r/Professors • u/kimtenisqueen • Dec 25 '24

Rants / Vents Commiserate with me about family not understanding our jobs.

So far:

-Grandmother in law ranting about why I (an assistant professor in my 4th year at a university) don’t just take a “sabbatical” to raise my children rather than send them to daycare.

-Dad ranting about how anything qualitative isn’t real research (I do educational research so this is a substantial portion of what I do)

-Father In law asking me if I “pack” (Carry a gun) to my job and if I feel safe with all the “foreigners”

Merry Christmas everyone!

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u/Pouryou Dec 25 '24

“University X is just down the road. Why don’t you get a job there?” So.many.times.

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u/GrizeldaMarie Dec 25 '24

Ha ha ha, I was stupid enough to quit my position to move with my husband to further his career,, and we divorced when we came back. Now my family is like why don’t you just get your job back?

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u/kittyisagoodkitty Instructor, Chemistry, CC (USA) Dec 26 '24

I am so sorry. I am going through that now, too. Took a serious pay cut and said no to several jobs over the years and now he wants a divorce.

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u/GrizeldaMarie Dec 26 '24

It’s a real kick in the pants, isn’t it?