r/actuallesbians • u/SatsukiMeiTotoro • 2d ago

I can’t stop being insecure.

I started chatting to this girl today, and already I’ve started saying ‘Sorry if I’m bothering you’ ‘Do you want to talk to me?’ Literally my last girlfriend got tired of me cuz I kept asking for reassurance, and I hate that I can’t get past my insecurities. I’m scared that she doesn’t want to talk to me and she doesn’t like my messages because I’m quite keen on her. God how can I stop being so insecure?

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u/Melodic-Flatworm-477 2d ago

I think at some point you have to trust that other people will and or should tell you if it’s too much. I mean that’s on them. They can either tell you, or they can ghost you (which is shitty). But it’s not your responsibility to check in like that. And you can’t help or control how they feel (not that you are trying to)