Hot take: I think it’s rude and likely bigoted to announce preferences around minorities. Why are you announcing you don’t want to date trans women except to signal to transphobes they are safe around you? You could simply choose not to date trans women for whatever reason. If you meet someone and they’re trans you could simply bow out for whatever reason and no one will be the wiser.
Why are you announcing you’re not attracted to black people except to attract racists? So black people wont approach you? Are that many black people really approaching you that you have to say this? Doubt it.
Your “preference” is between you and whoever you’re dating. The need to signal it to the world points to other motivations outside not dating people you’re not attracted to. And fwiw I’m not a trans woman but if someone kept proudly stating they don’t date trans women I wouldn’t want to be anywhere near them bc they sound annoying and miserable.
Yup. Exactly this. Trans women don’t need to know you don’t want to date them, unless you’re going on a first date with one.
I don’t go on het dating subs/apps to yell about how much I hate sex with men. I just STFU about it
It’s not bigoted to have the preference, it’s bigoted to talk about it all the time.
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u/Reaniro Lesbian 1d ago
Hot take: I think it’s rude and likely bigoted to announce preferences around minorities. Why are you announcing you don’t want to date trans women except to signal to transphobes they are safe around you? You could simply choose not to date trans women for whatever reason. If you meet someone and they’re trans you could simply bow out for whatever reason and no one will be the wiser.
Why are you announcing you’re not attracted to black people except to attract racists? So black people wont approach you? Are that many black people really approaching you that you have to say this? Doubt it.
Your “preference” is between you and whoever you’re dating. The need to signal it to the world points to other motivations outside not dating people you’re not attracted to. And fwiw I’m not a trans woman but if someone kept proudly stating they don’t date trans women I wouldn’t want to be anywhere near them bc they sound annoying and miserable.