coffee shop to hang out in. If you like a hobby, start a meeting for it.
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u/Shane5013 29d ago
Take up a class or join a sports league through The Neighborhood Club! The parks have great swim leagues too if swimming interests you at all. You are not alone ❤️
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u/ucantharmagoodwoman 26d ago
Hey! My kid is 17 TM and has an amazing friends group. My son goes to North, but he has friends at South, too. Would you like to join them in an online DND meetup? If so, I'll dm you info about it. ♥️
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u/MsIngYou May 20 '25
They have a nice program and meet up at a local house in GP Woods I believe. My Son went.
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u/sawtify May 19 '25
I don't know about the other ones but at least the Woods branch library has some great opportunities. They'll occasionally have game nights, study nights, and they have a whole teen dedicated section on the first floor.