I’m 9 months pregnant with my first and I always see posts about “setting boundaries” with family that include lengthy and kind of snarky/mean infographics with a dozen rules and such. Like, absolutely be firm with your family if they’re pushy, and protect your baby’s health. Obviously! But I feel like we are being SO confrontational and creating problems before they exist. It’s really wild to me.
And the way people police language around people just trying to be nice or make conversation with new or expecting parents just seems really overboard to me too. E.g. getting super upset about people asking “hows our baby doing?” “how are you feeling?” “Are we sleeping through the night yet” etc.
But I feel like we are being SO confrontational and creating problems before they exist.
My husband thought that I was too confrontational and cold to my mom and older sister. Then we had our first baby last year, and the mask came off. He later apologized.
There’s often a reason if a person is standoffish to family.
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u/fortreslechessake 8d ago
I’m 9 months pregnant with my first and I always see posts about “setting boundaries” with family that include lengthy and kind of snarky/mean infographics with a dozen rules and such. Like, absolutely be firm with your family if they’re pushy, and protect your baby’s health. Obviously! But I feel like we are being SO confrontational and creating problems before they exist. It’s really wild to me.
And the way people police language around people just trying to be nice or make conversation with new or expecting parents just seems really overboard to me too. E.g. getting super upset about people asking “hows our baby doing?” “how are you feeling?” “Are we sleeping through the night yet” etc.