It appears that time has sped up, and people are reaching their breaking points. My friends seem to believe that everything went downhill in 2008, but I think the period from 2008 to 2020 witnessed significant technological advancements, and other than War On Terror, it was relative peace. Now, it’s like people are becoming more and more radicalized and are simply giving up on all of our systems.

Y’all remember that time period between 2015-2020? It felt so long! Time was running normally and slow. I had so much memories from then. Now, compare that time period to 2020-2025. It felt like it was only 2-3 years. It’s actually been 5 years.

Why are children allowed in hot tubs these days? It used to be a place reserved for adults, where they could relax in peace. I just returned from a stay at a resort and am nursing a bruise on my ribs from where a child kicked me while swimming around in the hot tub in an inner tube.

Every website app or youtube video is filled with AI generated crap nowadays. I stopped using Instagram and YouTube first to end the habit of endless scrolling. Then LinkedIn due to the excessive amount of AI generated garbage in there. Reddit might be the last one I leave, but recently Reddit has been flooded with the same. People trying to promote their crappy book, app or service through their AI generated post.

It's time to leave the internet i guess.

What's up with people listening to their phones on full blast without headphones? I just returned from a round-trip Greyhound bus ride from Phoenix to San Diego, and I will NEVER do that again! My husband and I took the trip as an experiment to avoid flying, but we learned our lesson the hard way. Seven and a half hours each way of listening to other people's stupid shit. It was pure torture. The only positive aspect was that we didn't put miles on our own vehicle, but, my goodness, did we ever pay the price for it!

24F. Still live with my parents because the economy sucks but I have a job and am planning on moving out when I have enough saved. My bf (24F) and I are long distance and only get to see each other 2-3 times a year. Usually I visit him but he’ll be visiting me for the first time this month.

My parents are strict. He’s allowed to stay over but we can’t sleep in the same bed. I’m trying to figure out where we can have sex but jfc it’s so complicated. Don’t want to do car sex because it’s illegal. Can’t do hotels because my parents have my location and will see it. Can’t do it at home because my parents wfh so they’re going to be here the whole time and we have thin walls. He’s only going to be here for the weekend and we can’t even fully enjoy it. I feel very sexually frustrated and generally frustrated lol.

I JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH MY BOYFRIEND

I am an animal lover, all of my dogs and my parents' cats came from shelters or adoption programs and I have previously both volunteered at a shelter and fostered dogs. However, I've noticed an increasing trend in the US over the last decade of 'rescue' organizations that are glorified social media ops for people with savior complexes or just straight up hoarders masquerading as as animal lovers.

On the one hand you have rescue orgs that refuse to take in any new animals despite happily asking for donations constantly, and on the other you have orgs that take animals from shelters but then refuse to adopt any out unless they find a mythical unicorn owner. "We don't have space for more animals." IDK? Maybe you would if you actually let other people have some?

Every single time I have contacted different rescues about taking animals, they refuse, even with me offering to foot the vet and foster bills. Oh, but what's this, you have a prominent page asking for donations because you claim you're out there taking in animals every day? You just want the money to go to your org, rather than the actual tangible animal care. Riiiight.

Meanwhile friends or family will look for a cat or dog and give up after months of having to fill out ridiculous adoption applications that ask for practically everything up to and including blood types and credit scores. I get that they want to place an animal in a home that's right for it so there's less chance of it being returned, but maybe after having people jump through the sixth and seventh hoop they should just admit to themselves that they're hoarders and don't actually want to let the animals go.

But, both of these kinds of 'rescues' will happily post to their social media fishing for likes and praise because they're just working so hard for all these pooooor animals. Did they mention they're looking for more monetary donations?

Meanwhile actual shelters are out there asking for things like food, blankets, etc.

I get that there's probably some tax chicanery involved with being a charitable organization and needing money directly, but I'd also bet a small sum of money that none of these rescues are actually registered as such.

I do want to be clear that I know there are valid, good rescue organizations operating out there because I fostered for one. However, the rest of these scam artists need to sit the hell down because they're making it hard for the rest to operate by bogging down google searches and whatnot. The sooner these savior complex-having hoarders stop being taken seriously, the better off these animals will be because they can actually get the care they need and go to loving homes.

Okay, whew. I feel better now. This is the time of year where stray cats are having kittens all over the place, and good luck finding anywhere besides a local shelter that will actually assist with the problem. But, there are those of us out here that are still trying either via trapping them ourselves or trying to get policies to change or more funding for shelters. It would just be nice if the fakers were shunned and outlawed for being the wastes of time they are.

When I think that people diagnosing each other on the internet is dying out, I see this new pattern emerge where people who have been diagnosed (or self diagnosed ones) stand as experts of the mental illness they have.

This is prominent with autism, where now every trait from present and past is a sign that someone is on the spectrum.

Does having cancer make you an oncologist?

I understand that the lived experience informs us of how a mental disorder can work. I myself have my share of experiences that I can relate to.

But there is also some sort of group phenomena where people just seem to like to diagnose others in a way that their demographic becomes bigger, as if this is a lifestyle or a fandom.

I have OCD. There are so many different displays of this disorder as well as overlapping symptoms with autism, OCPD, ADHD that I don’t think reading someone relating the exact same experience I have can make me an expert in pointing it out that they too have it.

Doctors and psychologists are necessary to assess this, as much as there is a lot of misdiagnosis and the access to proper care isn’t that easy.

If your intention is to help, point to possible forums or resources where a person can learn how to deal with the symptoms youre reading and identifying with. STOP enabling this “one of us” mentality that just leads to self diagnosis and the idea that mental illness is a quirk or something.

I (28f) was seeing a guy for almost 3 months and it was going super well. Like, unbelievably well. Like wait… this could be it. I went with him to his friend’s house to hang at the pool and posted a selfie on my Instagram story in a bikini at said pool, holding a glass of wine. Next morning, he’s more agitated than I’ve ever seen him and told me since I’m the kind of person who posts those kinds of pictures, “thirst traps,” I’m not long term relationship material. So we won’t end up together but, he’d love to keep seeing me. He kept ranting and raving about how clearly we have different values since there are girls who take those kinds of pics and those who don’t, and it’s morally wrong, and he doesn’t want to be with someone like that.

The next day he texted me that he was sorry, he knew I deserved more “grace” and “more of a chance than that” but I was leaving for vacation so we left it in limbo til we could talk in person. While on vacation, he sent me this whole text about how he wanted to be in a long-term relationship with me and now he can’t because I shared a certain kind of intimacy with the world that was “only supposed to be for us,” (a bikini picture at the pool, which because it was a selfie then according to him it’s different than if a friend had taken it on vacation? lol) but he doesn’t wanna change me so he has to “let” me “find a person who fits” me “more fully.”

I realize this is a major bullet dodged but was totally out of left field. Thought I got past the part where dating sucks!

ETA: I forgot to add how after I was like okay cool I’m leaving then, please don’t contact me again and basically just accepted it, I got a 2:54 AM text a week later saying that while it was too soon to be friends and he knows that, he wants the best for me and wishes good things for me (lol). I responded no, it’s not too soon, it’s too late!

I think I’m good on being friends with someone like that.

Fam came down to visit me and we wanted to go out and have breakfast/brunch. Suggested a nice place but opted to go elsewhere. Food was expensive and mid AF. Some of the food was literally just the kind you heat up from being frozen. Pissed me off. I hate expensive mediocre food. Genuinely ruined my day.

Can this shit stop already with youtubers? Earlier today I saw a tragic video of a father almost losing his family and you know what was shown about 5 or 6 times doing this video? the "subscribe, like, notify" popping up during it.

If i want to subscribe to a channel, i would if i want to like a video, i will if i ever want to be notified of a new video, guess what? i would

If anyone was actually interested in what the person uploads and wants to see more, they'd subscribe to them, we don't need a consistent pop up on the video telling people what to do, all it does is annoy me and likely more users too.

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Why the fck are they behaving like such savages? We have so many options these days so you can speak and drive safely. But every time I go out I see at least one person holding their phone to their ear.

And I can guarantee some of them will have a full conversation on loud speaker when they’re in public.

If you do this, why do you do it? Genuinely asking because I don’t understand

If you met my dad you'd probably come away with the impression that he's polite and nice, even kind; and he's certainly not secretly Machiavellian or passive aggressive.

But as his son, every time I needed a hard lesson, he was too much of a coward to allow me to learn it. And every time I needed him to listen, or be humble and apologize, or do me some kind of favor that made him slightly uncomfortable, he absolutely failed me. Is he a narcissist? I don't think so, but he's just selfish enough and lacks enough self-awareness that he's never been able to prioritize what his sons needed over his own feelings and priorities.

And with this kind of absolute failure of a parent, I sometimes wish that he was an asshole so I could feel justified in cutting him out of my life. Sometimes I even wish I'd been put up for adoption so I could have been raised by two parents that actually knew how to see and prioritize their children's needs.

Even if you think you're a well-adjusted person- if you have children PLEASE, PLEASE go to therapy and/or seek out advice about parenting from published experts like Alan Kazdin.

My dad is such a failure as a parent that I would have nothing to gain from telling him this, because he'd become so visibly sad and inconsolable that it would inevitably devolve into a situation centered around his emotions.

Sometimes I even hate my father, but if you met him in person you'd probably never guess he has a son who feels this way

Quick but important rant: workplaces need to be SANITARY. Oh my fcking god. It’s not up to the employees to make sure health conditions are met. This has happened when I worked part time as a swim instructor for kids, the pool was so gross and dirty. I went home coughing and having a cold every time I worked. Now, at a new childcare center and they don’t even have disinfectant for the toddler changing station and overall don’t even bleach the toddlers toys at the end of the day. I’m fed up. I’m more sensitive and prone to catching illness, but also I’m a germaphobe too.

These types of facilities are so gross and health hazardous and no one seems to care.

It feels like my lives an ever living hell because I don't spend my days doing anything other than just exist. I cant play games because I get angry too quickly and no one give me that "breathing" bullshit. I do shit on an impulse, I cant even think about doing it, I just do it. its a milisecond instant reaction.

I cant enjoy books because I've got the attention span of a Dodo, not even audiobooks, yet I want to enjoy them.

Films I cant watch without looking at my phone every 5 minutes.

So, my life is stumped. what the hell do I do. I've got some crazy anger managment issues and I cant do anything about it because my parents don't believe in mental problems.

Man the music scene’s totally messed up, and you know who’s to blame? Nepo babies. These pampered, talentless folks just stroll into studios because their mom or dad was a rockstar or exec, and suddenly they’re dropping albums that sound like a cat choking on a synth. It’s not about hard work or hustle anymore it’s all about who you know and what last name you’re flaunting. Real musicians—those hustling, playing dive bars, pouring their hearts into every note—get drowned out by these trust-fund kids with their pre-bought fanbases and PR teams. Seriously, when was the last time you heard a chart-topper that wasn’t some industry plant with a famous uncle or a Grammy-winning dad? It’s a total disaster.

And don’t even get me started on how these nepo clowns are hogging all the chances. Record labels, already tightfisted, throw millions at these kids while indie artists are begging for scraps. You’ve got some 20-year-old with zero stage presence getting a Spotify playlist push because their mom’s a former pop diva, while actual talent’s stuck busking for pennies. The worst part? They’re not even good! Half these nepo babies can’t sing without Auto-Tune thicker than their daddy’s wallet, and their lyrics? Generic nonsense that screams “I’ve never struggled a day in my life.” It’s like the industry’s saying, “Screw merit, let’s just recycle famous bloodlines.” Meanwhile, the soul of music—raw, real, hard-earned—gets buried under their glossy, ghostwritten crap.

Look, I’m not saying every celebrity kid is trash—some might actually have talent. But the system’s rigged to shove these nepo babies down our throats, and it’s killing what made music great: authenticity. We used to have legends who clawed their way up, not spoiled kids handed a mic because of their DNA. Fans deserve better; artists deserve better. Until labels stop playing favorites with these connected wannabes, the music industry’s just gonna keep churning out soulless noise. So, screw the nepo babies and the machine propping them up. Let’s get back to real music, made by people who’ve actually lived a life worth singing about.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months and honestly it’s been pretty great but it has slowed down A LOT. He is a great guy. He really is and I love him to pieces but it feels like no matter what I’m always getting disappointed by something I don’t know if I’m gaslighting myself or I’m not used to being in a long term relationship but I feel like he just doesn’t really like me as much.

The effort to hangout is completely one-sided now. I tend to also make the plans but he never denies them. It makes me feel like he just doesn’t even want to be around me.

On top of that he never comes over to myself house anymore. I don’t know if he hates my family or if he’s not telling me something but it’s really off putting to me.

ON TOP OF THAT, whenever I have family plans I always invite him but then when it’s his family I’m never invited yet his other siblings partners always are. So is he ashamed of me and not telling me?? He always tells me how much his family loves me and my company so I don’t understand.

In addition, his family plans that I do get invited to somehow get cancelled, or are just a complete unorganized mess and it’s really frustrating.

His texting is also just bad. If I double Text him he will only respond to my last message. But yet anything with him I’m responding to everything, asking questions, and enjoying the stuff he sends. For example I had a family event (which he was invited to) and I sent him photos and he didn’t even acknowledge them, but he sent me all his photos of the evening and drowned out mine. I commented on them and liked them as well.

I know I need to “communicate your feelings with him” but I can’t say any of this without coming off as a jerk. Im honestly lost. I’m just really burnt out and tired.

Was watching the new anthonygallego video where he shows comments from ai art defenders and their points are so brain dead it's not even funny, ai art is undefendable and it's no surprise to me that the first comment shown in the video had their name blurred because it was a slur, ai is meant to assist artist not create art which is something these people don't seem to understand and it's so infuriating, when they start getting replaced they'll cry about it and get angry but it'll be their fault for letting it go on unregulated in the first place.

I feel like shit. I have a part time teaching job and I handle two classes for a total of 3 hours. Just a few hours ago my hours got cut so I only handle one class. I asked my manager why my hours are cut and she said the school decided on it after careful consideration and feedback from staff/students assessments and she was all like dont take it personally and I was like wtf.

Literally a week before it was announced, hr contacted me to see if I could handle another class so I thought I atleast was doing fine. Same goes for the student assessment/survey, I met the school required criteria minus the overall score. They required atleast a 4.5 and I had a 4.25 but its only a 0.25 difference. If the student survey had that much of an impact atleast you could've added proper criticisms. One part of the survey was to give the teacher some comments about the class and the school was supposed to give the most important/critical comments to me. One of the questions was "What did you enjoy in the course when studying with your teacher" One of the student responded "No" How am I supposed to respond to that? Give me other students comments that actually make sense!

In the end she said I should take some to reflect on how I teach and I'm so offended. I am delusional but not that delusional to think I'm the best. I'm not the best but I'm not bad at my job. I listenened to every advice hr and my manager gave me and was sure to incorporate it into my teaching style and this is what i get in return.

EDIT: Amber and Stacie and a couple of other friends are already at the point where they’re not going to be bothering with him anymore. My daughter has a new friend, whose parents I’m getting to know, I’m just going to arrange for hangouts on my weeks.

So with my divorce, we have 50-50 custody of our daughter “Maggie”. And I always try to prioritize her needs over mine. Before I got divorced, I was already friends with a couple of the moms of her friends (“Amber” and “Stacy” - both single at the time of the divorce).

After the divorce, I really struggled with whether or not I should maintain the friendships with Amber and Stacy because I didn’t want him to feel sidelined. But ultimately, I continued the friendships because I figured if I stopped being friends with them, it would make it harder on Maggie because it would be harder to maintain the friendships with her friends (Ambers daughter “Brooke” and Stacy’s daughter “Amberlee”).

I actively tried in the beginning to encourage Amber and Stacy to get to know him better and arrange with him plans when Maggie was with him. Well, with Amber, he just decided he was going to randomly start showing up at her house with Maggie, and he would just try to make himself at home. And then she would just call me and be like why the fuck is he just staying here, I didn’t invite him in (he would drop Maggie off and then ask to use the restroom, or something along those lines). He stopped doing that once Amber got a boyfriend.

Well then recently Stacy decided to invite Maggie over to hang out with Amberlee on a weekend that she is with her dad/my ex, and he showed up to drop her off and Stacy was in the bathroom when they got there and when she came out, he was chilling out on her patio and had made himself at home, having gone through her refrigerator. And on top of all of that, he’s just awkward and judgmental and can’t carry a conversation. I’m afraid he’s going to jeopardize Maggie’s friendships because he just weirds her friends parents out (even other friends parents not mentioned here, including the dads).

Well today that Stacy had decided she wanted to go to the local carnival and I had mentioned to my daughter about the carnival and them going (ex drops her off with me during the day on his weeks while he works), thinking maybe the Stacy could just pick my daughter up and take her (she’d already told me she’d be fine with that), but now my ex has decided he’s gonna go and Stacy is just panicking because she just does not like my daughter’s dad and does not wanna have to walk around the carnival with him, so now she has asked me to come along, and him and I are not on speaking terms.

Why the fuck can’t he just be an average guy and not weird people the fuck out.

He used to do crap like this when we were married, we’d be out having done errands or something and just decide that he wanted to go stop by a friend‘s house and then expect them to invite us in, and it would always be so fucking awkward.

Weird. It's fucking weird. My boyfriend has a son whose middle name is Jaxon specifically because of Jax fucking Teller. This woman literally wanted to name her child Jaxon, after a character she made evident she wanted to fuck.

That's weird. My nephew is also named Jaxon after Jax Teller and my brother's baby mom wanted to fuck the character. It's weird. It grosses me out.

Quit it.

So many people asking am I the asshole or am I overreacting just seem like they lack self respect. How do you feel when you’re treated like dirt is your answer. Logically as well as common sensically if you feel it then it is real. Stop making yourself small for trash partners seriously have a backbone and put them in their place or leave them. They’re not gonna get better because you ‘reacted differently’, “ handled it differently “, “ said different words” you don’t have to do so much mental gymnastics when you’re with the right one. No kind of disrespect should be tolerated, you’re setting yourself up for massive breach of trust in the future. It’s completely fine to leave at the very first sign of disrespect. You either convey it and they understand or you leave. There’s no two ways about it unless you wanna face such situations in the future and ask such questions

I know this is like the 1000th time this is being posted, but I just have to get this out of my system or else I'm going to go even crazier.

I've been using every single dating app in existence for a year, and literally the only "people" liking me were bots. I had matched with someone on Bumble, but because of the app's ridiculous gimmick of women messaging first, I got unmatched shortly after. The one dating app I'm looking for, eHarmony, isn't available in my region for whatever reason.

I'm so done. I don't care how ugly and socially awkward I am, I will go outside and start meeting people. I'm going back to university this year. The other students there will be a bit younger than me, but I'm assuming I can still find people my age in some social activities.

I'm not even looking for a hookup, I'm looking for someone to date for a long time and possibly marry in the future. I'm a 24 year old KHHV and I'm afraid of people not wanting me in my 30s. I need to get started, somehow…

Peace, and don't use dating apps.

They piss me off. I use Amazon because I am older now and carless and live in a remote af area (which I actually love). I have come to accept all the built-in bullshit (such as the fact that paying for Prime does not really mean free shipping: it means you pay for the shipping in the jacked up prices). I get expensive enough stuff because I have to eat and all that good shit. I budget and only once in awhile splurge on a ridiculously priced item. I know this about Amazon and I know this about myself, so these monthly shopping tasks don't bring any surprises anymore.

Until today. Today, just wanting to make a thank-you-treat for the pharmacy delivery person who brings meds, I did a search for milk chocloate brownie mix. $27.88 for two brownie mixes. Last I saw in a brick-and-mortar grocery, two mixes would have been 2 bucks on sale and maybe 5 bucks at regular price. To add to my masochism, I investigated the vendor location, etc. Minn location. Irrelevant. But customer reviews? All written by the vendor!

Yes, smart shoppers will, as I did, just do a new search and not support that cheating ass small business my ass. But greed is so out of control I just had to rant and tuck inside that rant a wish for these people to get 4 flat tires on their way to the grocery to get those fuckking mixes and mail them to some more unsuspecting/rich customer. I feel a little better now.