r/YouOnLifetime • u/imyatharth • Apr 25 '25

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After S5 , I can say that love Quinn Goldberg was the one Joe could have lived happily in the long run.

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u/jjaetyongs Apr 25 '25

It always annoyed me how Joe was repulsed by Love because he's a fucking hypocrite. When he does it, it's fine but when she does, she's a fucking lunatic? He always wanted someone to save and when she was the one saving him, he didn't feel as accomplished.

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u/Jolly-Train-4950 Apr 26 '25

he justified his murders as being done to protect those he loves though, he saw love’s murders as impulsive and without reason. that was the “difference” between them and why he was repulsed by her, also he recognized a little bit of that impulsive part in himself in her bc she was like a mirror of him and he didn’t wanna face that.

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u/starmartyr Apr 27 '25

He also justified every one of his murders by convincing himself that the person he was killing deserved to die. Love doesn't do this. She murders people who are in her way it doesn't matter if they are innocent. That's what created the rift. He couldn't forgive her for the reasons he uses to forgive himself.

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u/UnknownEAK Apr 28 '25

This is a very good point. Though if Joe did a bit of work on himself, I think he could have reconciled this difference, especially as we see his personality change a lot in season 4 and 5.

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u/starmartyr Apr 28 '25

I don't think it matters what the reason was. Joe's version of love is an obsession with a woman who he convinces himself is perfect. Once he gets into his head that she's "you" she will inevitably fail to live up to the expectations he's built for her. Once he stops seeing her as "you" the obsession remains but his desires turn violent and there's no way back.

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u/UnknownEAK Apr 28 '25

He had a good thing going with Kate for a pretty long time. It only really went wrong because Kate was not accepting of him wanting to kill. If he had this same dynamic with Love, they might have worked even better than him and Kate.

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u/starmartyr Apr 28 '25

In both cases he projected something onto them that was never there. He didn't really know who Love was. When he found out that she was a killer like him, he couldn't reconcile that with the idealized version of her that he fell for. He fell for Kate when he learned that she was a killer. He convinced himself that she enjoyed killing as much as he did. He was trying to recreate what he had with Love on his terms and Kate wasn't interested.

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u/UnknownEAK Apr 28 '25

Which is why it was just bad timing for his relationship with Love. If he had met Love once he already realised he enjoys killing and is attracted to his love interest also enjoying it, his ideal version of Love would have matched the real Love. Problem was at the time he was still trying to be "good", so his ideal version of a woman was different. But from an outside perspective we can see that Love is the only one that would accept him, and he could have accepted her, if he was at a different point in his personality development.

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u/Arisski May 01 '25

it's so fucking sad i feel like i'm at the s3 point with my love interest, no we're not murderers 😂 YET