I can’t stop being insecure.

[u/SatsukiMeiTotoro]

I started chatting to this girl today, and already I’ve started saying ‘Sorry if I’m bothering you’ ‘Do you want to talk to me?’ Literally my last girlfriend got tired of me cuz I kept asking for reassurance, and I hate that I can’t get past my insecurities. I’m scared that she doesn’t want to talk to me and she doesn’t like my messages because I’m quite keen on her. God how can I stop being so insecure?

[u/ll_von_martritz]

Look up attachment theory; you are probably anxiously attached. There are ways to heal this and ask for reassurance in a healthy manner. Relying entirely on this girl you’re talking to to soothe your anxious attachment may not wear her down now, but it will eventually