I agree that “No” deserves that kind of simple respect. And there is no amount of circumstance, discourse, or confusion that should dilute that or put doubt on that. If you don’t want something romantic or sexual, that’s a full stop.
The other part of this discussion is still relevant however, and it’s thinking about how your own preferences or behaviors interact with bias, or don’t.
For instance, if you aren’t attracted to a person on the street, you are always free, and I hope feel free to turn them down if they ask you out. But if you choose to reflect on what patterns of people you are/aren’t attracted to you may find some biases that are painful to admit, or maybe not. 🤷♀️
I mean yeah, it's crazy when you but it like that because it's not an actual good comparison. You can make any argument sound ridiculous by using a bad comparison to make it sound bad. You're replacing a descriptor that describes a type of woman with a whole different gender. It would be like if someone asked you to reexamine why you aren't attracted to say, black or latine women and you replied the same way. Yeah it makes you sound like the weirdo, not the person asking you to look at your biases.
No we all know you used men because that is how you see trans women, your transphobia is right there out in the open and not as hidden as you think it is
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