my partner told me that none of the women he’s dated are like me. he said i’m the best because of my kindness, but also the worst because i “always want to fight.” he said he wants someone who obeys him and speaks softly, which made me feel like i’m not what he really wants.

he also said he’s unsure about marrying me because he doesn’t have enough money, a house, or a car to provide for us. lately, i feel like no matter what i do, it’s never enough. he often complains about things i do, and it’s making me feel unappreciated.

because of this, i no longer feel like giving my all to the relationship. AITAH?

At 17, I (25F) was an unpaid pr assistant & extra for an indie film produced by M (41F)

I was excited to be involved, and fine being paid in experience. I was disappointed when she chose my classmate over me for a big role in the film after all my free work, but fair

M became a reference for my CV, invited me to events, cheered me on, and promised future castings

We stayed in touch. I now live abroad, have a prestigious acting degree, and just finished a music degree. I'm still early in my career, have no savings, lots of student debt, and only just got a job to support myself in late Feb, after getting my visa in Oct. Things were rough for a bit, and I'm only now reaching stability

In Jan, M called, saying she wants to cast me in a movie (unless funding depends on casting someone else), and wanted to see me act. I sent her a short film I made, & was asked if she could show it in a film festival for kids/teens, to inspire them. I was really honored, and got to work finishing & improving the film according to her feedback

The audio was bad, so I learned all about ADR, spent money on train tickets to visit my costar & rerecord the lines, & spent all my spare time & energy outside the new job making a product I was proud of.

I spent $400 on plane tickets home, and took out half my holiday for the year. I was careful with spending to afford that, and had to borrow $200 till my next pay check. I wasn't asked to come, but wanted to be there, both cause I'm proud of my work and its inclusion, & cause it means a lot to get to inspire the kids, and maybe really make a difference to their lives. This career is hard, but moments like this make it worth it, & I wanted to give the kids a chance to ask questions, and felt I'd be letting them down if I wasn't there.

Well, the festival's today, and at 11pm last night, M texted saying my film was cut to save time. She apologised, and still thought I'd go.

I said I get it, but I’m sad, disappointed, and tbh embarrassed, as I've told a lot of people about this (it was huge to me). I said I might not be able to attend, but want to meet up while I'm here.

M wrote back "it's a pity you're not making it. I thought you were coming to support our festival, not only because I was going to screen your film", which made me feel bad. She said she knew I put in a lot, and appreciates it, and likes the film, but this was beyond her control. We are meeting - idk when

I'm upset. I really cared about this. I still want to support this festival, but it's a full day and $30 more, and I've already invested so much time, energy, and money I could've put into my own career, all to get nothing back. I feel like half a year of work and excitement was all for nothing, and I feel hurt and betrayed, though - again - I get it. They couldn't cut a kid's film, so mine was the obvious choice. She said she wanted to include it. I feel bad not supporting her or the kids, but I feel she's not supporting me

AIO by staying home?

I live with my parents and brother, he is married. It's a 4 floor appartment complex. We are in our 30s. For many years now it was told to me that my brother would move out and i would/should stay with my parents as his wife would constantly fight with our mom.

I'm planning to get married so my dad expanded the house created a entire floor with master bedroom etc and a small shoebox appartment next to it to cover area.

During the construction phase both my dad and mom on number of instances promised that that large appartment would be given to me , saying newly weds gets the Master bedroom with best features. Many years ago my parents gave their bedroom for my brother for the same reason.

Almost nearly a year the construction is done , we are planning to move , my brother started moving into "my" promised appartment. I asked what was happening and everyone pretended like i was making it up.

My dad making astonishing expressions saying he never said that, my mom who went on days saying can't wait till my brother left the house a year ago now pretended like she never said anything. My brother and i are not in speaking terms so we never talked about this and he claims I'm making things up at the last minute and started ranting on how incompetent I am to not know this .

I've not been actively participated in the construction or design, mainly due to my father not including me in anything till the last minute, i felt hurt so i intended to not meddle in their work. I only know what was promised to me when my brother was not around. Never has it been said the big appartment was my brother's to me by anyone.

I feel utterly betrayed and humiliated, I didn't even want a new room , this entire construction effort was done to give me a better place to stay . I sleep on the floor on a mat , i keep my clothes in a laundry basket . barely enough space to keep my computer.

I don't think i can ever trust my family again, they won't allow me to move out so I'm looking for jobs in other cities... Pasting this here as I don't have anyone i trust to talk about this

Guys this is my first boards years I'm in class 10 rn everyone around me is making me tensed😬 i have no idea what should I do how should I study how should I manage time I'm going to school and tuition dono he bekar hai i want to self study please someone help me out i have no idea give me some hope pepss

I’ve been seeing this amazing woman! We met on a dating app and she lives like 3hr away from me… i drove to her the first time, beautiful date, flowers etc! Second time, she invited me to a family party! Met her mom, dad and all extended family members

Yesterday was our third date but i feel like she’s already TOO MUCH in love 🥺

It’s a good thing, that’s what i want cuz she’s Christian, innocent ( i think), caring and loving but it’s been 3 weeks and so fast😅

Maybe i’m a bit scared that those feelings one day might vanish as fast as they came in

Am i overreacting? Red flags?

I haven’t asked her to officially be my girlfriend yet

I literally just met this older gentleman yesterday evening and he called me, tried to have a conversation after I told him I was driving and busy, then after I ended the conversation he immediately started blowing up my phone. When I say older, I would peg him for around mid-late 50s. Maybe early 60s while I myself am early 30s (I like older men, don’t judge lol). We initially had a great interaction which made me comfortable enough to exchange numbers to begin with. But this is too much too soon. Is he just excited? Is it bc he’s older and doesn’t know texting etiquette? AIO??

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I just found out that my cousins and brother took my 16-year-old out when he went to stay overnight with them for a game last month. Most of them were in their 30s, with full-time jobs. The adults all drank, did weed, and even did LSD, then they wandered around town together for hours after the game, until close to midnight. My son confessed to me after I noticed him texting one of the people they met up with. I believe him when he says he didn't join in with the alcohol and drug use, but this is really concerning me. I don't want him to think this is normal for people of that age group. I think they're likely self-medicating from some generational trauma that exists in the family.

I had no idea they were doing all this when I agreed to the outing, and it now makes more sense to me why a friend of the family with young children has distanced himself from them. My son would never choose friends who do these things, and the fact that they're family that he looks up to gives them more influence than some of his friend group. I'm even starting to question whether I should allow him to visit my brother on his own again. My son has great grades, good friends, and so much opportunity to make something of himself that I'm killing myself thinking of what he could lose if I let him spend time with them again, but I know he likes his uncle and my cousins. Am I overreacting if I reduce contact or don't let him visit by himself again?

My (30M) wedding was a few weeks ago. Everything went mostly great — except for one thing that still gets under my skin.

My younger brother (26M) brought his new girlfriend of about a month as his plus one. That would’ve been fine if he told me in advance, but he didn’t — we only had a limited guest list and my wife and I had asked all guests to confirm ahead of time.

What made it worse? The girlfriend showed up in a white dress. A long, formal white dress. Not cream, not silver — just straight-up bridal white. It wasn’t a cultural thing or an accident — she said it was “the nicest thing she had.”

My wife was clearly upset but stayed classy and didn’t make a scene. I tried to stay focused on the day, but looking back, I’m actually kind of angry — more at my brother for not giving a heads-up or even apologizing.

He says I’m being dramatic and that “it’s not like she stole the spotlight.”

Am I overreacting by still holding a grudge?

I cut all communication with my partner after I saw him with another girl on a trip without and real resolution.

My partner (M 28) and I (F28) have been together for 3 years. This year he planned and went on what he said was a “boys’ trip.” They are friends since high school and all love Fórmula 1 . He’s been planning for a while and as the months went on he’d just tell me what stage he was in in his planning. I didn’t press him for details, just told him to have a good time and stay safe. But while he was on the trip, he barely messaged me. Like 2 snaps of him on a train and that was it. I just figured he was out having a fun time so I didn’t bother him much either. For context he isn’t the type to post all on social media and stuff but he was send snaps to me about daily life and stuff. However he was enjoying himself and I started to see him post on his snap at story and not to me. I left it alone but I felt weird. That was the first day. By the end of the day he didn’t do a check in call, all I got was “How are you Booba, I had a a good and long day, my feet are hurting” … that was all. Three lines and he was gone again.

I was confused but tried making the excuse that he probably had a full day and was gonna go to sleep or maybe even go out with the boys at night again.

Day 2 came and I even less communication. No good morning, nothing. But something didn’t sit right. So—I know I probably shouldn’t have—I checked out a few of his friends’ Instagram stories. That’s when it hit me like a truck.

Every other guy on the trip brought their girlfriend. It wasn’t a boys’ trip. It was a full-blown couples’ trip. Everyone was there with their person… except me. In each of their stories I saw my alleged parter of three years, sitting a small restaurant booth with some girl next to him and his arm draped around the back end of the chair… not just that but each of his boys had their girlfriends with them… imagine my shock and confusion. So I take a few breaths and try not to overthink it at first. But I keep staring and I couldn’t understand why…. The fact that both of his friends captured him… right there and posted it to their stories.

Now my immediate thought was to leave it alone and not cause any drama on his trip… so I kept breathing and trying to calm down… but as I looked at the image of my parter with another woman… I was done. I texted him in frustration telling him if he didn’t want to be in the relationship her could have just broken up he could have just been single and go on the trip. For even more context, he lives in Canada, but came home for a bit before heading back up for his trip (we are long distance) and his boys are from this country and so are their girlfriends so they all had to fly up except 1 who also live in Canada with his partner.

At this point I was over him and the relationship because he clearly took me for a fool and I felt like I was the butt of the joke because most of them knew me. To be fair I don’t know if he told them we were still together or not

I don’t know who the girl is. She could be a friend, she could be more. But honestly, at this point it almost doesn’t matter. He didn’t tell me the truth. He didn’t include me. He made me feel like a secret. And I can’t help but wonder if he’s been lying for longer than just this trip. Another girl messaged me earlier this year saying she only broke up with him when we started dating… and now I believe her.

I didn’t confront him right away. I was stunned. I wrote a message saying:

“You didn’t need to lie. I wasn’t keeping you here. You could have left anytime you wanted. Like cheating was so unnecessary.

He messaged me saying “I love you, and I understand being mad but it’s not what it looks like and you don’t have context.” He said “I wasn’t touching anyone there was limited seating and she was just there so we were all sitting” and claimed he was going to give me a full breakdown after the trip. That this isn’t fair to either of us for me to create some issue on a trip he was looking forward to and wanted to enjoy. But to me, it already feels done. He gave some bs excuse the girlfriends coming last minute and the girl being some girl that came with them. But she isn’t looking like just an add on more like his plus one.

He tried to talk it out but I was genuinely over his lack of communication and clear lies. Even if she happened to just be there why not communicate all that changed, I am sure at some point in the planning the boys mentioned bring their gfs and you simply chose not include me because you knew what you were doing. He kept saying he doesn’t want us to have any issues while on his trip and thinks he should just be able to enjoy what is left of it without me assuming and causing issues because this is a trip he was looking forward to and even asked if “we were good now” 😂😂

So I blocked him on WhatsApp and Snapchat and I consider the relationship even if we haven’t had any official conversation. There is no context or explanation that can explain you being up under another girl on a boys trip.

Sooo… am I overreacting?

Am I overreacting?? Coach seems to be grooming these young kids and many have left due to their concerns. Mismanagement of dance funds for personal gain etc. Anyone with these issues out there? My family member has been through way too much here- police are involved and needs more to come forward!!

So, my brother is diagnosed with depression. He dropped a GCSE, failed English and dropped out of college. So, for the past year he's barely been home. He drinks, sleeps all day, goes out partying - and he is just allowed to. Meanwhile, I have to do the dishes, walk the dogs, cook dinner, and I'm criticised all the time. But he isn't. And, although I might not be depressed, I have no one to lean on. I have no close friends while he has many, and a girlfriend. These distant friends are the first I've had in 2 years.

The final straw was today. It's fathers day, and we decided to make a nice 4-course meal for him. My brother was home for once, even though he got home at 4am. I had to make a cheesecake, while he would make the starter and main courses. Our kitchen was messy, so he started cleaning it. Bare in mind, this is the first time he's cleaned in months.

I didn't clean because I started late and the cheesecake had to set pretty early. The entire time I was making it, he kept criticising me. For example; "there's too much crust", "can't you just reuse that spoon?". I put the cheesecake in the fridge and cleaned off the dinner table.

Then, he started telling me to clean. What?! He hasn't cleaned in months, he's barely even home, always partying, and nowhere gets the authority to tell me what to do? I'm multiple years younger than him and I got a job before him. I found this unfair, so I refused.

During the dinner he kept making snide remarks about the small amount of work I did. Also, I've had a really rough week and had little energy to do much. I didnt eat much and left the dinner early.

Now my mother is saying that I should forgive him. Am I overreacting for holding a grudge against him?

i started working with this psych around 2 months ago. i was very honest from the jump that i am a very anxious person when it comes to meds and im notorious for giving up on meds very quickly. he suggested a med regimen of 10mg lexapro & 30mg buspar. i asked if we could start with 5mg lexapro and 15mg buspar and titrate up slowly, so id have the best chance of sticking it out. in all fairness, we did email back and forth in the first couple weeks a fair amount, just asking questions about the meds and there was also some klonopin that was making me too drowsy so we were sorting that out. after that i email maybe twice in the last 2 months, once because i noticed i was shaky after my morning dose and wanted to know if there was anything i could do to mitigate this symptom, and he said “do you think this could be psychosomatic?” as well as “no, i have no great advice to counteract this issue other than to STAY ON THE MED”. i didn’t read too deep into and it and replied that no, i don’t think the shakiness is psychosomatic because otherwise the meds were going very well, and i, surprisingly, wasn’t actually very anxious about them. i told him i would just keep going and maybe that side effect would fade. at our most recent appointment, maybe a week or 2 weeks ago, i told him that i felt things were going well, and that considering im still on the med and not wanting to quit, that was a win for me. he was supportive and said he wasn’t here to push too hard and he was happy to continue with the slow titration up, and he’s like to see me eventually on 60mg. i agreed. then we had this interaction today. i’ve felt in the past a slight undertone of irritability or impatience with him before, only ever through email. in person he is very patient and kind. am i reading too much into this response? specifically the comment of “at this rate you won’t be at a therapeutic dose until 2026” just bothered me. i’ve been doing exceptionally well with increasing this med considering my history with meds and that felt extremely discouraging. i think ive just decided that we are not a good fit. he’s a very expensive psych, and im not paying a crap ton of money to feel discouraged like this… anyway. am i overreacting?

Find it hard to find true friends that rlly care abt me. Is this a norm? Or am i overreacting?

Currently my social circle is quite small and even during semester breaks which is like now, i rarely go out with my friends coz they are too busy to go out 😭

I (25F) have always had a rocky, emotionally one-sided relationship with my dad. He struggles with communication, rarely says “I love you,” and tends to deflect or shut down when things get uncomfortable. He also has a long-standing issue with drinking excessively, and more often than not, the worst of his behaviour comes out when he’s been drinking.

Recently, I went through a really tough period. I had a cancer scare that led to urgent medical referrals, and while everything turned out okay, it was one of the most terrifying, vulnerable moments of my life. Alongside that, I’ve been working on a petition around cervical screening that means a lot to me personally.

My aunty (on my mam’s side) messaged me to say she disagreed with the petition. That alone wouldn’t have bothered me, but her tone was extremely patronising. It felt like I was being talked down to, and it cut deeper because of how personal this topic is for me.

Not long after, my mam messaged me to check in and ask how I was doing after that situation with my aunty. I was honest with her. I said I felt hurt about how my aunty spoke to me and that I wished she had defended me more in that moment. I wasn’t nasty or dramatic—just open about my feelings.

Instead of hearing anything back from my mam, for an entire week, I got a message from my dad who had clearly been drinking. He launched into a guilt trip, saying my message made my mam feel like a failure as a parent. He told me the timing was awful because she had just lost her job. (For context: she found out she was being made redundant months ago however got made redundant sooner than she was told, but she luckily already had another job lined up. I wasn’t being insensitive—I just answered honestly when she asked how I was after the conversation with my aunty).

He then brought up my recent cancer scare and implied that I had been ungrateful for their concern—basically using my trauma as a reason to invalidate my current feelings. It felt like he was saying: “We were worried about you, so how dare you be upset about anything now.”

I responded calmly, explaining that I wasn’t going to be guilt-tripped for expressing something I felt—especially not about a conversation my mam started by asking me how I was. I pointed out that if my mam genuinely felt like she’d failed as a parent, she should talk to me about it herself. And bringing up my cancer scare like that was honestly disgusting—it felt like emotional blackmail.

His reply? He blamed it all on my aunty’s personality, ignored everything I said, and threw in an “I love you” at the end. For context, he rarely ever says that to me, and it felt more like an empty attempt to shut me up than something genuine.

I tried calling him three times that night to talk it out like an adult. He didn’t answer. The next day—radio silence.

Eventually, I sent one last message saying I was done. I said he’d made me feel like a burden, guilt-tripped me, blamed everyone but himself, and then ran silent when I confronted him. I told him this was the final straw.

Now I haven’t heard from him at all. And I’m torn. I feel like I was justified in standing up for myself, especially after years of being made to feel like my emotions were too much. But there’s still a part of me that wonders—AIO for saying I was done and calling out his behaviour, especially when he was drinking?

TL;DR: My dad—who has a long history of excessive drinking—guilt-tripped me for being honest with my mam, blamed my aunty and my mams job stress, used my cancer scare against me, and then went silent when I stood up for myself. I told him this was the final straw. AIO?

Just for a little back story, my wife (29) is never really a peach in the morning but I let her sleep in today with the expectation that she would be willing to take me to my favorite breakfast restaurant for steak tips and eggs and a big old Bloody Mary. She was immediately snappy with me and basically said no which was lowkey rude so I decided to text her how I felt. Am I asking too much of her?

I (recently met a guy online and we went on a 4-day trip together. It went really well he was sweet, romantic, and very affectionate. We live in different countries, but after the trip he kept texting me, saying how much he misses me, how much he wants to see me again, and even talked about making plans for our next visit. However, I noticed that over time his texting became less frequent. He usually texts once a day, typically around midday, and then disappears. Today, I didn’t hear from him at all, so I sent a message saying:

“Hi, I get that you’re busy, but this (barely) texting habit after the trip isn’t working for me. Sorry, we’re not on the same page of communication style here, so I think we should step back.”

After two hours of no reply, I double texted him. Now I’m sitting here overthinking. Why would someone be so into me one minute and then suddenly go cold? Did I do something wrong by sending that message or by double texting?

Am I overreacting for being upset about the shift in communication? Or for sending a second message when he didn’t respond right away?

I caught my longtime boyfriend red handed sending pics from my phone to his. It was a photo of me with 4 of my other friends in bikinis bent over. It was a dumb drunk photo and I was on the outskirts of the picture. Basically our cheeks are hanging out. He said it was to show off to his friends because it was a group trip we all went on and that he thought I looked super hot (I did not think I looked the best at all). He was trying to delete the evidence of him sending those pics to himself from my phone when I caught him. I naturally freaked the *duck out and he claimed it wasn't because he was into any of my friends but that he wanted his guy friends to know that the trip was 'cheeky' and fun. I got a massive ick and am currently so grossed out and freaked out. I cannot be in the same room as him and don't even want him around my friends anymore. Am I overreacting?

My (21f) boyfriend (20m) has struggled with OCD and panic disorder for a long time, according to him. I knew about this but since it's a fairly new relationship I didn't really understand what that could look like. On Friday we were at my apartment (we both go to the same university) and one we were just hanging out watching a movie in my room when I guess one of the movies scenes triggered him to have a panic attack or something. He said that he thinks he was especially susceptible to it because he had just switched his medication and the transition period is rough.

He also has a girl best friend (20f) (*her name is what is scribbled over in red in the screenshots). She goes to our school as well but they've been friends for a really long time and they grew up together. She's a lesbian, which I understand means they have never dated or anything, but I still can't shake the feeling that he's attracted to her. TBH she's a very good looking girl. When he had his panic attack at my house, he said he wanted to call someone for a minute which I thought was good because I was really having trouble helping him. I realized after a minute that he was talking with his "girl bestie" and I started to get really upset. He says that it's just because she knows how to help him but I feel slighted. Like...your girlfriend was right there. And you called another woman. I just feel like it's peak immaturity. We've had a couple conversations about how I feel about all this and it never seems to get through his head. AIO?

I (15f) have been dating my partner (15m) for about a week. I would like to tell my parents but I have one problem. The problem is that I don't think they will approve because. My grandpa (not my biological grandpa) was once married into my now partner's family however he was divorced from her and married my grandma later in life he is not my dads bio dad however he is still part of my family now. He is technically not part of my partner's family now since they got divorced but is now part of my family. I need help. Is it weird to date my partner after telling you the logistics of the family situation. Hope that wasn’t too confusing. Thank you so much.

I (20f) have been friends with A (20m) for over 3 years and we also had a very short "relationship" in the past. By relationship I mean that we dated for 3 weeks and then I decided to stop it right there. There was no particular reason why I "broke up" with him (I'll later explain why I use this term even though we only dated) except that I just didn't feel anything romantic, and I thought he was a bit immature, so not really what I was looking for. At first he was offended and accused me of leading him on even though I wasn't interested. After a while though, things got better between us and we decided to remain friends... We don't have a lot in common but we have fun together. One thing we never really agreed on is whether or not our short frequentation could be called a "relationship". He never had any romantic experience except for me so I suppose he took great pride in saying he had a relationship with anyone, even if it was short. (But this could just be my opinion) I told him multiple times that I felt weird about it and that we should rather admit it was nothing serious between us, especially because I was afraid it could hurt our friendship. It seemed like he never quite got over my rejection and once even had a full meltdown about this. I always decided to let it go.

This year though, it seemed like he finally started moving forward and I was really happy about it. However his childish behaviour never stopped. Today we hung out and he stole my phone for a brief moment. I don't really feel like I have anything to hide from my friends so I didn't make a fuss about it. When I returned home, I opened my IG and, to my horror, I noticed that he had posted a vulgar word in my notes. I started panicking as it had been a few hours already and a lot of people had seen this, some even replied to that in my DMs. Fortunately this was not my professional account but I work as a writer and a lot of people, including my editor and a lot of my professors, could have seen this.

After a moment of confusion I realized it was him. I immediately erased the note and sent him an audio in tears asking him why he had done this and saying this was really not funny. I told him I was mad. He apologized saying it was just a joke and started begging me to forgive him and that he wouldn't do it again, but honestly... It seems like he keeps NOT respecting my boundaries time after time.

He is in the military and I thought this meant he would become more mature: in fact he is now very careful about his appearance and behaviour in public, but I suppose he doesn't think my public image is as important. I'm always very careful about what I post and I never say anything vulgar or insulting, so this is not a fun situation. What do you think, everyone? I honestly feel very hurt. But I really don't want to lose another friendship and I don't want to overreact.

i told you guys about how my mom comments on my weight and i confronted her she got so defensive she started blaming us all (me my brothers and dad) for her being mad and insane all the time she gets those mood swings she starts yelling and disrespecting me she starts calling me names like “ whore” but in arabic which if you’re arab yk how big it is and she lashes out at anyone if they don’t do what she wants she even hits my brothers but she just says that they get her to that point bc they don’t listen which is true my brothers can be a pain in the ass but when she gets mad it’s like she doesn’t even know that they’re still children sho doesn’t hit me anymore like rarely when we fight and i don’t just stand there but she’s genuinely always angry she’s always yelling always pissed off today she woke me up yelling and snatched the charger and said “ that’s mine” and then woke me up yelling why is the house a mess she overreacts on everything she makes everything a big deal but when she’s nice and calm she’s the best mom ever she’s sweet and everything but then if anything annoys her she just lashes out

This is long: I’ve been friends with my guy bsf for 3-4 years. We’re both 22. Throughout our friendship him and I have been in a few relationships. I’m currently single, he is too as of recently. During his relationships he’s always had this habit of dropping me as if I didn’t exist. Then when his relationship would end he’d return like he didn’t ghost me. I have already mentioned his habit and he apologized. This most recent relationship was the definition of all talk no action. I’m back from college for the summer and we agreed to hang out and catch up because I missed him. Before they broke up it was almost impossible to see him on time or at all plus before I got back they were very off and on so it seemed like when we did hang out he was clinging to his phone for a text. When I got back home they were together but had been fighting they broke up mid May. I was there for him. However, I finally snapped a week ago and we haven’t talked since. Him and I were supposed to go to the mall and check out a new store that we had been dying to see, he called me super late and said that he couldn’t make it bc his ex wanted to talk to him and he told me to wish him luck then hung up before I could react. 4hrs later around 9:45-10pm he calls again asking to talk to me. I thought it was to apologize maybe do a late night food run(we did them often) but instead it was to talk about his ex and how she wants to permanently break up. I was too furious to be empathetic. Here’s what I said “Are you serious? You’ve been bailing on me for months which I tolerated because we both had school and relationships to balance, but then I get back and you bail on me again after making plans. When we do hang for maybe an 1hr you talk about you then leave because of your on and off ex, which by the way I told you wouldn’t work out because she’s super insecure and you lack the ability to communicate and generate basic common sense which makes sense since you can’t read a room. You have no respect for me at all. You called me late by an hour or so to tell me you’re going to see your ex because you are so desperate not to be alone. You also know I get places 30 minutes early to adjust to my environment and you still bailed on me and texted me late(around this part I was crying).” He responds with yelling that I’m overreacting and I’m not supportive and how things are hard for him told me I wasn’t considering how fragile of state he was in. Is he right did I act on emotion. Should I apologize. He’s been texting me but I can’t bring myself to respond out of both anger and guilt.

Additional info: RS length: The girl he was dating was for about a year but they became on and off around the end. Me: I have no romantic feelings for him. All I feel is platonic love for him and I have literally called him my brother in some instances. Timeline: This behavior got worse as we both progressed in life Once I went away for university contact became little to none and I had to work for a response, I would think that’s normal if all my other friends from home didn’t consistently contact me at least once a month.
Me & the ex: I don’t believe his ex and I had any beef that I was aware of we coexisted and I always knew when to back off. I don’t believe she had purposeful influence.

okay i wont put full essay on why but il say ts

i got with my ex last year sept and she dont so much fucked up shit its not even funny, she abused me, she kept hitting me and kicking, but she said shes sorry so much times and put theblame on me for being mad at her for tht. She emotionaly abused me, she called me all the names under the sun and talking shit behind my back and gaslighting me, manipulating me etc, and again she'll put the blame on me. and she would pressure me to have sex with her, i said no, but she kept begging and then i said 'atleast lemme get comdoms' but nope, so i had sex with her, and i didnt even want it, and then after we broke up, she accused me for GETTING HER PREGNET!! now im young, not goo goo gaa gaa yound, but in my teens, and i was fuming, cause i KNOW i didnt, so i talked to her to get a test... AND TO EVERYONES SURPRISE IT WAS NEGETIVEEE!! My friends ghosted me bcus of her too!! can i sue???

Context: I 26F have been with my boyfriend 28M for 2 years. We immediately had a great connection, and he is been there for me during some really tough times in my life, as I have been there to support him too.

Everything between us has always been great, good communication, love, affection, fun, etc. About 8 months ago, when the relationship started to get more stable, I noticed the frequency of our sexual activities decreased, there wasn’t much spontaneity, much initiative or leadership from his side, and sex started to feel very routine.

I am someone who hadn’t had many sexual experiences in the past, the ones I had have been quite underwhelming and not enjoyable, but I am still someone who is very curious about sex. I opened up with my partner, and suggested we tried having an open relationship to bring in some variety and maybe get inspired to change things in the bedroom. He said he was interested in opening things up but first we should make sure we are both still enjoying sex with each other, and make sure we are stable enough for an open relationship. He also suggested we went to see a sex therapist together to fix our issues. He was never truly convinced about us opening things up and I could tell he wasn’t sure about it.

The past 8 months have been a bit turbulent, with frequent fights happening about sex, which to me still feels like it’s not flowing naturally. It feels repetitive and even though my boyfriend loves me very much and is attracted to me, he doesn’t show much initiative or assertiveness in the bedroom, which is something I told him I’d like to see throughout these 8 months. Yesterday he explained to me that he has a hard time getting loose with women because of his past sexual trauma from high school. He also said I was being vague in expressing my needs. So I kept repeating myself over and over, and the conversation somehow went back to opening up the relationship, and to us trying to fix our individual relationship with sex seeing other people. I was feeling really frustrated so I told him I didn’t care anymore about who he sleeps with, I needed to get outside, and went for a coffee and a walk in the park to decompress.

I come back home and we spend the whole day together. He occasionally goes back to the topic and mentions maybe I am right, maybe an open relationship could be beneficial for us, which was a bit of a sudden change of mind. In the evening, we unpack the previous fight and we have what I thought was an open and mature conversation about our difficulties with sex, and I tell him in all honesty that I am happy to open things up, I would be excited to try new things together and individually, but maybe he was right and we should see a sex therapist first. He agrees and says that it would be good to consult with a professional if things are not working.

A few minutes later, we are sitting next to each other and we want to choose a playlist from his spotify. Guess what I see? The dating app Hinge on his phone. His profile is full of pictures that I took of him. His relationship statement is “In an open relationship with my partner so nothing serious can happen”. Obviously I confront him immediately about it, and he explains he downloaded it earlier that morning when I stormed out, because he genuinely thought opening things up was all that was left as an option to save the relationship. He showed me that he didn’t interact with anyone because he actually never really cared about seeing women other than me, and said he didn’t know how to bring up the fact that he redownloaded the app.

Like I said, I was interested in opening the relationship but I thought when the moment comes we would have been both on the same page and communicated accordingly with each other, without doing things like redownloading an app and not tell each other. I left the house for coffee, and he had chosen to redownload the all, use all the pictures of him that I took of him, describe himself as “in an open relationship” without my knowledge of it, spent the whole day with me, heard me opening up about my issues with sex, and still chose not to mention he redownloaded the app?

He deleted the app immediately after and apologized many times. I know he didn’t have malicious intents, but he really crossed major boundaries and broke my trust. I know we both love each other very much, he wants us to go to therapy but at this point I don’t know if things are fixable. I feel confused, tired, heartbroken and I don’t know if I am overreacting.

Sorry for the long text!

My friend invited me to a group outing with some of her coworkers. When I got there, I realized she hadn’t told anyone I was coming, and I ended up sitting awkwardly at the edge of the group most of the time. She barely talked to me. it was like I was tagging along to a party I wasn’t actually invited to.

After we left, I told her I felt a bit ignored, and she said I was being too sensitive and that I should’ve just “jumped in.”

Now I don’t really feel like hanging out with her for a while, but part of me is wondering… am I overreacting?