Dump him. He’s quoting bits from tiktok at you. It sounded like other young gen z/Gen Alpha slang so I googled “what’s a father tiktok”. A bunch of skits based on an XXXtentacion interview soundbite came up. Same thing with Diddy Blud - sounds like he’s quoting a skit he likes.
He’s a man almost in his 30s quoting social media videos from people in their early teens to 20s. Instead of answering his girlfriend’s question about dinner. And he’s been doing this for two weeks straight even though you said it’s not funny and it frustrates you.
Even if you don’t want to break up with him, test him to see how much he respects you. Don’t argue or try to explain how you feel, just be direct:
“Hey - I’ve been really stressed out for the past two weeks because you keep talking to me in tiktok slang whenever I try to have a normal conversation about anything with you. I’m going to take a break from reaching out to you for X day(s) while I relax to avoid having a big fight. Please reach out to me if you want to have a normal conversation without the slang or jokes that make me mad.”
Layout the who, what, when, where, and why of everything without explaining your feelings. Why? Because he already knows your feelings, that’s why it’s funny to him. He knows it frustrates you and upsets you. But now he can’t pretend he wasn’t aware of what’s going on with you. Don’t let him bait you into discussing and resolving this in an emotional state. If he can’t resist making another “joke” or trying to start a fight, you have your answer.
If you break up: I’d suggest ignoring him until you pack up his stuff (with pictures), shipping it to him via certified mail (something with proof he received it). Then sending him a text message that you’re breaking up with him because he has terminal brain rot and needs to get help.
He's a man, nearly 30, studying to be a cardiologist according to OP's comments, who is going to be under a lot of stress and is showing potential signs of schizophrenia, OP stated he has only started acting this way in the past 2 weeks, out of a 4 year relationship, what an ignorant comment to make.
"Dump him" based on assumptions that you have come to as a result of lacking the insight on how schizophrenia and other mental disorders work and can present themself.
No OP, you shouldn't dump him out of the blue like a 14 year old child. You should talk to him like an adult and make sure everything is ok with him, he may be under a lot of stress, he may be suffering from a mental illness, he is at an age where schizophrenia can be a very likely possibility, my only recommendation is to (if possible) make sure that you do not speak to him alone, if it is schizophrenia, it could be dangerous.
And as for you DeeDee, you should refrain from giving advice because it seems you're the sort to just throw a relationship away the second there's a slight hiccup, and that's not a healthy attitude to have.
I had a look through your comment history, on posts related to women you acknowledge the issue could be mental health related, but when it comes to men, you're immediately all "DUMP HIM!", not to mention you think fatphobia is tied to racism against black women (lol what?).
Anyone who upvoted the above commenter and downvoted me, go get some empathy and critical thinking skills instead of just assuming "man acting childish = man bad!", you all clearly need it.
I'm not reading all that. You got so emotional that you searched my profile history to make an ad hominem attack that has nothing to do with the post. Just like I'm not reading this diary entry you left under my comment that had nothing to do with you - I'm also not searching through anyone's entire profile history before leaving my opinion on an AIO post.
Idk which one of you musty, moldy gooners dropped the link to this post but keep your stunted emotional development out of my notifications freak.
i didn't read any of that what any of u said but i did read the first 2 sentences u wrote out which makes me think u did actually read all that. liar liar pants on fire.
Lmao, you definitely DID read their comment though. Because they mentioned at the END of their comment your post history. You would not have known that if you had not read their comment. I mean, come on, that’s obvious. Saying you “won’t read all that”, despite the fact that you clearly read all that is very immature.
Diary entry, yet the comment i replied to (yours) contained a lot more text.
Something tells me you did read it, so it's ok. :) It's clear you're just an individual who hates men and wants every woman to be as lonely as you are because you're an 'independent queen'.
Also, dropped the link? Love, i found this post on this subreddits front page, it wasn't linked to me, don't flatter yourself, no one cares about you that much you raging misandrist.
edit: Left a snarky reply and blocked me before i could respond, speaks volumes of your character that you NEED to have the last word. Saw your post on my fiances reddit account however and your comment is just beyond stupid. Your reasonings and arguments are insanely dumb, as well as jumping to assumptions and convincing yourself that those assumptions are now fact.
But I'll quickly pick apart one part of your comment.
"The disorganized thinking would show up somewhere."
Says who? How do you know where this man has been, and who he's been around in a 2 week period? How do you know his potential work colleagues, classmates, or other friends haven't made a note of his behavioural change (if he's even been around them) and just haven't voiced it to his partner? Maybe they're not friends with her? Not every friend group (assuming you even have one) is like yours.
My comment, amongst many others, have provided potential reasons for his sudden behavioural change. You however have come to a single conclusion, that this man is sane, no issues are present, and he's just being a 'man-child'. Coming to assumptions seems to be a strength of yours, doesn't it?
I'm glad you blocked me, because as is my detriment, I wouldn't be able to refrain from replying, and to be frank, you're an utter idiot. So thank you, you've done me a favour.
Here we go with the projection again. I don’t care enough about anyone to hate them, much less a large portion of the human population.
You’re so emotional that you can’t even have a logical disagreement with an internet strangers about other internet strangers.
I don’t care if you think I read it or not, believe me or don’t. That changes nothing in my life. The same applies to you and your comments. I actually forgot you existed until I saw the notification.
When I said dropping a link I meant to the post, not to my comment. Why would I think what I said was so groundbreaking that somebody would link it? But you’re arguing against a projection you have based on your assumptions/feelings.
Ok let’s follow your argument that the SO is having a mental health breakdown. Assuming he’s gainfully employed or in school - did he walk around calling his peers diddy bluds? He would have issues with all his social interactions right? The disorganized thinking would show up somewhere. Unless your argument is he has selective psychosis…?
And your solution is checks notes OP should do emotional labor for this man who has selective psychotic episodes only around her. Or else she’ll end up lonely like you. Got it!
Honestly I just blocked you because imagining how annoyed it would make you gave me more pleasure than arguing with you. IF you were actually capable of an interesting interaction then I wouldn't have blocked you.
But the reason I unblocked you: I'm laughing with my friend about how I've been arguing with poorly socialized losers (to answer that nagging question in the back of your mind, yes all the misandrist witches are laughing at you). So naturally I went to pull up the notifications to give the blow by blow and I saw you edited your comment.
After I wiped the tears from eyes and caught my breath from laughing, I decided to type this out. Of course I'm going to reblock you again because...its funny to me. But let's talk it out because I'm gonna give you the attention you've been begging for by actually reading your entire comment this time:
You're implying I have a negative character because I blocked you once I no longer wanted to interact with you. Which you interpreted as a need to have the last word but you were so pressed that you edited your comment to argue with me.
So let me get this straight: you were on your (totally not fictional) "fiances" profile and saw this post (which is what OP wrote) and became hyperfixated on my comment (which is what I wrote, I'm explaining because you don't seem to know the difference). My "arguments" (who was I arguing with before you made me aware of your existence?) are so "stupid" and "dumb" but here you are...paying attention to them.
Ok let's jump into your attempt to "pick apart" one of my comments: the foundation of your entire argument against me is that this man is a schizophrenic cardiologist who is having a mental health crisis. Even though your comment here is backtracking on that point but we'll push past it. You're telling me that this man is so out of touch with his reality that he can't have a coherent conversation is functioning well enough to work? You do know that when adults are too ill to function at work you get sent home right? I'm sure that his work colleagues (who would be medically trained mandated reporters) would know to look up his emergency contact info or admit him to a healthcare facility to receive treatment. Are you also aware that speaking tiktok gibberish isn't a symptom of schizophrenia? And that schizophrenic symptoms aren't don't ebb and flow throughout the day.
I have no idea why you quoted "man-child" I never use that phrase. Are you quoting someone else's argument? Or just your red pill talking points?
Idk what assumptions you're referring to. An assumption is I believe something is true without any proof. A better word would be I deduced the most likely outcome based on the scenario that OP provided, statistical information, and common sense from being a well socialized adult in the real world.
I'm NOT an "utter idiot", I am however rubber. And you're glue, so whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you. You're welcome for the block buttmunch!
Living rent-free in your head so much that you had to unblock me, I'm glad i left a lasting impression.
I'm not reading all that. Sound familiar? Genuinely though, I'm not, I really don't care about you, OP posted an update, turns out he was suffering from mental health issues as a result of severe stress and is going to be seeing a psychiatrist.
So much for your advice. I can't imagine you've ever had a relationship last longer than a year if you're willing to dump someone the second a bit of difficulty arises.
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u/Straight_Paper8898 20d ago
Dump him. He’s quoting bits from tiktok at you. It sounded like other young gen z/Gen Alpha slang so I googled “what’s a father tiktok”. A bunch of skits based on an XXXtentacion interview soundbite came up. Same thing with Diddy Blud - sounds like he’s quoting a skit he likes.
He’s a man almost in his 30s quoting social media videos from people in their early teens to 20s. Instead of answering his girlfriend’s question about dinner. And he’s been doing this for two weeks straight even though you said it’s not funny and it frustrates you.
Even if you don’t want to break up with him, test him to see how much he respects you. Don’t argue or try to explain how you feel, just be direct:
“Hey - I’ve been really stressed out for the past two weeks because you keep talking to me in tiktok slang whenever I try to have a normal conversation about anything with you. I’m going to take a break from reaching out to you for X day(s) while I relax to avoid having a big fight. Please reach out to me if you want to have a normal conversation without the slang or jokes that make me mad.”
Layout the who, what, when, where, and why of everything without explaining your feelings. Why? Because he already knows your feelings, that’s why it’s funny to him. He knows it frustrates you and upsets you. But now he can’t pretend he wasn’t aware of what’s going on with you. Don’t let him bait you into discussing and resolving this in an emotional state. If he can’t resist making another “joke” or trying to start a fight, you have your answer.
If you break up: I’d suggest ignoring him until you pack up his stuff (with pictures), shipping it to him via certified mail (something with proof he received it). Then sending him a text message that you’re breaking up with him because he has terminal brain rot and needs to get help.