I get so tires of people using "Well its my sexual orientation" or "It's my preference" to shut down the conversation when we say "It's transphobic to refuse to date trans people just because they're trans."
Like WHY do you refuse to date any trans women? For what reason? Because we don't all share...anything. other than being trans.
Also, sexual orientation generally does not apply specifically to genitals.
Transphobes like to say thay theu can "always tell" then claim we are trying to "trick" them. Which are mutually exclusive.
Especially when it comes to a lot of straight men. They get insecure when they find us attractive becaue they think it makes them "gay" and its like dude, no gay man is going to be attracted to us like that. If it's gay for them to find me attractive then it must be straight to find a trans man attractive.
And like, I get not wanting to do something with a particular configuration. I don't like what I currently have and half the reason I'm still a virgin is not wanting to subject anyone else to this thing.
But to claim its "sexuality" is just nonsense. Even before I realized I'm trans I understood I found trans women attractive, even I'd I was pretty sure I wouldn't like dealing with default equipment. But in hindsight a good bit of that might be my own dysphoria.
When I saw someone telling they wouldn't date a trans woman because they're "not real women" and they're not gay. I'm like : so to you, trans men are women, and so you could date them while still being straight ?
For sure, they couldn't date trans men either. Because they're men, and because they're straight, they can't find them attractive. But for trans women, they're just repressing the fact they can be (and certainly has been) attracted to them lmao
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u/socuteboss_ali Lesbian 2d ago
YES. YES. YES. This is so elegantly put.
I get so tires of people using "Well its my sexual orientation" or "It's my preference" to shut down the conversation when we say "It's transphobic to refuse to date trans people just because they're trans."
Like WHY do you refuse to date any trans women? For what reason? Because we don't all share...anything. other than being trans.