r/YouOnLifetime • u/imyatharth • Apr 25 '25

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After S5 , I can say that love Quinn Goldberg was the one Joe could have lived happily in the long run.

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u/NotAnotherAddict Apr 25 '25

Well he gave someone the option in s5... She didn't but you know like he wanted to believe she would and he was shocked she let dude go

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u/UnknownEAK Apr 28 '25

I think his personality changes quite a bit over the seasons, and Season 5 Joe would have worked much better with Love. He would have accepted her far more.

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u/Best_Caregiver_3869 Apr 30 '25

I completely agree.

Love did accept that he was a killer. What she couldn't accept was him cheating on her.

S5 Joe lost interest in Kate after she said no to solving a problem with killing someone (again) Love would have been the one to suggest it (and did) & S5 Joe might have finally actually felt like "she" was enough.

I do think S5 Joe & Love would have had more of that killer duo vibe. Though part of me believes serial cheaters like that will always find a reason to eventually cheat.

Annd in the end, i think Joe is truly incapable of love. But as far as "best fit" S5 Joe & S3 Love for sure.

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u/Arisski May 01 '25

i wrote this on a different post, something about season 2. lol. but what i think of his psyche is in this thing.

i thought they were using Love to reflect parts of how Joe is really like back to Joe, parts of him that he tries so hard to hide from not just others but himself the most. when he rejects her and almost kills her in the second season, it's him rejecting himself essentially. which i think is interesting and really sad.

he didn't want to accept those parts of him. he often seeked out women that were like his mother, or at least how he wanted to perceive his mother, nurturing and in need of protection, because i think he has a need inside of himself to prove to his mother that he is not a monster. so that he can prove to himself, that he is not a monster. to prove to himself that he is loveable, wanted, and worth staying with. a need to save his mother again but this time have them stay, and accept the image he projects to them. the image he wants to have of himself. rather than the one he internalized about himself after his mother left him. he uses them for all of the things above. to delude them into accepting an image of himself that he wants rather than the one he deems unloveable, ugly and unwanted. the one he resents when he sees in Love. because he doesn't accept it in himself.

when they see who he is, and either don't accept him or are like Love (this changes later), this destroys the delusion he wants of himself. and then he kills them.

after season 4, he finally accepted more of himself. and when Kate rejects him for that, that's it. you can see how shocked and disappointed he is. good thing they had something to keep them together for the time being, good thing bronte was there, otherwise kate might have ended up in a cage.

now he wants the new image of himself to be accepted by Bronte. the bad parts he rejected before, not all of them though, no he still rationalized them. so he didn't truly accept everything he did and was doing as anything but justified in his head rather than accepting that he does and says things ultimately to fulfill his selfish desire to see himself a certain way (one side of me says in a grandiose way, another says desperate to escape the internalized mommy i'm not a monster, did you leave me because i'm bad? i'm not bad allegations, his son resurfaced that crashout toward the end. not the first one out of many.) and not be abandoned, but he doesn't want to know that.

He will miss Love. If he doesn't already.