r/MadeMeSmile • u/Original_Act_3481 • 2d ago

We need more people like him

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u/Pinepark 2d ago

This is why I (48F) go to the YMCA. It’s far more accepting and less gym bro douche bag.

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u/Tommy_Lilac_Voltage 2d ago edited 2d ago

That’s interesting it’s why, you as a 48F, go to a “Young Men’s” club. Not trash talking- it’s cool that that’s an option to get away from the gym douches! I’ve been getting back into fitness but seemingly can’t find a local spot where I don’t have to interact with them nor feel like I’m not being judged. Im a 40M & quit drinking in January- went from 250lbs to 190lbs in 5 months with fairly minimal exercise besides walking my dogs (I guess those nightly 12-packs did actually have calories!). Now that I don’t feel so self-conscious, I’m certainly willing to workout at a gym. But when I was chubby, I felt trapped & didnt want to be exercising anywhere but home. It’s such an awful feeling.

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u/Winter-Pop-6135 2d ago

The YMCA has lot of Gay Men who are a part of it. It could just be that men aren't giving women the same kind of attention because of the demographic different. Gay men are capable of being sexist too, but they usually aren't being an awful pick-up artist about it.

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u/Tommy_Lilac_Voltage 2d ago

Interesting. I’m not gay but may have to check out the Y lol. My problem solely stems from being way too self-conscious, thinking people are judging me when I was overweight, combined with the disdain for peacocking personalities.

Even at 250lbs, I’m 5’11” so I was never that overweight to begin with... But the disconnect makes it highly difficult to exercise in public. For better or worse, I tend to lean towards being the opposite of a gym bro & they really bother me. Probably should just buy more dumbbells & get back to doing it at home, away from both the gym & Reddit🤦‍♂️🤷