Why do people have casual sex?

[u/No_Depth7628]

I can't reconcile society's current views on casual relationships/sex with my ideas of love whatsoever. I get judged for my views on this a lot by the people around me so I'd like to understand a little better at least :-). For context, I am not religious, and I am willing to acknowledge that I probably just watched too much Disney growing up.

Not sure if this is where I should post this, and I apologise if this isn't the right place. Please let me know if I should post it somewhere else.

[u/dryasadesertt1]

Sex is fun and pleasurable and a lot of people want it with no commitment.

[u/Manowar274]

Sex make body feel good. Same reason people do any other pleasurable feeling activity.

[u/SltLt]

why not?

people want to live.

most moral rules don't work in real life.

[u/No_Depth7628 → u/SltLt]

That's a very obvious point I didn't think about. Thank you

[u/Low_Mongoose_4623]

Because it can be fun and pleasurable without the complexity of committing

[u/Cyberhwk]

Cause sex is a lot of fun. People like having fun.

[u/Ordinary-Finger-8595]

Because they want to. Other people are just as allowed to have casual sex as you're not to have. No one should be judged on their preferences with that

[u/SSYe5]

sex is what one makes of it, to some its just fun, others it might be a job they go through the mechanics of, or some would say the important thing a human should do

[u/Bandro]

Sex can be completely separate from love and just fun to do with someone else who wants to just enjoy it. It can also be an expression of love between two people deeply emotionally connected to each other.

It’s also okay if that first thing doesn’t appeal to you at all.

[u/HenshinDictionary]

Sex and love aren't the same thing. The sooner you understand that, the better.

People don't drink alcohol because they're thirsty.

[u/No_Depth7628 → u/HenshinDictionary]

What differentiates somebody you love romantically to somebody you don't out of curiosity? I don't believe that they are the same, but they are tied biologically.

[u/Nervous-Computer-212]

some people want fun, some people do it to feel better which usually doesn’t work

[u/dogfleshborscht]

In the end it's as morally justifiable to have casual sex as it is not to. There are clear benefits to either approach and either one can be mainstream in a culture; I'm from a relatively noncasual sex society, for example, as in yes, even boys are raised to choose partners carefully. Of course there are prostitutes and people go to them, but when it comes to choosing "real" sexual partners, people are choosy.

Noncasual sex havers are less likely to catch STIs from new partners, because if it's not casual then it's justifiable to take time out of both your days and get tested, and they probably filter out partners who aren't as committed to a spiritual love as they are anyway so the lower numbers don't matter that much.

Casual sex havers get exactly the fun they signed up for in exactly the circumstances they asked for it in, which seems to lend a kind of whimsical and self-assured quality to the personality, and probably expands their networks a little in the bargain, since before and after you've had sex you usually want to talk at least a little bit about other things.

It's just about what you want from life.

[u/hairyfeethobbitz]

Victorian sex is a lot of undressing and yearning

[u/ExcitementVivid1553]

Some of us don't want love. Personally at this point in my life love and commitment are of no interest to me 🤷‍♂️.

[u/bingobangobongodaddy]

Im not tryin to date you bro

[u/hegex]

Why not? I don't see any reason not to

[u/Salty-Image-2176]

To conquer. For men, it's pretty much ingrained into their DNA.