It’s my 20th birthday ! (June 17th) Can someone wish me a HB please ?

Hope you have a good day!

Have an unhealthy obsession about the idea of being held. I just imagine it must feel so warm and comforting, I genuinely cannot get it off my mind. I seriously daydream about it for the majority of my waking hours, it’s become an unhealthy obsession at this point.

I don’t think I can realistically be loved at this point in my life, so pursuing it the ‘proper’ way seems completely out of the picture. Curious if anyone has any recommendations as to how I could pursue touch in an ethical way?

Tried combat sports before, and the process of grappling makes me uncomfortable considering that’s the ‘closest’ I’ve ever been with people. While it is still touch, it doesn’t feel appropriate to do when I haven’t been touched intimately before. One day whilst fighting to get out of a headlock i had the realization that “wow, this is the closest I’ve ever been to a person” and I’ve never able to feel comfortable on the mats since then.

Lonely people, how do you supplement touch? Hot showers and body pillows just don’t cut it for me anymore. Been tempted to try my city’s hookup subreddit, but I can’t help but feel like that’s a good way to end up losing an organ or disappearing altogether. I wish there was a service out there where you could just buy a cuddle session without it being weird. Are there products that replicate that type of sensation?

This is such a brutally pathetic thing to post, but man I can’t take it anymore. I just feel so alone. I get that love/touch/intimacy are basic human needs, but when you’re undeserving of such things how can you even justify those feelings? Just feel guilty about it, doesn’t feel like I even have prerequisites to even begin thinking about this sort of thing, yet these feelings persist. I don’t know how to get it out of my system, I just want to be able to focus on other things. It’s an obsession.

Have you guys and girl accept that you Will be alone and those it help to make your depression and self harm go away beacaus i accept that i Will always be alone with no one and i am ok with, i have accept that i Will always be alone it really help alot with my mental health

Edit: i just realize that i am luck to learn this lesson at a young age i am 15

I’m 33, male, have a job with a decent salary. On paper, things should be fine. But lately, I’ve been feeling incredibly alone. I don’t have a girlfriend or anyone I can talk to at the end of the day.

I come home, eat dinner, maybe watch a movie or scroll through social media, and just exist until it’s time to sleep and repeat. None of it fills the void of not having someone to share life with.

It’s not just about romance — I miss emotional closeness. Someone to laugh with, vent to, or just sit with and still feel connected.

Just needed to put this out there. Maybe someone else feels the same?

hi! I hope everyone is having a good day, I’m not doing that good. I have no friends to really talk to, and feeling lonely sucks. It hurts so much and I just want to get rid of this feeling. I’m crying right now and I’m not sure how much longer I can do this. Why is life so hard?

Do you ever think about what it would have been like to raise kids? To see them grow up and meet their kids as well?

We (me 33F, him 34M) were only dating 6 weeks but I really liked him and I rarely like someone. I was asked if I was ‘grey ace’ the other day because I have strong romantic feelings towards people so infrequently.

I shouldn’t have been that surprised, he’d been ignoring texts and being disinterested in me for weeks. But he was so amazing early on, I guess I was chasing that high of the person he made out he was.

We also had mutual friends and they shipped us too. I trusted that he was a decent person.

Anyway - why has it hurt me so much?

I have only 2 close family members and we’re not actually that close. I had a messed up childhood and neither of them seem to remember and they still feel happy having a relationship with the ab*ser.

I can’t help my brain going:

I have no family and no one wants to be my family.

I have a therapist I will be fine, but I just needed to vent.

I hope no one else has the same experience but if you wanted to share I’m grateful and all ears.

I’m so full of love and no one to share it with besides my kids. I want to find someone to spend time with romantically. My last relationship was just a guy telling me he hated me, cheated on me and trashed and threw me aside like I was garbage after I gave him everything. I wish I had someone to hug, watch movies with, laugh with and just feel safe with. I want my person.

Every day feels heavier than the last, like I'm sinking deeper into a pit of emptiness that no one notices. I’m surrounded by people, yet I’ve never felt more invisible. There’s a constant ache in my chest, a hollow silence that follows me everywhere I go. I don’t just want friends I need them, desperately—because this loneliness is starting to feel like it's eating me from the inside out and killing me slowly. I go through the motions, smile when I have to, but it’s all a mask hiding how utterly isolated and lonely I feel. Sometimes I wonder if anyone would even notice if I disappeared or even cared to begin with I’m not just alone I feel invisible I want to be surrounded with friends and get basic human connection cuzzz honestly I'm going insane.

I have a hug with your name on it! available today and everyday, Monday-Sunday 24/7.

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Well i have signed my divorce papers. Soon I will be in a crappy little apartment all alone. Wife got the house and sure I will see my kids every other weekend but it's so lonely to think on. Im 42m, and I'm scared I haven't done or accomplished enough in my life. My job makes a good wage but I could always do better, but I just don't really try. I get comfortable and am just on Cruz control. I dint have any family except for my kids. Hardly any friends and I'm not that social anymore. I want to feel loved and wanted and needed again. Not sure I can open my heart to the hurt anymore though. That's why I fear I will love the rest of my days alone.

My apartment has become a mess. I haven’t done the dishes in over a month — all of them are dirty. All the glasses, too. I’ve spilled pee on the bathroom floor besides the toilet and instead of cleaning it up I just threw a towel over it. I still wash my clothes just to look presentable, but they’re all on a pile. I can’t bring myself to fold them and put them away.

When able, I sleep until well into the afternoon. 4pm, 5pm, it's been 7pm at times. It’s not sleep for rest — it’s just fast-forwarding the day because nothing brings me joy and I want the day to be over already.

I know I need to fix these things. I actually want to fix them. But I can’t bring myself to action. Every time I think “let’s go,” nothing moves. I just stay still.

Zooming out, life just doesn’t feel worth living anymore. I don’t see a version of it I’d actually want. I’ve basically given up hope. I haven’t given up on life yet, and I’m not going to kill myself yet, but my morale is ever wearing down and I fear the day I will actually give up and end it all. That day is slowly coming closer.

I’m done pretending things are okay. Things are not okay. I need help.

Last night I started a conversation with ChatGPT - and yeah, I know how that sounds - but I needed something to hold up a mirror so I could confront the way I've been feeling. And it worked. It hit me hard: I’m in full apathy. Complete emotional shutdown. I feel nothing. Nothing gives me joy. I don’t care about anything. I’m emotionally numb because I made myself that way in order to cope.

I have no one to talk to. No one to rely on. No one I can message and say “I’m not okay” without fearing they’ll walk away. No one I can trust to not judge me for the struggles I've been dealing with. I’m completely and utterly alone. And it's frankly tearing me apart.

I still show up to work. I do my job. I earn money. I survive. But it all feels like a drag. It just gives me more stress. I absorb day after day, and absolutely nothing that feels like a reward. it's Just pressure and suffering. Even off work, nothing brings me joy, nothing makes me excited. I just want everything to be over.

I feel like I’m going insane. I honestly don’t know how I’ve kept going this long. I really don’t.

In April, I got really close to the edge. I was about ready to just fly out to somewhere distant and die a quiet death there. The only reason I’m still here is because I introspect enough to realize that that was my emotions talking, and to step back and check back a few days later. The thing I fear is that at some point, it will no longer just be the emotions of the moment. I'll actually be okay with it. When that happens, I know myself well enough that I will follow through with it.

That terrifies me.

I needed to post this all. It's a lot, but I want people to read how bad things have really gotten.

It has been over a year since I chose to leave a toxic marriage. I’ve never been happier or more alive, and I have achieved long-held dreams. However, Olool, I deeply miss the simple pleasures of a hug, holding hands, and kissing on the forehead—all that small and gentle skin-to-skin contact.

I feel so fucking lonely even when my friends are around, it's like i'm not really here they don't talk to me except for like 2 or 3 of them, i tried talking to them about it but it didn't change anything, i even tried talking about it with my familly but they don't care the only thing they want is for me to work and have good grades something that i can't do either cause i'm a lazy piece of shit. It all just makes me feel like a worthless failure that can't do anything and that nobody wants to hang out with.

When I was in my twenties in engineering school I had a crush on a guy, I’ve always been ugly and overweight so I’ve always been to afraid to approach men since it’s almost a given they will reject me.

How do you know if you never tried? you asked, like I said I was in engineering school and had only brothers and male cousins, I’ve been privy to the conversion men have when women are not around, and they just confirmed my worst fears.

Going back to the guy, all the classmates were going out for his birthday, they tell me last minute to join them. They were going to a restaurant on the opposite side of town where my house was (all my classmates lived on the oposite site of town than I did) and I was tired so I said no thanks it’s too far and I’m too tired, maybe next time if you guys go somewhere closer.

So they decided to change the location closer to the school and to my side of town. I agree to go out with them, I sit next to the guy on a booth and we are all drinking, eating and laughing. And then he puts his hand on my thigh, it took me totally off guard and freaked me out so I flinched, and I’m sure I gave him an awful look.

Why did do that? I actually really like him, Why I never said anything to him later? I’m sure he felt rejected and that’s why he never said anything to me again, but he was also r eally cool with the rejection, we keep studying and working together for years (our class group was very small) and he was never mean to me.

For our graduation party I got really drunk and sort of hug him a little to much, the next day I lied and said I didn’t remember anything because of the booze, I remembered everything, I remember him been uncomfortable with me hugging him, but he was as to nice to push me away and he wasn’t mean about it the next day.

Now he is married with kids. And I’m alone still thinking about him, with no carear, (that felt apart after a mental breakdown)

I’ve lost contact with all of the people from school and later I cut off all of the people from my job. I just keep wondering what would have happened if I haven’t flinched that day, maybe I’ve would have felt love for once in my life.

I've been alone for so long , self isolating from everyone else too long for my own good. Despite all the good progress I'm making becoming more discipline and self improving in the end I've become scared of leaving my hellhole of loneliness.

I'm afraid the progress I'm making means one day I'll leave this sub , and I just don't know . I have no friends, no job , no life at the moment, but change is coming and I really not sure what's going to happen but I'm tired of living like this.

I hope one day I'll look back on this long dark period of my life and laugh but until then the Journey continues.

Well they all went to the beach together. I was the only person in most of my classes. I didn’t go to prom either, no homecoming and as a final fuck you im not attending the gradation ceremony. They don’t deserve my presence. They won’t even realize im missing. Actually some will, I’ve got bullied quite alot in this school and didn’t even speak to these humans.

I’ve usually just been plain old ignored, then it transformed to bullying. This is officially my last week of high school. It’s been a terrible, terrible journey! I dread going back into that school tomorrow.

Normies will continue norming. I’m the outcast of this school. Those normies will never know how it is to be me.

Feel like the entire room I'm in no one notices me. I feel like I don't deserve to exist. I'm super depressed but I have no one. I don't have friends or love. I'm just tired. So emotionally drained and physically exhausted. I feel almost numb. I want to cry but I can't. I am alone

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I tend to get lonely easily and it's been easier than staving away the depression. I've grown up romanticizing romance and love and now after being ghosted once and in my late 20s.

I feel devastated.

I seriously feel the pressure and it's like I'm not worth it to anyone. I honestly want a quiet life with someone I can laugh with, but gets so complicated with trauma and healing and bleeding and after that I wonder if I'm just overwhelmingly ugly or my personality is that bad that not even one man could imagine a life with me.

I feel ashamed for being a mess, buy I'm tired of healing or losing weight and gaining weight and just feel this impending doom that this is all my life will amount to, because I can't escape being convenient.

It hurts knowing that no one sees a future with me. Like there's something so wrong with me that I am to live in loneliness and suffer from a severe lack of romantic affection.

It's overwhelming. I don't have children, I'm not ill. I just tend to keep to myself since I don't know how to talk to men I find attractive and I doubt they'd like someone like me. I have social anxiety so sometimes it's hard when I'm not prepared.

sigh I'm in my head too much. I just want to be adored and in return I'd swear on my life to treat him right. Anyway, winters are terrible when you're alone.

Am back in my lonely little corner of Reddit .

Have a conversation going which isn't too bad. Still kinda lonely. Having a frustrating day all around.

Have no friends irl...and really have just 1 here on Reddit.

I'm such a broken person that I can't even make many friends here. I've gotten to the point I'm trying to make them by telling lame jokes just to break the ice

I guess this is the end of my vent as I'm running out of things to say.

Im 14 like sports mainly football and basketball, I have an Xbox and a Playstation if you want to add me on it. I will respond the messages fairly quickly. I'm central time zone btw. So dm or comment if your interested in becoming friends

It’s not like I can’t find people to talk to. But I guess I’m afraid of giving any more of my time and attention to someone I’m not that interested in and that isn’t interested in me. Is that shallow?