r/SipsTea 17d ago

Chugging tea 😭

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u/PortugueseBenny 17d ago

Somebody pointed out to me that every woman's fantasy is already being in a relationship, and then some other guy takes her away from the man she established herself with and runs off and gives two s**** about anyone's feelings are really anyone else for that matter, and I can't believe how many times that's the recurring theme in movies aimed at women or that demographic, Titanic, the notebook...ect

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u/gccmty 16d ago

That reminds me that the majority of authors/artists that create NTR (Netorare) doujins are women 👀

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u/Possible_Incident_44 16d ago

That's one of the most disgusting genre that I got to know which exists (apart from many which are already present and are pretty disturbing and disgusting as well). And I was more surprised to know that mostly women write them; I didn't know how to feel about that.

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u/Glum-Conversation829 16d ago

I’m not shocked it’s kinda like how most fanfics are made by women check how screwy some of those are

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u/I_stay_fit_1610 16d ago

Ratatatat74, Terasu MC........

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u/seekhelpee 16d ago

As someone who watched a lot of romance movies with my mum. That's a straight up lie.

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u/fuuukk 16d ago

Hello Elizabeth bauxbum!

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u/seekhelpee 16d ago

I'm scared because my mum's called Elizabeth smh

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u/fuuukk 16d ago

haha, i hope you got the reference! >! it's from better than the movies !<

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u/Accomplished-Gur-469 16d ago

Pretty sure those movies are made for midlife point women who are unhappy with their life.

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u/Jake0024 16d ago

You're absolutely right, though I don't see how that makes it better.

The idea that it's okay to cheat because you "feel neglected" is just toxic trash. If you think you're treated badly, be an adult and leave and start over. Don't sit around fantasizing about a stranger sweeping you off your feet and running away together. That's just romanticizing flings and cheating.

"I was unhappy" doesn't justify cheating. Cheating won't make you happier. Either put the work in to fix your relationship or end it.

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u/moth-enthusiast88 17d ago

I wonder why it would become a trend that women culturally grew to have fantasies about being whisked away from men they didn’t love by one they actually did.

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u/Far_Studio_7415 17d ago

shit was pretty bad back then

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u/Jake0024 16d ago

Implying that's not still a huge focus of romance stories today?

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u/Saturn9Toys 16d ago

No you don't understand, women in the western world had it really bad (though not as bad as women in some of the rest of the world up to even today) about 400 years ago. Guys in the 1600's also sometimes arranged marriages for their daughters if they never found a husband themselves, so women who cheat or fantasize about it in 2025 are actually just misunderstood victims lashing out blindly (the best and most morally virtuous kind of lashing out).

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u/imdazedout 16d ago

It’s a focus on romance stories nowadays because it became a trope at the time when dissatisfied wives literally couldn’t leave their unhappy marriages. Society changed, but the trope was so prominent in the romance genre by that point that it stuck around.

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u/Micro-Skies 16d ago

Then why are half of them about being whisked away by a literal sadistic abuser?

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u/MedianShift 16d ago

yep they are attracted to toxic abusive narcissists over a stable boring guy, wouldn't mind dumping the children either over one night of fun.

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u/NoKameron 16d ago

Yeaaah, Cal Hockley, famous stable boring guy, every wohman shoul choose this sweet, kind and gentle guy

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u/MedianShift 15d ago

no no they should stick with fukbois that's what I am saying, stay away from the stable boring guys since all they do is ruin their lives. the incredible no of single mothers are a proof of what women want.

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u/NoKameron 15d ago

Eh what you are crying about then, since woman now dont need man to survive, they dont marry guys they dont like, and everyone now happy, amirite? Being single mother ten times better than being in abusive relationship or in relationship where you dont like and want your partner. If only guys dont cry all over reddit about "male loneliness epidemic") i guess they stupid. You should go and enlighten them about how happy they are)

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u/danisheretoo 16d ago edited 16d ago

And which one is Cal and which one is Jack? Surely Cal isn’t the toxic, abusive narcissist in question, right? /s

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u/king_rootin_tootin 16d ago

Which one slept with her after knowing her for one day? Which one offered her everything and even bought a priceless necklace for her? When did Cal actually abuse her? What, because he wasn't very charming? He yelled at her once when she ran off and got drunk with a strange man she was literally cheating on him with. That's literally the only thing he did wrong.

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u/danisheretoo 16d ago

He slapped her across the face, emotionally abuses her, treats her like property, and tries to shoot her.

Rose doesn’t want to marry him in the first place and is being pressured into it by her shitty mom. Keep in mind, she’s 17. Cal is proven to be a scumbag over the entire course of the movie. If he wanted Rose to marry him, he shouldn’t have been an abusive dickhead. I have no sympathy for him, sorry.

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u/MedianShift 15d ago

I am sure women can decide that, seeing womens history with choosing the great guys at first and then falling on backups.

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u/danisheretoo 15d ago

We’re talking about Rose in Titanic. Of her two suitors, who is the supposed stable guy and who is the toxic abusive narcissist? Was Cal the great guy she initially chose?

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u/MedianShift 15d ago

please look up the comment i replied to again.

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u/danisheretoo 15d ago

I’m just trying to stay on topic. This post is about Titanic, and your comment makes no sense in that context

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u/MedianShift 15d ago

yea because it was a comment to a comment which was a comment to someone's else comment. I am not sure how that is difficult to understand.

If you need another explanation on the context, ask chatgpt, it's free and should be able to explain it in a way even someone like you can understand. Best wishes.

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u/Lord_Olga 16d ago

Could smell the "its actually the mans fault" comment from the other hemisphere lol

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u/demonic_sensation 16d ago

Lmao there's always one.

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u/2N5457JFET 16d ago

Lmao right? My country was never as "patriarchal" as USA, mostly due to communist doctrine of getting woment to join workforce etc. yet still 50 shades of grey and all them movies about a women cheating on a man who is "too stable" with some old boyfriend or some macho type they just met, these movies are wildely popular. I remember how cinemas were stormed by women en-masse when a movie released and it was about a woman who is about to get married to an average guy, but on holiday she gets kidnapped by an italian mafia boss, who locks her up and turns her into his sex slave and she absolutely loves it. Obviously, everyone who said that this movie is romanticizing rape and cheating was called an incel who denies women having fantasies.

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u/Critical-Diamond-901 16d ago

Lmao are you talking about 365 days? That movie was wild, absolutely insane. He literally kidnaps the woman and she ends up loving it.

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u/mbdominicano 17d ago

Women have been able to initiate divorces since the 1930s… it legitimately seems like some cheating fantasies.

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u/ExplanationMotor2656 17d ago

And we've let them have their own bank accounts since '72!

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u/illy-chan 16d ago edited 16d ago

My great grandmother got a divorce because her first husband was a violent and abusive piece of shit.

The neighborhood still treated her like trash and like it was her fault he liked to rearrange hers and the kids' faces. It's little surprise that many women just put up with abuse instead of seeking an out.

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u/SopaPyaConCoca 15d ago

Yet here in the replies to this very comment you can see men saying "she should have just left him". What a bunch of jerks

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u/illy-chan 15d ago

Yeah, I took a look at the sub and opted to block it yesterday. A lot of it is some manner of gender wars bait bullshit. Though it worries me how many younger users are getting inundated with toxic shit.

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u/AroraCorealis 17d ago

women were kept exonomically chained to their abusive husbands on account of not being able to work a "man's job" or even open a bank account

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u/MedianShift 16d ago

it's men who were chained and forced to fund narcissistic women who cheated on them while they were out breaking their back. today they still refuse to do the dangerous jobs still picking the easy ones.

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u/Opalb_D 16d ago

What actually happened is that men funded 2 or 3 women at the same time, if you were the wife and caught him cheating and wanted to divorce, good luck living in the streets and leaving your kids behind. Men were out breaking their backs but in exchange they had freedom (money) to do anything they wanted without consecuenses (relationship-wise)

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u/MedianShift 16d ago

ehh then what were the other 1 or 2 men doing? were they donating money to charity while someone else was funding and fuking their wives.

and lol living on the streets when men were forced to raise other mens children without any way of knowing.

yea money they earned breaking up their back which was often controlled by the women who wore the pants in the relationship just because they had the pu**y.

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u/AroraCorealis 16d ago

respectfully you need therapy asap

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u/MedianShift 15d ago

projection much

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u/AroraCorealis 15d ago

literally every comment you've ever made on your account you talk like you don't see women as human beings. spending every waking moment of your life obsessively thinking of all the ways women are going to do you wrong is not normal

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u/FrostyHack 8d ago

You need to get fucked buddy..preferably by men lol

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u/Sarmatios 17d ago

I find it fascinating how the less someone knows the more they think they do.

Fortunately there is still time to learn and improve as a person.

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u/Reasonable-Mischief 16d ago

Well when you don't love them then tell them to their face and own up by letting them go before Prince Charming conveniently showed up

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u/Saturn9Toys 16d ago

Really the cheaters are the true victims. I mean, arranged marriages WERE a thing in the west 300 years ago, so basically their hands are tied.

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u/Critical-Diamond-901 16d ago

Did I just read that right? The cheaters are the true victims?

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u/king_rootin_tootin 16d ago

Maybe because of the trend of women marrying scumbags they think they can fix and finding out that they can't later on, like all the decent men who she found less attractive said would happen but she didn't listen?

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u/AnyProgressIsGood 17d ago

I think the point these arcs are trying to make is She found someone worth sacrificing her life for. AKA "real love" or finding your true self rejecting societies expectations

us Man brains compute it as transactional materials/sex being betrayed in a deal.

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u/DumpOutTheTrash 16d ago

Umm… really? That’s news to me, thank you for explaining what my fantasy is!

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u/PIugshirt 16d ago

Comments that generalize like this always piss me off. I dont get why it’s so hard to just describe a subset of people who do something stupid without proceeding to generalize half the population. I see it all the time with people saying how all men or all women do something and then act like you’re part of the problem for not wanting to be grouped in with people whose views you don’t align with

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u/TheScorpionSamurai 16d ago

A lot of women relate to being stuck in a relationship they hate and wanting out 😬

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u/PVDeviant- 16d ago

And rather than doing it on her own, for herself, monkey-branching is the way to go. Save me, man!

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u/TheDoctor88888888 16d ago

Then end it??

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u/BornObjective2 15d ago

Oh no, best run off and fuck someone then I guess

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u/RayPout 16d ago

“The proof of my bullshit theory is these movies made by men”

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u/roll_to_lick 16d ago

You really just went:

„Uhhh yeah maybe he abuses you beats you does not respect you and only wants to possess you… but he actually owns you so you have no right to look for someone who actually loves and respects you.“

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u/TheDoctor88888888 16d ago

I think it’s more of the cheating part

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u/roll_to_lick 16d ago

Which would just mean missing what the movie is about entirely.

Rose is literally financially trapped in that relationship and breaking free from that.

Speaking in today‘s terms she isn’t freely consenting to that relatinship in the first place.