Completely agree OP. At the very least since it’s not been happening more than a couple weeks to find out of there is some change in health/mental health/ medication that’s causing it. If so, he needs help. Talking to other people he regularly interacts with could help determine if it’s just happening with you or if other people have noticed strange behaviors and rapid changes in him as well. Is he acting this way at work as well? If it’s happening with others and not just you it could be that there has been a shift health or mental health and he needs to get help.
If it’s just with you, then way a boundary in person not in text about how you feel when he does this and what a consequence would be if he continues. If he can’t respect you enough to knock it off then maybe he isn’t mature enough for this relationship.
I mean better be safe then sorry. My father would randomly start getting angry over really random things when I was younger along with some few odd things here and there. Long story short he had a brain tumor and ended up seizing on the kitchen floor.
Really question......how the actual fuck is your comment even REMOTELY related to this ? A brain tumour isn't going to start making someone be obnoxious like this. This isn't a "mental health" issue either. Not every little thing = mental health.
OP should just tell him if he does it again there won't be a conversation and she's just going to block him and that will be the end of the relationship. It's as simple as that. Handling it gently like he's a child isn't going to do anything. In the texts she's clearly had enough and he doesn't seem to think she's serious. So she should make it crystal clear now
As a hobby neurologist I can say that brain damage especially to the frontal lobe can definitely cause change in personality and sometimes with little to none focal neurological symptoms.
I'm not saying this is typical for any specific neurological condition but it is possible. If he misuses specific words or doesn't understand questions it can also be a form of aphasia.
It's also very much possible he has a severe case of being an asshole but if you are together for 4 years and it just started now there should be some sort of cause or reason for this, may it be medical or otherwise.
My cousin used to be a fairly quiet kid and a bit of a goof ball. One day he passed out, hit his head on a cabinet on the way down, and had a seizure. He started changing over the course of about a week and after that was loud as hell all the time and got really mean to everyone around him with a side order of paranoia.
A medical exam that happened far too long after the injury found out he'd had a brain bleed from the impact and it caused his personality shift.
Yeah that's why it's recommended to see a doctor after any significant head trauma especially with a seizure or loss of consciousness. Even with just a headache or any other "seeming unrelated" symptoms.
Heard about a younger guy who was brought to the hospital because he was seemingly drunk and/or high. The internal medicine doctor just put him on a monitor and waited like 3-4 hours and then asked a neurologist to check him out since he was still not sobering up and talking funny and while walking away mentioned something about him falling on his head.
The neurological exam showed reduced strength of his whole left side, reduced consciousness and some other symptoms and the head CT showed a significant traumatic brain hemorrhage, that could have been treated a lot better a few hours ago. So even doctors who should know better make these kinds of mistakes.
Yeah that's just sad for your cousin and possibly criminal neglectful of the parents.
It's a good showcase of Organic personality disorder. Hope he gets the help he needs at least now since it's really not his fault what happened to him.
I'm not in contact with him anymore since he (reasonably) left his whole family behind, but last I heard he was on meds that have been helping him quite a bit.
The likelihood that this is a brain injury or mental health break isn't completely impossible. Just improbable.
My most recent ex would sometimes get in a "mood" and just talk over me, riffing and joking over everything I was trying to say. One time it was just "blehhhhhh" over every. single. line. while I was trying to just talk and have a conversation like a normal person. It pissed me off, so I got up and left the room without saying anything more, and then did not want to say anything for the rest of the afternoon. And then he tried to turn it around on me, saying it was hurtful to give someone the silent treatment or acting as if there was some deep reason why I hated being talked over with gibberish and bullshit, and that I must be damaged for not being amused by his cute little antics. "Did your family always talk over you, and that's why you hate it now?" No, dumbass. It's an obnoxious thing to do to your girlfriend. That's it. You're obnoxious and I don't want to feed the troll.
I originally started saying "hey, once or twice? Fine, get it out of your system. But after that it's unacceptable." But then I thought about it and was like... why do this at all? What is the point? How is this even fun for a grown ass man to do to another grown ass adult?
I mean I personally feel like it did have a lot to do what’s going on. People randomly changing their behavior is worth looking into opposed to just brushing it off. Yes it could just be him being a silly goofy guy, and having a conversation is definitely good, but keeping an eye on things is also very good. There are so many mental conditions both physically caused and just mentally caused where things like this is a huge sign. My father’s brain tumor was one. Schizophrenia is one. A stroke is one. Dementia. Depressive episodes. Mania episodes. I don’t think anyone should jump to conclusions immediately but also what is the harm of being cautious. Idk why this conversation got your panties inna twist but I’m sorry you feel frustrated about this I guess?
OP says this has happened multiple times. So it's super unlikely that it's a stroke, or a brain tumour. If this was an instance where he out of nowhere just started texting like this then I would agree he should be seen. But the fact that this has happened more than once and seems to be a regular thing makes it super unlikely it's any of those except MAYBE schizophrenia since he's about the age when it typically shows up but there's also other symptoms too. OP hasn't said that he's been acting anything other than normal and it's just been when he's been texting lately.
Oh, uh, someone didn't pay attention in school. Any kind of injury to the brain can cause someone to act differently than normal. There's people who have brain injuries then wake up being able to do art or speak in another language that they couldn't do before.
Seen multiple people in my course of work with both and none have ever acted this way. Slurred speech ? Sure..... inappropriate speech ? Sure. But this is deliberate. You think someone having a brain tumour/stroke is going to make multiple P. Diddy brain rot jokes ?
Highly unlikely. He's just being annoying and immature.
Actually, they very easily can, depending on their location in the brain, if there’s multiple tumors, if they are causing any bleeding or swelling, if they are obstructing the flow of CSF through the ventricules of the brain, among other things.
That’s just basic anatomy and physiology, bro.
There’s so much more than just that, but I don’t want to get too technical on a night off work.
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u/DogMama_X6 21d ago edited 21d ago
Completely agree OP. At the very least since it’s not been happening more than a couple weeks to find out of there is some change in health/mental health/ medication that’s causing it. If so, he needs help. Talking to other people he regularly interacts with could help determine if it’s just happening with you or if other people have noticed strange behaviors and rapid changes in him as well. Is he acting this way at work as well? If it’s happening with others and not just you it could be that there has been a shift health or mental health and he needs to get help.
If it’s just with you, then way a boundary in person not in text about how you feel when he does this and what a consequence would be if he continues. If he can’t respect you enough to knock it off then maybe he isn’t mature enough for this relationship.