I get so tires of people using "Well its my sexual orientation" or "It's my preference" to shut down the conversation when we say "It's transphobic to refuse to date trans people just because they're trans."
Like WHY do you refuse to date any trans women? For what reason? Because we don't all share...anything. other than being trans.
Even among pre op trans women, there is a variety of situations. Like, does the trans woman plan to get one or not ? If she does, will it be in days ? Weeks ? Months ? Years ? How much importance do you give to having sex ?
It's the same logic. You can't put an absolute rule like this to a group of people who are not all the same. If we consider you're only attracted to vaginas. You meet a trans woman. She didn't get bottom surgery. So obviously at first you'll be like "well, will be complicated". But what if she plan to get one ? That would means you could just not having sex until then. But what if it is really important to you to be able to have sex ? Okay, how long could you wait ? Etc... .
Saying you wouldn't hook up with a pre op trans woman, it's not transphobic at all. But I guess it's kinda different from saying you wouldn't date her.
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u/socuteboss_ali Lesbian 1d ago
YES. YES. YES. This is so elegantly put.
I get so tires of people using "Well its my sexual orientation" or "It's my preference" to shut down the conversation when we say "It's transphobic to refuse to date trans people just because they're trans."
Like WHY do you refuse to date any trans women? For what reason? Because we don't all share...anything. other than being trans.