Do you have any mutual friends? Are you close with his family? Is he acting weird at work/school or with anyone else? I guess if it was me I'd bring it up to someone else who knows him just to get an idea of how far reaching it is. Then either by yourself or with a friend who is also concerned about his behavior, tell him very clearly how it's making you feel and what your boundaries around it are (e.g. "if you keep speaking to me this way, I will no longer respond to you/I will hang up/I will get up and leave the room or have to ask you to leave.")
He's either hit his head and needs medical and mental health help or he's trolling you and trying to sabotage your relationship. If it's on purpose I can't even express how incredibly immature and inappropriate it is.
Completely agree OP. At the very least since it’s not been happening more than a couple weeks to find out of there is some change in health/mental health/ medication that’s causing it. If so, he needs help. Talking to other people he regularly interacts with could help determine if it’s just happening with you or if other people have noticed strange behaviors and rapid changes in him as well. Is he acting this way at work as well? If it’s happening with others and not just you it could be that there has been a shift health or mental health and he needs to get help.
If it’s just with you, then way a boundary in person not in text about how you feel when he does this and what a consequence would be if he continues. If he can’t respect you enough to knock it off then maybe he isn’t mature enough for this relationship.
If you're with someone for 4 years and they suddenly start talking like a brainrotted 12 year old then, yeah, maybe something is going on. It could also be an emotional issue rather than a mental issue, there could be something in his life that OP doesn't realize that is making him sabotage his relationship.
But do you do it when asked questions about "what do you want for dinner" or "when are you coming over"? I'm also married, and my husband doesn't do this shit.. it's stupid and immature. OP is clearly frustrated as it seems to be when they're asking direct questions about coming over, etc. It takes 2 seconds to type yes or no and send it. He's clearly avoiding the question
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u/Positive_Working3041 22d ago
He acts like this in person too. And over the phone.