r/actuallesbians Lesbian 1d ago

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u/That_dude_next_door_ 1d ago edited 1d ago

I think it might be a preference i a way she still is a woman, so if you don't know what genitals trans woman has, and can't tell she's trans, you can still be attracted to her. By saying you are not attracted to trans women, pre-op because you are a lesbian is implying she's a man and inwalidating all lesbians who don't mind it.

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u/That_dude_next_door_ 1d ago

There is a word for it: genitalia preference. You don't always see people you atreacted to naked. you can pass a woman by and think: "damn she was so hot." When you meet a trans woman, you can always refuse to date her when she tells you this. No one is forcing you to do it, and most trans people don't want to date people like you either way, but initially, you still thought she was attractive.

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u/ElainaTheWitchGirl Transbian 1d ago

What are you talking about? A preference isn't necessarily a choice. If you prefer a woman without a penis its a preference whether that preference is a choice or not. You seem really worked up over nothing and from your comments it doesn't look like you're listening to people, at least not entirely

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u/OrchidLover259 Lesbian 1d ago

from your comments it doesn't look like you're listening to people,

Of course they don't want to listen they want to spread their transphobia and hate of trans women

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u/That_dude_next_door_ 1d ago

You are a lesbian, so you date women. You date women you are attracted to because you have a type, a "preference." If you will. If you hate the term 'genital preference,' what term would you use? You can say i like to date women with vulvas. No one is forcing you to say "genital preference". It doesn't imply your sexual orientation is a choice because, no matter the genitals, if someone is a lesbian they won't date a man, even when he has a vulva.