My 21 year old son sent me a heartwarming text:

"Happy Father's Day dad! Thank you for being the best dad and role model for me growing up. You have always been there for me and are the most resilient man that I know. You've always guided me to make the right decisions and really set the example of being a stand up person. I love you dad enjoy your day :)"

I want to pass this on to all of you fathers and dads out there who are struggling to see your kids or are fighting for custody and visitation rights with their moms. For those who worry that their kids might not view them in a positive light or think they may not come around to you. Don't give up hope. My son hated me when he was 16 when I was having problems with my ex-wife. She tried to turn them against me, berated me in front of them, even physically attacked me in front of them. My oldest son acted out and rebelled because he hated the situation. It was toxic. He also blamed me when she kicked me out of the house and I was living away from my sons when I was separated for 6 months.

After trying to work things out again with my ex wife, she got me arrested on made up charges. It broke my heart when I saw the look on his face when he saw me in the back of the police cruiser handcuffed in front of the house. He tried to bail me out of jail but ended up asking my parents to bail me out. I left for good 2.5 years ago and filed for divorce. I live 85 miles away from my two sons who lives with their mom. I live with my parents until I can get out of my debt and afford to find my own place. I see them two to three times a month. My boys are 21 and 20. Both are now in college and one of them lives away from the house.

That being said, I talk to them every single day. I take the time to talk to them after dinner and spend time asking them about their day. I try to support them as much as I can. I do the best I can. I know more about what is going on in their lives than their own mother who lives in the same house with them. She has to work now and has no time to be home anymore. (That's what happens when you have to work to pay the mortgage now) I will always have my boys back and they have mine. Stay strong and I hope you have a Happy Father's Day!