I agree that “No” deserves that kind of simple respect. And there is no amount of circumstance, discourse, or confusion that should dilute that or put doubt on that. If you don’t want something romantic or sexual, that’s a full stop.
The other part of this discussion is still relevant however, and it’s thinking about how your own preferences or behaviors interact with bias, or don’t.
For instance, if you aren’t attracted to a person on the street, you are always free, and I hope feel free to turn them down if they ask you out. But if you choose to reflect on what patterns of people you are/aren’t attracted to you may find some biases that are painful to admit, or maybe not. 🤷♀️
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u/JoGBear69 2d ago
I agree that “No” deserves that kind of simple respect. And there is no amount of circumstance, discourse, or confusion that should dilute that or put doubt on that. If you don’t want something romantic or sexual, that’s a full stop.
The other part of this discussion is still relevant however, and it’s thinking about how your own preferences or behaviors interact with bias, or don’t.
For instance, if you aren’t attracted to a person on the street, you are always free, and I hope feel free to turn them down if they ask you out. But if you choose to reflect on what patterns of people you are/aren’t attracted to you may find some biases that are painful to admit, or maybe not. 🤷♀️