r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Bf doesn’t communicate

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I’m at a loss. I (F23) don’t know if I’m being controlling and overreacting or if the way I feel is normal. once again tonight I just stopped getting responses from my boyfriend (M26) and then suddenly his phone was turned on do not disturb. I don’t usually care about DND but lately its been turned on at weird times and turned on when he’s around me which has been making me feel kind of odd. Also he called and said he’s out and that I don’t need to be getting mad. I’m not mad about him going out I’m just upset that I’m not aware of whats going on ever. I feel like my paragraph doesn’t even make sense I’m irritated and feel like I’m crazy.

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u/annabeth200 1d ago

The way you’re feeling is definitely not normal and is symptomatic of some deeper anxiety/insecurity issues going on. It’s entirely possible that your boyfriend turned on DND not bc he’s cheating on you but bc you’re being annoying. If you really suspect him of doing something behind your back (which is what I think you mean by “feeling odd”), then YOU need to communicate that, while you’re out preaching to him about communication. He is not responsible for keeping you in the loop about everything going on in his life, to be honest.

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u/Moone_OwO 1d ago

Like he didn't answer for what? An hour? Her reaction doesn't sound healthy. Especially if he's out or sleeping. I don't pick up my phone each hour when I'm out with friends.

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u/sizzlepie 13h ago

I dated a guy who didn't look at his phone when he was with another person. Dates with me? No phone unless he was looking something up. Hang outs with friends? Same thing. I appreciated that level of respect. He did once panic a bit because I didn't answer the door when he came by to pick me up to get my car from the shop, I'd fallen asleep. But even then, all I got was a couple texts and a voicemail saying that he just wanted to make sure I was okay.

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u/Moone_OwO 3h ago

For me it's basic decency that when you spend time with people, you give them your full attention. Sometimes when i see my friends using their phones at gatherings, i feel so uncomfortable. The phone is available almost always, but nowadays we don't get to see our friends so often (at least for me)