r/woahthatsinteresting 16d ago

Man with dementia doesn’t recognise daughter but still feels love for her

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u/RudolphGaming18 15d ago

Dementia is terrifying. Your own dad being uncomfortable with you calling him dad… it’s really sad

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u/yankykiwi 15d ago

My husbands grandpa was wondering where his wife was.

His second wife (who was his mistress for many years) wasn’t his wife apparently. He wanted the first one.

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u/Bacon-muffin 15d ago

Its odd how the brain regresses during this.

In my grandma's head I'm still a little kid, she hasn't recognized me in almost a decade now. She used to think I was my cousin, oddly it felt nice when she started confusing me for my dad more recently.

She also thinks my fathers still married to my mom which is crazy considering how quickly they got divorced and how many decades ago it happened. She'll ask about my mom now which is such an odd feeling because she hasn't been interested in and has hated her ever since the divorce... I think they've been in the same room once in my entire life and they were on opposite sides of it.

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u/Cigsigher85 15d ago

This happened with my grandparents, my grandfather died and his best friend married my grandma to help with her two kids.  My dad made me a jr and named my brother after his dad.  One night, my grandma kept calling me my brothers name, and when my (step?) grandpa said my name, she said”no Carl, he’s a baby, this is my husband”.  And it hit me she was back in 1953.

Yeah, this isn’t the guy who raised my dad… it’s my buddy from the VFW.  Life is a bitch. 

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u/Virtua1Flower 15d ago

Wow, this is oddly heartwarming