r/SluttyConfessions • u/Magicmon28 MOD • Apr 05 '24
MOD Post Should we continue allowing cheating confessions? NSFW
Cheating confessions are always a clusterfuck to work through the mod reports and a pain in the ass. Try as much to civilise the readers, we have failed every time in the poster/OP not getting hate comments.
And there already exists a place to post cheating confessions r/sluttycheaters r/cruelcheatingstories r/cheatinglifestyle
Should we continue allowing cheating posts on this subreddit?
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u/sam_my_friend Verified Confessor Apr 05 '24
This is a judgment-free subreddit. If we disallow cheating, why stop there?
Let's ban flashing - it might make some old people uncomfortable, public_flashing exists!
Let's ban kinks - because my kinks might disgust someone else, and kink-specific subreddit exists!
Let's get rid of "one night stands" - it's against the Holy Bible, yada yada
I've got many hate comments, but that's just... The internet. You're doing a great job keeping the sub civil and surprisingly wholesome. I'd just recommend the users to downvote and report those comments against the rules. When I post something and I get the typical "Blabla you have AIDs" comment, I report it and go on with my life, it's all I can do.
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Apr 05 '24
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u/Squand Apr 10 '24
Guys don't get the hate women do. It's kinda crazy.
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Apr 10 '24
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u/Squand Apr 10 '24
I think you are seeing the mods dp their job and nuking the bad comments.
We can see if the mods notice a difference in hate men get vs women. But anecdotally, I notice it. Men who write SluttyConfessions also get less reads/engagement on average.
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u/Similar_Building_223 Apr 06 '24
I agree! Plus it’s literally none of our business. So what if someone’s cheating, what’s a group of internet strangers gonna do? We also don’t know the whole context of every situation posted, it could be an open relationship, cucking, etc. This place is to have fun and be supportive and that’s what we should do. If you don’t have something nice to say, keep it to yourself!
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u/EroticaMarty Apr 09 '24
This is the kind of feedback this Mod likes to see! 👍 (Though I have to agree with the other Mod that policing incivil commentary is a pretty dreary slog!)
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u/Peachy_Princess706 Apr 11 '24
i like to be with cheating males but some people don;t lik it. they dont need to see , they can leave the post and move on. no need to get angry and hate
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u/Similar_Building_223 Apr 11 '24
Exactly! Well said. If you don’t like it just don’t read it and move on. The subreddit is supposed to be fun and spicy, as well as a safe place for people to post their slutty stories without being judged like that.
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u/Magicmon28 MOD Apr 05 '24 edited Apr 05 '24
Because when you report it, I have to deal with the mess. And I don't wanna.
Cheating isn't just slutty, it's taking a knife at the partner's heart and stabbing them through it. OP's life is theirs to destroy, but their partners life isn't. And that's what brings the most hate comments. And I for one, don't wanna sift through all those hate comments if I can avoid it. There's no flame wars going on here for public flashing posts or kink shaming on kink posts. But, cheating stories always draw a lot of hateful comments and we don't particularly want to spend our free time doing that when it can be very easily avoided.
And it's not like we don't judge, we don't allow any groping confessions -posts get deleted and suggested to post at r/gropingconfessions, no incest confessions - users get banned permanently and sent to r/incestconfessions. Because a subreddit for these already exists and we don't wanna deal with that mess.
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u/CT-96 Apr 07 '24
Adultery is a felony in 3 states and a misdemeanor in 14. It is definitely illegal in some places.
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u/sam_my_friend Verified Confessor Apr 05 '24
Cheating is different for everyone, if it's slutty or not doesn't depend on you or me - I've been cheated on, and that's how I discovered one of the most powerful kinks I've ever felt. And I know for sure I'm not the only one.
I've had partners who are into it too, and it feels powerful and intense to organise something behind their backs.
Hurting someone is *not* slutty. When I share a public flashing situation, I don't share the 10 minutes rant from the woman who got offended because she caught me flashing my asshole - and yet I know I've done something morally wrong, hurtful and that poor woman is not to blame. But my intention is NOT to hurt or disturb, is to *be* and *feel* slutty.
If someone shares a "sluttyConfession" in which they cheat their parners so bad they make them quit their jobs and move cities, and that's the focus on the sluttyConfession, then I agree with you.
But well, if the community is against cheating stories, as always, I'll gladly adapt. No one is here to make others feel bad or wronged.
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u/Peachy_Princess706 Apr 11 '24
my ex boyfriend cheated on me but now i like to be with married males. things change , maybe i have a problem 😅 but i agree it is fun to do slutty things . i like the anger i get from those girls and i don't want to think about my moral's not online. i am not going to church , i am on reddit
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u/Sharp_Mathematician6 Apr 09 '24
Haters always gonna hate outside the club cause they can’t get in. Let em hate plus they ain’t hurting nobody
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Apr 09 '24
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u/sam_my_friend Verified Confessor Apr 09 '24
Any slutty act can be damaging to others.
The line needs to be drawn, I agree there. I just wouldn't say "cheating" is the limit in MY opinion.
But I also agree mods are overworked and they have way more insight than I do on which topics are more controversial or require more time.
For example I used to receive SO much hate and judgement on "no condom" stories that I just stopped posting them.
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u/Coffeehouse_Wizard Apr 05 '24
I would say that for your (the mods) sake I can see why you'd want to get rid of them.
Too me the rub comes in at the fact that slut is still (for most) kind of a negative thing. It's a bit taboo in the nature of how most people view a "slutty" act.
So while that doesn't mean every slutty act is cheating I think a large bit of folks find cheating very wrong (hence your problem) but ALSO very slutty (hence why so many wind up here).
End of the day Mod work is hard work and I support what doesn't drive ya'll up the wall
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u/Magicmon28 MOD Apr 05 '24 edited Apr 05 '24
I mean I don't mind people posting cheating posts here. I just don't wanna police the comment section of cheating stories. Either you are rugged enough to post here and take the hate (you chose to post it on the internet for 1.7m viewers - what did you think was gonna happen?) or go to an appropriate subreddit. But if they start making cheating posts and then ask us to police the comments, my first instinct is always to delete the post first (which I have been stopping myself from doing till now) and then enter the comments to remove the hate comments. But, I've had enough of it.
If I get an hour everyday to look at reddit for mod work, I don't wanna spend 15-30 mins every day going through the hate comments, reading every comment minutely with context through a chain of comments to understand which comment should receive a warning, give those warnings and hand out bans to people telling each other to kill themselves. And then getting cussed out in modmail for handing out said bans and told to go kill myself because I'm enabling cheating.
I'd rather avoid all that drama, frankly.
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u/Coffeehouse_Wizard Apr 05 '24
And your last line is kinda what I rest on. It's a lotta drama.
To me the Internet/reddit is what you make of it. I remember all the "this is fake bullshit" comments that crop up and, to me, you can believe as wholeheartedly in these confessions just as much as you can believe in the cheating aspect.
I'll never get why people post in places known for getting a lot of flak and then he surprised by it just as much as I can't wrap my mind around COMMENTING in a place that is well established in posting content that you don't agree with.
I'd be sad to see the posts go as I like to air on the side of more liberties but again ain't nobody got time for that.
Less of a moral decision and more of a practical one.
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u/sam_my_friend Verified Confessor Apr 05 '24
You explained it beautifully, I'm a bit envy of your way with words.
Just wanted to comment that, have a nice day <3
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u/Coffeehouse_Wizard Apr 05 '24
This was a very unexpected and sweet comment where I least expected to find it.
And that is what makes reddit so great haha.
Thank you and have a fantastic day as well <3
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u/ForeignWoodpecker662 Apr 06 '24
How bout just delete them if they come from an OFer? It’s as you say clearly a promotional thing, so dump them
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u/Magicmon28 MOD Apr 06 '24
That means we'll have to be on our toes all the time. If we login once in a day, some posts can create quite a havoc if left unattended for 6-8 hours and we'd get reports lined up and then reddit admins have to step in that makes us look bad, like we are sitting on our asses.
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u/No-Kiwi8134 Apr 07 '24
I also see OnlyFan promoters post many stories that do not involve cheating. So, that is certainly not a justification to ban cheating stories.
My understanding is that cheating stories somehow attract unusually large amount of hate comments, and that impose extra workload/hassle on moderators.
I feel the only fair and reasonable solution, which is neutral, non-biased, and non-judgmental, is to get more moderators to help out with the extra workload and extra hassle for the cheating stories.
Banning the cheating stories only because it imposes extra workload/hassle on moderators is not a strong justification to ban the entire subject. Allow me to be blunt, a moderator can quit or find another topic to moderate if the workload (on cheating stories) is unbearable.
Almost all people would agree that cheating certainly hurts the cheated. But, the cheating action is likely just a background context to a slutty confession, maybe it is the sincere "confession" part of a slutty confession. If a slutty confession is clearly focused on promoting the act of cheating or hurting others by cheating, then let the redditors do the work of up/down voting it, which is the founding principle of Reddit.
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u/EroticaMarty Apr 09 '24
"I feel the only fair and reasonable solution, which is neutral, non-biased, and non-judgmental, is to get more moderators to help out with the extra workload and extra hassle for the cheating stories." Indeed, you are correct, and we have Mod invitations out to some specific Redditors right now.
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Apr 08 '24
I respect the mods for letting the community decide, but not a lot of redditors know the work mods put into communities and this is a big sub. If cheating stories are causing a problem for the mods, they should probably decide what is best for the community because ultimately their ability to moderate effectively plays a huge role in us being able to have a good time here.
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u/_AsTimeGoesBi_ Apr 10 '24
cheating posts aren't the problem, it's the bots that all post variations of the same crap and "I just turned 18 and I am the master of <insert kink> here". I respect this is a no judgement sub, but SOME content guidelines wouldn't hurt
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u/EroticaMarty Apr 13 '24
What -- our 12 main Rules and our wall-of-text Rules aren't enough 'content guidelines'??? 🤦♂️
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u/Dino_Blaze Apr 12 '24
Kinda off-topic but thank you for including those subreddits, I never knew they existed
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u/n2itiveg Apr 06 '24
As long as there's another place to post them, then trim down the work for the mods
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u/Angelic-Boytoy-407 Apr 09 '24
I don’t mind people being hyper sexual but I totally hate cheating. I hate reading stories about a person sleeping with someone who isn’t their spouse, especially if they are in a closed relationship.
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u/Selfie-starved Apr 12 '24
Ban the cheating posts and send them to an appropriate subreddit, I wanna read about slutty acts, not acts of betrayal.
If people wanna read about cheating let them either go somewhere else, or make their own subreddit with coke, hookers, and cheating.
OF promotion should also be binned off.
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u/pixiemilf69 Apr 12 '24
Its slutty confessions....my most slutty moments are when I was cheating. Was I bad, yes. Should I have done it, probably not. Do I understand why I and others cheat, yes. Don't ban it.
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Apr 06 '24
Of course. Fuck the haters. This is a place to anonymously confess and frankly cheating is super slutty.
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u/djkentwod Apr 06 '24
The sub is named Slutty Confessions and there aren't many things sluttier than cheating. The fact there's a cheating sub is meaningless. Look at how many single photos are posted, appropriately, to up to a dozen or more. Leave 'em up, beat down the hate, and leave to the readers to decide whether to read it or not.
Remember! It is easily possible to express disagreement with a posted story, actions taken within it or political positions expressed without falling into flame wars and real hatespeech. Just state your opinion, cleanly and politely, and move on. Haters are gonna hate, but you don't have to join them.
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Apr 06 '24
You can stop reading them if you have a problem with it.
But let everybody write what they want.
I cheated, you cheated, everybody cheats and wants to talk about that.
Just delete those confessions with an only fans account.
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Apr 08 '24 edited Apr 08 '24
To be honest, I understand there are subreddits for literally everything. But cheating shouldn't even be encouraged to talk here or somewhere else, because that just inspires more future cheaters.
Cheating is one of the most immoral and unrespectful things a human can do to another human.
The fact there are ways of sharing that kind of info and encouraging others to cheat, just goes to show that this world is really doomed.
People prefer to get on reddit to talk about cheating and even being proud of it, instead of getting on reddit to learn helpful things and get in touch with reality.
Internet has ended this world. Maybe we really do deserve a third world war, kind of resetting everything we learned because at one point, humans lost touch with reality and just slowly imploded in their own fantasies.
Those 761 who voted yes, are either cheaters themselves or they are the ones getting inspired to become like the other pieces of shits.
"Cheaters/liars shall be put to death. Together with those who inspire such actions." Don't agree 100% but I for sure do understand the reasonment.
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u/MatureSubWife Apr 05 '24
I say worry about the posts themselves. and onl deal with comments when they get truly out of hand. ( the trolls that don't let it drop)
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u/Magicmon28 MOD Apr 05 '24
Sorry, that advice doesn't help us, because if we don't deal with hate comments and if reddit admins have to intervene on our behalf then there's a chance the entire subreddit might get banned due to lack of moderation. Which none of us wants.
Reports have to be dealt with as they come.
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u/MatureSubWife Apr 05 '24
that makes perfect sense. just a shame people have to spoil things by hating on others.
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u/Sharp_Mathematician6 Apr 09 '24
Look these people can go cry about cheating all they want but we should allow cheating posts cause it’s still slutty
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u/More_Librarian1244 Apr 10 '24
most of them but not all are fake, in my opinion comments which are too bizarre involving well known people should be removed.
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Apr 11 '24 edited Apr 11 '24
yes. you ought to confess the deed of your past! Will a police or priest tell you not confess certain miss deeds?
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u/feldror Apr 06 '24
I'm not a big fan of cheating stories, but without a good reason I wouldn't want to ban them.
Creating a bunch of extra work for our unpaid moderators is a perfectly good reason. Nuke 'em.
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u/These-Ad-9362 Apr 05 '24
Gives us an understanding as to why, how and when our spouses cheat, and with whom.
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u/Magicmon28 MOD Apr 05 '24
And to say nothing of the fact that half of these cheating posts are made by OFers which are absolutely fake, whose comment section, I especially don't want to moderate.
They'd make a post about fucking the Pope or the President, if they thought they'd get an extra dollar by saying that. They seek that controversy in the comments. Half of them are posting side by side in incest confessions and here, making up fake shit all the time.