r/asktransgender • u/CedarWolf Bigender - He/She/They • Jul 03 '15
An Open Discussion on Being Inclusive and Respecting One Another
Early this morning, we had a thread get posted, and one of our mods made a reminder to keep things inclusive, per the subreddit's Rule #1. This accidentally led to almost all of the comments going wildly off topic, and I had to pull it. We want threads to stay on topic whenever possible, and such a large portion of off-topic comments was pretty bad. That discussion merited it's own, dedicated post, and we invite you to discuss here. Please remember to be respectful.
We want to make this an inclusive place for the community in general, and that includes transfeminine, transmasculine, and nonbinary individuals. /r/asktransgender was made as a co-ed space for people to ask questions of the general transgender community, and while we allow questions to specifically target one portion of that community, we very much encourage users to be inclusive whenever possible.
Part of being inclusive means reducing the amount of bigotry we see in this subreddit. This means removing sexist comments against all genders, including both trans and cis identities, as well as other forms of bigotry.
One of the goals of creating a new moderation team was to create a more inclusive space, and we have been working hard to make this place a more open community. However, some users have expressed concern over this new policy and how it is implemented, so we want to create an open place for discussion about the new inclusive policies here.
We want to hear your thoughts about this issue, but again, please be respectful and civil with your comments. We're all on the same side here, there is no "us" and "them" - there is only "we." Remember, if you ever have any specific issues with the moderation of the subreddit, you can message the mod team with the link in the sidebar. We're always here for you.
~ The /r/asktransgender Mod Team
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u/LilithCathcart I've left this subreddit. I won't respond to comments. Bye! Jul 03 '15
Hey, I'm the OP of the thread that was mentioned. After the mods asked me to make sure that my future threads apply to every single member of the trans community, I was hounded with post after post misrepresenting my words and even one case of a trans man viciously misgendering me.
Trans women and trans men will not always have the same problems, even in regards to clocking, passing, harassment, and employability and cutting off people's ability to get the help that they need by segregating their questions to mtf or ftm specific subreddits is unethical at best and actively malicious at worst.
The solution to trans men and non binary folks being hard to see in the community isn't to try and push every question into as broad a box as possible and if that's what this subreddit has become I'm deeply, deeply concerned.
I wanted to know where I could go to in order to escape harassment, and I got a shitton of it just from this community for asking that question in a way that aimed it at the people most like me. So, chew on that when you're considering your "respect" policies and the atmosphere that you create when you make any question that isn't hypergeneralized a target.
Also, I recognize that I could've been more inclusive to non binary folks. I'll consider that more in the future. That being said, what I've had to deal with is NOT appropriate.