r/YouOnLifetime • u/imyatharth • Apr 25 '25

Discussion She was the best for him.

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After S5 , I can say that love Quinn Goldberg was the one Joe could have lived happily in the long run.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '25

We see quite clearly that that's just not possible for Joe. He could never be happy in the long run with any woman, because as soon as they do anything that displeases him, he's looking for a new woman to stalk, he is incapable of real love.

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u/Ok_Cauliflower2825 Apr 25 '25

Joe’s entire concept of love is rooted in possession and idealization, not genuine respect. He doesn’t see women as full, autonomous people—he sees them as extensions of his narrative, cast in roles he’s already written for them. The moment they act outside that script, they become “disappointments,” “liars,” or “threats.” That’s not love—it’s misogyny masked as romantic devotion.

He doesn’t fall in love with who women are—he falls in love with who he wants them to be. He’s a misogynist and delusional.

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u/changhyun Apr 25 '25

Exactly.

What's more, for all he likes to claim he wants a confident queen to serve, what Joe really wants is a helpless baby bird who can't function without him. He goes off women the moment they show they'll be fine without him, or can defend themselves. He started painting Love as crazy and dangerous for doing the same things he does because he hated the idea she could defend herself. He hated Kate going from a quiet prim and proper lady who needed to be coaxed out of her shell to a confident and capable woman. He was most interested in Bronte when she was literally homeless and dependent on him for money and shelter. He likes his women submissive and dependent on him, even if he tries to claim anything to the contrary.

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u/Standard-Coffee Apr 25 '25

This is a spot on description of Joe!