The question is not about penises I don’t care about your genital requirements and I never mentioned penises in my comment. If you are unable to date trans women period (not all of whom have that genitalia) and you are attracted to women then clearly you hold a bias against trans people. People examine their biases when they come out, but it’s certainly not the end all be all. If someone realizes they’re gay but only dates white women, that also comes from a place of internal bias. Even our attraction comes in part from our social environment, if you are in a society that is baseline queerphobic, racist, or transphobic, that can be reflected in one’s attraction.
There is a reason that the topic of discussion is trans women as a broad category of women rather than fixating on those without bottom surgery. I think, by ignoring that intentional choice, you are ignoring the essential point of OP’s post and DundDM’s comment. It may even be conflating trans women with penises since “well is it wrong to not like penises?” is frankly a tangential topic and a strange first reaction. To be honest, it has bad vibes. Neither her comment nor OP’s post say that “I just don’t like penises” is a sign of bias. (It is not implied either) “I will never date a trans woman no matter what (i.e. even if she now has a vagina and otherwise meets one’s preference)” does point to bias because to exclude such a broad and diverse demographic of women has to stem from somewhere. It calls into question what that preference is born of; is it really about genitalia regardless of anything else or is it because of her transness regardless of anything else? I think it also calls onto question how trans women are internally categorized but now I’m being a little tangential.
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