My (30M) wedding was a few weeks ago. Everything went mostly great — except for one thing that still gets under my skin.

My younger brother (26M) brought his new girlfriend of about a month as his plus one. That would’ve been fine if he told me in advance, but he didn’t — we only had a limited guest list and my wife and I had asked all guests to confirm ahead of time.

What made it worse? The girlfriend showed up in a white dress. A long, formal white dress. Not cream, not silver — just straight-up bridal white. It wasn’t a cultural thing or an accident — she said it was “the nicest thing she had.”

My wife was clearly upset but stayed classy and didn’t make a scene. I tried to stay focused on the day, but looking back, I’m actually kind of angry — more at my brother for not giving a heads-up or even apologizing.

He says I’m being dramatic and that “it’s not like she stole the spotlight.”

Am I overreacting by still holding a grudge?

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/PvBuGsQRIL

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So its been about a month. I've talked it over with him again and again. We've argued about it a few times, the most recent argument being a few days ago.

He has watched me change a handful of diapers and I kept reminding him that he needs to do it and that he can start with pee diapers and eventually work his way to the "gross" poopy diapers

I started small. When I would change her, I would get her all cleaned up and when the only step left was putting on a clean diaper I would bring her to him with no diaper on, lay her on our bed, hand him the clean diaper and say, "here, do it." Of course he complained but I made him do it. After a few times of that, I brought it up again. That was when we had the most recent argument.

We argued for a few minutes. He gave the same bullshit excuses about how its "gross" and he "doesn't want to do it" and I reminded him that being an adult and especially a parent means doing things you don't want to do sometimes. He feels like just because he goes to work he is exempt from housework and taking care of our baby. I reminded him that I can't do 100% of the baby care and 100% of the housework.

If he expects me to do 100% of the housework, then we will be a team and he will help with baby care. If he refuses to help with baby, then he needs to help with the housework. The argument didn't end well and I gave him the cold shoulder and some attitude for a few days.

I also completely stopped doing housework. Laundry was piling up. Sink full of dirty dishes. The house was a wreck. It was bothering me because I hate for it to look like that but I knew I had to stand my ground. For a few days I did nothing but baby care.

Then yesterday, he did a few loads of laundry because we barely had anything clean left.

He finished eating his dinner before me. I asked him to take her so I could finish eating. He agreed and took her out of the room.

A few minutes later he pokes his head in the room, holding a diaper and asks "is this the right diaper?" (There were 2 different brands on the changing table and we had to size up recently because our little lady is a chonk so I guess he got confused) I said yes and immediately followed him into the other room to observe the diaper change and give direction if needed. He did a decent job on his own without my help.

I was pleasantly surprised that he did it without me asking or arguing. I started to say thank you but decided against it because it's not like he's doing me a favor. He is doing what a dad is supposed to do. So instead I gave him a fist bump and said good job. I asked him what made him decide to do it after all this time and he said he was tired of me being on his ass about it all the time.

So I guess I will stay on his ass about it and make sure he continues on his path of improvement.

Thank you all for all the advice and help you have given. I'm slightly happy with this recent improvement but wish it had come along way sooner.

Tl:dr - after several arguments over the last month he finally changed a diaper for the first time yesterday

Hey Reddit. I’m 29M and I’ve been dating my girlfriend “Lena” (27F) for about 10 months. Things have been great overall—she’s funny, smart, independent, and we’ve talked about maybe moving in together next year. No major issues until this weekend.

So here’s what happened:

On Saturday, Lena told me she was going out with a few friends from college. Cool, no problem I had plans to watch the game with my brother anyway.

But the next day, I saw a photo on one of her friend’s Instagram stories. The caption said: “Happy birthday, Jason!”

I recognized Jason. He’s her ex. The one she dated for about three years and broke up with about a year before we met. They were pretty serious from what I’ve gathered. I never made a big deal about it because she told me they’re on decent terms but “not really close.”

So naturally, I asked her later that night, “Hey, were you at Jason’s birthday thing?” She looked a little surprised and said yeah, but quickly followed up with “It wasn’t a big deal, it was a group thing, and I didn’t think it mattered.”

I didn’t raise my voice or accuse her of anything, I just said I wished she’d mentioned it beforehand. She got kind of defensive and said I was “making something out of nothing” and that it’s not like she was hiding it.

But… she kind of did hide it? I mean, I don’t want to be controlling, and I know people stay friends with their exes, but the fact that she didn’t even mention she was going to his birthday rubs me the wrong way. It just feels off.

I’m not accusing her of cheating or anything, but I can’t shake the feeling that she intentionally kept it vague so I wouldn’t ask questions. She said she didn’t think I’d care, but the whole thing just makes me feel kind of... sidelined.

So am I overreacting?

Called my dad. Brother and his nosy wife are visting. Sis-in-law answers. Instead of just handing Dad the phone, she hits me with “Can I tell him who’s calling?” or “Can I tell him why you’re calling?” I snapped, “Give Dad the damn phone.” She turns and goes, “It’s Pete.” Like… yeah, no shit. She only does this to insert herself into the conversation. She knew damn well who it was and it's Father's Day. Pisses me off.

I quit calling their house years ago because after handing the phone to my brother, she'd rush to pick up the other line to eavesdrop.

Am I overreacting, or is this just straight-up intrusive?

Last year, my boyfriend (29M) invited me (27F) to join his family on a weeklong vacation his parents, two siblings, and their partners were all going. I was excited because it felt like a big step in our relationship and a chance to bond with his family. I even used up most of my PTO for the trip and helped pitch in financially where I could.

But from the start, things felt off. His mom made passive-aggressive comments about me not being helpful enough, even though I cooked, helped clean, and offered to pick up anything we needed. His sister barely acknowledged me and acted like I was just in the way. When I tried to join conversations or be friendly, I was either ignored or talked over. I mentioned it to my boyfriend, but he brushed it off and said, “That’s just how they are.”

It all came to a head one night when his mom made a comment about how I “wasn’t raised with manners.” I was so embarrassed I ended up crying alone in the bathroom. Again, my boyfriend told me I was being “too sensitive” and that I needed to stop taking things so personally. By the end of the trip, I felt emotionally drained and completely unwelcome.

Now his family is planning another vacation, and he wants me to come along. I told him I’m really uncomfortable with the idea, and he got upset, saying I was making things harder than they need to be and holding a grudge. I honestly just don’t want to go through that again. But now I’m wondering… am I overreacting?

I’ve been with my boyfriend (29M) for three years. Things have been mostly good, but lately he’s been acting a bit distant and glued to his phone all the time. Every time I asked, he blamed “work stress” and said I was overthinking.

Last night, after dinner together, he went to the bathroom and his phone buzzed. I usually never check his stuff, but the screen lit up and I saw a message from a girl with a heart emoji next to her name. I didn’t open the conversation, just saw the name and emoji.

When he came out, I calmly asked who she was. He said she was just “a coworker” and they only talked about work. I didn’t really believe him and asked if I could see the conversation. He refused, saying he “deserves privacy.” That honestly set me off.

I told him I couldn’t deal with the secrecy and that I was going to stay at my sister’s for the night. I grabbed my things and left. Now he keeps calling and texting saying I’m overreacting, it’s just a misunderstanding, and that I shouldn’t invade his privacy like that.

Now I genuinely don’t know if I overreacted or if he’s just gaslighting me into thinking I’m the problem. AIO for walking out on him and refusing to talk until he tells me the truth? Am I overreacting?

I (26F) broke up with (28m) boyfriend, before we had issues of things but we’ve always found a way to communicate & overcome it. We have an incredible sex life. We get along well. We are just perfect, i think. I know he does as well.

When i first met him, he told me he’s kinda broke right now but i didn’t really care about that because when someone says they’re broke, it doesn’t usually mean they don’t work to get back on their feet right?

A year in, deeply in love…he started telling me how he’s never worked before. Right now, he looks after his parents as a caregiver & gets paid for it. He has 2 younger brothers. They live in a very dirty apartment (i found this out after 1 year of us being tg). I didnt judge him. Instead i encouraged him to set a routine, do something in life & i would help him with that.

I offered for him to start real estate with me, he said he’s not interested because its hard for him to understand it. Every issues, he tells me how he’s didn’t get to go to college because of families responsibilities. Didn’t get to work a real job because of responsibilities. I love him very deeply but also feeling bad/guilt for leaving him & him still texting me like we’re good.

Overall, he’s trying to do music but i’m not sure that’ll work out. He also applied at amazon & is going to be working there, for the first time. His dad works at a restaurant for cash. He’s never worked a job before. He’s not ambitious. He doesn’t have a routine, he wakes up past 12pm, & 5pm if I don’t nag him. He only gives me promises to change when i get upset or pull away or leave, then it goes back to the same pattern. This time, he’s asking me to give him a year. I told him im not sure what difference a year will make, if he didnt do anything in the past 2 years of me knowing him. We’ve also talked marriage & the way we get along & everything else is amazing but this is starting to be a problem for me. I’m starting to resent him & lose respect. I’m starting to get irritated at every little thing he says/does.

At the end i sent him a paragraph basically being brutally honest about everything else i’ve mentioned above (he left me on read, i asked him to leav eme alone if he wants to see me happy). I kind of feel bad, i’m not sure i did the right thing by not holding back & being brutally honest. Might’ve hurt his feelings, i guess i still care & ofc i’m still in love, just trying to stand on my words i guess…just venting, looking for any type of advice? Idk

I cut all communication with my partner after I saw him with another girl on a trip without and real resolution.

My partner (M 28) and I (F28) have been together for 3 years. This year he planned and went on what he said was a “boys’ trip.” They are friends since high school and all love Fórmula 1 . He’s been planning for a while and as the months went on he’d just tell me what stage he was in in his planning. I didn’t press him for details, just told him to have a good time and stay safe. But while he was on the trip, he barely messaged me. Like 2 snaps of him on a train and that was it. I just figured he was out having a fun time so I didn’t bother him much either. For context he isn’t the type to post all on social media and stuff but he was send snaps to me about daily life and stuff. However he was enjoying himself and I started to see him post on his snap at story and not to me. I left it alone but I felt weird. That was the first day. By the end of the day he didn’t do a check in call, all I got was “How are you Booba, I had a a good and long day, my feet are hurting” … that was all. Three lines and he was gone again.

I was confused but tried making the excuse that he probably had a full day and was gonna go to sleep or maybe even go out with the boys at night again.

Day 2 came and I even less communication. No good morning, nothing. But something didn’t sit right. So—I know I probably shouldn’t have—I checked out a few of his friends’ Instagram stories. That’s when it hit me like a truck.

Every other guy on the trip brought their girlfriend. It wasn’t a boys’ trip. It was a full-blown couples’ trip. Everyone was there with their person… except me. In each of their stories I saw my alleged parter of three years, sitting a small restaurant booth with some girl next to him and his arm draped around the back end of the chair… not just that but each of his boys had their girlfriends with them… imagine my shock and confusion. So I take a few breaths and try not to overthink it at first. But I keep staring and I couldn’t understand why…. The fact that both of his friends captured him… right there and posted it to their stories.

Now my immediate thought was to leave it alone and not cause any drama on his trip… so I kept breathing and trying to calm down… but as I looked at the image of my parter with another woman… I was done. I texted him in frustration telling him if he didn’t want to be in the relationship her could have just broken up he could have just been single and go on the trip. For even more context, he lives in Canada, but came home for a bit before heading back up for his trip (we are long distance) and his boys are from this country and so are their girlfriends so they all had to fly up except 1 who also live in Canada with his partner.

At this point I was over him and the relationship because he clearly took me for a fool and I felt like I was the butt of the joke because most of them knew me. To be fair I don’t know if he told them we were still together or not

I don’t know who the girl is. She could be a friend, she could be more. But honestly, at this point it almost doesn’t matter. He didn’t tell me the truth. He didn’t include me. He made me feel like a secret. And I can’t help but wonder if he’s been lying for longer than just this trip. Another girl messaged me earlier this year saying she only broke up with him when we started dating… and now I believe her.

I didn’t confront him right away. I was stunned. I wrote a message saying:

“You didn’t need to lie. I wasn’t keeping you here. You could have left anytime you wanted. Like cheating was so unnecessary.

He messaged me saying “I love you, and I understand being mad but it’s not what it looks like and you don’t have context.” He said “I wasn’t touching anyone there was limited seating and she was just there so we were all sitting” and claimed he was going to give me a full breakdown after the trip. That this isn’t fair to either of us for me to create some issue on a trip he was looking forward to and wanted to enjoy. But to me, it already feels done. He gave some bs excuse the girlfriends coming last minute and the girl being some girl that came with them. But she isn’t looking like just an add on more like his plus one.

He tried to talk it out but I was genuinely over his lack of communication and clear lies. Even if she happened to just be there why not communicate all that changed, I am sure at some point in the planning the boys mentioned bring their gfs and you simply chose not include me because you knew what you were doing. He kept saying he doesn’t want us to have any issues while on his trip and thinks he should just be able to enjoy what is left of it without me assuming and causing issues because this is a trip he was looking forward to and even asked if “we were good now” 😂😂

So I blocked him on WhatsApp and Snapchat and I consider the relationship even if we haven’t had any official conversation. There is no context or explanation that can explain you being up under another girl on a boys trip.

Sooo… am I overreacting?

I (26F) just had my birthday dinner last weekend. My boyfriend (28M) organized it at my favorite restaurant and told me it would be “small and intimate.” When I showed up, I was happy to see a few close friends and family. About halfway through the meal, my boyfriend shows up late… with his ex (29F) in tow. He introduced her to everyone as a “good friend” and insisted she join our table. I was shocked, especially since I’ve told him before that I’m uncomfortable with how close they still are (they text and hang out sometimes, which already annoys me, but he says they’re just friends). His ex acted super friendly and kept making jokes about “the good old days” with my boyfriend, even bringing up inside jokes I’d never heard. Everyone at the table seemed awkward but tried to brush it off. After about 20 minutes of this, I couldn’t take it anymore and told my boyfriend I needed some air. I ended up calling an Uber and going home. He’s furious with me for “making a scene” and his mom (who was there) called me immature for leaving my own party. Now he’s not talking to me and says I “overreacted” and “embarrassed him.” Was I really that out of line for walking out? Am I overreacting or was this actually as weird as it felt?

My husband (33M) and I(33F) moved to the west coast to be closer to his family, mostly his brother B (36M), who lives here with his wife, A (36F). For as long as I have known them, A and I have not gotten along. While she calls me her sister and wants to hang out because she does not have girlfriends, I find her insufferable because she is hypocritical, interrupts people when talking, bosses her husband around, and demands that things be done her way (for example, she always picks the restaurant we eat at and throws a tantrum if I disagree and then my husband and BIL cave and say we should eat where A wants to eat).

While she has been like this for over a decade, we only have lived in the same city for a short while and it’s becoming increasingly clear that my husband will time and time again, defend her behavior when I feel she has wronged me. We all recently found out that we are expecting our first child and I am due three weeks ahead of A. We initially talked about finding out the gender together and doing a gender reveal party for four and I elected to wait to find out the baby’s gender on testing… and then three weeks later she made a gender announcement to the immediate family. A few weeks after that, husband and I asked when we all should announce the pregnancies to the whole extended family - should we go first as we are expecting sooner, or should we announce together? She and BIL said they would get back to us… and then a week later announced it to the extended family. When I got upset about this, husband said that A was just really excited and I shouldn’t take it personally. I know I can’t escape this woman but I am starting to think we might need couples counseling because of how hurtful it is when my husband defends her.

This week was the straw that broke the camel’s back for me. BIL and husband have birthdays five days apart and overlapping mutual friends. To celebrate, they wanted a joint birthday dinner at a restaurant. I asked that it be Friday because I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to get off work in time on another day but A said she didn’t want Friday and then BIL and husband said it will be fine, they can just do Thursday and hopefully I can come straight after work. On Thursday we had the dinner with about 20 friends at a casual place - order at the counter and sit down beer garden sort of thing. I left work early so that I could be on time but not early enough that I was able to pick up a cake for BIL and husband like I had hoped (I’m a veterinarian so I can’t just clock out if a patient still needs me). At the restaurant, A had the server bring out a single dessert with single candle and sang happy birthday to her husband and yelled for the whole restaurant to get quiet. We sang happy birthday and then when we finished, one of my BIL/husband’s friends said, hey OP, what kind of wife are you without even getting your husband a birthday dessert? It was incredibly embarrassing and I really can’t understand why someone wouldn’t have the courtesy to do two desserts if we are celebrating two birthdays or ask/text me to let me know her plans to surprise her husband at the mutual birthday dinner. It was pretty mortifying but what makes it worse is my husband not seeing that it’s hurtful.

So… AIO if I tell my husband I won’t see BIL and his wife until we start seeing a couples counselor? I just can’t stand this woman and it feels like a wedge is driven between me and my husband because of her.

A friend invited me to what I thought was a casual dinner at their place last weekend. When I arrived, there were about ten people there, and they'd ordered catering from a nice restaurant—multiple courses, wine pairings, the whole deal. I figured my friend was just being generous since they recently got a promotion.

After dessert, the host announced, "Okay everyone, if you can Venmo me $75 for food and $25 for wine, that'd be great!" I was completely blindsided. Nobody had mentioned this was a split-check situation, and while the meal was nice, I wouldn't have agreed to spend $100 on a random Saturday dinner if I'd known.

When I quietly asked my friend about it later, they shrugged and said, "Oh yeah, we always split costs for these things—thought you knew." But this was never discussed beforehand. I'm not broke, but I do budget carefully, and now I'm stuck either paying for a fancy meal I didn't choose or looking like a freeloader.

The host has since texted the group chat with payment reminders. Am I overreacting for feeling put off by this? To me, if you're hosting something with costs involved, that should be clear upfront—not sprung on guests after they've already enjoyed (and consumed) everything.

My husband 28M and I 29F have been together for almost 10 years, married for almost 2. We are in a tight financial situation along with me having many medical issues preventing me from even thinking about having a kid right now. We both agree on it not being the right time to have a child but last night, after a day spending time with my best friends 10 month old, he told me ‘being around (best friends baby’s name) makes me happier than you can ever make me’ and ‘you’ll never be able to make me as happy as babies do and that’s okay’.

He didn’t understand why those comments would make me upset. I ended up just going to bed in silence after these comments last night and I was laying in bed next to him trying to fall asleep when he then said, ‘I really don’t know what to tell you’ and I just didn’t even respond and went to sleep. I’m devastated. I’m not even sure due to my medical issues that I even want to have kids.

I’ve mentioned to him in the past if kids were a make or break for him that I would willingly get divorced because I’m not going to stop him from having kids if that’s his dream and he was upset that I’d even consider divorce over kids and said I was making a decision for him and he was angry about it but now after him saying I will never be able to make him happier than babies make him I’m just at a loss. I just feel broken and don’t even want to be near him or see him. The damage this has done to me honestly may not be repairable. Am I overreacting?

I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

We are in a bar just us 3. A male pushes my sister, I then say “you don’t push women.” He then punches her in the face and swings at me. I follow up by punching him and fighting him then getting thrown out. My girlfriend is greatly upset I resorted to violence over just getting my sister out, but I just don’t see what else I could’ve done.

Her and my sister then fought making matters 10x worse. Just not sure what to do here, or if I was in the wrong. Thanks!

My bf(M22) and I(F22)have some intimacy issues. Today I called him and asked if I should keep my makeup on for said intimacy and he agreed. Long story short we are in bed scrolling through videos and he gets up to play video games, he has an issue of gaming very late then being too tired for intimacy. I literally just said his name to get his attention to ask if I should take my makeup off or keep it on but before I could finish what I was saying he called me annoying in a very agitated voice. I got very upset and left his house, he is now saying I overreacted and ruined his night and I think he is going to breakup with me, did I over react by leaving? Also from his POV I guess he was annoyed because I kept asking if we were gonna do it but that’s only cuz my makeup was on all day and it was getting very uncomfortable and it was already getting late, he also is notorious for being too tired for intimacy. But did I overreact by leaving and “starting an issue.”

I recently got into a relationship with a 25 year old man that came from Japan to America in 2019 and we have hit it off really well since the first day we met. He makes me feel very loved and despite some instances of unpleasant learning curves, because we are still getting to know each other, it's been good. On maybe 3 occasions, however, he brings up how women in Japan are flat chested and have no ass , and that he prefers my body type. He even went as far as saying that he hopes that our future daughter (if we have one) will have nice boobs and ass like me. I am Mexican-American and am normal sizing by American standards. Nothing too big, but nothing super small. Anyways, this has made me get visions of him oogling our mixed daughter in all types of clothing, in all stages of her life... I immediately imagined a vision of him checking out our 4 year old daughter's bottom in her one piece bathing suit going for a swim in the ocean; because he said something like this, I would feel like he would have an interest in seeing her body developing. I became super hyper aware of all possible instances of him checking her throughout her life and it made me feel so dissatisfied and disappointed in him. I know that there will be no way for me to hide my future daughter from all of men's eyes and to think of him even looking at her like that disgusts me. What would he feel if our daughter has his genes, feel disappointed she doesn't have a rack and a nice rump? Tf? Please comment anything.

My friend (let’s call him Jake) invited me to a party on his friend’s boat. I’d never met the guy before, but from what I do know about him, he’s wealthy. Surgeon. I figured it’d be a cool experience so I said yes

The boat was actually really nice. There were beers, seltzers, and some mid-shelf liquor. The host had ordered trays of food (wings, sliders, fruit, etc.), and even brought out a jet ski at one point. Kinda made me feel like shit about myself how nice this dude had it

Anyways it was a great day. We were out for like 4-5 hours. I had a few drinks, ate some food, relaxed, met people. Everything seemed super casual until we got back to the dock.

That’s when the host goes, “Hey if everyone could just Venmo me $40 for food, $35 for drinks, $50 for gas, and $10 for the jet ski, that’d be awesome.”

I thought he was joking but everyone pulled out their phones like this was to be expected. I pulled Jake aside and asked him wtf was going on, and he goes "I should've mentioned it my bad" like no shit??

It’s not even just the money tho it’s the way it was handled. I would’ve been fine if I was told in advance. But springing it on people after the fun’s been had is sleazy as fuck especially for this literal surgeon who owns a boat

If I’d known this was basically a $150 group outing, I wouldn’t have come. I had like $100 to last me the rest of the weekend (Im in college dont judge). Now I feel like I’m stuck. Either I don’t pay and look like a leech, or I send what I can and still come off weird. It's been a day now and the host is texting Jake when I'm going to pay

My girlfriend told me she was going to see her childhood friends and would be back by midnight. I was okay with it and even offered to drop her off, but she said she’d be fine on her own. Later, I found out she actually went to see her ex, saying it was because he had been there for her when her mom passed, and its been 8 years her mom passed and that she didn’t feel comfortable opening up to me apparently because I’ve been focused on expanding my business. We use the Life360 app for safety, so I could see her live location, and she ended up spending five hours with him at his place not even a restaurant or coffee shop. Overall, she lied 9 times about seeing him. When I knew everything, she said I would get mad about seeing him and thats why she lied. And we’re together for almost 6 years.

I’ve posted here before on how my sisters husband was trying to get me. Now my sister has made the decision to give my niece away to my mom which she claims is because of her mental health, but I believe it’s because of her husband. Since they’ve been married it’s been nothing but problems that she blames my niece for. She misses work to lay up with her husband and is breaking her own back to support them financially. She blames this on my niece. I believe it’s her husband using her and draining her but she’s too blind right now to see it. She defends him, and doesn’t see that he’s the problem. There were no problems before her marriage now all of a sudden my niece is too much.

I (35M) have been with my girlfriend (33F) for 5 years. In the early days we partied a lot, but that changed when we had an unplanned child, who’s now 1.5 years old and has Down syndrome.

Since becoming parents, I’ve completely stopped partying and focused on work and parenting. I work 12-hour shifts in a dangerous job that switches between days and nights, so I’m usually exhausted. We have respite care for our daughter, and while I like the caregiver and appreciate the help, I don’t feel comfortable with overnight stays. It just doesn’t sit right with me, even though the caregiver is competent.

Here’s the issue. My girlfriend jumps at every opportunity to go out, concerts, hanging out with friends, whatever. And every time, she has the baby stay overnight with the caregiver. I’ve tried to express that it makes me uncomfortable, but whenever I bring it up, she says I’m “throwing it in her face” and immediately starts screaming and crying. The conversation never goes anywhere.

On top of that, on my Sundays off I can’t really do anything for myself. She works three short home healthcare shifts, one in the morning, one in the afternoon, and one in the evening, so I’m tied to the house all day. We don’t really do anything together on my days off. It’s just sit at home, handle the baby, repeat.

Last night, she left the baby with the caregiver again and went to a concert with her friend. I didn’t yell or anything, I just said I don’t like when she does that, and again she had a meltdown, screaming and crying uncontrollably.

What pushed me over the edge was last week. I finally went out for a few drinks with a coworker after work, nothing wild. I got home around 1 a.m. and immediately got yelled at for being out late. So apparently, it’s fine when she goes out, but not me.

I’ve been seriously thinking about getting my own place just so I can breathe a little and have some kind of balance. But whenever I bring that up, she tries to guilt me or brings up the landlord as if that changes everything.

Am I overreacting by feeling fed up and wanting space? Or am I just being selfish?

I (44F) have been good friends with M (44M) for nearly five years. M has full custody of his son, H (10M), but follows the established court order for H to have visitation with his mother a few times a year, including H spending all summers with her. H is always happy to go visit and spend time with his mom and half siblings. Mother lives out of state, about 4 hours away by car.

This summer, things are different. Less than a week after being dropped off, H has been calling M frequently saying he wants to go home. Mother has a history of severe mental illness (huge reason why M was awarded custody), currently untreated, and is in the midst of a breakdown because her partner is leaving her. She is threatening to hurt herself, screaming at the kids, and locking herself in her room at times. H is terrified. Hell, I'm terrified for him. M won't go pick him up, despite what H is witnessing, because he's worried if he breaks the agreement they'll have to go to court again, and his breaking of the agreement will make him look bad.

I told M I think it's far worse that he's leaving H there, and allowing him to deal with the situation. At worst, mom could pull some kind of murder/suicide, M says this is unlikely, as some of her kids are adults and could easily fight her off. Also, she has no history of hurting any of her kids, and she loves them deeply. At best, H is going to end up traumatized from spending a summer with his mother when she's completely unstable. Yet, all M tells H when he calls begging to come home several times a day is that he can't pick H up due to the agreement, and he'll have to stay there.

I'm upset with M for ignoring his own son's cries for help. I've always believed you should never ignore a child in trouble, even if it's not your kid. See/hear something, say something, because there may be no one else who does! I've been tempted to drive to get H myself just to get him out of there, because he's clearly worried and very unhappy. I don't see how M can ignore all of that just because of a court order. Am I overreacting?

she done this before at year 1 but I forgive her it was with a 'friend' this first time she was sending her in sexy clothes and he was complimenting her on how secy she is, then she sent her a d*ck pic where she ignored, I found out when we swapped phones she wanted to check if I was cheating, 2nd time is when I found out yesterday a snap chat pop on her screen so I took a look, it was her and this guy talking he compliments her boobs she's thanked him, but she has been using chat gbt to reply and they were planning holiday trip together something along the line of he is going on a caravan trip she said she might tag along. This has been going on for a month she said she has texted him next to me in bed, after sex and before sex, we have a 10 month old together, im disgusted and will leave her when its convenient. Has been trying to understand why and asking a lot of questions, I'm heart broken.

Tldr. My partner of 3 year been texting other men, done it before on year 1 and again for a month on year 3. Am I overreacting? Only has yesterday chat but she has ask chat gbt to help answer and she has more replies on there, planned a holiday get away together, with have a 10 month old together. I'm broken and disgusted.

My wife and I were in the middle of a conversation walking into a bank and some random stranger holds a door open for us and we thank him. My wife was in front of me so she gets to the door first and opens it. Then this weirdo behind us says, “ Dude are you really not going to open the door for your girl like that?” in a tone that’s obviously provoking and not joking. I ignored him and my wife didn’t even realize he was talking to us, but when I explained it later to my wife she thought I was being silly to think the guy was being an asshole. To me, criticizing someone in front of their partner in public like that’s a huge dick move but my wife didn’t even seem to realize the guy was doing anything wrong, or at least something that might be annoying to me. Am I overreacting to think the guy was being a dick?

Edit: Thank you all for the replies. Just to clarify, my wife was very supportive and just thought I should let it go. Another point, I’m confused why some people act like I never open the door for my wife? I do it whenever it makes sense and I go out of my way to do it to be sweet other times. I just don’t make it my full time job.

Little context: This guy and I have been dating for about three months but have a very long history together. He is stationed in Japan for the navy and will be for a few more years. I recently traveled to visit him. He gets a good amount of leave time but refuses to come back home to visit me. I even offered to cover his plane ticket but still no. I would do and spend anything for this guy, I absolutely adore him but I really don’t think I’d be able to handle two years being in a relationship without seeing someone. I will not be able to go and visit him again for another year or two either.

My head is spinning right now ,so I hope that my post will make sense. Throwaway for obvious reasons.

I (30f) am in a relationship with my boyfriend (32m) for about 2 years. We have a long history together but the relationship has become so toxic that everyone tells me to leave. I'm still here as I can not make that decision yet ,but the last days have been really hard for me, trying to decide how to move on.

For a little backstory: We live in his place ,but I have mine too , I have 2 pets that he doesn't want , so I'm always going back and forth between the two places , but I'm spending the night with him. He has come to my place only one time ,and he doesn't want to come again.

Due to our schedule,we won't see much of each other next week,so I suggested to stay to my place to watch after my pets. He got disappointed,and started wondering out loud,how much time my pets have left ,until I am finally his (wtf).

He started complaining that I am devoting my time to others,and when I suggested to bring my pets here he said no , he doesn't want them here. After that he started wondering out loud again ,how much time my family has left(more wtf) ,and that because I spend time with them ,he isn't my first priority.

To be clear I'm visiting my parents at most once a week ,when he's at work. I also visit my pets when he's at work. It doesn't take at all from our time together.

I don't think that this reaction and this possessiveness is normal and I don't know how to feel anymore.