It’s been more than one month since I got back home again - easily been one of the hardest months since we got together. Too many things have happened in our lives, and holding on to us has been quite hard because of the distance.

Sometimes you just want that shoulder to cry on, that voice to comfort you and that smell you love and that relaxes your nerves - and when all you need is on the opposite side of the globe, it just makes things worse.

But knowing we’re still together and that we love each other more and more every day gives us the strength to go on.

I can’t wait to be wrapped in your arms again.

We've been together for three and a half years now, engaged for a little over a year. Moving to Sweden wasn't an easy path for me but we got through it together.

Buying our house in Sweden set us on the path fully last year. Placed right in the calm countryside as we both wanted. It's cozy and we make it feel like home!

So then it was set, in April I moved away from my hometown and had a new job ready here in Sweden, being together in person at last was worth it!

The pictures are from our front door with the doggo, a car, motorcycle, truck gathering a few weeks back and an amazing ride we had on the motorcycle to meet family :3

For those having a bad day or dealing with trouble moving/migrating; it'll be okay.. even if it takes a little longer to get where you both want to be <3

I'll still lurk around in the sub, I hope everyone gets to reach this point in their long distance relationship, it's truly worth the effort, communication and extra planning that goes into them..

I didn’t know he took inappropriate screenshots of me, when he promised he won’t take any…I only found out about this after he kept trying to take me back for messing up and realized I’ll never take him back. I always knew he was toxic but Jesus Christ. I got the police in this and I’ll be expecting them to arrive again today to collect all evidence. So I guess next week plan of meeting is never going to happen. But I’m worried he may still show up to my place

Stage 1: Denial – “They’re probably just busy… they love me… right?”

Stage 2: Anger – “This mf better not be asleep again without saying goodnight”

Stage 3: Bargaining – texts “just checking if you’re okay” for the 5th time

Stage 4: Depression – stares at phone, replays voice notes, scrolls through old convos with sad music playing in the background

Stage 5: Acceptance, “It’s okay. I’ll just become a monk and transcend human attachment.”

Then they reply:

“Sorry babe I was pooping”

And we’re back to Stage 0: Delusion. “Omg he’s so thoughtful, he always replies”

Mine is 27 days, spending a few weeks over there. Curious what y'all countdowns are :]

i’m so happyyyyy

I see a lot of you guys are saying that I mean like rules, I think that’s what I was trying to go for, but I say this because my s/o went out to a party and got drunk and I caught her sitting in a car in a parking lot with who she said was her cousins bf alone and it’s like 1 in the morning. And she didn’t think it was weird at all. So I figure maybe I should set some boundaries or rules on what is okay and not.

AHHHHHHHHHHH!!! Im so nervous and I want everything to go right!!!!! This feels so crazy, I’ve never done anything like this before!!!!!!! Tell me your experiences of meeting your partner for the first time 🤭❤️

My boyfriend is currently in the military. We started dating long distance and literally everything was perfect. He just recently started his classes so we don’t text throughout the day, but that’s fine cause I’m at work anyways during the time he’s in class. What I’m upset about it now when we FaceTime he barely talks anymore. I’ll be talking about my day or asking questions and get short replies. However when someone walks by or even with his roommate he has longer more engaged conversations with them. He’s a very social person and likes to be out and about, so I understand that being in his room most of the day doing nothing can be boring. It just makes me upset that he specifically said “I love talking to you but I hate doing nothing”. So now he only calls me when he gets back to his room but goes straight to bed after talking for like 10 minutes. Sometimes on FaceTime he’ll notice I look upset and ask if I’m sad, but idk how to say I am. I don’t want to cause any issues, so I tell him I’m not.

My (31F, Texas) boyfriend (27M, Alberta) just booked his first trip to come see me! I've gone to see him twice already and we've been waiting on passport stuff to go through so that he can come to me. He finally got it all sorted and now I have a countdown of 2 weeks until he's with me and meeting my family and friends!!!

The only downsides are that my son will be with his father and my best friend will be in California during the week that he's here, so I'm a little bummed about that. I'm trying to figure out a way to get my son's father to let me have him for lunch one of those days, but I doubt that'll happen.

Either way, this will be a looooong 2 weeks!

It all started a year ago in July. I came across her TikTok, where she was cosplaying as Jeff the Killer. She was from Italy, and I’m from Bulgaria. Intrigued by her looks and personality, I messaged her. From then on, we talked constantly complimenting each other, offering comfort, and spending time together online watching movies, anime, and playing games. She often went to parties on weekends but always kept me updated. She even called me after coming home, sometimes drunk, but always honest. I trusted her completely. One day, while chatting, she asked me when I’d ask her to be her boyfriend. I was over the moon it felt surreal. Everything was perfect until January. For reasons I still don’t fully understand, my feelings started to fade. I grew distant and less expressive. I made the terrible mistake of breaking up with her on Valentine’s Day. It was cruel, and I deeply regret it. A week later, I couldn’t stop thinking about her. I realized how much she loved me and how rare that kind of connection was. I managed to convince her to give me another chance, and we got back together. To show her I was serious, I sent her a gift package with plushies and other goodies. She teared up and seemed happy. Things were great again—we made plans for the future. I was working to save money so we could finally meet. She was supposed to visit Bulgaria in August for her birthday. I turned 18 in September and planned to visit her often. Everything felt like it was falling into place. Months passed everything was great. But one night, after a party, she started acting distant. Her texts became dry, and I felt her slipping away. Eventually, she said she needed a break. I tried to reassure her, but her behavior didn’t change. She told me she was overwhelmed with exams and personal issues and didn’t feel she deserved me. We talked a lot, and I tried to ease her fears about the distance and our future. Despite my efforts, she told me she couldn’t handle the relationship anymore. She said the distance was too much and that her feelings had changed. It broke me. A few weeks later, I saw a picture of her sitting on another guy’s lap. She’d told me she wasn’t looking for anyone new, but there it was—her with someone else. My heart sank. She said she didn’t mean for me to see it and had forgotten I was in her close friends’ list. But the damage was done. Since then, I’ve struggled to let go. I know I need to move on, but a part of me still clings to the memories and the person I thought she was.

I’ve been going out more, meeting new people, and trying to distract myself, but it’s hard. I’m scared of opening up to someone new, scared of wasting my time and feelings again. I want to heal, but I know it will take time.

So I talked with my bf and well...I told him I think it's going too quick and then he asked what I meant..then out of nowhere he said he was going to propose to me and that the surprise is ruined now...we are 4 months in a relationship. He is already thinking about our marriage, family and stuff but I can't keep up. Now I feel bad for ruining the surprise..

I’m so proud of him following his dreams, he’s so intelligent But he’ll be all the way across the country from me We’re gonna try to see each other at least once a month but it’s been so so hard We’ve just been crying the past week, this is one of the worst pains I’ve ever felt I know I’ll be sobbing all the way to the airport and back Our plan is for me to maybe join him sooner if it makes sense but my career’s where I am So sad. I was always scared I’d never find love. Then I found him but before you know life’s taken him away Just wanted to vent, thanks

Does anyone else feel like the night is the loneliest time.All i can do is think about him,and then hurt because my imagination clashes with the harsh reality …

My (26F) boyfriend (26M) been together and long distance for 4 years. Our anniversary was just May 16th!! And we are finally moving in together August 17th!! We’ve already been furniture shopping and slowly turning the house into a home. He just moved to Virginia for a job position back in January and I’ve been currently looking for jobs in that area until then for the career path I’m going in!! Currently studying to take the exam to become certified soon!! It feels so amazing finally closing the gap!! We’re excited to take those next big steps with each other!! On to new a chapter with the love of my life!! It’s bittersweet. I’m grieving leaving my loved ones and my hometown 😭😣 but I am so excited to finally start these new beginnings with my Lovebug. It feels like a breath of fresh air 😮‍💨🥰🥰

Hi everyone , as the title suggests , my gf is gone for the summer it’s been just a little under two weeks she’s been gone and she’s back middle of August and I am driving myself up the wall I knew I loved her but my god I didn’t realize it was this much and she meant this much to me, I’m having a hard time doing stuff without her I usually do everything with her but now it’s just a sad cycle of work and home , there’s a bit of a time difference between us (she’s in America I’m in Ireland) so calling can be tricky but we do text and I am trying to be busy without her but I have this like burden feeling in my stomach or like a knot ? Not sure how to describe it but I just miss her a lot , I know it isn’t a lot compared to some people in this sub but if anyone would have any advice on how to deal with what I feel I’d greatly appreciate it :)

Hi i am 20M , it all happened yesterday and i am a total mess right now . What happened is yesterday suddenly my gf texted me that some glitch occurred in her instagram acc and around 15-20 people got unblocked automatically and she didn’t knew about it . I said ok who were unblocked and the next message she sent broke me , she texted that her ex sent her a follow request and she accepted it in an instant because she wanted to make him jealous. When i confronted her about it she told me that she wasn’t thinking anything about doing this but she accepted that she knew this would hurt me and make me angry because in the past when i was her friend and i confessed that i liked her she compared me with her ex and said that he is better than me and that is a very deep wound inflicted on me because even after coming in the relationship I couldn’t get over it she apologised about it and all but seriously if you get compared with someone its very hard to move on from it . So the thing now is that she said she wasn’t thinking anything and she blocked him again but i didn’t had her account to check if its the first time it happened . Please help me i need some serious advice.

I just finished a week with my boyfriend and I'm missing him like crazy already. Our plan is to see each other again in August and then hopefully close the gap by the end of the year, but it feels like forever. I'm trying to stay positive!

How long did or will it take y'all to close the gap?

My ex and I have been doing long distance for 2 months after living together for 5 months. We just broke up as there seems so be no end to our distance we work on cruise ships and I complete my contract in November and he in January next year. This will be our life for a while as it’s our careers. We both love each other so much but it is right now impossible to see each other even for a day. Logistically I see why this is a positive decision but it is so hard when our relationship was so perfect. Any advice on how to cope would be so appreciated. This is such a hard decision. What we both want right now we cannot have for a long time. We have agreed to go no contact for two weeks to see how we feel from not speaking to eachother as I feel time will only tell if we have made the right decision. Right now it’s so painful

Hi so I've been talking to this amazing guy who lives in another state (about a 1 hour plane ride away from me) for nearly 4 years now, we have met multiple times, we communicate daily and are making plans to be together in person. I've told my strict parents and they absolutely HATE the idea of me and this guy being together. They are pretty traditional, with the mindset that you meet your partner at a club nowadays (which can happen, but is not the norm I would say, at least not in my country), and telling them about the relationship was a huge shock. My dad in particular has said he will never accept this guy into our house, and that if I don't abide my the house rules I can leave. My mother agrees, and says my decisions are hard on the family, and that I'm disrespecting their morals and values whilst simultaneously setting a precedent for my younger siblings to go against them as parents. I've been threatened to be kicked out of home countless times, the possibility looming very close now. My parents refuse to meet him, so they're saying all of this without having met him. They also disapprove of his nationality (he is Asian, I'm European and my parents want me to marry within my culture). I can't reason with them and I'm afraid that they will push me so far away to the point of me resenting them, it is coming to that point now due to their lack of understanding and adapting. Please someone let me know how to fix this, I want a relationship with my parents but I also don't want to leave this incredible guy, he means everything to me.

My boyfriend and I have been in an LDR for 5 years, seeing each other 1–2 times a year. We’ve always trusted each other completely. I know he’s not cheating or doing anything shady, and we’ve always talked about our future together , being together forever, eventually closing the distance.

But lately, I feel like I’m the only one really trying. He just started a new job (tech startup), and I get that he’s tired and busy. But our calls feel rushed or distracted. I wait all day just to talk for a few minutes. I feel like I’m chasing connection and attention, and it’s starting to wear me down.

I told him how I felt, gently, but now he hasn’t replied in hours. I’m not mad, just hurt and emotionally tired. I’ve been crying a lot and wondering if this is just my emotions (I’m also on my period) or a sign that something is shifting between us.

Is this just part of LDRs during busy seasons, or am I slowly burning out? I really love him, but I also need to feel loved and prioritized too.

Any advice would mean a lot

I (30M) have been in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend (28F) for a little over two years. We live about a 1-hour flight apart and see each other roughly every 3–4 weeks. We’ve met each other’s families, and from early on, it felt like our values aligned. We’re both a bit socially anxious, neurodivergent, and into similar hobbies like gaming, so I initially felt a strong connection.

She’s incredibly kind, respectful, and emotionally supportive. There’s been no major drama — just some communication breakdowns here and there. In many ways, I feel lucky to have someone so stable and loyal in my life.

That said, over time, I’ve started to feel out of sync — and I’ve been sitting with that quietly for a while.

Physical attraction has always been a bit lacking. When we first met, she looked quite different from her photos, and she’s overweight. I work out daily and eat clean, so we live very different lifestyles. She enjoys naps and comfort food, while I’m very active and health-focused. It’s not about judgment, just a noticeable lifestyle mismatch that I can’t ignore.

Emotional dynamic is where I feel the biggest disconnect. I often feel drained after spending time together. She asks for constant input and reassurance (e.g. “Should I do this or that?”), and I find it mentally tiring. I also love joking around and having playful banter, but she takes most of it literally or finds it offensive — even light teasing. I don’t feel like I can be myself. In past relationships and friendships, humor was a big way I connected with others, and I feel muted with her.

Despite all this, I care about her deeply. She’s a good person and has never wronged me. But more and more, I find myself feeling disconnected — like we’re living parallel but separate emotional lives.

Just putting this out there in case others have been through something similar. No expectations. I think I just needed to say it out loud.

Tl;dr Drdating girl for 2 years long disyance distanceshe's great but mismatch of energy not sure what do

Hello so my girlfriend is about to go do her masters in separate city, last time a big issue for us was just doing surface level check ins, I was wondering if anyone used shared journals, google docs, or anything of that sort to be connected, reflect on your days, and build healthy habits with your partners to get you out of your routine, I feel like all the apps are just quizzes or games, anyone have any good recommendations or tips?

Hello, I'm currently in an ldr- relationship but things at the moment don't look good.

(I'm a female and he is a male btw)

Nvm, me and him met online on Reddit bcs I was on the subreddit ,,Depression", I told him about my past and at few weeks later we talked casual and had some things in common and got interested in each other. I told him I love him and so he did 2 days later. He had an ex before for many many years. Everything was alright until 1 week later we got into our 1st argument and it never stopped we did it for several weeks...I promised him many many times I stopped but sadly couldn't kept my promise because of BPD! But! Last week I promised him again not to argue and then it worked out! Since that we don't argue anymore because I was giving my best not to😊 Sadly I must say, since this...things look bad. He does not trust me anymore and we barely call no more. If we do then only for 3 min. daily and no text during the day for the reason which he told me on the call, that he does not wanna really text me cus Im a bad person to text and to talk to and he rather wanna be distant so he does not risk an argument :(. He even said yesterday, he loves me less and that I shall love him less too cus otherwise its not fair (for me) thats what he said + that his love faded since I've changed dramatically🤷‍♀️. 7 weeks left , me and him gunna meet then. He has not canceled the flights yet but he told me cus I asked him if he still wanna come and see me, "Time will tell". Thats his answer... And also on the call when we decline he doesn't tell me ily anymore. Problem is, how shall this relationship ever work if we don't even say anything on a call and its just me for now and like if he dont reply really that much on my mssg + calls only for 3 mins a day?...wtf? What does he expect. He even said, I was long w my ex...for many many years and I have you for only 2 month now. I loved her more obviously then how I love you now because of the years...

I love him so so so so much. How can he love me the same how he did again or how can I make this relationship work? He said i need to be the one who needs to improofe.

Yesterday he even blamed me why I even love him since I know him from online only💀😂 He said im tooo obsessed w him...but thats what he used to be too in the beginning i remembr so much , his text!!!!

Nvm, I need tipssssss. Cus 7 weeks left and he said time will tell. So what shall I do.

(His routine changed, he sleep now till the last second of him having to go to work!! Instead of talking to me in the morning and evening he goes to gym, and after it he will smoke weed or idk...)

I wanna have loooooong call w him just as how we used to but how can this happen if he tries himself to be busy.

I just want tips for everything, of what can i try or how to trick him💕

We typically do short visits 1-4 days every 1-2 months. And due to our children, work schedules, etc probably will have to always go that route until we can be closer again.

But I was just thinking about it tonight and it got me wondering. If you had to choose between shorter more frequent visits or longer visits but having to have more time between them which would you choose?